messages to avalonte:
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from x-plicity :
Hi, sweetie! I've been in your diary, looking for a new quote for my profile. So don't worry about all of the page views I've been making. I promise I'm not a stalker. *grin*
from rmsoboist :
Hey, it's been a while! Are you locked up forever?
from anita-girl :
Thta is ridiculous! Sad to see that your healthcare sucks like mine here. When I was pregnant they had to do a blood test on my husband since I was RH negative, well they sent that for the wrong test too. I almost had to get the stupid shot in the ass since the time was almost here! Luckily they got the results of my husbands blood in time. Shot in the ass is no good idea of mine! 4 to 6 weeks seem so long and wrong, like it hsould be way quicker!
from luna-obscura :
That's awful, but it actually doesn't surprise me. when the NHS does something RIGHT, THAT'S when I'm surprised. Agh. It shouldn't be like that. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Thinking of you all xx
from allegedwife :
damn you and all your cryptic clues!! Now I shall have to rack my brains (and dig out all my old medical texts) to try and work out what the tests are for. hhhmph. Fi xxx
from starlight42 :
that stinks about losing the test! I was actually just on the phone with my drs office trying to see if they had some test results for me from last week, they said since they fly it out to California, it takes a few weeks!! Yuck.
from krugerpak007 :
I am sorry I have been a crap friend. I really will try and call you later on today. I am so sorry. They strated monitoring our calls at work and well at home I have not a cent but I will make an effort I promise. I really am here if you need to talk-I hope you know that. Thinking of you, and love you! xoxox
from amb1valent-k :
Oh dear. Talk tomorrow afternoon? xx
from allegedwife :
hope all goes well for Jason. Keeping my fingers crossed. {{hugs}} cheers Fi xxx
from thecrankyone :
((hugs))best wishes and prayers that everything works out okay, and he is well again
from vanoonoo :
piss and tits - keep us informed when you feel up to it xxx
from starlight42 :
sorry to hear that jason has been ill. I hope the surgery and recovery go well and I'm sure he'll be fine after that!
from x-plicity :
Oh, Sweetheart!!! My thoughts are going out to you. *hugs* If you need to vent [email protected]
from mpeacock :
Sweetie, whatever it is, you are in my thoughts or secular type prayers. You know I think the world of you and wish you and yours only the best.
from jane-dreams :
Finally finished this diary as well... I feel all caught-up on the last years of your life! Thank you for sharing this password with me.
from second-love :
*sigh*... can you answer me this... are you REALLY over him?? Does it EVER go away (PLEASE tell me yes) because i just cant seem to work through how moving on can ever feel good. Grantid, you at least can "move on" to another man... and yes, i already have a man... but does a love that has been for so many years just get replaced??? Is it obvious that i am still not doing any better than i ever was :))
from workcrush :
Wow, that all sounds so familiar. My ex is still reading my other diary and he'll leave these so strange and random comments. Which I am just ignoring. I used to email him to respond but I've stopped doing that and now he's reading two or three times a day. I think that (bcs he knows that I know when he reads) combined with the strange comments is his passive/aggressive way of getting me back. Sadly for him...it ain't gonna work. Good for you, my dear. None of us need manipulative men in our lives.
from realsnoopy :
You know what that sounds like??? LOVE! Your a sweetie, beautiful, as well as funny! Your a catch in my book! *hugs*
from krugerpak007 :
I am here ANYTIME! And I love you more! I am still in shock over that behavior. Stupid, pathetic, childish and just well, there are no words...NO WORDS! Talk soon sweets...xoxox
from catz-eyes :
***HUGGLES*** <-- think you may need those, cherub. sounds like you're having a tough time of it. am thinking of you... love & kindness to you always xox's =^..^=
from grrl-blog :
I just wanted to say thanks for the compliments & for stopping by, I haven't had time to read much of your journal but the current entry is well written as well...
from sonotskinny :
Aww! I just looked at all your pictures of K and she is so adorable! My brother has downsyndrom but for some reason doesn't look like he does. Their a blessing, they really are!
from betchy :
you can write whatever you want in my comments or notes chick!! if anyone else dared leave a comment that wasnt related to the entry i would be like "WTF? how dare you do that. go to my notes!" but you? you can put anything you damn well like in there! love you x
from furiouspuppy :
Hiya Gorgeous! Thanks so much for the thoughtful note about Buck...it really meant a lot to me...xoxo
from chakra-chick :
Hi sweetie! You never let me know if the CD and DVD work!? Anyways, just to let you know- you shouldn't be so modest..you are a rare talent dear! Wish I was a tenth as creative as you are! And about that comment about you being too old- screw her! She's probably just insecure about her own age...hag! Don't let it bother you, because you are absolutly stunning chick! ~smooches~ Faz P.S Please let me know when you do move your gorgeous self over to a new diary!
from betchy :
well having spent several hours with you in the flesh, and after examining the pic i took of you on my phone, in detail many times, i'm afraid i have to agree with Sandra. you are a withered up old bint. I'M JOKING!!! God i am inshock. how fucking rude!!! you are gorgeous, and i'm not just saying that because you're my friend and i love you, its true!!! gorgey gorgey gorgeous. i'm kick her head in if i ever see her!!!!
from justmouse :
know what, sweety? i think the ole bag was just jealous, because you ARE truly lovely, and i bet L1 would love to "have a go at you" ;) my friend's son ONLY dates older women. he's 17. his last girlfriend was 28. he appreciates a mature woman who knows what she wants and has um....'experience'! hehehe. you don't need anti-wrinkle-anti-aging anything! you're already so much lovlier than i am! and we're the same flippin' age!!! *hugs* to you, beautiful!
from rockingchair :
Actually it was 37 minutes. I know cause I have a little clock on the phone that tracks exactly how long the call is. And I dont sound like you... you're a suvvener. :-) Right, you can delete this message now. xxxx
from mpeacock :
People are so rude! My ex (the English bloke) was 8 years younger than me. Don't let rude people get you down, but I love purchasing new beauty products too!
from second-love :
Thanks hon for your note. I can always count on you to completely understand me. And despite our KNOWING its inevitable to happen... and knowing it will hurt like HELL... why IS IT that we continue to subject ourselves to this kind of pain????
from betchy :
arrrgh i just left a really long comment and it didnt save. now i cant be arsed to write it all again. the jist was i prefer the second name and give K a big hug and a kiss from me xxxx
from lillymoon :
3/29 Hey Luv, Next time call me I'll kick a little kids ass in a minute. LOL well, not really but I can't stand when little kids are little Fkers. My enties are still MIA and I have e-mailed Andrew and well.....I am trying to be patient. Thanks for the reassurance though. I have actually shed tears over this. I hope he answers soon. Maybe you have his number I can call him. LOL Someone Must. I will find them! Kiss from California!
