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from danddteacher :
Hi friend!
from mangofarmer :
Happy Birthday! Glad to see your name in red on my buddy list. :)
from indiaaudus :
Hi, it's Megan. I would like to talk to you!
from sexyatheist :
i am so sorry to hear that your lady friend has been bullied into breaking things off. and even more sorry to hear that people who are supposed to preach love and understanding are such vile and evil people. you are an amazing person and you deserve better. i wish i had more to offer but know that i feel for you.
from sexyatheist :
why does mary have a problem with it? i understand that you don't want to upset your friend so maybe finding out what her real issue is will help.
from mangofarmer :
Happy Birthday!
from captvfirefly :
Happy Birthday! It sounds like you had a lovely time.
from danddteacher :
Happy birthday!
from sexyatheist :
locked? but why?
from coexistapart :
I was not attempting to be a part of the storm (I was actually away from the computer from about 1 o'clock onward,) I just fail to see how *you* can maintain *your* position on a basic level of human dignity. I have friends who do dumb things that I do not approve of, but I support them because they are my friends. But, as a reasonable human being, I cannot help but begin to question my motive for being their friend if they begin to demonstrate habitual abuse of other people. I'm questioning how you yourself can deal with it. Is all.
from coexistapart :
I have no clue how someone could ever take Noah's side.
from chickpea981 :
I have hated AOL for many many years now and will never ever ever go back. Welcome to the haters club. Also the myspace thing... I only have my closest of close folks in my top 8 and I think more than 8 looks messy but now I kinda want to steal your guidelines. :P
from hothead :
awww, thanks! :)
from plaidskies :
I may put in an appearance at Jimmy's tonight. And I'm on 'space as well :)
from neangel :
wow, that's awesome man! good luck with her, I hope it continues to go so well!
from plaidskies :
damn skippy your friendship is valuable. don't waste that on the undeserving--you're much better than that.
from sweetnettle :
I found your diary through ionme and then continued on from there. Thanks for the welcome!
from merris :
ooooh--you're a growth strategist? Is that really your official title? Um, I'm going to be calling you today, ok?
from captvfirefly :
I don't think it's about finding a perfect person, it's about finding the perfect person for YOU. There is a subtle difference. Also, I think there is a difference between making concessions and settling. Concessions are one thing, but settling? Never. I have no doubt that you'll find what you're looking for; you know what you want and don't want. That makes all the difference.
from danddteacher :
It's funny to me that "southern style sweet tea" never tastes like real sweet tea, though. I guess it's kinda like how you can only get a really philly cheese steak in Philly. Go figure.
from sexyatheist :
i like your thinking. too bad it's an all female league. well, not too bad for me.
from merris :
Will you marry me? :O)
from mangofarmer :
I think being a Yankee fan is hereditary. Just like being short. It sucks somtimes, but that's the way it is, and that's the way it's always been. I'd rather they went back to the days when they had Don Mattingly and a whole bunch of nobodies. That was great.
from captvfirefly :
Her roommates wouldn't just be playing another evil joke on you by telling you that she's waiting, would they? I mean, being evil and telling you the woman had a man already is one thing, but to tell you she's saving herself for the one? Let's hope they aren't still playing with fire. As far as what to do? I'd continue to do what you're doing - get to know her. You don't need to make any decisions just yet. You never know what can happen.
from captvfirefly :
Yes, it's got to be the confidence. Confidence attracts women like moths to a flame. I'm loving these NY moments you're having. I think perhaps I am living vicariously through you. And based on the recent entries, it sounds like I'm doing quite well!
from mangofarmer :
Pitabread pizzas! Magically delicious.
from danddteacher :
Should I be embarrassed that I knew that a PK is a preacher's kid?
from sexyatheist :
for all of those hypothetical questions you just asked, i'd have to say no. but i'm fairly certain that your answers are all yes! which is super awesome, you sexy stud you.
from danddteacher :
You admit EVERYTHING! *L*
from danddteacher :
2 girls in one night?! Wow!
from mojitolover :
She's lying
from sexyatheist :
i'm so happy you're updating so often. in fact, i love it. and i'm sorry to hear about sparkle. i hope it all works out for her.
