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Hope kitty is ok -keep us posted!
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I'll do some long distance kitty cat Reiki. Give him a smooch for me.
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Ooch. Poor kitty. Might be kidney problems - she's the right age and symptoms sound the same as my last cat. Hope all is OK. The reduction in caffeine might well be helping your 'calm' sort of mood - long may it last! s x
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Just went back and read some stuff I missed. Sorry about the financing, yes - get physical with the DJ - just set expectations, and for heavens sake don't let that damn house or the experiences within hold you back from gathering positive energy. You'll be out sooner than you think.
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How about the library? Toasty warm, comfy chairs, smell of old books...
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Even though our challenges are different, I needed the reminders you put in your last entry as much as you did. So thanks : ).
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I dont have electronic (ie emailable) copy but could mail you a photocopy if you have a PO box address or similar. Email me? s x
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As part of my job, I run course for people who are caring for a loved one who is sick or disabled or earing the end of their life. Funnily enough, one of the sessions in the programme deals exactly with "negative inner voice" in just the way you decribed it. If its any consolation, it sometimes takes people a really long time to grasp the concept at all, even with my fabulous facilitation (!). That you came to it all by yourself and are prepared to at least try to address the balance...well, I take my hat off to you. love s x
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Meh. s x
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Actually, I CAN see it, with my special transatlant-o-specs. Cmon porky, get on out there wid yer new hairdo. Yes, the house is holding you back....but not for ever, huh? ((squeeeze)) s x
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Pray for rain. That way you have a legitimate excuse to drive to a bar. You can drink soda all night (cheap and healthier) as you cannot drink and drive, you can meet with your friends and still get home with wallet/brain/judgement intact. I do it all the time and our local bar is only a five minute walk from our house! Either that or you'll have to start taking evening classes - Community based ones are often free to join. Best of luck s x
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So when do you find out about the new house? Crossing fingers and toes... It sounds awesome!
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Good luck with the house! My fingers are crossed for you.
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I may be a sentimental dork but you almost calling her and then her texting you a little later when neither of you have ever done so before seems a little "karma-ish" to me : ).
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Phew! I take back all that comforting stuff I said, then. heehee. s x
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So. You had a few scoops. I expect that the people you were talking to knew that and will have made allowances for it - after all, the cops werent called at any time, were they, so it/you cant have been that bad. File that one under "whoops" and have one less next time. Nothing bad happened. Honest. I went over there myself and checked. Stop beating yourself up. s x PS Actually, one of those last bits was a bit of a fib but I dont think anyone will have noticed. ; )
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I heard this quote in a movie(surprise surprise lol):
"Everyone lives the life they truly want."
So I'm deciding I want to change it. And I will. I'm stubborn that way.
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I think your profile is straightforward and honest -- you're laying out what you're looking for. It might yield fewer responses than an ad that was less specific about what you want in a woman, but that way you don't have to weed through all of the crap replies you'd get. About your age, what's funny is that I know how old you are. You told me a long time ago!
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You are so freakin' adorable... You know I think the age thing is annoying, so no comments there... Your write-up works really well. It sums up the persona you like to go out with, if that makes sense... There's much more to you, but at face value, you hit all the high points. About all you can do in a summary. Very cute, not too cute, honest, pretty open. Good.
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I'd date you!....although, you're a bit young for me - I like em a bit more crusty! Seriously tho, I think you did a pretty good job there - interesting, without writing an essay. s x
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My first instinct would be to say 'be honest' but if you really are open to a wide range of ages then maybe the outrageous lie/photo combo would work for you. When I first met L he had a 'stage age' - he said ALL the musicians have one. They dont. Just the vain ones! He stayed 39 for about four years and then I told him he had to stop - I was his 'picture of Dorian Grey': I was getting older while he stayed the same age! Bizarrely he now adds on a few years cos he thinks 'pushing 50' and having people go "No! Really?" is better than saying 47 and having people believe it! s x
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And I like sassy's idea of putting up the pic too - that should definitely nix any "creepy old dude" worries. And the thing is, if it doesn't work, you can always adjust your profile to give your age later!
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Yeah, honesty is the best policy. But how about just saying the age range you are open to and saying that your age is somewhere within the same range, and will be revealed as you get to know someone, and not because you're trying to hide it but because you think its more fun that way. That's just as honest as giving your age, and more honest than making up a number.