from portia12 :
I just got your note. I know what you mean about the IRA. But we must all keep in mind that they are a group that are going about something the entirely wrong way. If they have their opinion, that is fine, but bloodshed and violence aren't the way! I think I remember was it Bill Clinton talking about the IRA? So I think it is getting some coverage in the media in the US, not enough I know.
from betchy :
hi babe sorry not been in touch, no credit!!! your text the other night was lush, tell K i love her too!!! what the fuck is going on with d-land? i cant update my diary, i cant read hardly any of them, i cant leave comments, everyone has their notes switched off!!!! its a nightmare!! just read your last few entries, hope you are ok sweetie. i feel bad i havent been in touch, but no credit till Friday (next week). also bit of a nightmare weekend, hopefully will be able to update tomorrow. love you loads babe, thanks again for the text xxx
from yelayna :
Hope you're ok post freaky moment. I also forgot about St Patricks day until I saw google! My friend's pub had their late license application for St Georges day turned down because people considered it racist! *shakes head* I also heard on the radio yesterday that although 1 in 4 people claim to be of irish descent, only 1 in 10 actually are!!! Guess that must be an english stat though! xxx
from yelayna :
No new news on the flat, other than it's progressing. possibly in in 8 weeks! How exciting and terrifying all in one go! Can't wait to get out of Romans though - it's starting to drive me nuts! *hugs* xxx
from second-love :
I know you relate... thats why it always means so much to me when you leave me a note :) - and we DID choose to be in these relationships... didn't we? *hug* you have a good weekend too!
from second-love :
Isnt it funny how our minds work? We guess and assume so many things based on lack of contact or even ALOT of contact. Then throw in what THEY are thinking and reacting to and we have a BIG mess. I cant even imagine what my life would be like if Sam read my diary... no WAY!!! hahahahaaha - and i know if Sam turns things around in his mind as much as I do... its no wonder we are all screwed up!! And ya figure we ALL have to be a bit wacky to even be IN these relationships ahhahahahahahaha oh well... *hugs*
from second-love :
Thanks for being so astute! That was my point exactly!!! And actually it HAD just happened a couple of weeks ago on a Friday before our Presidents day weekend holiday. I was workin overtime tryin to figure out a way to see him for 5 minutes and had planned to get out of the house to do some errands when John got home...he didnt think it was smart to meet when John was sitting at home (even though John was sleeping) but he made a joke in the same breath about "going somewhere for a beer". When i took him up on it by saying "ill meet you right now, just tell me where" he shut me down with a laugh saying "no WAY, we cant do THAT, i was just kidding." *sigh* - its no wonder im not completely NUTS! Thanks for understanding me so well!!! *HUGS*
from razor-vixen :
ARG! I am having the same problem you had! I just redyed my hair and IT DIDN'T COVER!!!!!! I just made an appointment with my stylist. She's going to kill me, and I'm kicking myself for wasting money I don't have. At least I can have her fix the cut, eh?! D'OH!
from second-love :
YOU are so much STRONGER than me though and you put up with WAY LESS crap! I just admire you so much. We will BOTH be fine *smile* - have a great weekend sweetie *hugs*
from crowhihs :
The intern was using my computer yesterday and thought she was logging onto her MSN account :-( I would never ignore you :-)
from wench77 :
Yeah, that is sort of what I think too. Everything leather I have I think pretty much is second hand. Once the animal is dead it is more honoring of it to keep wearing it for good use than throwing it out. The only things I have not second hand are one or two pairs of shoes and a pair of gloves. Even my leather boots are second hand.
from lillymoon :
I don't mention my kids too much. I only wrote about my daughter cause it was hilarious. Also my son is a good boy and doesn't do nerdy things like his sister. Actually I have been thinking of writing an entry dedicated to him. I have been wanting to introduce him to my D-land peeps. I'm a little more private when it comes to my kids than my sex-life but I am backasswards like that! Scorpio, ya know. But I feel comfy enough now to talk about my babies.
from lillymoon :
Yes, special needs. Down's. I called them angels even I know my son doesn't always act like one. I said God cause although I don't belive in relegion I do belive in a higher power even if it comes from within. But I am a SINNER and I love it. : )
from lillymoon :
Hello, I found your diary from Krugerpak007. I was curious about the nipple so I just in to read. I love to look at pics so I click on your pics and saw your beautiful special angel. My son is a special angel also. He will be nine in March. Well since we have angeles in common you are now on my Favorites. Feel free to stop by and read my rantings! I know your a great person cause God only give angels to those who are! : )
from wench77 :
Thankyou. That is all I was trying to say. Pointing out people to avoid, or giving tips on behaviour so as not to cause conflict seems just normal. But teaching a word that is a slur means the child is likely to use it. I have even seen small boys screaming "you lesbian!!" to each other as an insult. Because all they understood was it meant "someone we don't like", and then they go around using it in public. It is not so nice to hear, and is unlikely to win them friends with even nice lesbians. Cheers. Glad we understand. have a good day. Glad that K's tests went well. Hope your beasts aren't getting fatter. Mine are. grrr. zzzzz
from wench77 :
So, in modern use it is a derogatory term meaning trailer trash (and believe me real white trash are known by those who live around them for being about as laudatory types as you describe, except they kill more people, beat their wives and kids and spend most of their time in jail... there is a reason someone calls them white trash) ... so it is a slur. And you use it to speak about people who are dangerous scum. So it is a slur. I fail to see any good way of calling someone a pikey where they would not take offence. And if the term originally comes from "turnpike" ie irish travelling folk, I fail to see why that would be a misuse of the term. It just seems it got to mean any gaudy, unkempt, uncouth types... based on the negative view of the original people meant by the term. BTW most people who would point out "queers" or "gays" to their kids DO think it is exactly the equivalent of pointing out a paedophile. Ie someone who does something by definition morally corrupt, dirty and reprehensible, and on top of it, someone who will attempt to make that morally corrupt reprehensible lifestyle appear as acceptable as heterosexuality to innocent kids. Ie keep away from them, they will ruin your morals, and you may go to hell. They are serious about the damage they forsee. Really. They're so serious they'll ban people from most everything. Not cuz they think gays wear better clothes. Cheers. Bedtime.
from wench77 :
Avalonte, at no point did I say not to tell K to avoid looking at those particular people. I expressed concern at the use of the term pikey, which yes I have googled since and it apparently is a very mixed up term, used indiscriminately to refer to travellers, gypsies (which is the original term), trailer trash, and people who wear too much makeup and wear burberry. In no case can I see that it is anything but a putdown or derogatory word. In no case can I see that teaching a child to use a word that dangerous people will consider a putdown and a slur, to be an aid to helping that child... in fact I might feel like verbally attacking someone who said about the group of people I belonged to all that you have written in my notes (whether it is true or not). Saying to your child, "don't look at her, she's a bitch" isn't going to help either. Cuz invariably, even if the woman in question is certifiably nasty, your child will use the word bitch to describe the woman, perhaps in her hearing, and if she is prone to verbal attacks I should think that a child calling her bitch will be quite provocation. Second, since when do paedophiles run around in identifiable gangs, have paedophile children and paedophile wives? One is a paedophile based on actual personal crimes one has committed. If there was a group of men and you said "omg, don't go near them, they're paedophiles" and you didn't know those men, well, really. You have no idea what the people were bargaining about but you guessed based on what they looked like. For all you know they were like that girl who you said wanted to leave, and had a serious complaint with the food. You don't know. It doesn't really matter. Teaching children slurs will not necessarily teach them to look out for behaviour, but it will teach them names to call people. It is your child, your world and your vocabulary. But I disagree. All prejudice and stereotyping of groups comes from some experience. Anyways, you have written three notes now about how bad pikeys are, I get it. But since the word applies to everything from dangerous wayfarers to burberry wearers, it seems hardly a good term to teach a child to save her from danger. cheers.