from neangel :
Oh wow, I hope it all works out for her. what kind of cancer does she have, or might have?
from drahmaqueen :
I like the way you wrote this last entry. I have worked with women like that. It is so cool.
from captvfirefly :
Ouch. I won't ask what happened, but it didn't sound good. The only good thing (I guess) is that you learned two things, right? It can only get better from here. Hang in there.
from sexyatheist :
i'll have you know, i have no idea what that really mean thing was she said to you. but i want to punch her in the face for whatever it was. burning a hole in dr. lizz's leather seat is one thing, saying something horribly mean to you is another.
from plaidskies :
That's soo....soooooo...wow. So unfuckingbelievable! I'm glad you are rid of this girl. :( I'm sorry she hurt you, and your door. Take care. *BIG HUG*
from captvfirefly :
I'm almost speechless about what she did; having a tantrum because you wanted the blanket? That seems a wee bit too crazy. While I'm sure that was just a benign trigger, perhaps that outburst was the kind of thing you needed to finally let go? I have to give it to you - you did try very hard to cultivate a friendship with her. I think your situation is why I'm rarely friends with an ex - if they were a bad boyfriend, they probably won't be a good friend. I am sorry that it all went down in such a terrible fashion.
from sexyatheist :
wait wait wait, did she burn a cigarette hole in the seat of dr. lizz? this woman must die for such an offense! please tell me i'm misunderstanding.
from metonym :
huh?
from captvfirefly :
Since I know how unreliable diaryland email can be, I am just giving you a heads up that I emailed you my password. It came from Boredatwork74 at AOL dot com (in case you have spam filters).
from captvfirefly :
I ran across your diary via the "recently updated members" area, and promptly read back to February. I thought I'd announce myself just to let you know who was increasing your page views. It's interesting to read a male point of view on dating and whatnot ... I've added you to my favorites.
from merris :
Actually, I remember it being REALLY hot when I went out for a jog that morning. Then, the temperature took a marked tumble. I discussed this with a co-worker a couple of years later and she said that, like you, she was standing on a subway platform and noticed a huge gust of air blow through at the approximate moment the first tower was hit, which seemed to usher in the cooler climate. In any case, today reminded me just how much I love and miss everything New York. ~Stacy
from metonym :
that'll come tonight. I got home at like 2 am last night and I just wanted to write something but wasn't up to the whole story.
from sexyatheist :
so, i probably havent't told you in awhile that you have an incredibly sexy voice. so i was a bit sad when i saw i had a missed call from you without a long and lovely message.
from sexyatheist :
no, you're so awesome.
from sexyatheist :
honey, i think that is an awesome idea. i always support the desire for more education and while you obviously know it will be hard work, i'm very proud of you for going ahead with it anyway.
from mangofarmer :
I'm glad to hear your dad will be okay! That would have freaked me out.
from neangel :
omg! thank goodness you're not going out with her again! eeeww!!
from plaidskies :
"He can fucking bite me" Good use of active writing, there.
from metonym :
Aren't you doing dinner on Friday w/ Claire and Melinda? I'll come.
from metonym :
Yo. New girl. Kudos. And yes, it sounds like we do live near one another, and we should definitely do brunch.
from neangel :
that's awesome!! have fun and good luck!
from mangofarmer :
I like that post. ;)
from plaidskies :
You said "Don't go back after a breakup. Don't do it. Your self esteem will be all the better knowing that you didn't, and also that you didn't ride a bad wave out to its very last second." I MUST remember that when I go to DC this weekend. I am Quality. I deserve the best.
from danddteacher :
You're finally looking for "the one"? All right!
from danddteacher :
Good for you!
from sexyatheist :
i'm still concerned that "she won't put her mouth on it." what kind of future can you have with a woman like that?
from sexyatheist :
things should have been over when she said she won't put it in her mouth. a woman like that should be dumped and never get eaten out. and really, dirty talk is dirty. you should have called her pussy a cunt. i'm sure she would have loved that. i disagreed with shera as well although it's an interesting tactic. this girl is not worth it asit. you are much better than this!
from danddteacher :
But think about it - aren't things a little backwards here? She picks fights with your friend, she's quite demanding, she even tells you how to talk dirty? Seems like you see her as being good enough for your bed and nothing else, and that my friend seems quite backwards.
