messages to bolashley:
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from polly-esther :
HI!! I Googled that, but didn't find anything. :( Are you on Blogger?
from red-wine :
Oh hai! :)
from readnglst999 :
Where is clarity25? Recent vacation blog - http://twoshotsoftequila.blogspot.com/ "Eric's" Photobucket account - http://s795.photobucket.com/home/sketchbookshark/index
from polly-esther :
Yo!! Like everyone else I was so happy to see an update from you! I'm glad you're well and happy. Keep on updating, please! BTW, in case you don't have it, my login is the city where I used to live (LV, split into two words). HUGS.
from neko-carre :
Well, hello, stranger! Do you realize your entry before this one was almost two years to the day? It's wonderful to hear how happy and home-loving you are! Who knew that we'd grow to adore domesticity so much?! It's amazing timing because I've been thinking of you the past few days. Your on my Cmas card list, but I knew you moved and then bam! Here you are! Drop me a line or something, eh?
from red-wine :
Holy SHIT - I did a triple-take when I saw your name come up in red! Glad to hear from you, glad you're doing well. Keep it up, sweets.
from bathtubmary :
yay! bo wrote an entry. i miss you. xoxo, d
from joy-full :
Yay! for updating FINALLY. I missed you sooo much. Never go away again. - Natalie
from polly-esther :
HI! I love Mini Coopers. Yay for 28-year-old boytoys -- I mean boyfriends. I hope you continue to update because I miss you.
from rdhdprincess :
I was so happy to see your name all lit up in red on my Buddy list that I almost peed in my chair! And it's a new chair, so that would have been bad. Congrats on the new car, it sounds fabulous! And hee, that IS why I buy Benefit! Best wishes dear!
from neko-carre :
You're updating!! Yaaaaay! I hope you continue to do so! I'm glad things evolved with D. Sounds like he makes you really happy. Congrats on the car! Wow!
from polly-esther :
Ha, I remember when you and the ex said you were Republican. I was like, Nooo, it can't be. I'm glad you really weren't!
from neko-carre :
Um, b'scuse me? Password please. Duh. And hey, you never commented on my HOUSE entry! Don't you love me anymore? Who threw that ham at me?
from polly-esther :
Hi! I'm glad to see a couple of updates from you! Keep 'em coming.
from joy-full :
Awww, I knew you'd be all right in the end (or I guess it's the beginning really if you think about it). I'm so glad that you're happy and having fun but I do miss your writing, but I'm really happy whenever you do. Happy New Year and all the best to you, E!
from ladybug-red :
I just came back after a year long hiatus and would love to catch up. Can you shoot me your password to secoora@gmail.com
from rdhdprincess :
Yay! I missed you! I love that you sound so happy and that things are so great. I wish we got to hear a little more about the boys and the adventures now and then. (hint hint!) I miss you!
from bathtubmary :
check you out, hot mama! so happy to hear you are so happy. i hope we'll get to hear from you more often. happy new year. xoxo, d
from neko-carre :
HOLY SHIT! You are totally the subject matter of "Sex & the City"! You could've written that series! I'm so jealous! :-D And fuck, I miss you!!!!
from neko-carre :
You updated, you updated! I just did too after 12 days. Now I'm gonna refill my cocktail and read all about you!
from rdhdprincess :
Good for you! Go get him Bo! How exciting. I think I shall live vicariously thru you for a while!
from rdhdprincess :
Cheers to crazy! And congrats to you for being brave and just going. Now what are you going to wear? Kidding!
from warped-one :
Argh, you're updating and I don't have your password at work. I have it at home, so I am teased with the knowledge of the username, just not the password. I've scoured my emails and can't find it, so you could please email it to me again? Thanks! warped_normality[at]yahoo.com
from polly-esther :
Hey! I'm glad to see you're updating! I lost track of your password, though. Do you think you could send it to me? grilledcheese5@gmail.com. THANKS!!
from warped-one :
Hi! I'm not sure if I had your password in a previous life or not, but I see you in red and would like it again, please. Thanks! warped_normality[at]yahoo[dot]com
from spencersmom :
I missed your posts! So good "seeing" you again!
from rdhdprincess :
Yay, Bo! I missed you! Happy Birthday! I am so glad to hear that you are happy and having a fabulous time. SO well deserved! Mwah!