from wench77 :
I"m sorry. You use a word like pikey, which I have googled. It is like trailer trash. Or spic. Or kike. It is a slang term to designate an entire group of people. It is like saying "omg don't look at them, they're blacks, they're not nice people" or "omg they're skinheads, don't look at them" or any other group slur. I think that the general consensus on your notes was that we are surprised that you use a general term like that. It is one thing to say "oh, let's get out of here, those people are arguing" and another to say "they are pikeys, they aren't nice people". I really don't see the difference between that and saying that turks, jews, muslims, blacks, the irish, or any other group is ok to point out and go "omg THEY...". I was once given a lecture by a shopkeeper i worked for about "those blacks". I quit the job. I personally know someone here whose family is gypsy, Roma. She is incredibly nice. I also know people in the states who are certifiable trailer trash. Some who even come from nasty family backgrounds. Would I at the same time say "omg look at that trailer trash family over there, let's get away, they are not nice people". I would not. I'm sorry. You use a term like that, it is not surprising that we call it. I have called my mother on using denigrating terms about fat people on the street in my presence. Doesn't mean I like you any less. Just I was surprised that you would use such a term and then say it is K who needs to learn to be more subtle. Very disappointing, sorry. Look, I came to your diary when Sleepyzoe used a term very casually that hurt your feelings. You called her on it, did you not. that's all I'm saying. I think you understand me and don't like it. Sorry.
from thecrankyone :
It's amazing how two groups who both speak English still speak such different languages..LOL..I've found there are even web sites out there to translate between Australian, Canadian, British and American, which in turn can very by regional area and dialect. I think there are a dozen "languages" that qualify as "English".
from wench77 :
OH YEAH! I still have that lovely peach to eat! mmm! It is not squershed at all! I had a fruit urge. Hehe, but now is grilled cheese time. And don't worry, it was just two times for like half an hour. In general I'm feeling fine, getting lots of work done etc. Strange. Thanks for the kind words and have a good day! OH! I thought of K on Sunday.. .there is a Down's boy about her age came to the park alone with his family dog ( a nice huge mutt) and I thought about K shopping for cds and getting hassled for being alone. He just said he was taking care of the dog that day. :) cheers!
from second-love :
You are RIGHT on!!! Perfect!
from second-love :
I KNOW you understand!!! Its all so confusing... and even as i write sometimes i dont know WHAT to write. Im just so tired of him egging me on with "you are all talk and no action..." THEN when i DO act, he rejects me <shaking head back and forth> i dont get it.
from ahwell :
i went back and reread your entry, and i see where i misunderstood.
from betchy :
thanks for your comments chicken! i love you! i get paid monday, and will try and remember to get some credit the so we can have a good old chat. i am so skint i am just going to be sitting home by myself all weekend. how crap. Lisa is going out with the witches, Joey and Andy are having a quiet one after last weekend, Em is in Nailsea tonight, dont know about tomorrow......oh it just goes on. i loved your comments though. you know me even better than most of my real life friends. how weird is that? i did read your message, and yes, oh my God, i couldnt believe it either! can you beleieve its like nearly six months since we first spoke on the phone? and that in four months it will be Big Brother time again? how mad is that! got to go now, because i am leaving to go to Tescoes and but the biggest bottle of wine i can find for under a fiver. me is getting pissed right up tonight! love you chicken x
from rockingchair :
To be fair, aluminium is spelled differently here, without the final i, so it is understandable that its pronounced different. chemical names are very strange. Did you know that paracetemol is called acetominophen here, and they are both short names of the same chemical product p-aminophenol acetic anhydride. However some words make no sense. I dont understand why they find calling the front of a car a bonnet funny, when they call it a hood. They are both types of headwear after all.
from second-love :
Thanks for the update. I understand you PERFECTLY for we are living the same life!!! It is a painful existence and i know it very well! *hugs*
from betchy :
oh, bless you for leaving me a message. unfortunately i am trying desperatley to reply to comments, notes, e mails and everything, which isnt leaving me any time to read! i will probably have to catcch up after work tomorrow! i am feeing the love for my comments though. yes i am! right i will leave a much longer nicer note when i have some time, which isnt now! sorry :( and i better be the first to get the new URL when you decide what it is (oh yes i read that much) bye sweetie love you xxxxxxxxxx
from yelayna :
I know what you mean - I think because I'm comming up to it being a year it's just all in my head at the moment. I thought I'd dealt with it well at the time, sort of turns out I'd just put it into a box to del with later! I work in the Winnersh office, so if you're ever over this way you're more than welcome! Hope you're doing ok xxx
from second-love :
OMG!!! You and Kevin are KILLIN ME!!!! You both have to just find new names... add a password... WHATEVER... but PLEASE dont go!!!!!!:((((((
from yelayna :
Hello Gorgeous :) I'm ok - though have taken today off sick which has made me feel much better about the world, which is a worry! Tikki is my Aunt, not sure if I've ever cross referenced those two coherently before! Plan to have a nap now and update this afternoon, so more details then. Sorry to hear about K and the shops, think I'd want to be violent as well. Having said that, I still have the "do you have any ID" row in my local offie. Bastards have been ID'ing me for 7 years. I swear they think it's funny now. I look much older than 18 now, though admittedly the first 3 years might have been warrented!
from second-love :
any word on Dave lately?
from mpeacock :
I love you, thank you for your words.
from rockingchair :
sok. no worries.
from rockingchair :
no, you must have read me wrong. very reasonable.
from rockingchair :
How about "I am 11, please treat me as if I was 13 - thank you"
from iwanttotell :
Thanks, but the 422 was my b-day April 22, and I was using it to illustrate how long it had been since I had seen Dee! Guess I'm one of those people who can't think & type!
from betchy :
i am glad you found somewhere nice for little Eni. but i am even more glad you saw some flesh!
from betchy :
i am glad you found somewhere nice for little Eni. but i am even more glad you saw some flesh!
from wench77 :
here ya go... http://wench77.diaryland.com/motobday.html last paragraph.
from wench77 :
Dang, you must have missed an entry... I wrote the solution to the girl dog client critique just for you several entries ago... see if you can find it... i even wrote 'avalonte' reminded me I didn't answer it....