from danddteacher :
I disagree with Shera. But then, you won't like my opinion as it leaves you with an empty bed - get rid of the girl.
from sexyatheist :
sadly, no wisdom here. other than the fact that i suggest enjoying the sex but not investing emotionally in her. someone who attacks your friends like that is not someone you want to be around. i would also like to say that a statement about a tree root looking like a cow's vagina is awesome. you definitely haven't lost me. as if you could if you tried.
from danddteacher :
My question is this - what are some NYC boys doing that they get to see so much cow pussy they recognize it in tree roots? *L*
from sexyatheist :
ah sweetie. it has happened to me. unfortunately a few times. i like to say that my boy has a sensitive penis. it's frustrating, obviously, but not really a huge deal.
from plaidskies :
I've been thinking about you and remembering Michelle as well, in light of the latest tragedies. Hugs, dude. I can't imagine how rough it is on you.
from sexyatheist :
i like this new nickname. it makes our relationship feel so dirty.
from metonym :
Hey Asit - nothing personal! And you should know that! I've been pretty dead to the world lately, for weeks, first with studying and then with moping. And I get your textos, but I can't use them myself, it's not a service I buy. I'm sure I'll return to normal soon enough. & in the meanwhile - thanks!
from ionme :
hey, how are ya?
from neangel :
no, you saw the picture right? it's on my back in the middle kind of between my shoulder blades but not so low. enough to be covered when i wear a collared shirt to work though.
from sexyatheist :
it sounds like you had an awesome time sweetie. send me more pics! i loved the ones you already sent but i would love more. oh, and no more corner bistro pics. it only makes me crave it even more. with your company of course.
from danddteacher :
Oh, c'mon! Ditch PetBuddy! No good is coming from this situation!
from metonym :
Hey - don't worry, I've still been reading. Just not having any pertinent comments. You've got chicks to spare these days.
from neangel :
Ooh wow. talk about a major insite into the mans world right there! My thoughts are if you are dating someone it should be established if there is an exclusive sexual relationship or an open one, whether both parties partake in sleeping with another person doesn't matter but it should be well established IF it's kosher or not otherwise stuff like this happens. Now lying is not cool, but I don't feel that if you two weren't exclusive that she should have to volunteer that she IS sleeping with other people or has and in any details. This whole issue is confusing because earlier when you said she admitted to sleeping with her ex you said that was 'allowed' but if it is anything other then her ex it's not? kind of a double standard sex is sex whether its ex-sex or non ex-sex. if sex with others is allowed in any relationship there should be no qualms or conditions on who the outside sex should/can be with. if no outside sex is allowed then its a whole different box of gray life__tyle condoms!!
from plaidskies :
"Moreover, even making an effort to impress upon the motherfucker what a motherfucker they happen to be gives the motherfucker a chance to launch a justification for whatever motherfuckin thing they did and turn things around on you to confuse the facts and issues." is my new favorite phrase of the day. Well said.
from danddteacher :
My friend Mike always says, "I would never INTENTIONALLY hurt you, Rachel." But I guess that's the problem - whether it's intentional or not, I get hurt. With Mike it's a situation where I can't possibly not get hurt. I've gotten way too close to him for him to be a boy with a live in girlfriend. Or rather, I've gotten way too emotionally dependent. But regardless, whether or not he "intends" to hurt me doesn't negate the fact that he hurts me. Claiming that he doesn't intend to do it just makes it worse. Oh, and with regards to her sleeping with someone else - I always make sure my prospects, even the NSA ones, know that I don't share well.
from plaidskies :
awesome. this means my friends and i can go and be patrons of his new establishment.
from neangel :
i like it when men make noise!! the more noise the better i am! ;-)
from idiomatic :
ha ha - your living room does have an eject button. your mouth! verbalize your desires. just tell her to leave.
