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from readnglst999 :
Where is clarity25? Recent vacation blog - http://twoshotsoftequila.blogspot.com/ "Eric's" Photobucket account - http://s795.photobucket.com/home/sketchbookshark/index
from theflyingrat :
Yay for quitting smoking! My husband quit a long time ago (prekids) and I was ready to rip HIS arms off, haha. I somehow missed your last entry so I didn't even know you were feeling that way, sorry! I'm glad it's better now though. ♥
from tequilamonky :
Yikes that aunt sounds scary! Well at least we know which side you get your maniac tendancies from now ;)
from kristoli :
Congratulations on the giving up smoking, thing, I did it last year, October and was fine until May of this year... ooops. I just quit again on Tuesday this week. I did it without anything as well just because I wanted to prove those annoying nicotinelle adverts wrong but it is tough I grant you. The waking up thing passes after a few days if I recall correctly. Your hair smelling clean for days after washing it remains a joy :)
from theflyingrat :
Has it been a year already? Wow! How long have you been together total?
from theflyingrat :
Well you have me beat! At least my in-laws only stayed for a couple hours. If they were here for a week I would tear my hair out. All of it. :)
from kiosh :
I think you'll do great in whatever you want to do - You're smart and you have the right attitude. The first step is always the harder but then it's amazing. I wish you the best of luck and I send you a big hug!
from theflyingrat :
No I'm not in the background of the photos. I'm in the reflection of the sunglasses & in Aislyn's eye. ;)
from theflyingrat :
I wouldn't enjoy the job you're doing either. I hope that you find something better soon. I think having a job you enjoy (or at least one that you don't hate) makes life in general better. ♥
from kiosh :
Ugh, that sounds so bad and I totally understand why it's driving you up the wall. I couldn't handle so well being so boxed... Though I must admit I found the bit where you have to yell if you're on the loo a little funny. --- I send you big amounts of love, positive vibes and many hugs! =0)
from theflyingrat :
I hated moving. We're going to have to move again soon and I really don't want to. Hopefully all the kinks will work out for you soon! ♥
from tequilamonky :
Urgh moving really is one of the worst things! You'll forget though. Just like childbirth the pain of moving all becomes a distant memory after 5 or 6 years and then suddenly you find yourself looking again. Hope it all gets sorted for you soon!
from kiosh :
I hope you feel better soon, dear. I send you big hugs and much love! =0)
from theflyingrat :
That sounds horrible! I hope you're feeling better soon. I don't understand why doctors have all that referral nonsense really. I mean, I understand it in the first place but once you've been diagnosed and you already know what's going on, it shouldn't be an issue! Anyway, hope the house thing goes smoothly. ♥
from kiosh :
Well, it sounds dreadful in a sense, but I wish you lots of luck with that! And I send you a big hug! =0)
from theflyingrat :
Yuck! I hate the idea of moving. I tell Kent over and over that when we buy a house, that's the one we'll be living in. Forever. Haha. Of course I could be full of it! Good luck with the move. ♥
from kiosh :
Big hugs and much love! =0)
from theflyingrat :
You could just say you don't want to go. Or mysteriously come down with the 24 hour flu just hours before you are supposed to go. :)
from kiosh :
I love "Painting and fake tan", it's so much fun and I love the way it is written. You know what else I love? Your notes! They make me happy! You're very dear to me! Big hugs! =0)
from theflyingrat :
They (whoever 'they' really are) do say that pets take on the personalities of their owners. ;) Kent gets up at 2:30am for work and boy does he bitch about the cold! Hehe.
from theflyingrat :
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, too! ♥
from tequilamonky :
And all the same to you my dear :) Thank you so much for the e-card too, Jaya giggled so hard!
from heelandlass :
Oof. That sounds horrific. Fingers crossed it's not nearly as bad as you think it will be xxx
from kiosh :
Hello, dear! Sorry for the long absence! But I send you big hugs and much love! =0)
from clarity25 :
I think it's illegal to have negative thoughts about the government here in America. When I wrote an entry about this, I was labeled "Anti-American". So I avoid the topic now. Needless to say I'm none too pleased about our current administration or political situation either. Sorry I've been a stranger lately, I need to catch up on your entries now. Hope you're having a good weekend:)
from kiosh :
Ah, a very sensory entry. I do hope they pay you for the miles, the bastards! - I send you big hugs! =0)
from kiosh :
Hurrah! Congratulations for the results! It seems like things are getting better and that's fantastic. Big champagne hugs and positive vibes!