from second-love :
Man... i have NO idea... and i cant seem to fix it no matter what i do... CRAP!
from tigerlily21 :
Yep, you guessed it :) Although #2 was wayy back when in middle school..lol
from betchy :
legend! you are an absolute legend! i knew you were my fave chicken for a reason! how did you know? oh god i miss chatting to you, i havent spoke to you in forever. i can only get credit from Tesco's and i keep forgetting to get some every time i go in there! doh!
from betchy :
OOOOh you're such a heartbreaker!
from yelayna :
:o) I'll do the same for you.... :o)
from rockingchair :
The father and the son? ok that's just weird. run away. run away.
from justmouse :
hey doll, thanks for your comments on the Scarf. hehe, i do look done in in that pic, don't i? i took it about 5 mins before i went to bed...that's probably why i look so awful. but i'm as good as i'll ever be. no worries :) *hug* (and an extra hug for K)
from betchy :
it wasnt brave, it was more curiosity to see if i could rememeber them all. i knew the number, but wasnt sure if i would be able to rememeber all the names. how proud am i?
from cooki-dough :
Thank you so much for welcoming me to the Olsen twins ring. It was very nice of you. :)
from rockingchair :
No he's not ready for sex yet. He's never even kissed a girl yet so I'm not too concerned at this moment. He's just starting out. And yes, I do remember what I was like at 13/14. A lot will change in the next year I'm sure.
from betchy :
love the pics of K she is just too lush!
from second-love :
Your daughter has the sweetest face... and i love her smile :)
from yelayna :
I'm hard to find as I'm mostly kept in a cupboard or under desks! Hope you worked for the competition as Romans are evil employers! Sorry to hear about your mums cat, will keep an eye out for one of the same description...
from mpeacock :
Where are you anyway? My ex is from Diss in Norfolk. That's were I've spent a bit of time.
from betchy :
ok, where is K's coat from because it is lush! that is so crap about your Mum's cat. i rememeber when Rebel went missing (before she decided that my neighbours had better food and went off there for good), and everytime i heard a noise i thought it was her. it was so gutting. i think you may be right about the sex thing and feeling hot even when you dont neccessarily look it. i mean, hello? when do guys look at me? ever? well a few days after i have had sex apparently! hope you are ok my fave chicken. love to you and K x
from aliboomboom :
It didn't upset me. It's a very controversial issue. Sydney really doesn't have an extreme case of downs, she's very healthy and doesn't have any of the medical problems that some of the children have but at the same time she would never be capable of taking care of a baby. Her parents of course don't want her to have sex ever but they already have to worry about what happens to her when they die and they just think it's best if they don't have to worry about someone else too. I did read some of your diary and your daughter is an adorable little girl. I'm a single mom too and I know it can be trying at times. If you want to read my diary, the username is alexia and the password is 07gcr10. If not, I'll still be back to read yours!!
from second-love :
Again... i can TOTALLY relate!!! Of COURSE it defeats the purpose to tell them!!! Sheeeesh - it would just be nice if ONCE they would think to do it! Its not like we havent told them 40 million times how much it means to us! Good GOD men can be dense!
from rockingchair :
superior team. yes. on the day? no, they were second best the whole game and didnt deserve a draw let alone a win.
from betchy :
you are not obese and you are SOOOOO not unloved because i love you and thats that. so there. now pleses cheer up, because i dont like it when your sad, and i still have no credit, so i cant even phone youso i can satisfy myself that you're ok!
from second-love :
OMG... i can SO totally relate!! Its only now that my emotions are more level that i dont completely lose my mind. What happens to them?? We ARE just welcome distractions during the workweek, arent we? We boost their egos... make them feel hotter, younger, richer... whatever. Sam has been better as of late, but STILL the man refuses to take even a minute to email me back over a long weekend when i've poured my heart out to him in emails HE requests!!! I sent two very heartfelt ones over new years and never even got a response!!! sheeeeeeeeeesh... maybe dave and sam need to move in together! Hang in there girlfriend... and i agree with every word about new years... it IS the worse time of the year really and i NEVER make resolutions... whats the point?
from yelayna :
Happy New Year! I know wha tyou mean about that DFS advert... I have a mate who was hte ilttle talking clauses man on there once, and all we do to him these days when he starts getting a bit big for his boots is sing "DFS, Double your discount, double your discount" at him. He hates us for remembering.... :o)
from yelayna :
Hello! I just wanted to drop you a note in return to your kind notes you left me ages ago. Things snowballed somewhat and all the people I'd been meaning to do nice things for went out the window! Mum had her bypass done in Brompton, so was in the best place for it really. We're so lucky in so may ways. I hope you have a very happy New Year!
from betchy :
hey chick, i got your text on Christmas day, but had no credit to text back, sorry:(. guess who else text me on Christmas day? SALLY! i know what does she think she is playing at? i am real sorry things arent ging well at the moment. i would ring you but dont get paid till tomorrow, but probably wont get any cred until tuesday. i got loads to tell you too. i am at home tonight if you fancy a chat, but i know after the last phone bill you are taking it easy, so i understand if you dont. hope you are ok, love to K xxx
from second-love :
ahhhhhhh sweetie... i know exactly what you are feeling. I have been just where you are so many times with Sam - i can totally relate. I'm so sorry that things are sorta tough right now. Thank GOD the crap passes eventually!!! Happy New Year sweetie... it can only get better! *hugs*
from tigerlily21 :
Duh, meant her birthday.. geez, old age sets in quick!!
from tigerlily21 :
Hope you and K had a fabulous Christmas and that your birthday was spectacular as well! Is K feeling better? Anyway, have a wonderful week and a Happy New Year! *hugs* Jen
from betchy :
merry christmas my fave chicken! love you loads and loads! hope K had a good birthday xxxx
from chakra-chick :
Hi sweetie! Just wanted to wish you a Happy Christmas. Hope that K feels better soon. Have an absolutly wonderful weekend dear. *smooches*
from adulterous-k :
Happy Christmas!
from fan4 :
*wakes herself up* I must be more tired than I thought. When I signed your guestbook, I typed something other than my e-mail addy in that section, and didn't fill in the part where I place the URL of my diary. I meant what I said in my message though.
from cinamonjaide :
Hi Since you are on my buddy list, I figured I would give you the link to my message board community. It's a laid back place with a few online friends. You are welcomed to join if you want. If not, that's fine, but I wanted to extend the invitation and let you know you would be welcomed. Here is the addy: http://groups.msn.com/ShovemeintheshallowwaterbeforeIgettoodeep
from adulterous-k :
Hope she recovers in time for Christmas. Have a good one you two x
from princesse69 :
Aww poor K, I hope she gets better soon. Flu is no fun especially on your birthday and at Christmas. Hey darling here's a big birthday hug for you ok? ((((HUG)))) MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO BOTH YOU
from wench77 :
Yikes! Nice new template, but the color of the entry text is a dark red, pretty much the exact same color as the background it is on. Unreadable. I can tell only that K is ill. I'm sorry, and I hope she gets well soon soon soon, esp since it is her birthday tomorrow AND then Christmas! dang!
