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I know you wrote it awhile ago (almost a month), but I just wanted to let you know that it wasn't just you. Though it wasn't morning for me, my man had a similar problem once. I think mens minds can get occupied just like ours can. They can be plagued by insecurities and left defenseless by worry. It probably had nothing to do with you, he just had a little too much blood left in his brain. I had a similar worry and upset that there was something wrong with me, having tried everything from positions to mere head. Still, I slowly lost that worry after a few out of this world nights since.

from bantenhut :

How cute! As it's over now, hope it went well!

from bantenhut :

I don't think you should just 'take what you can get,' as you said, it sounds a bit defeatist to me. I'm sure there's got to be a way to gently suggest something to make it better for the both of you. Let him know in a sweet way that you'd like to get busy more often. And then again this was only one instance, and less-than-great sex is bound to happen in long relationships. Granted, I've never been with a guy for longer than a month, and I've never had sex, but that's the kind of advice I hear about such things. And of course it's all about communication. Speak up!

from lanienaked :

i hate being on top! i dunno how you do it. i am so lazy. i'm almost always on bottom.

from indiebones :

You know... I wonder the same thing about boobs. I guess that's because, to me, boobs are just a couple of lumps that sort of sit there and look, uh, pretty? I can't imagine the size of them actually being a deal-breaker.

from whystinger :

Being a man, I don't know about woman and size issues, never was with a size queen. I do know and love boobs. Big and small boobs are not a deal breaker for me. For me, fake boobs are the deal breaker. I would prefer a woman with small, tiny boobs to someone with a large set of fake boobs.

from katrinaox :

Im not sure if its to all woman, but size DOES make a difference, although I personally dont have a preference. If im being intimate with a man then I care about them enough to not care about how big/small he is. Im the kind of girl that loves to give oral, so its nice to see a bigger penis, because its much more fun. hahaha

from lanienaked :

also, just saw your message. readers/welcome ;)

from lanienaked :

i've had sex with only 2 guys, but i have seen 3 others. penis size does make a difference to some extent. average is about 5 and a half or 6 inches. my current bf is about 7 and i think it makes a difference. the previous guy i dated was smaller and having a well endowed guy is a lot better! however, being really big is bad and will hurt girls, so it's not bad to be average. and plus, if it gets too big, it's harder to give a good blow job lol

from blazingstar :

Well, I don't have that much experience with this either since I've only been with three guys. I actually think it's hard to say if size really matters. I was pretty happy with my first until I had sex with my second, and the sex was WAY better with the second. #2 also happened to be bigger. But not longer, I don't think, just fatter. (Hahaha is this way too much information?!) In any case, I then went back to #1 after dumping #2 and the sex definitely felt disappointing ever after (much as I hated to admit it). But I think the size wasn't really the issue - it was more that #2 really knew how to use it. Also, I've never been with someone who's abnormally large, so I don't know what that's like. I imagine that at a certain point it could get painful. #3 seems perfect to me but I don't think I would have needed to experience 1 and 2 to know that. Haha, I feel like Goldilocks - "and the third was juuust right!"

from swimmmer72 :

I can only relate what various girlfriends have told me. It isn't the size of the wand; it's the music it makes. As far as how (if) that correlates to how guys feel about breasts, I think some guys like big breasts, some like small breasts, but a lot of guys care more about the woman they're attached to. I'm betting the same holds true for women and how they feel about a penis.

from blazingstar :

I can relate because my boyfriend is a workaholic. I was feeling frustrated last night too because he asked me to sleep in the other room so he could get a better night's sleep because he had to be up early this morning and he was stressed out. I've come to expect this from him now and then but it still makes me a little sad because it's one way that he and I are so different. I would never want to sleep without him. Anyway, in response to your entry, I can never understand WHY a guy would reject sex. Aren't guys supposed to want it ALL the time? But in reality I often find that I'm way more in the mood than he is, a LOT of the time. It seems like everything has to be perfect for him to want to do it. No work to do, no deadlines hanging over his head, at least 9 hours remaining before wakeup time (to make sure there's a full night's sleep after sex), no worries, must be in a great mood, etc etc. So when I look at it that way, I'm surprised we EVER have sex! I feel like I approach sex very differently, like even if I'm busy or stressed out, sometimes I want to do it because it might cheer me up. But he only wants to do it if everything else is perfect. It sounds like your husband might be that way too sometimes. Anyway, I'm curious to know how the night turned out...

from yihatepeople :

congratulations

from fitofdestiny :

That's wonderful hon.

from bantenhut :

Awww, that sounds like it's definitely a step in the right direction! :) What if y'all used birth control pills and condoms? Seems like it would be fine then, but I don't know. You know your situation best, I've never donated my eggs.

from swimmmer72 :

What you write about is pretty common among many long-term couples, married or not. It's happened with some of my relationships more than others, and for some long and some short time periods. Once it starts, it's hard to break out of especially if it goes on for a while. Being the initiator is always risky, but it needs to be tried, especially if it is getting to be a problem. I was lucky - most of my relationships, this was never much of a problem. I hope you are able to get past this.

from fledgling- :

I really enjoy reading your writings here though I wish you updated more often than not.

from newlywedblis :

Congratulatiosn on a good day! Those are so wonderful when you find them....

from newlywedblis :

:) Always nice to find a kindred spirit. I often feel like I'm out here on my own..... Feel free to comment over there as well (I'm going to put a link in eventually)--you don't have to have an account, I've even enabled the anonymous postings if you're more comfy with that. :)

from contatto :

love the honesty with which you write! i don't think there is anyone out there that doesn't feel the same way that you do at one time or another... thanks for writing!

from the-moo :

I LOVE showersex... not so much in our tiny cubicle but showers over baths are great because you can stand on the edge of the bath to get some extra height!! :o) I love coming here and reading your honest words - thank you for sharing this stuff! xxx

from bantenhut :

Yay! Good for you! Oh, I'm happy for you and I don't even know you. It's so weird, this internet! Ha. Anyway, thanks for writing about this stuff. Like that other commenter said, I appreciate your candor.

from swimmmer72 :

Almost nothing better than make-up sex. I'm glad you got yours. There are few things more difficult than navigating two people's sexual needs, especially in this day and age. :)

from the-moo :

Hey I've not been about for a LONG time now but I've just been catching up with your diary.. thank you for continuing to write this stuff and also. what you're doing with the eggs.. AMAZING!! :oD you're are WONDERFUL xxx

from pattypat :

I just wanted to let you know I read your diary from cover to cover and I appreciate your candor. It was refreshing to know that after 17 years of marriage, lots of the things that I think are unique to me, me, me are just not. Congratulations to you and your husband. I wish you many, many additional years of wedded happiness!

from ceilings :

good luck and get laid!

from fitofdestiny :

Oh, I forgot to add, you'll have to let me know how that egg donation goes and stuff. I've thought about it and I really want to, but I'm scared to death.

from fitofdestiny :

Yea!!! I missed you! I look forward to reading again. I'm glad all is well hon. *hugs*

from bantenhut :

I'm glad you're back! Hope you're here to stay.

from aglaia :

I was so happy to have stumbled upon you through a link from another diary-land favorites list...only to be bummed you haven't written in a year! Come back, what's happening?