from theflyingrat :
That's fantastic news about your job, congratulations! :)
from theflyingrat :
I hope things go well with your boss. ♥
from theflyingrat :
You're VERY intelligent. I'm sure you'll do fine at the interview... just relax. Which is easy for me to say seeing as I don't have an interview to go to. ;) But you'll be fine, really. ♥
from tequilamonky :
Your mum sounds like a riot! Reminds me of my DH's family either they're not talking to each other or they're telling each other too much. We've given up playing their games. You're right too, social services do frown on the leaving the kids alone thing....that's why we get lashed at home instead ;)
from theflyingrat :
I hate how things get twisted around as they're told from person to person. ♥
from clarity25 :
I'm sorry to hear about the insomnia. I can relate because I suffered from that when I first came to New York. Stress in your life can really contribute to not being able to sleep. I hope things relax for you soon. I'm sending good vibes your way:)
from kiosh :
Oh, dear, it sounds like a very bad moment! But, I'll be sending you tons of positive vibes and I hope they call you from the new job real soon... Big chocolat hugs and much luv, gorgeous! =0)
from theflyingrat :
I'm sorry that you're getting insomnia. I've had it (off and on) ever since I was a teenager and it sucks ass. I hope you can find a more rewarding job soon! ♥
from kiosh :
Hello, dear! I have to confess at first I had to make some research, too. Have you ever seen an American movie where characters are being mischievous and throw rolls of toilet paper on trees, leaving them all covered? They end up looking like strange weeping willows in a paperish Dal� style, or something. That's what toilet papering is... Isn't that a silly thing and a waste? Hah. Big hugs! =0)
from theflyingrat :
We do a lot of our shopping online, too. It's also easier to find a good deal as you don't actually have to drive about from place to place to check prices... well, if you're cheap like me then that's a good thing. ;) It's so much easier to get out of bed when it's a nice sunny day, I've noticed. ♥
from kiosh :
Well, online shopping sounds like a very good idea... Gosh, the sole thought of Xmas coming so soon is a bit stressing and horrifying. On the other hand, I hope the new job opportunity gets going! I send you big hugs and much luv! =0)
from theflyingrat :
A scrapbook party is like a tupperware party or a pampered chef party. Where they show you things and you try them and then (they hope) you take a catalogue home and buy lots of stuff. :)
from theflyingrat :
Ugh. That sounds like the worst week ever. Kent and I rarely fight about money - I think we fight most about how we each stack the dishes the "wrong" way, ha. I'm really sorry about your parents' car. I can tell you (but it won't make you feel better) that my brother used to be one of those big scumbags (probably still would be if he wasn't in jail!) that stole things from peoples' cars... to sell for drug money. My brother's a winner, for sure. Anyway, I'm so sorry you're having a crap week and I hope next week is better! ♥
from tequilamonky :
No probs but I need your email!
from clarity25 :
Good luck tracing back your family roots. That's an awesome and worthwhile project. That's something I would love to do someday. I can only trace back to my great grandmother on my mother's side. It stops there. I just wanted to say "hi" and let you know I'm thinking about you. I hope you have a good weekend!
from kiosh :
I know this is silly but the giant dog poo episode had me laughing all over! What a fun way of narrating something so horrible! He he he. Silly Kiosh.
from kiosh :
Ah, that's a very interesting entertainment, once you get really going you will find so much exciting information or even discovering a secret or two. Researching stuff like that is always a good adventure. I wish you lots of luck! Big hugs! =0)
from theflyingrat :
I hate funerals too. Catholic funerals must be different over there, I've never had fun at one of them haha. ♥
from theflyingrat :
Your brother really DOES make everything about himself, doesn't he? Sorry about your dog - when I hear stories like this it makes me so glad I don't have pets. I would be paranoid about the smell, too. I'm sure you smell fine, though. :) I hope next week is a lot better than this one. ♥
from tequilamonky :
Eeeek you sound like a lady that needs either a big bar of chocolate, a big drink, or a big hug....or all three! So sorry for your loss and that your brother is being an arse about it. Take care of yourself okay? xxxxx
from kiosh :
I am very sorry about your loss. Don't feel bad, the care you gave and the love you have for her is what counts the most. I send you healing vibes and many hugs...