from betchy :
ok chicken, whatcha doin', ignoring me or something?
from adulterous-k :
Jings! Has MMR been around that long? Maybe it's like BBC2 and Channel 4 - took a while to reach us in the north! Did I send the phot to the right place?
from second-love :
I too am surrounded here by a coughing, hacking husband and child!!! It will be a miracle if i get through the holidays without getting it myself!!!! Hope K kicks it SOON! And yes... isnt it lovely when they call and let you know HOW happy they are since they are no longer with YOU hahahaahha i always love that. And im wondering... did Dave remember the date??? Didja hear from him at all?
from adulterous-k :
hanks: and I do understand that. I should learn to cope with the anger when it comes, not try to refute it! Picture - did I not send you the photo of us all a while back? If not I'll root it out again. Believe me - nothing like HG! Accent - yes, lived my first twenty years in 'posh' Kent. Remember I don't really live in Newcastle, that's just a cover, but where I do live my accent is just as noticeably different!
from iwanttotell :
Thanks for the note. You know that occurred to me as well, then it hit me that I will not be part of my grandbaby's life either. That hit hard. Good luck with the doctor's appointment. Poor baby has to endure so much. She's lucky to have your support and those rewards at the end of it all.
from second-love :
OMG!!! NO!!!!!! Im SO sorry. God... i SUCK!!! Maybe Sam is right. I just dont realize i guess that i am not coming across right. I was really talking about myself i think... NOT you. Im so sorry.. i just mean that maybe "affairs" in general are hard because essentially they ARE wrong. Im so sorry sweetie...i SUCK.
from second-love :
Do you ever feel like the reason it doesnt work is because it really IS wrong??? I mean, it IS wrong on so many levels... whether their spouses are jerks, or spoiled or mean - does that really matter??? They still chose that person as their mate and perhaps we have no right to expect ANYTHING from them. And its just wrong to always be second and feel second. In my case, im not even 2nd... more like 32nd after laundry and ironing... *sigh*.
from ssteedman :
The best is if I'm chatting online to an American, and the first question that pops up is 'Do you guys have, like, electricity and Internet?' The mind boggles at the sheer stupidity of my McDonald's munching counterparts.
from thecrankyone :
Sorry about that. I haven't used that account for so long it closed itself. My new account is under my real name, but I'm rarely if ever on there. However I am usually on AIM. Just wanted to appologize for that. Usually the best email to reach me at is either diaryland or [email protected]. Those are the two I check the most. If you want I can email you my MSN name, since I try to keep the mail in that one to a minimum, I don't want it public knowledge.
from cinamonjaide :
I'm 32, and my mom is still trying to control me as well. Add me. I added you! I am reading.
from chakra-chick :
Thanks for that clarification sweetie. It's been only about a week now, so there is still time for them to get used to each other. Have a wonderful weekend luv, Faz
from emma25 :
Well if it is abnormal at least there are two of us!! How does the ski-run work for people in wheelchairs? Am very curious!! Let me know, I am going to see if I can find out anything over here! Thanks!!
from betchy :
thanks chick, i do love him so......i know, that name is dreadful. my dad cant say it and is already calling her Melanie. thats what it sounds like. like someone who cant pronounce melanie. why? why would they call her that? i am all for unusual names, but not stupid names *sigh*
from chakra-chick :
Thanks so much for the comment sweetie. I have been meaning to post that list for a long time. Glad to learn that we have stuff in common. Have an excellent weekend darling! *smooches*
from adulterous-k :
God I'm angry for you too! Been through stuff like that with Jack in the past - you know why.. Handled very well, though I think. A mother that can't accept her child did wrong is a mother who made a child who doesn't understand he did wrong. Hope K's over it. xx
from betchy :
yayayayayay i love the hugs! glad K is ok. hahaha, Fent just came into work with his nephew Blake (he's 2 and a 1/2). i was on the phone and Fent started talking to me and Blake said to him "shut up scab, she's on the phone!" he calls him scab! oh i was laughing so hard! and i had a text off Sal earlier, saying she doesnt want to fall out with me and that George mised me last week. i havent bothered to reply, and i am not going to either. she cant send me a text threatening me with the police and then expect things to just be fine. i am stunned that she would even think that!
from betchy :
oh my god i am fuming! i cannot believe that little fuckwit hurt K. ooooh if i had been there i think i may have caused some damage, i cant believe his mother either. some people! anyway, i am glad that K is okay. give her a big hug and a kiss for me x
from betchy :
i love you too! thanks for youe support, and thanks for the text earlier. i have been a bit weepy the last few days, even though i know its for the best, i am still cutting people out of my life that i have absolutly adored, so right now its seems like the end of the world. i just need to remember that i have LOADS of other friends that wouldnt treat me like this. and you are one of them. thanks for everything *mwah*
from princesstosh :
Thanks for the sweet note! I really needed to hear that, it made me feel so much better! I read how you feel about K and I can see why. She is just the most beautiful daughter. You can tell that her eyes sparkle and have a little mischief in them, but are also kind and sweet and loving. I have no doubt that you are the epitome of super mom. I bet that as she grows she will know how much love your mother and you give to her. My dad also was not in my life, nor his family (until recently, i am now in contact with his dad) but I never felt deprived--I had a loving family that made up for any kind of love he could've given me. I hope that she always feels the same way. Take care & thanks again!!!
from second-love :
Your notes are so meaningful to me... you truly DO know just what i am going through. And your example of the fireworks is right on. Cause he really is a "boy"... nearly 50 years old but never in his life has he experienced what he has with me. He wants to touch... to play... to light... but he's afraid of the backlash. He says he is doing it for me - but he doesnt realize the confusion it creates. Thanks sweetie for your understanding!
from second-love :
thank you thank you for your note!!! it was exactly what i needed. I am just feeling so crazy and off balance... and he keeps sitting there all calm saying stuff like "i am perfectly happy and have no complaints" and "im just trying to do what you tell me you need" and "you are the one that keeps changing your mind on how you feel... i am just trying to do whatever you need" AAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH drives me NUTS!!!!!!! And in one breath... "im here for you... tell me what you need" and when i say "i need YOU right now to just come here and hold me"... then its "ummm well... you know that doesn't really work right now and anyway when you are like this you are telling me by your actions that you want to get AWAY from me". HOLY FUCK!!!! That is EXACTLY the opposite of what i feel. But according to him... there is a disconnect between what i feel and what i EXPRESS - and the all mighty wonder drug meds will just cure all this. Holy shit... they BETTER. hahahahaha thanks sweetie! *hugs*
from second-love :
Ummmmmmmmmmmm excuse me??? Nothing else to say??? So Dave stopped by and........................................????? *grin* a few more details please hahahahaha - OH and i would LOVE to see a picture of that hair color... i am a dirty blonde naturally but have often thought about going THAT dark and THAT is the exact color i would pick!!!!!