from ladybug-red :
Happy Birthday!
from nightlynews :
Congrats on your new place. I'm glad to hear you're doing so well. I'm pulling for you! Creating a new life for yourself after marriage starts out scary and turns into sort of an adventure...at least that's how it turned out for me. All the best, J
from polly-esther :
That sounds like a great place! Congrats for getting it! It sounds like you're doing well. I haven't been able to read, though, because I don't have your password! Can you pass it along, pretty please? I locked mine too...user-sassy, pw-dog.
from bolashley :
Once again posting in my notes since DLand won't let me.. Ohmygod. Ohmygod. Ohmygod. Ohmygod. Soooo…..Excited. So, after yesterday’s wine-ing and general blah-blah about my poor-me apartment search…the very cute British lady who owns the Victorian called me at 2 p.m. with, “we’d be very happy to rent to you.” Prior to which I’d been, well, fearful I wouldn’t get it. Especially since I hadn’t even filled out the application completely. So just like we all don’t get too excited about the cute guy at the bar that asked for our number – I didn’t get my hopes up too much. Even though Neko totally said I’d get it – she had a “feeling” and, man, that chick is good with the feelings. I got it. I even was honest about the state of my nicotine habit and that I’d only smoke on the screened-in-porch, she said it was a concern but that she’d provide me with a fire extinguisher specifically for the porch since the building is “over 100 years old and made of wood.” I’ve wanted a Victorian apartment in midtown since I was 17. And, I’ve GOT a Victorian apartment in midtown with open beamed and coved ceilings, a claw foot bathtub, original period inspired flooring, tons of storage, walk in closet, old fashioned wash basin in the kitchen (which is painted green, my favorite color by the way), restored china hutch and storage room, and walk in closet…and screened in porch. Dooode. Screened in porches are the sweetest of the sweet (course, it’s CA size and only big enough for two chairs, eh, whatev.) Still all of it kicks ASS!!! Moral of the story. After my pointless whining yesterday I decided that indeed location is more important than Velveeta smoothness in my living quarters. I keep saying to myself… “I’m gonna have my own place, in Midtown!, and it’s awesome!!!!” So what if my car gets stolen (I kid. I hope.) Can’t wait!!
from rdhdprincess :
I'm glad to hear that things are going well! Good luck with the home search. You will find the right place. "Sausage of Love" - Ha! Very nice.
from polly-esther :
I'm locked too. I can't remember if I gave you my password. If you e-mail me at grilledcheese5 AT gmail DOT com we can trade!
from coldandgray :
would it be possible for me to get the password, please?
from rdhdprincess :
I'm glad you are having a good time dear. You SO deserve it. I will think good handsome, tatooed, rough, man thoughts for you. Actually, yum. I might think some for myself!
from bolashley :
Where the hell have I been? There is drama to start…ex-hub crashed himself into a PARKED car at 4 P.M. in the AFTERNOON because he “fell asleep at the wheel.” At 4. In the afternoon. Damaging himself and totally his car (i.e. his baby.) Rumors are swirling and various sources are, um, discussing a possible drug involvement (sources including his MOM in which she says, “I don’t think it’s Erinn’s fault they broke up,” ahem, she knows it’s something else and a road he’s been down before) and that being a possible and plausible explanation for the impossibly fast and emotionless (on his part) way that things went down. (Oh, and I know all this cause, well, I just do. Tooooo complicated to ‘splain.) I have my moments. Some bad. Some good. And I love both Kari and Carrie, because you guys are just too sweet for words. (I mean, really, should I win the lotto I’m buying you both custom Chanel wardrobes.) Work is crazy. Home life nuts. That said. Love job. Love home life and am not taking for granted living in a beautiful home with a nice backyard, sweet little pets, and a WASHER and DRYER. It’s the little things that thrill. I hosted a party last Sunday for work people. And he thought I was anti-social…whatever. I still think more about him than I should. But I can’t even begin to explain how desperately I want to MEET someone. LIKE YESTERDAY. Someone tall, tattooed, broad shouldered, rough, and (while I’m wishing for the impossible) very wealthy. Never said I wasn’t materialistic. So that’s me. Off to read ‘bout you. (Sorry, I’m very into CAPS – possibly because this keyboard bites dirty stanky monkey ass.)