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Hey that's cool. I do tend to think that I'm fricking hilarious so hopefully you will too...even when I'm venting. Feel free to tell people that I AM super-duper awesome and hilarious(I need readers). Seriously, thanks for responding back and hopefully you DO enjoy cyber-stalking me lol.
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Put something outrageous for your age(like 900) and say that you don't care so much about age. Or say something about how you want them to guess your age. If you put up a pic then chicks will see that you're not the creepy old guy lol. It will make you seem witty and MIGHT intrigue some of them. Hope this helped. Good luck!
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Would you say in your profile that the age you're indicating is not your real age and that you don't want to reveal what it really is? To be honest, I'm afraid lying about your age or keeping it a secret will really turn people off. I wouldn't tolerate that kind of coyness!
Think about all of the weird people in the world of Internet dating. Do you want to be one of those strange types? I know that you're not like that, but you don't want to put people off. If you don't want to be honest about your age, maybe drop off 2-4 years then when you meet in person, you can be upfront about it.
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Hmm, tricky one. I'd say it got to be healthier to have ones emotions at least NEAR the surface though, isnt it? I mean, God forbid if everything we thought or felt was utterly transparent to even the most casual of observers but I think other people are better placed to make a connection to you if they can at least identify with how you're feeling. If I was just up the road Id come knock your door for a beer and a chinwag. s x
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I'm not going to say any obnoxious things like congrats, or way to go or anything. But going to see your sis' kid was huge. Way huge.
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Lots of positive vibes coming your way. Hugs.
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Morning! s x
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have you already been through all the gals in your state then? Im impressed! *wink* s x
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Hey. That was brave as hell and you did a fine thing by going. Im sure your sister appreciated the efforts you went through. s x
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Hugs. I am like crazy proud of you right now.
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Oy!
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Hmm. My bad. Shouldnt skim-read whilst pretending to be working! s x
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I dont have a problem with you not saying Congratulations - its better than saying it and not meaning it. And yeh, three weeks is a BIT early to go blabbing it around! s x
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Ah, OK, that makes much more sense!
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Did it!! Thanks so much. About the three-week-pregnant thing, who goes around telling people they're pregnant so early on? That's so strange.
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Ummm. A congratulatory email might be in order. Seriously. It might make someone feel good. Did you end up working out?
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Make sure you new place "feels" good to you. That may be more important than other considerations. It'll encourage your good energy to expand and shrink the negativity and darkness...
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You are taking the right steps - I know exactly what you mean about not feeling as "bad" but not sure you are feeling "better" because you aren't looking forward to things either. It seems like a move in the right direction though. I remember catching myself during my divorce year saying "I'll work on liking my life again when I get through this" instead of counting up all the moments that were good even while I was in it. And I've been catching myself sliding into that thinking even now, only it is "My life will be better and I'll be able to work on me when I get out of this horrible work situation." Like your house search, that is taking much longer than I hoped, and I realize I have to look at the good stuff I live every day even while I'm in the miserable job. One day at a time ... onward and upward. Hugs.
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Don't forget about all the good stuff you think about, and do, and say...
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Hey - I miss you too. Just catching up on your posts and I alternate between worrying about you, thinking parts of it sounds like something I could have written about myself, and just wishing I could have a beer with you and give you a hug. Mostly, like Zen, wish we all lived closer.
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No matter now hard you run, you're always you. I've been toying with that thought lately. I've tried so hard to change, then just lost interest in everything altogether and went into hibernation, then just recently, I've gone full cirle. I like being the me I was better than some me I think I should be. At least for today... (snicker) Anyway, I wish you were around the corner so I could pop over and have a heart to heart. You're so good for my state of mind...
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Blah, huh? Me too...
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So, have all your entries since 10 days ago been negative, because we haven't heard from you... Come up for air!
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Dude! I haven't been here to see what's going on lately because I've had my head firmly lodged up my ass. Let's chat this weekend! I might even drunk dial you for old times sake.