from argolam :
Tell Santa I said hi. And ask him if he wouldn't mind, just this once, to give presents to nice Jewish boys...
from betchy :
yay, i am glad that leo is ok! that is so cool. bless. i put a little something in the post to you last night, so you should have it by tomorrow morning. i think i missed the last post. talk soon x
from argolam :
He is a knob. (I think this is the first time I've ever used the word "knob" in actual sentence). I found out today that he was drunk when he crashed his motorcycle and that he took his underage girlfriend with him. (Isn't gossip a wonderful thing?)
from betchy :
you dont look weird on that photo you look lush! and juliet is so pretty! and can you believe fucking man united scum broke our unbeaten run? gutted. absolutely gutted.
from catz-eyes :
hiya cherub. your most rcent entry about dave made me sad :( really feel for what you're going through. all you can do is follow your heart and hope for the best. ***HUGGLES*** love & kindness to you, =^..^=
from second-love :
hahahaha suck a CUTE picture!!! I LOVE that one!!!!! Hey... if you dont mind me asking... is the pet insurance expensive?? Do you think it has been well worth the money?
from second-love :
I could sense your apprehension...but you have such an important point to make. I appreciate your political rants!!!!! Hope you are having a fab weekend... oh and i love the tattoo!! Did i tell you that already??? I'm workin toward getting my first one too - just need to decide on a design. *grin*
from chakra-chick :
Hi there sweetie. Thank you so much for the comment about me and my journal. Being a 'newbie' to Diaryland, I get very exciting when anything good happens (notes, comments, new fans). So, I thank you a thousand times over- you certainly brought a smile to my face. I love reading about your life too-your writing is so engaging and interesting. Look after yourself and your gorgeous daughter! *hugs & kisses*
from iwanttotell :
I know I've read you before but can't figure out why I haven't added you. I am now. I like your style, and your pix are great.
from betchy :
hello my little chicken pie, am sooooo glad you are feeling happier! where have you had your tattoo done? (as in like back, leg, arm etc)its really cool! speak soon flower loys of love xxx
from anita-girl :
Hi, I just read your last entry and your 101 list. What a interesting read! I'm going to add you to my list! And HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!
from second-love :
You dont know HOW BAD i wish i was WAY over there to get together with you and Krugerpak...MAN... ya think John would notice if i just hopped on a plane for a week or two????? I'm not sure if i can feel much lower... so im with ya girlfriend. *hugs*
from s-u-s-u :
Hi, thanks for your note. I know rationally that I'm just being paranoid. Tomorrow I see the doc again so hopefully I can relax a bit after the appointment. I really enjoyed your diary. Beautiful pictures. Take care.
from adulterous-k :
COme clean! How do you know most of the F1 drivers personally!?
from rockingchair :
Ooh you B!^(#. Thats so attractive, which says a lot more about me than you.
from betchy :
oooh you little heartbreaker you!!! are you still coming to stay next week? i still have no credit so thats why i havent phoned or anything, but hope you're ok!
from furiouspuppy :
Hi there! Yes, I know what you mean about feeling like an old woman! I swear that kids these days are getting more violent and more slutty! *hugs*
from betchy :
aw, poor k, is she ok now? bloody kids, it wasnt like this in my day (er, except it was, because it wasnt actually that long ago!) hope you're ok lovely, speak soon!
from emma25 :
Hiya, thanks for the note...will be making a concerted effort with this diary now. Hugs to you both! Em
from laurelote :
My deepest apologies for the Keira-confusion! I was really surprised that there "wasn't" a ring for her; I really should've looked harder. I'll definitely change the description... and it is strange that the wording is the same. Thanks for being so polite; I really appreciate that. ;-) Cheers!
from gumphood :
Hey. I see Betchy checks you out alot, so I figured that I would too. I like the pics and the design and stuff. Glad I stopped by. Keep it on. (that means nothing)
from rockingchair :
Nicest note I ever received. Let's start with flesh revealing and go from there. (I know you'll delete this!) :-p
from chakra-chick :
I'm so flattered that you have listed me as one one of your favourites! Really did make my Monday less blue!
from second-love :
WELL!!!!! Dont bodily functions have ALL the nerve!!! sheeeeeeeeeeeeesh :)... im glad for you though... i think you have your hands full as it is.
from x-plicity :
Your comments thing hates me!!!! I just wanted to tell you that I would love to have one of those bookie things, it sounds like it would be some very good, sound literature!!! Also, I was wondering what the weather is like in your neck of the woods. My friend is going to be visiting London next week and doesn't know what to expect. *hugs* X
from betchy :
hey sexy girl, i got your text last night, but no cred at the moment cra-zee!!! ddnt tell you i got laid, because it happened after i was texting you on sunday then ran out of cred. dont be offended that i have sent kathy photos and not you, e mail me your address and you can have some. but dont forget you get to see me in the flesh soon!!!
from chakra-chick :
Hi there! Thank you so much for leaving a note for me. I've only just started with Dairyland, so I'm hoping to keep it up. Keep your entries coming...I really enjoy reading it! Take care
from princesstosh :
I don't think I've gotten to tell you yet---she is absolutely beautiful! You can show her off all you want, as far as I'm concerned :) She's really something to be proud of.
from betchy :
yay, yay, yay, i am soooooo looking forward to it, it will be so cool, and afterwards we can write all about how wonderful each other is on d-land!!!! when do you think you can come?? i have got a week off, august bank holiday week, and i get paid then, so that would be cool, but you can come whenever!!! yay!! sorry couldnt text back anymore last night, ran out of credit. i will text you tomorrow night throughout the final though, defo xxx
from betchy :
i know it will be sooooooo cool!!!! i dont know, i used to have a bit of a reputation round these parts, and it has taken me a few years to win back my good name!!! i think going with a seventeeny may revert me back to the slapper i once was!!!
from betchy :
no a slimy amphibian silly!!!! hahahaha! and what do you mean the wrong impression? i am sensible...........nope, didnt think you would buy that!!! so you want victor to go then? i want jason to. i didnt see last nights though, but apparently victor was being a cock arse to shell wasnt he? nadia to win all the way!!! hey also, i might be in bracknell in a few weeks time, would you fancy meeting up? i dont mind if not, because i know its dodgy, but i promise i am not really a 57year old man with a weird fetish for luring innocent diarylanders into my lair!!!! my uncle lives in harmans water, but if you do want to meet up, let me know and we can arrange somewhere. that would be cool!!! who do you want to win big bro?
from catz-eyes :
hiya cherub :) thanxks so much for the comments you left today ... may be you're right, perhpas i'm being too hard on myself. so hard to know as have little to compare it to... but anyway, thank you so much, as your words were kind, considered and thoughtful. and agree with you about 'I, Robot' - it does look cool :) will let you know what it's like, k? ***HUGGLES*** =^..^=
from betchy :
i live in a one-bedroom flat, and i am quite happy there, but if a man wanted to pop in occassionally for fun and frolicks i would not complain!!!!