from theflyingrat :
I'm so sorry about your Grandma. You're right - knowing their in a "better place" doesn't make your pain any less. I think you did the right thing, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to remember her as happy and peaceful. ♥
from clarity25 :
First of all, I loved your wedding pics! You looked absolutely stunning! Thanks so much for sharing those. It's so nice to put a face with a diary. (and you're beautiful!) Sorry to hear about the numb bum, I hate that too. Lol. Oh and I would totally drink piss over having sex with George W. Bush ANYDAY! hands down...ick! Thanks for your last caring note, I really appreciated that.:)
from theflyingrat :
Aah! You look gorgeous! It was a beautiful wedding. ♥
from theflyingrat :
Congratulations (I'm soooo behind, geez)! It was weird for me to say "husband" at first too. ♥
from clarity25 :
I'm glad your wedding was beautiful. I'm really turned off by the behavior of your friend though. That's incredibly rude. It's the middle of your wedding and she's trying to break into your conversation with family members to talk about HER wedding details. Hello?! It's your special day! the least she can do is give you that. That rubbed me the wrong way too, so I can completely understand your frustration. Otherwise, massive Congrats! (any pictures to share?? nudge..nudge...)
from clarity25 :
How is life as a married woman treating you? I hope your special day was amazing and that you're having a wonderful weekend:)
from tequilamonky :
Fab speech! It really lightened my day anyway! Good luck on Sat!
from theflyingrat :
That's really ODD about the messenger guy... I don't know what to think. Maybe because it was the weekend, he just ASSUMED you had a night out planned? As for Ross, that man is a Wanker (with a capital W, of course).. there's no chance M will just say, "Take off dickweed" and get someone else to be his best man, is there? :)
from clarity25 :
I'm sorry to hear that your brother's fiance has become bridezilla. It's terrible that it's all coming out just before the wedding. How stressful for him:(. As for the terminal cancer. My heart goes out for her. I will say a prayer. I'm not very religious, but I believe in the power of positive thoughts, prayers and feelings contributing to healing.
from theflyingrat :
Oh my goodness. I ALWAYS laugh at your entries. Even the "bad" ones because you make everything sound so amusing. Sorry about the nettles, though. ;)
from theflyingrat :
Saying 'no' is something I always have a hard time with, too. As for M - I haven't heard of a man yet who willingly participated in wedding preparations. ♥
from clarity25 :
I love your entries, you always have these funny little observations and side comments that have me giggling. All in all it Sounded like a fun Hen night:)
from theflyingrat :
I always find that to be true. When I expect a night to be great it sucks donkey ass but when I go in expecting to be disappointed I end up having fun. ♥
from clarity25 :
Funerals are always rough, seems like you've had a busy week... between that at the conferences. I hope you enjoy hen night despite all. Thank you so much for your comforting words regarding everything! I really appreciated that. Have a good weekend, Vicola:)
from heelandlass :
Hello. I was just checking in and wanted to say I'm sorry to hear about your gran passing away. It's such a sad experience, I hope you're doing okay. And I hope your family all acted like grown ups on the day and didn't make the whole thing much harder than it needs to be. Let us know how you're doing when you can. xxxx
from theflyingrat :
I'm guessing I missed an entry or two. I'm truly sorry about your grandmother. Maybe the funeral won't be as horrible as you anticipate? I hope. ♥
from clarity25 :
I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your gran. I wish I had the right words:(. It always sounds so trite when you say "I'm so sorry for your loss" but death is such a delicate, sad and painful subject to delve into. Everyone handles it in their own way. -- As for finances, not that this will help. But we're in a similar bind. Not taking the job in Berlin, while it made sense due to the circumstances leaves us in the same crappy financial position with no immediate way out. Just a whole bunch of bills and Green Card fees that have to be paid..somehow? I hope things get better for you all around. Thinking about you!
from clarity25 :
"Financially embarrassed" hmmm..that's a good term to describe our current situation too. I'm going to have to use that! I'm sorry to hear about the falling out between your Mother and her sister. I hope it all gets resolved and everything works out with the wedding. I feel your stress. Here's to a hopefully relaxing weekend!
from theflyingrat :
Caring for someone with dementia is definitely no easy task. I hope your aunt will still make your dresses! ♥
from clarity25 :
"...For the love of god man, it�s eating your head! You are beginning to look like the elephant man�s less attractive brother " OMG, I was cracking up at your descriptions! Although I can imagine it was a horrible experience for someone to go through, especially with the allergic reaction too. As for picking at spots, who doesn't? When I have a spot, I just keep going to the mirror and messing with it. Thinking silently "Go away..you're ruining my life..go away". Okay, I might be dramatic. (especially in Eric's opinion) But little things like that always bother me too, so hey, you're not alone!