from rdhdprincess :
Ok, I have to leave this note before I forget and you are surprised. You know I'm putting together a little box for you. Well, I recently bought a little something to go inside it that I thought was terribly clever and funny when I saw it online. Only now I'm thinking you are going to think I am weird. You will know what it is. Anyways, I do get my butt to the post office and you do get the box, um, well, open it privately. Not in front of people. Alone. By yourself. Just because. Mwah! C
from rdhdprincess :
I was always a little afraid to go to "one of those stores" alone until I threw a bachelorette party. I didn't feel even a tiny bit weird for going in to buy stuff for the party. Now, whenever I go to one, I just tell myself that it's not embarrassing, it's for the party! I Just thought of something to make you laugh so I will share. I got a visa card offer from Family Christian Stores, and it was such a great APR that I got the card. I got a $25 rebate the first time I used the card, so I made a mental note to actually use the card. Shortly after it came, K and I went to this um place to buy a um, movie and I whipped out the card. They looked at me kinda funny whey I handed them the christian card to buy porn with (it had big, huge, scary crosses all over the front of it!) but I found it hilarious! Hang in there sweetie! You will find your place yet, wherever it is.
from heidiann :
I've been to an 'adult' store on my own. Honestly, it's not scary. Most stores I've been to are populated by normal people. Be strong! Or order online...you know, whichever. =)
from rdhdprincess :
Such great news! I am proud of you! Hey, did you get my e-mail? I want your address. C
from pandionna :
Wow, Bo, that's great! Your future is so bright, here, take my shades!
from pandionna :
Wow, so happy you got the transfer!
from rdhdprincess :
Well of course you NEED your own t.v. and anything else that makes you feel better or comforts you or makes this time even a teency-weency bit easier for you right now. Be kind to yourself dear. I am so glad that you made it safely and are home. It must be weird, but hang in there! We all love you and are wishing you well! (And check you e-mail!)
from ladybug-red :
I just wanted to send out a big woohoo on the transfer! Neko the doll shared with us. I'm sending good thoughts your way as you make that move. Be safe.
from rdhdprincess :
Sending lots of good thoughts your way dear. I KNOW that you can do this, and do it brilliantly with happy-ever-after results. You deserve the world, and I know you will find it!
from pandionna :
That's the next stage. The stage where the men, they notice. :-)
from pandionna :
UGH! You know I'm with you. So much stuff it's overwhelming. Too much to think about, too much to do. Know the feeling well. I also know that this too, shall pass.
from bohemiannat :
Hi Bo, I just wanted to leave you a quick note to tell you to watch Dr. Phil today if you get a chance (I don't know when it's on in Cali) it's *perfect* for what you're going through right now and I think it will really help you out.
from rdhdprincess :
Hi Bo. Once again, my computer ate your password, and from what I read from others, I figured you had your plate full so I didn't want to bother you. But then I figured to hell with it because I missed you and hey, I can be supportive! Can I have the info again, please? kcpetruska@sbcglobal.net Thanks and lots of support and good wishes coming from this direction!
from pandionna :
Wow, see, now I'm really kicking myself for those deleted entries at the turtle pond. So much the same stuff! You're right, you've got to remember the not-so-great stuff. And yes, if you had continued, you may very well have been living in the same apartment five years from now. I really just want to hug you right now, because reading a lot of what you're writing is like pressing rewind on my life. Could be a good thing, though, because I'm pretty happy right about now, so methinks you'll be feeling pretty good pretty soon!
from bathtubmary :
you absolutely deserve to have everything you want and you will have it! you just need to believe this yourself. and someday you must come to boston so we can eat grilled cheese and hang out at the b-side. xoxoxoxoxo, d
from pandionna :
So sorry. Hugs.
from ladybug-red :
My sympathies honey. {HUGS}
from pandionna :
I'd talk to HR. Maybe they can post a generic sign about consideration for others. Or, there's always, "If you sprinkle when you tinkle, please be neat and wipe the seat."
from ladybug-red :
That is one of my biggest pet peeves - I have ranted on it before. My suggestion would be to request that those paper covers be put in the bathroom. Maybe just maybe they could get Ms Uptight to sit her ass cheeks down. Its a thought.