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Holy shit! Houses are CHEAP round your way, dude! Even without kitchens! s x
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Well, there's nothing wrong with your perception - those were, indeed, crappy platitudes about being happy. I donthave the answer to what being happy is all about - I find happiness in the stupidest little things. Ive had a hellova week but I got home from work tonight and my daughters had spontaneously (ie without being nagged) tidied their rooms. Cue instant happy! Ive just sent them out to buy an icecream. Happy mummy, happy girls. I wouldnt strive too hard for a complete happy overview if I were you. Life isnt really like that. Just try and find a little bit of happy each day (if that doesnt sound just as crappy as all that other stuff we were so roundly rubbishing!) s x
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Im impressed that you actually did it! Not being able to be arsed to do anything about a problem is a common malaise, why else did a perfectly sentient being like me stay in a job I absolutely hated for seven long years? But even recognising your own 'cant be arsed-ness'can be counted as 'doing something about it'. Im pretty sure that sorting out the house stuff will make you feel a bit more positive and then you might actually feel just a little bit like dealing with one or two of the other things that are bothering you. Stick with it, dude! s x
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Being a whiny little shit is what Diaryland's all about! Thats why we're here! So we can offload all our gripes and (aside from the odd 'stop yer bitching' comments/notes) we can just move on with a lightened heart and less danger of committing damnable and bloody homicide. I dont know you so I cant say if you should go back to counselling or not, but I sure as hell would explore the free option first. Here we are...and we're all ears! Tell us. Your friends wont judge (and those who do can just go on living their perfect lives, cant they?)Here! Have a ((squeeeeeze)) s x
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Well I'm excited for you! I so get your need to move away from a place that represents unhappiness to you. And your plans sounds like a workable way to cut your losses, stand proud, and be free. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.
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I do! I wish you all that you wish for yourself - you seem like a nice person who has got themselves into a bit of a scrape. I hope you find the best way to deal with it. Im also astonished that ANY kind of dwelling can be bought for $30K. You'd struggle to buy a decent new car for that here! My first house cost around $150K and that was in 1995! s x
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Where's your friend from? Anywhere near the south coast? s x
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That poem could describe where I'm at with writing now to a tee. Could - hell, it does! I had other stuff to say but now I read Zen's note and I'm wondering what she got arrested for at that apartment by the sea ... I just can't focus these days LOL!
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Hey! I had a dream about you last night. We got this really old apartment together, somewhere near the sea, and I ended up getting arrested. Don't know why... Anyway, your pre-dream sounded like a really cool meditation. Have you considered trying to get there every night before you go to sleep? Oh, and, with the age thing, I think you can be very mysterious, even if people know how old you are. It would annoy me if a guy kept his age from me. If course, it would probably entertain you to annoy me endlessly... Kisses!
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Do you have to put an age in your profile? I've never done online dating, but it seems like most people stretch the truth from what I heard. It would probably be harmless to knock off two or three years, but anything more than that would probably be too dishonest. I'd be pissed if I liked someone and found out they lied!
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Whew! Just got caught up on D-land and firstly - that was a cute little poem. Made me giggle. Secondly, good luck with the realtor people, and kiss the girl dammit! A nice snog does a body good.
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I think I could live with the minor pond in my basement as long as I had air conditioning. I hate summer...
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Golly! Thats a big step. Over here that takes some real cajones and I wish you well in whatever you decide (and I think its OK to think about people naked - I do it all the time!). s x
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I think that welcome attention from the opposite sex always makes us a little bi-polar... Its the high we get. Sounds like your trip to you sister's was fruitful though. Fun!
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I'm so sorry this happened. That sucks!
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Die toten Hosen?! Heehee! Ask your friend if he remembers a song by Markus called Ich Will Spass (around 1981/82). I bet he cringes. If he doesnt know it, I'd be delighted to sing it for you....or maybe not. Its dire. But in a good way. Sort of. s x
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Unexplained weight loss? Count limbs! s x
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Thanks for indulging nosy ole me! s x
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What sort of band is it? And what's in your set? As a musician's wife (and a 'retired' vocalist!), I like to know this kind of stuff!
I kind of know what you mean about 'wasting' money on a vacation. I always get a kind of hollow feeling afterwards when I think what else I could have done with the money. At the moment Im trying to get my redundancy payment to cover a new bathroom AND a family holiday - its gonna take some SERIOUS budgeting I think! s x
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Duly re-sent to jarofporterATdiarylandDOTcom! s x
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A good clear up/clear out always makes me feel more positive too. Onwards and upwards, dear! s x
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I emailed you some suggested reading - lemme know if it doesnt turn up, I have a habit of turning into spam as I cross the atlantic! s x
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I finally got your care package all packed up and it's headed your way via Post Office. Yippee!