from drahmaqueen :
It does some with an eraser. Sounds like you are having no fun over there. :(
from danddteacher :
Let me see if I have this straight - she treats you like a baby, snaps at you over a crouton, freaks out over a condom, and yet you STILL had sex with her? Obviously there's something wrong here! *L*
from neangel :
hey hey now! I'm a born and raised Alaskan. I'd rather die numb and not feeling anything in the cold then fry my skin off and dehyrate like a friggin raisin in the heat! crazy man. I swear. Cold always gives ya an excuse to get closer too. ever want to snuggle up w/ someone when you're both sweaty and hot? yuck! wish I could have been there NYs but I had fun anyways. I'll have to get up there after I get all fixed up w/ my house.
from metonym :
Y'know...I hope it's clear (apparently it isn't) but I'm not thinking of switching to law school because I want to be "practical" or because I am somehow "no longer preferring" old passions or ideologies. There are practical benefits to the switch but the basic reasons have a lot more to do with pursuing passions & beliefs in a different way. I still have no desire to become the kind of person who thinks that way, I mean, I have zero desire to just walk away from what I love in order to be "practical" - I think that would be a waste of a life.
from neangel :
damn that does sound like a carrie column! lol i was going to write that when she beat me to the punch (or he i have no clue).
from drahmaqueen :
That sounded like a "Sex and the City" episode. It really does suck when you cross the line with a friend. How easy is it to go back to what you were? I hope things work out for you. Jen
from neangel :
i'm not going to be able to come out for NYs like i had hoped. i am making an offer on a house today and i would be closing mid january. so much needs to be done & i need to keep tight on my $ in case closing ends up costing more then estimated.
from sexyatheist :
i miss the corner bistro. and you. i wish i would be in NYC sometime soon to enjoy both but sadly, i don't think so. happy belated birthday by the way. i have no excuse.
from danddteacher :
Happy late birthday! It sounds like you had a great one!
from drahmaqueen :
Happy Birthday toooooo yooooou! Damn. Sounds like you hit the jackpot.
from neangel :
Wow! can't wait to see those pics!
from neangel :
i'm sure it will be fine! i've technically never dated a black man or woman. not relationship wise. went to a school dance back in middle school with one of the only two black guys we had in our school [small town alaska]. honestly i've never really dated anyone other then white myself too. have fun & don't forget to write about it!
from neangel :
Wow! That's insane...now I know you're one of the guys I read about [in that book]. in the females prospective it's not fair to her to not understand clearly what the 'terms' of the 'fucking' relationship is. kudos to you though, you're getting yours! ;-)
from drahmaqueen :
You are very interesting. I enjoy reading your stuff. Jen
from neangel :
you're too damn funny! i can't wait to watch this all play out!!!
from drahmaqueen :
Thanks for adding me..xxoo Love, Jen
from neangel :
yay how fun! are you sure it really was her? i've never checked that thing so if anyone went looking for me i'd be lost forever. ;-)
from neangel :
i know what you mean all too well. :(
from drahmaqueen :
I am living your life. I can't explain it. I feel totally TIRED. I cannot function without an afternoon nap. My body aches, I am totally exhausted, I have a list of crap to do and can't do it. I wish I could give you a big ol' hug because I get it. Is it physical, emotional?????? I have no clue. Being 37, I keep wondering if I have a major illness that has yet to be discovered. I relate all too well with the depression commercials on TV these days....is this burn out??? I don't know... Maybe we can figure it out together. :) Chin up.
from metonym :
Well...#1, I hate it when people say things that reveal an obvious misunderstand of the words that they are using. For example. "I am not so much upset about the drugs/booze/sex" and then saying that he has a problem with the "bacchanalian aspects" - well, HELLO, a bacchanal has to do with drugs/booze/sex and it has NOTHING to do with luxury/expense/wealth - the maenads, I think that's what they were called, were wild forest women who ran around naked and Bacchus himself didn't have the time to do anything but get drunk and have sex, i.e., he wasn't the most materialistic of figures. So if he has a problem with flaunting wealth, he should think of a better comparison. Also, since when have you had a problem with flaunting wealth? And since when is the answer to flaunting wealth "no fun for you!"? And if, as I am suspecting here, he's hiding his true distaste for sex/booze/drugs under some sort of liberal rhetoric about wealth-display, he's just playing a dirty trick.
from metonym :
Ford bought Jaguar.
from viperj :
Dude, good diary, i'm digging it buddy.
from danddteacher :
Problem solved. Hide away, top secret man!

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