from theflyingrat :
That bites. I can't believe he laughed at you. If that happened to me and Kent had the balls to laugh I probably wouldn't speak to him for a week. Which might actually make him happy, now that I think about it. Haha. Feel better! ♥
from theflyingrat :
Good to hear from you, you lazy bitch. (Your words, not mine.) ;)
from clarity25 :
What an annoying frustrating situation with that ticket! I hope you don't pay it. UGH. that would piss me off too.
from theflyingrat :
You're not going to pay the ticket are you? That's so ridiculous!! What a bum. ♥
from theflyingrat :
Oh god, I laugh so much when I read your blog sometimes! Previously, the phrase "matron of honor" didn't conjure anything in my mind except a woman standing next to a bride but NOW! Hee. ♥
from clarity25 :
Your observations on people picking their noses while driving had me cracking up. Congrats on your friend's engagement and as for your other friend. I DO find that strange as well. But I don't have children either. Thanks for the great advice on locations to move in England!! I really appreciated that! I hope you're having a good week!
from clarity25 :
Congrats on booking your honeymoon! It sounds like it's going to be wonderful! woot! Oh my god, I couldn't believe the "Dont Date him Girl" site! I was floored. I looked up my Ex, He wasn't there. But I was surprised at the stories I read and the PICTURES they posted! Wow. I have to tell my friends about this. I hope you're having a good week:)
from clarity25 :
Your comment on the tangerine people had me laughing! I know what you mean about working out and the pain afterwards. Maybe that's why I've been avoiding it for so long:). Just this entry was work out enough for me too, Jenn. lol
from theflyingrat :
Just reading your entry was enough exercise for me! ♥
from tequilamonky :
My god woman well done for the gym! I think I'd get worn out just going through the main doors! Have yourself a nice lavender bath for those aches and pains.
from theflyingrat :
My mum used to make playdough the same way! And she also used to save the bubble wands when other people would buy us bubbles and she'd make the bubble solution out of dish liquid and water when we ran out! :)
from clarity25 :
The excerpt of your health interview had me laughing. That's how mine would sound too. That's why I avoid going to the gym! I really should get back into shape, I might do that when I return to the states. Thanks for your caring notes and helpful suggestions! I really appreciated that!
from theflyingrat :
I always think about joining a gym but then I remember I don't like to exercise. ;)
from warcrygirl :
Hey you! The button contest poll is now up. Good Luck!
from theflyingrat :
Whew! I am soooo glad that I never bothered with the wedding stuff. Everyone that has one seems so stressed out. I'm sure that everything will work out by the time it comes around. I hope you get to enjoy the big day. ♥
from clarity25 :
Thanks so much for your caring note!! I hope you had a good weekend:)
from clarity25 :
I know what you mean about work stress, Sometimes I just wish I could win the lottery too! thanks for your get well wishes, I'm doing a lot better today:)
from baoshi :
Amen to the debt thing! I was sooo lucky that I had help from my parents AND had no social life in the 3rd year dur to FAR too much work, haha!! And I am going to use the "cheesegrating your forehead" analogy from now - made me laugh so much :D *hugs* gem xx
from baoshi :
Amen to the debt thing! I was sooo lucky that I had help from my parents AND had no social life in the 3rd year dur to FAR too much work, haha!! And I am going to use the "cheesegrating your forehead" analogy from now - made me laugh so much :D *hugs* gem xx
from theflyingrat :
You paid your debt off and still you can't get a pass for a credit check? My mother was in huge debt and as soon as she paid it off they were offering her credits cards all over the place. That's crazy. About the office politics.. I'm so glad I don't work in one. ♥
from clarity25 :
Boy do I know what you mean. I'm happily married, and I still get flustered when some stud starts hitting on me. I can't even form words and I'm blushing furiously. So sad. *laughs* Oh and what IS it with men not changing the toilet paper roll. UGH. As for your rant on that self-absorbed individual. I've dealt with people like that and I understand your frustration COMPLETELY. Hope you're having a good day!