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Hi! I caught up a bit now, so I shall add you to my list so I can keep an eye on you! Are you still looking for interesting reads? I could put a couple your way - let me know what you like: humour? thought provoking? silly stuff? There's quite a few UK-based d'landers if you want more Brit-trash? s x
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Hello! I noticed that you added me to your buddy list - thanks for that! Im guessing that it was you making my stats tracker look so impressive yesterday too! I'll take some time to rootle around in your archives so I 'know' you better and then I'll add you, too! s x
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Ever feel like running away? I do... I always see things clearly when I get away from the me I box myself into...
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Dude, I so get this feeling. I have it oftentimes too when it comes to the "family" thing, when I think about myself 20/30 years from now. Yes, I have a good relationship. But I had one before at one point too. I get what you mean about that. And in some ways, being in a relationship with someone who DOES have those family ties (i.e. children) when don't and know that I won't, mostly through my own choosing, highlights the differences for me. Don't know if it makes you feel any better to know that you aren't alone in those feelings, but you aren't.
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I know it doesn't necessarily make you feel better, but I believe it for you : ).
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Happy, gooey, sloppy vibes out your way baby!
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Lots of good and happy (is that like good and plenty) vibes coming your way. You're gonna be fine - thinking of ya!
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::happy vibes:: ::happy vibes:: ::happy vibes:: There! How was that? Did you send the text? s x
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Are there any community accupuncture places out there? I'm going to one here and I'm sleeping like a baby, and my spine has been adjusting itself beautifully. Community or SUFI accupuncture is done in a room with others, so they can charge less. Usually 15-40 bucks, depending on your finances.
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I probably wouldn't reach out to her. It was a group invite, anyway. It would be different if she specifically asked you to be there, then you'd have to respond. You know?
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I'm in the "let it be" camp. I'm trying to let the past rest in the past these days.
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See if you can draw out information about her. Thing with a lot of bartenders is, everyone wants to talk to them about themselves. Its part of the job. So someone who actually seems to want to know more about them - real stuff like interests and beliefs and common experiences (and who can do that without seeming creepy or too personal), often stick out in their mind.
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Send me your addy (again, I know...). Six and I have a care package for you.
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I think its time to face the fire. Just the presence of this person in town could be the catalyst you need to make the shift. Gimme a call if you want to chat. Its been a while! I miss you!
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Hmmmm ... I think it's probably somewhere in the middle of "looking for love" and "not" that you find it. You go about your life not looking, but with your eyes wide open in case it happens by?
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I went to my chiro earlier this week, and it did help my sinuses! Way cool.
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Best analogy I've read in a while - I sooo get what you're saying.
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Sometimes a little time off, and a little freedom to feel what you need to feel and even wallow in it a bit so that you can move past it, is exactly what you need.
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"Seriously, I feel like a hack, like a faker who pretends to be the next american idol, but doesn't realize he's william hung."
You are SO hard on yourself!!!!
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Weird? Yes. Poor cat. A delicious mouse so near, yet so far...
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Aww...that's cute that you have him set up with food and water. Do you have a park or a field where you can let him go? Good luck at your audition!
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I so know how you feel... It would be nice to have someone at my back. I have done my taxes though...
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If it makes you feel any better, I haven't done my taxes yet either, for the exact same reasons as you : ).
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Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
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Looks like me when I'm left to my own devices... Talking to dust bunnies on the wall... I thought it wss pretty funny. Hey, have you ever tried Bach Flower remedies? Rescue Sleep homeopathic spray is pretty effective. You should also avoid exercise and TV/computer within one hour of hitting the sack. Maybe if you read or maybe write in a journal (book not on-line) for an hour before you turn out the lights?
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Dude, I can NEVER sleep for at least 2 1/2 to 3 hours after finishing a workout. It gives me too much energy. That's part of the reason I switched to working out in the a.m. - I was having a hard time getting to bed in time to catch 6-7 hours of sleep when I was going at night.
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Maybe he thought you were coming on to him? LOL! Just kidding...
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Not much of a runner, but I'll stand on the sidelines holding out bottles of Propel!
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I wish I could run. With my asthma it's just really hard. Good luck with the 5k! As far as new reads, I like blazingstar on DL -- she's my newest find.
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Dude, I get to be the first note! Unfortunately I'm lame and don't have much in the way of "new read" recommendations since in my current workaholic life I barely get to keep up with my old faves. But the race thing .... too cool! You're really getting out there and doing all sorts of stuff, which is awesome. Wish you could be in Baltimore this weekend for Sullyfest!
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