from spencersmom :
{{{hugs}}}...thinking of you visiting your grandmother. These times are never easy.
from clarity25 :
Thank you so much for your note, that meant alot to me. You're right, I wont let someone's negative opinion stop me from writing. Thanks for reaching out when I was down! sometimes a short note from someone with a kind word really makes all the difference! Best wishes -Clarity
from ladybug-red :
I have had to lock temporarily. If you want to keep up with me my username is ladybugred and password is temporary. Sorry - I hope you can stay with me for a short period while I chase away the stalker.
from spencersmom :
I hope things work themselves out. I really do. There is nothing you can do about the things you cannot change...please know my thoughts are with you. As for your husband...you need to do what's right for you. {{{hugs}}}
from ladybug-red :
Hang in there honey. I'm so sorry about your grandmother. Hubby needs a good kick. {{Hugs}}
from pandionna :
I'm sorry to hear things are so rough right now. You're right: people get sick all the time, but that doesn't make it any easier. As for the problems, I had exactly that for months and months on end. (I think you even commented on it when I wrote about it my diary last spring/summer.) Try taking fiber. That worked for me for a while. Alas, my cure seems to have been separating from the huz, as I haven't had any problems with that since he moved out. I'm still not sleeping right, but that's because of other things on my mind (crushes, holidays, work). Hang in there, Ms. Bo. Hugs!
from spencersmom :
80 degrees in L.A.??? Me so jellus!
from pandionna :
Cute slippies! They have "don't mess with me" all over them!
from spencersmom :
Last year my brother and SIL gave us a fondu pot for Xmas...or maybe it was the year before. In fact, I know it was the year before. What were they thinking?
from rdhdprincess :
I'm so glad that you had such a nice time. It sounds beautiful! I sometimes wish that I was as easygoing as you. You seem to flow with things beautifully.
from spencersmom :
Wow...I am so happy you are having a great time! You deserve it!
from rdhdprincess :
Yay! So glad you are having a great time. Eat some lobster for me! Am I weird for liking that you are so close to Guatemala? It makes me feel like Ella is safer with you there. Which is weird, I know. Whatever, enjoy your time!
from spencersmom :
:::waving bye-bye::: Have a great trip!
from spencersmom :
Sometimes, I get real jealous of your social life...and I doubt anyone was thinking about your physical appearance...except to think of how pretty you are! :-)
from pandionna :
Okay, I have to say it, especially after reading your note to Carrie: Personally, I think you're a hot babe.
from spencersmom :
Oh...enjoy! I wish I could take a trip now.
from rdhdprincess :
That sounds just lovely dear. But it's even more, I know. Incase I don't get to talk (write) to you before Saturday, I'm wishing you a wonderful time that brings you everything that you want. Peace, relaxation, reunion, sex, whatever. Everything for you!
from rdhdprincess :
I enjoyed that. I'm a nosy bitch that way! ha!
from rdhdprincess :
Heh. I somehow doubt, no, make that KNOW that you don't look like Rosemary in Shallow Hal. I have seen the proof babe, not even close. I found it interesting to read that you always think of yourself smaller though, I do the same thing. I thought I was the only one. I think I am a certain size of hugeness and then I see a picture and am just shocked! The pictures and video from Guatemala, I am HUGE! Not at all as cute as I feel. Brains are freaky things. I'm off to read that article now.
from ladybug-red :
Hey Bo - you know that nutjob that thinks gays and unwed mothers should not be allowed to teach in public schools? He's my new fucking senator. Peachy.
from rdhdprincess :
That was beautiful, I can see it in my mind. "Fishing for bonefish in a flat of turquoise water so clear and so warm you don’t know where the air stops and the water begins. " Best sentence I've read in a long time. Have a wonderful time dear. It sounds like heaven.
from ladybug-red :
I hope you have a great time!
from spencersmom :
Feel better soon!
from spencersmom :
Hmmm...strange how different people's realities can be. I can't conjure up pity for the super rich.
from spencersmom :
I never get excited about vacations...you'll have fun once you get there...btw, about the red shoes, I would have worn them 2 days in a row.
from rdhdprincess :
You will have fun once you get there. ( I hope!) Isn't Belize just really close to Guatemala? How would you feel about kidnapping a 3 month old on your way back? Pretty please?