from baoshi :
1. Amen to that!! Damn gorgeous men to hell!! 2. Actually, I've always wondered how they shit on your car when you're miles away from trees or anything that's overhanging the car! 3. It's the curse of the neighbour - you can bet if you moved out today, the amount of rubbish would vastly decrease! Used to happen to me when I was living in London, our neighbour used to produce 5 times that of a small continent! 4. Aha! This is because when you have a carpet in the floor, all the hairs get woven into it and you don't notice the difference. It's just such a pain when you start to notice the hairs on laminate because they seem to pile up immediately after you sweep!! Weird! 5. Men don't think like us. End of! 6. I think it stems from the days when nothing happened on Sundays - we can still remember when no buses ran and the shops were all closed, and all that was on the telly was some crappy black and white film and you had to spend the day with some vaguely deaf relative eating their over-boiled vegetables!! Or maybe that was just me, haha!! Anyway, I'm sorry that M's sister is such an utter pain in the jaxey - she sounds like a much more concentrated version of my mother and for that I feel desperately sorry for him! It's just such a shame that some people have this knack of sucking all the lifeblood out of us - I hope she grows up soon (or is that just wishful thinking?!) Have some *hugs*, sounds like you need them (and a large glass of something alcoholic!) gem xx
from theflyingrat :
Well, Saturdays are more exciting because you know there's another day off after it. On Sunday, I think most people just aren't looking forward to going back to work the next day. And it seems that most people have a selfish, head-stuck-up-her-bum SIL. I know I do! Have a good every day! ♥
from clarity25 :
I had fun with that meme! Thanks for your last note, It's always comforting to read that someone else kind of feels the same way and understands:). I hope you have a great week!
from clarity25 :
I enjoyed reading the list of your past jobs! I never tried waitressing, only because I knew I was not competent enough to do it. I don't mean to put myself down, but I know that I couldn't remember all those orders or balance the plates. It takes skill and undying patience. Eric did that for a while, and he always came home so tired from work. I enjoyed Bartending though, but I became a bit of a lush during that time. (I was also under-age) I'm sorry about the test, but don't take it too hard. You are amazing and you'll find a better opportunity in the future.
from theflyingrat :
I don't think I could ever be a waitress. When I'm at a restaurant and I see people being complete assholes to their waitress it makes me so angry.. I can't imagine I would last long in that scenario.
from baoshi :
It's SO hard when someone you're really good friends with has to be close to someone so repulsive - I really don't envy you in this situation! I can just imagine how angry you must've been, especially when you were having such a great time til the spoiled idiot turned up! Grrrr, don't know if I would've been able to hold it together! What does her sister think about her? I'm assuming she knows how much of a pain in the arse she is, and hence tries to do all she can without her?? Anyway, sorry it went so wrong, have some *hugs* and I hope the anger subsides soon! gem xx
from theflyingrat :
How old is this girl? It seems like she should have her own friends or at least be old enough to realise that you all don't like her. And really, would your parents get that involved now that you're all adults? The whole situation is so crazy. It sounds like when I was little and my mum used to force me to let my brother tag along with me.
from clarity25 :
Thank you for your last note and I truly hope your "winter lurgy" clears up soon. Get lots of rest, try to drink a lot of liquids and maybe curl up on the sofa with a good television boxset. (that remedy usual works for me) I'm Sending you some healing thoughts:)
from baoshi :
Awww get well soon, hope the lurgy goes away soon, *hugs* gem xx
from baoshi :
Happy New year!! And Tell me about giving the liver a rest - mine was pulverised all Christmas, lol *hugs* gem xx
from theflyingrat :
I'm glad you had a good time over the holidays. I'm always so happy for people when they finally get a digital camera, haha. If it were up to me everyone would have one, they are lovely! :) HAPPY NEW YEAR! ♥
from theflyingrat :
Thank you. For your note I mean. :) ♥
from theflyingrat :
When I was younger my brother once set my bloody alarm for 1:30 in the morning. I got up, showered and was wondering why the hell it was so dark out when I checked the clock. I was pissed at him for ages. :)
from theflyingrat :
I say fuck the in-laws and stay home. You don't like them anyway so who cares if they like you? Do they ever consider your feelings/thoughts when they are making plans? Somehow I doubt it. :) And yikes, I'd guess I better get going. I'm a frequent 'victim' of these things but I actually enjoy them, haha. Thanks for your note earlier, it made feel a ton better. ♥
from clarity25 :
I have an office Christmas party coming up, I'll probably make a complete arse out of myself. I have quite a talent for that after a few drinks, myself:). Thanks for for filling out the "infection". I've never broken any of my bones, so I can only imagine how painful it must have been. Also, I love Rice and Tuna! I hope you have a great Christmas
from theflyingrat :
I have no recommendations for exercise other than walking. For awhile I ran and other crap but I got depressed a couple months ago and it slipped away. Walking is good though and very few people look like a fool by just walking. :)
from clarity25 :
Just walking -- not "just working". :)
from clarity25 :
Glad you had fun in France. I wish I had good work out advice, I found that just working helps curb the "lard production" (hehehe) -- and I know exactly what you mean about that, I have that problem at times. Especially during certain seasons in Germany when the cookies and cakes are irresistable. -- walking up and down stairs is good, and all around town. Sit-ups at home and leg crunches. But I have to confess, I've been slacking off on that a lot. I'm hardly a work-out guru or anything.