from adulterous-k :
Oi!! Not *all* men think that way!! And I think I rank a memebership of some kind in your club!
from betchy :
K is lush!!!!!!!!!!!!! and your cat chloe is identical to my cat loobi!!!!! glad you see my point about the whole cardi thing, and its always handy for a sudden chill. or someone always gets cold so you can lend them it. i dont think the americans understand quite how temperamental our weather can be (i dont mean that nastily). K comes out with the funniest things. how old is she? she is so lush! anyway, take care girlypants, i'll speak to you soon x
from catz-eyes :
:) thank you for the lovely message/note (and also the comments you made about my diary on your 'favs list'). am *very* flattered! as for the actress... um, don't know her name, but she played dee, toadies' wife that died in the car crash after their wedding.... hope that Life is being kind to you and yours. and i'll be stopping by again if thats ok? =^..^=
from second-love :
Ahhhhhhhh it IS a slippery slope indeed!!! I LIVE on that slope daily and know EVERY blade of grass hahahahahahahaha - happy sliding! or NOT!
from second-love :
Dont you love "Lovely Bones"... really a dif read!!! I finished it yesterday and there was just a part toward the end that made me bawl like a baby. It prob wouldn't for somebody else, but it was just the way it was written... when they talk about the dad and the wife, the way he talks to her...i think the father character reminds me of Sam (same quiet understanding and soothing way)and i am the confused mother character looking for understanding and redemption hhahahahahahaha WACKED!!!!
from vanillakitty :
Yes I mentioned you!!!! Actually, I believe your name is in all caps with "!!!" after it. lol Well, I'm just trying to redo stuff. not really change the layout, but just the color and pic and text type.. Slowly I figured which ##### was for the backround, and changed the green to pink, butthat was as far as I could understand. pathetic hugh!! lol.
from betchy :
hahahahahaha!!!! that is so true!! i like it a lot. ye ha!!! loved the pictures you posted by the way, how cute? leave me a note later, i havent been getting many lately **wipes away tear** xxx
from allegedwife :
all hail the wise and wonderful St Avalonte....the answer to every woman's prayers!
from betchy :
i know i couldnt believe it!!! i had been back from feltham for like, an hour, and there was someone from there on the telly!!! it was weird though because all weekend when i was there, the advert for it was on, and me and the girls kept saying that the woman looked really familiar. well that would be why!!!
from princesstosh :
Hey there, thanks for stopping by. By the way, I loved the fathers day entry. I am pretty much fatherless (besides a man who TRIED to be a step father for many years, but failed miserably) so fathers day to me is somewhat icky. It just gives me that hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach. Blah. Anyways, I think the reasons the entries are like that is because lately I've been having problems with D-Land, and everytime i try to submit an entry my browser says its not responding so i've hit it 3 or 4 times until it finally comes up . OOPS. I didnt even realize, sorry! Oh, and in case you're a # freak like I am, your next entry will be #300. Take care, and I'll come back from time to time if its alright with you!
from betchy :
my dad and my sisters live there. its where i am from!!! my sisters actually live on the same road as the borstal!!! ye ha!!! that ref needed fuckin shooting, i swear he had it in for us because we beat his shitty country!! and what the fuck was beckham playing at??? leave your personal problems off the pitch and play like the pro you are david!!!! i hate to say it, but they did play better than us. i had drank me 2 litres of frosty jack by the time the game ended though, so it cushioned the blow slightly. i am absolutley gutted though. i really thought we had a chance this year :-(
from betchy :
fenton real name is marc, his surname is fenton. trent is my nickname for him. i'm not sure how it came about. it really annoys him. well he pretends it does, i think he secretly quite likes it!!!
from betchy :
ah, the good old notes pages. rooney is indeed a legend in the making. he reminds me of a young gazza (lets hope he doent go the same way as him) we have got a good chance of doing well i reckon. i love being english at times like this!!!
from betchy :
me love you!!! read your last 5, will go back and read more when i get a chance, but i love you!! i love your entry about the england flags, that is so true!!! i think only a brit could understand it!!! i'm so glad you found me. how did you find me?
from betchy :
yeah, my uncle lives on calfridus way in harmans water. hell girl, that was way back, did you read my whole diary or what? thanks for the nice comments about my diary, i was a bit pissed off at that review, but like i said, you cant please everybody!!! i know that vanessa will be out on friday, and i just so want victor out, he is such a cock arse!!! i really do hate him, when he comes on the screen i just want to throw something at it!!! "let the bad guy win for once" no fucking chance mate!!! by the way i am not being ignorant by not adding you yet, i just want to raed some of your diary so i can put a good comment in, and i havent had a chance to do that yet, but its top of my list of "things to do on diaryland". how did you happen upon mine by the way?
from betchy :
wow, i love it when someone new leaves me notes!!! ok, try to answer your questions. i am actually 22, so i think you can understand why i was slightly peeved when i was told i looked 32. not feeling the love for that. i am absolutely loving big brother, and am gutted that emma has been thrown out. i love emma. she was the life and soul of the house, but now i am rooting for stuart, dan and nadia. the only two in the house i actually dislike are jay and victor, i think victor has a duck mouth and is just horrible!!! but i really do like dan, and i find nadia hilarious!!! so where abouts do you live?? and whats your friends name, i may know them (weston is not too big). hope that answers your questions sweetie xxx
from the-book-bag :
Your story about the Little Folk is awesome! I would love to visit the faery mounds of Ireland. (I know, don't ever call the fay "faeries" because you'll provoke their ire). :-D Thank you for sharing your experience! -cat
from rockingchair :
Im not actually a big tit guy, so for the mans prayer I'd replace that with a nice bum! Actually, I wish I really were that shallow, life would be so much easier dont you think?
from adulterous-k :
Thanks for the note - yes I know how she feels too. I get the same way, especially when I suspect that he's hurting her. But she won't have me express that - any time I come close to saying 'I wouldn't treat you like that' we return to the thought that I've withheld the chance to look after her properly. And yes- I know she's right.
from wench77 :
Hey there. thanks. I don't believe in god either. I don't think there is much correspondence between how "good" we are and what we end up getting either. I DO have happiness, but I guess sometimes I compare to other people. Like the lady next door. She doesn't have a love life, but there is a good male friend of hers who also has a son like she does, and they hang out all the time, garden together, have a barbecue etc... like a family. And I guess I wish I had more than friends who "dropped by but can't stay for a beer or a coffee" sometimes. It is exhausting having a garage sale from a to z by yourself. At least I don't argue with anymore. hehe. I suddenly realize I didnt read your June 4 entry. How did that happen i don't know. I will read it now.
from adulterous-k :
Argghhh!! Women! Is life with them ever anything else but a rollercoaster ride?! x
from tigerlily21 :
Thank you for the note and the wonderful words. I'm so sorry about your dad. I know how you feel..its been 5 years this April for me. Its so hard, but you are right, time does heal it, or at least allows us to go on with our every day life. *Hugs* Hope you have a good Friday and a good weekend!