from rdhdprincess :
Happy Anniversary to you, too! I know it has special importance for you, and I am so happy for you. You deserve all the happiness in the world!
from spencersmom :
Hope you had a great evening! Hmmmm....time flies, as I remember reading your diary before you were married! As for waxing poetic, I do all the time. I even wore Poison too :-) Remember, hindsight is always through rose colored glasses.
from clarity25 :
Thanks for the note! That cheered me up. I also wanted to thank you for the E-mail you sent a while back, I've been reading your diary (even stole one of your surveys) and I love your writing. I also understand what you mean about living in the past, I have a very clear memory of my childhood and often reflect on it. I think it's important to stay connected to that part of yourself so you always remember who you are. I think so often we're in "adult mode" and we get so caught up in the seriousness of life, we forget that kid we are inside. The one that curled up next to window and read "Little Woman", the girl inside that had all those dreams. Do you really want to lose that part of yourself? I never wanted to be one of those adults that talk to young teens as though they're just silly kids. So I don't think there's anything wrong with listening to old songs or reflecting back on your childhood home. That's natural. Oh and happy anniversary!
from rdhdprincess :
Did you say 3 Sephoras?? You live in my dream place! Anyways, you're not nuts dear. I can't explain it either, but for some reason it matters to you even if you don't have the best memories right away. I had an evil Stepdad who after years of torment, ended up leaving me the house I grew up in when he died. I was physically ill thinking about living in that house again. I didn't know if I could ever be happy there. I ended up gutting it and redoing everything and it has been great. Maybe you're just remembering the happy times? That's a good thing!
from rdhdprincess :
Hey babydoll! Weird, that's how I like my coffee. Is that odd? I am impressed at your file cabinet condensing in heels. I always fill those things out by going on and on about how obviously great and deserving of a big raise I am. They quit giving them to me. I did not know that you have been to Guatemala! That is so cool, tell me something else. Anything.
from rdhdprincess :
Wow. I agree with so much of what you said. I am pro-all the same things, but not pro-Bush. Anyways, I wanted to say Yay, Bo! That was beautiful-
from pandionna :
Hey, I made an entry just for you. Look for, "For Bo." Heh.
from pandionna :
Ah, a raging moderate. I figured as much. More a social liberal and a fiscal conservative. So am I. I actually agree with you more than disagree. Guns, stem cells, abortion, and even, to an extent, the Darwin Award concept with people being dumb enough to not wear helmets and so on. (Just that I hate to see their families suffer so when they die.) We differ on the tax rate and oil (hell, I'd rather we just do away with oil for fuel altogether, because I think we're smart enough to figure out how to do it). My beef with the GOP (as you know) is the whole religious right thing. It's not the same party it was even 20 years ago. Or, who knows, I might still be one. There should always be room for dissent, and I left because there wasn't any in the GOP anymore. At any rate, I still dig your diary and think you're terrific. For what my ex-Republican opinion is worth.
from rdhdprincess :
Ha! Right's only, got it. I am so impressed that you can drive there, by the way. I would be a terrified, crying, heap of a girl. I can hardly navigate Dallas without people running me down. (I'm not a slow driver, people just try to kill me for some reason...)
from nightlynews :
that's my intersection!
from ladybug-red :
Bo - I emailed your hotmail account yesterday, but it sounds like it isn't working. If you have another account you use send it to ladybugred8@hotmail.com Thanks.
from rdhdprincess :
Oh no! How embarrassing. (um, and funny, sorry.) You have my sympathies.
from pandionna :
Have you seen Heidiann's diary? It might help put things in perspective even more. Ditto LA-the-Sage. I'm really sorry you're going through this, Bo. No one should have to feel like they have to be someone else to "make the grade." Also, I finally saw in your profile that your hotmail account doesn't work. I had e-mailed you a few times and was thinking, "Dang, did I piss her off?" I'll be meeting Neko, Red, and BTM this weekend. I wish you were going to be there, too.
from clarity25 :
Thank you for adding me to your favorites list, I would love to read your diary. If you're comfortable enough to share your password with me, you can reach me at Clarity25_1978@Yahoo.com. If not, that's okay too:).
from rdhdprincess :
I'm thinking of you dear. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Maybe I should send you a little pampering care package? What is a Stella, anyways?