from theflyingrat :
At least your mum apologised. I like purple but in moderation. How do the groomsmen feel about it? ;)
from heelandlass :
Thanks for my birthday wishes!! And it's horrible when you realise that the male friends you know and love and think are completely different from 'normal' men are actually exactly the same as them? Thinking with their willies instead of their brains. Oh well. Like Clarity said, maybe he'll learn from this mistake. xxx
from clarity25 :
I guess people just have to learn from their mistakes in life...:(
from baoshi :
Wow, an NCP Car Park?? That IS classy(!) I just think that sometimes people should be given a severe kick up the jaxey!! I think it would be so great if you got to run someone else's life for a day - imagine how simple it would be!! Much simpler than having to run our own, haha! *hugs* gem xx
from theflyingrat :
Hey. I'm guessing that your friend is doing a little distancing. Maybe figuring that Marie is going to leave him anyway, he'd at least have a reason WHY? I don't know. People just really do stupid things when they are afraid of losing people. It sucks that you're going to get stuck in the middle, though. ♥
from heelandlass :
p.s - just noticed you've added me to your faves. Thanks for that. Although it won't go red because there's no space between heeland and lass. xxx
from heelandlass :
Hi Vicola! Thanks for taking the time to fill out my survey, it's great reading everybody's answers. It's taking ages!! Hope you had a good weekend.xx
from clarity25 :
Thanks for your thanksgiving greetings! I'm glad your guineapigs have a place to stay. Although, they might not *love* their new location. haha. They'll be warm, safe, fed and clean! Which is great:). Hope you had a great weekend.
from theflyingrat :
I'm glad to see your remaining guinea pigs have a place for the winter. I'm trying to talk Kent into letting Riley have a pet but so far no luck. Ha. Why are people such morons? Honestly, in general it seems like people think the rules apply to everyone but themselves. I was always scared of the cupboard underneath my grandmother's stairs. I suppose, it could be because my grandfather once told me he used to lock people up in there. (He's a bit crazy.) I've never been under though and don't ever plan on it. Good luck! ♥
from clarity25 :
I'm sorry to hear that your guineapig passed away. I had many guineapigs in my life and buried about five of them. I have to admit though, the comment your father made had me cracking up. It's the same with our backyard. We have a little cemetery for the guineapigs, Hamsters, Lizards and Gerbils that we have lost over the years. All these little crooked sticks tied together to make little crosses. P.S. good luck with your wedding arrangements.
from baoshi :
So sorry to hear that your guinea pig died : ( - I had 2 a couple of years ago and one of them died when he was 2 - I was pretty distraught, I'd been told they live for 6-8 years!! I had to give the other one away because I felt it was just too mean to let it live alone! And I feel so sorry for you about the whole family issue - God knows what will happen if Tone and I ever get married, both our families would be complete nightmares! But I agree - you don't want your family-in-law to turn up to your wedding looking like death warmed up and spend the entire day hankering after more booze! It's a celebration of the love of you and your fiance not a 18-30s bar in Magaluf!! Hope something gets sorted out soon, *hugs* gem xx PS Sorry this was quite long : )
from clarity25 :
Thanks for the heads-up on canals! (laughs) Good to know. :). Man, I agree with number 13.. I would love to go back to bed right now. I'm exhausted and I still have the entire day ahead of me. Well, as for the guest week. It's officially closed. I've had quite a bit of drama connected to this project, so I'm ready to put it behind me. But if you share your thoughts on the age number subject in your diary make sure you give me the link to that entry so I can add it to my side bar + the main list! Hope you have a good weekend!