from the-book-bag :
Thank you so much for your note...you've made me cry, but in a good way. I'm so touched by what you said. Thank you, thank you, thank you. * HUGS *
from wiley381 :
Sorry to hear about Will - and I don't think that you're sappy for crying over a pet. Pets can often become members of the family just as much as any human. I also hope that K gets well soon. Keep your chin up though, night is always darkest before the dawn.
from the-book-bag :
Thank you so much for your note and the fact that you care means more than you can imagine. Thank you and *** HUGS *** to you too. -cat
from wiley381 :
An honorary Brit? Does that mean I have to learn to spell funny? he he he And my mom's doing considerably well, she's started chemo and seems to be doing about as well as you can expect when your body is being bombarded with radiation. Thanks for asking.
from ruthiebat :
I'm sorry if I freaked you out by locking - I just had a really bad experience with an acquaintance whom I had trusted enough to let her read my diary. She just completely flipped out over a totally innocent thing I said, and put some pretty awful things in my comments, and then linked to my journal from her blog so that all her 50,000 readers could see what a horrible person I am!! Are you sorry you asked?!! Anyway, it's just made me feel completely vulnerable and untrusting and as though I need to just hide away for awhile. I will probably unlock in a few days and I'll let you know. Meanwhile, I know you will probably want to take me off your favorites list (I hate hitting locked diaries on those lists - no fun!) and I will totally understand. I know it'll be ok, I'm just in hiding mode!
from hissandtell :
Oh, I know I've said it before, but both you and K are so completely, utterly gorgeous, vivacious and full of life that seeing your photographs always fill me with joy! Thank you so much for sharing them. Much love, R xxx
from wiley381 :
Thanks for the kind words, and I don't beleive in god either. If I did, I would be very angry with him I think, but that's like being mad at Santa... oh well. Anyway, I'm still gathering details and trying to figure out how I 'should' feel. I'm sure it will all work out for the better though. Thanks again.
from parlance :
Ohh, cats :) I love your layout.
from second-love :
I'm not sure what i think about monogamy. Even with my faith and believing that God created and ordained marriage with one partner, i question the entire old testament and all the multiple wives!!! hahaha you dont see the women marrying multiple guys!!! But i know that affairs hurt alot of people... kids, spouses, parents, ourselves... im just not sure how to reconcile the love and the deep need to be with someone that you really cant be with... the pain is almost unbearable as well as the shame.
from starlight42 :
Thank YOU for the nice note!! I'm really enjoying your diary, glad you like mine too. ;)
from wench77 :
MMm even if K weren't Down's it is perfectly in your right not to want a second child. As for things like that, the eldest daughter in one of the families of cousins I have is mentally challenged because her mom had a heart problem (fixed before the other two, normally developed, daughters were born)... they think she lacked oxygen during the birth since it is not actually genetic. So my cousins always had a "special" older sister. She was always a huge help cuz she LOVES cleaning... in fact she always went to a special school but she grew up to live in a group home and work for a cleaning company. So, yes, although she always needed special help in everything from tying shoes to school (and still does at like 45 yrs old), she was always "mom's helper" as well. It is so individual of the child though, and the family situation. I trust you know best for both yourself and K. cheers!
from xperi-mental :
You are so right. He is my other half. I just wish things were different. You know how that goes. *hugs*
from groovebunny :
LOL. If you're a pimp then does that make me your ho? Sweetie you're template is beautiful and the layout fine. I don't have any problems with the boxes and scrolls and such. I'm thinking of going back to css since it makes for such a clean look. *hugs*
from starlight42 :
Those pictures of your daughter and pets are adorable! And I love your design, I'm a cat lover myself. :)
from elysium1982 :
the cat on your layout could be my own. looks amazingly like him. cool diary.
from wench77 :
hiya! thanks for the note at my place. I think it is strange that people think someone should just "close their browser" when they see someone, probably inadvertently, using a word that is offensive. We all know that SZ meant "acting like an idiot"... which of course is insulting to idiots as well :) but the "m" term she used has been out of use, like the "n" word, for negative connotations for years. You weren't upset with her saying he was acting like an ass... you were upset at a non-disabused word designating a perfectly nice group of people, those with Down's syndrome. It is offensive (and listed as such in the online American Heritage Dictionary), since it negatively uses a racial term to designate a medical condition.... thus it is racially offensive to Mongolians as well as saying that people with Down's are icky. I don't think you were "censoring" her, but just going "nudge, you are my friend saying something I find hurtful, please find a better term"... that is what I would hope any friend would say... not let racist or other negative things slide. Esp in this case where SZ just meant he was goofing around, and couldve used any other term (and did when she changed it)... you were not attacking her held beliefs or opinions. I wish people would cool. Hang in there. It is interesting it is causing such a backlash. It is sort of like these days, you get more attacked for accusing someone of racism, than by being racist. Weird. hugs.
from hamakosan :
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!! I've been meaning to hit you back for all the wonderful messages you've been leaving for me. You're such a sweetie (and a good read)! I've been meaning to add my two cents on the whole matter regarding Dave.. but Furious Puppy beat me to it. You deserve a hell of a lot better! If someone doesn't return your love in the way that you show/need it.. then they're not deserving of your love in the first place! You're a ROCKSTAR, dahling! <3 Hamako
from allegedwife :
thanks....and yes, I did get some sleep....on the couch with the dog!! and I second what furiouspuppy said....can Dave....you, and your daughter, deserve better
from rockingchair :
My son has had problems with temporary blackouts. He had an MRI and they found nothing wrong up top, so they were looking at his heart to see if there were any problems. Hopefully its just something that will clear up as he gets older. Thanks for your concern.
from ruthiebat :
You are the best mom in the world!! YOU ROCK!! What a wonderful treat for K!!
from sunnflower :
I admire you for arranging your priorities even if it means visiting the laundromat a while longer. I just read a book about a laundromat called Lucy's Launderette which was fun and there is a great webcam out there at www.happywash.com of a french landromat. I've had it on my webcam list for a long time.
from mpeacock :
Thank you for your note. You're English? I was/actually still am married to a bloke from Norwhich. I have spent quite some time in England, I love it there. My son is 1/2, I guess. Take care, I'll have to keep up with your diary now. :)
from grimm0826 :
I've been running like crazy the past few days, so I just now saw the entry about K. I am hoping and praying for the best for her, and for you. I'm a big believer in the medical abilities we have available to us these days; I know K will get the best care, because I know you will make them give it!
from grimm0826 :
Hi again...I just found the entry for the two year aniversary of your father's death. I lost my father about two weeks ago...granted, he and I were not close, but it still hurts like hell. My heart bleeds for you, as well. Maybe time will heal us both...
from brokenmirror :
I hate it when people die and it happens far too often :( Im so sorry for you *huggs* And your diary is beautiful

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