from theflyingrat :
Stay away from canals - CHECK! ♥ tee hee
from baoshi :
Hello! I started randomly reading your diary and really liked it, so I've added you to my buddy list *hugs* gem xx
from theflyingrat :
I can definitely sympathize, having a younger brother who gets all the attention. My brother was always the center of attention for various reasons as well. Only now he's in jail. (I do get a teensy bit of glee out of this since everyone said he was the great one and I wasn't much....) Anyway, why can't he just have a small ceremony? Enough to get them legally married and then a year or two from now have a big to-do wedding so that everyone can come. He does sound selfish, I'm sorry this is happening and I don't think you're a whiny bitch at all! ♥
from theflyingrat :
I am always astounded at the ways that some people behave. How could a person be so cruel? I have experienced betrayal but never to such an extreme degree. ♥
from clarity25 :
I'm sorry that you had to deal with such treatment from your flatmates and friends. That's awful. It's really hard to forgive. Even though I forgive the people that screw me over, it comes easily. I still feel hurt over it, and I still can't understand it. It's just easier to forgive then allow myself to feel the rage over it, only because it takes so much of my energy to do that. I just stop caring entirely about that person and I simply shut off. It's a coping mechanism. If I see them, I will not hurt them and usually feel sorry for them. I guess because I realize that if they were happy with themselves and their lives they wouldn't need to behave in such an awful,and messed up manner. But to be honest, I'm having a hard time with this person that had been insulting and harassing me in my diary for so long. Her apology was so shallow and heartless. I may have to bring up the topic again because I fear she wont stop. I wish people didn't have to be so hurtful, I guess it's something we all have to deal with in life. That's awful what you went through.
from clarity25 :
That's a really cool photo! I looked at it and saw a potential painting!
from theflyingrat :
That sucks, I don't know if I could stand being without a fridge. What kind of idgit keys a persons car? I'm guessing it was some moron who didn't even know you and who had nothing better to do? If M's sister is anything like her mother then it's no wonder the man didn't want to be with her. My MIL gives us a much more tame version of the guilt-rant. Which resulted in us agreeing to go for Thanksgiving, an early Christmas AND New Year's this year. Stinking in-laws! If you're the bitch of the century then you're the funniest one. ♥
from theflyingrat :
:) Cute dog. ♥
from theflyingrat :
I thoroughly enjoyed this entry. From beginning to end (although I generally do enjoy them all that way). But the guinea pig shit thing really got me laughing. Maybe I'm overtired but I'm pretty sure it was just hilarious. Also, the pic worked and I like the dress. :) ♥
from heelandlass :
Yeah, the piss cup. Too gross for words. Actually, we were camping by a loch so there weren't any toilets and we were in tents, but still. Gross. I would much rather hike into the woods and do my business than squat in my tent into a screw lid cup. But then I am normal and she clearly is NOT!!!
from theflyingrat :
Eww. A ponytail on the mantel? Bowel movements? Strange madmen and their pregnant wives starting crazy (but profitable) churches? You should write a book. ;)
from clarity25 :
When you're unhappy with your job and want to start over, it can be a frightening prospect. Believe me I know. I'll have to start all over when I go to America and I'm nervous. But if you know what you want, I'm sure you'll achieve it. If it makes you happier in the long run, than it's worth it.
from theflyingrat :
Haha, yes Kent and I were having a disagreement. We actually get into pretty big arguments over the smallest things. I love the Geri Halliwell thing, haha. That is exactly something we'd argue about too! I don't know if that means we're normal or if that means we're all weird but at least you're not alone! ♥
from clarity25 :
I can't believe they demanded his second middle name! Well..it could be worse. I guess:). Thanks so much for your last note, it had me laughing and lifted my spirits! thank you!
from theflyingrat :
Yuri. I had a boyfriend whose name was close to that and people were always calling him "urine". Isn't that lovely? And I had a coworker once whose name was Bevra. How strange. :)
from theflyingrat :
Eek. I actually still feel really guilty about saying those things to that nurse. And I never had a problem with that name before or since so I'm not entirely sure why that comment came out of my mouth. What can I say? Haha. ♥
from theflyingrat :
I watched Highlander tonight just before logging on and reading your entry. I thought that was an odd coincidence (and that you ought to know about it). :) On another note, I've always wondered why it is that white people cannot say anything offensive (not that I'm wanting to, it's just an example) or we're racist pig assholes. But other races can say whatever they want to about white people and it's okay. There is a television station called Black Entertainment Television - just for black people. If we had White Entertainment Television, there would be an outrage. That's just my own personal bit. Personally, I don't think I'm racist... I hate all people equally, regardless of race. But, of course, I don't mean you dear. ;) Hehe. ♥ P.S. I wouldn't go back there either if I were you. I hope M tries better to understand.
from clarity25 :
I'm sorry you had to deal with prejudice against English people. I have to deal with my share of that against Americans here in Germany. It sucks. Thank you so very much for your caring note and for reaching out. I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. Sending good wishes your way. Thank you.
from clarity25 :
"I would say that perhaps George Bush has stumbled on your diary and left you a comment but I have my doubts as to whether he can read and write." Thanks for your notes, they were comforting and made me laugh! Thanks for reaching out, Of course I'll share the password when the time comes. P.S. I know what you mean about the christmas merchandise, it's already coming out here in Germany. WTF??
from theflyingrat :
Well at least you got away with the phone off for a night. I can't believe your MIL actually complained that she couldn't get through. That woman needs a hobby. I always wondered why people go into a panic like that too. Whenever they predict a thundershower here (with possible power outages) people scramble to the supermarket. I'm not sure why because the longest the power goes out is 2 days, maybe. And if you haven't got enough food for 2 days then you should have been at the supermarket sooner I'd think! 40 cucumbers? That's hilarious! Hahaha.
from tequilamonky :
Teehee at the panic buying! I remember that last time too. I lived in Golders Green at the time and the panicking people managed to set fire to the petrol station at the end of our road! I was thinking "hmmm that's going to help!". We run our car on vegetable oil and it's times like this that I really appreciate it! Been reading your diary for a little while but only just figured out I could leave a note. I love your writing style.
from clarity25 :
thank you for your last note, B-Bush really IS a PR nightmare. I liked reading your take on things.
from theflyingrat :
Yes, I'm reading! :) I missed it yesterday but it's probably a good thing since M didn't go I would've wasted my breath. I would kick Kent's everloving arse if he put his mother before me all the time. (He does once in awhile, but what can I say? He's male and it's his mummy don't you know? hehe.) Is there anyway you could sneakily turn the ringer off on the phone for a day so that he wouldn't know his mother was trying to call? Or maybe just for a couple hours? If my MIL called that often, I'd change the f$%&*#@! number. No joke. Anyway, I always look forward to your posts. You're so clever. And my husband is Irish Catholic so is it a little on the side of awful that I'm sort of wishing for someone to die just so I can go to the funeral? Eep. ♥
from clarity25 :
Beans on toast..now that sounds like a good idea, probably better than Ramen noodles! Sorry to hear about the accident with M's friend and all the stress going on. It's an all around awful situation and I can understand your sadness + frustrations. You know, I never had in-laws to deal with. Eric's mother passed away when he was a teenager and his father isn't in his life. I wonder what that's like..
from clarity25 :
Thanks for your compliment on my pics. Wow, I would have loved to see a photo of the legs sticking out of the ceiling over the toilet! LOL, good to know I'm not the only one that has strange things like that happen to them. haha. Have a great Labor Day weekend!
from theflyingrat :
I may be a bit immature (it's quite possible) or maybe it's the way you phrased it (also quite possible) but I thought the whole "shag" paragraph was funny. Especially the kicking you were willing to give. I've never had the pleasure of being next to a room with a couple like that. Or in one for that matter. :)
from clarity25 :
Hi, thanks for your last note! I've been really enjoying your diary (thanks for filling out my survey too!).. I like your writing style and the flow of your words. You have a very cool English flair, I laughed at "Look you snotty mare!.."LOL!. I'll be back to read more!
from theflyingrat :
Your MIL sounds like a horror!! I complain about mine but she's nowhere near as bad as that! Hooray for finding a church! I'm sorry about your grandmother, that's terrible. Hope everything clears up soon. Is your husband-to-be falling into his mother's trap and going to the party of the 13th? ♥
from theflyingrat :
Thanks again for the notes. Dementia runs in my family too, also manic-depression. I have been reading you, I just keep forgetting to add you to my favorites! I'm doing that now! ♥
from theflyingrat :
Thanks for the kind notes you've been leaving. I appreciate it. ♥

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