from spencersmom :
Just saying hi...I was thinking of you. When I read your last entry, it seemed as if a lot of the issues in your marriage were on *your* side. Remember, it's a two-way street and you both need to meet int he middle....just my 2 cents...:-)
from ladybug-red :
I wish there was something I could say or do to help you feel better - but I know there isn't. Just take care of yourself and always know that there are many around the country who are thinking about you and wishing you well right now. It breaks my heart to know what you are going through.
from rdhdprincess :
I'm so sorry that you're going thru this dear. I wish that I knew what to say, but I don't so I will just offer my love and support! Hang in there-
from pandionna :
Geez. I'm so sorry this is happening. You're the third d-lander I know (including myself) who, at the two-year mark in the marriage, is confronted with it possibly being over. Say, I sent you an article from the Post not long ago. Did you get it? Not sure if I have the right e-mail for you.
from spencersmom :
Damn. This whole thing sucks. Badly. Would you ever consider therapy for both of you? If you are willing to change, he has to be willing to meet you in the middle.
from lucidjelly :
hi! remember me? i'm locked out! can i come in? email me a u/p at lucidjelly@hotmail.com. i have some news for you, too.
from spencersmom :
I know you don't want to hear this, but get thee to a doctor. The longer you wait, the worse it'll be.
from rdhdprincess :
I wish I could run right over with soup, magazines, and maybe margarita's! I don't know what in the world is wrong with you dear but hang in there!
from rdhdprincess :
I don't think that I would subject myself to it either babe. My husband is much more social than I am and I have been wondering the best way to handle it. We compromise for now, but I know there are times we're home that he SO wants to be out doing something. What to do? I'm glad I'm not the only one!
from spencersmom :
As hapoy as I am with my body, I tend to stay away from the beach as well. It's not the fat so much with me (although I have plenty)...it's the cellulite. So...I prefer to stay home as well. My husband is not that social either though.
from pandionna :
Sometimes, I just want to hug you. I don't think I'd go out much in L.A., myself.
from red-wine :
Ha!! Actually it's for de-militarized zone, since there's SWAT and military and riot gear and helicopters and everything short of full cavity searches going on down there. But actually I kind of like yours better!
from ladybug-red :
That is really strange. Less than 15 minutes before reading your entry I had an identical conversation with myself about being anti-social. I'm on travel alone and just walked out to the restaurant/oh so beautiful people marina outside my room. Instead of ordering dinner and sitting there confidently (as I am sure I would do if I felt beautiful) I ran back to my room, ordered room service, and logged on to d-land. Scary!
from rdhdprincess :
Awww, that was nice! It made me smile. Maybe I will go do something nice for someone. Yay for the no preggers relief, too!
from ladybug-red :
Great news! That whole "pleasedon'tletmebepregnant" mantra rings bells with us all!
from spencersmom :
:::take a deep breath::: How late are you?
from heidiann :
Ha! I've so been wanting to read both the Introvert book and the one by Janice Dickinson. She's a lunatic. Let me know how they are!
from spencersmom :
Whoa! Belize! Me so jealous!
from pandionna :
Two weeks? IN A ROW? Heh. Looks lovely. I clicked the link to the birds, too. I want to go! What happened with snorkeling in Hawaii? I tried it in Jamaica on my honeymoon and couldn't do it. The whole mouth-breathing thing bothered me. It has taken me years to get used to wearing sunglasses, and it's all I can do to wear ski goggles when I ski, so the whole nose-in-the-mask thing was flipping me out.
from rdhdprincess :
Now THAT sounds like a vacation! I applaud your just throwing caution to the wind and doing it. I think you will be glad you did! Now, I want to do that!
from ladybug-red :
Looks like a dream vacation! I only hate you teensy bit for it ;) As for the house buying adventure - I'm selling a really really nice 3 bedroom on a huge lot for only $162k. Although I suspect you aren't up for moving to the southeast. -S
from pandionna :
OMG! Yes, the tent cities in Arlington! That article makes a lot of sense. Really, the only folks who are going to pull out of this are the folks that bought a long time ago, like my friends who bought their house for $248K seven or eight years ago that just had it appraised for $880. Even if the bubble sucks it back down more than 30%, to $600K, they're still going to make a pretty penny on it. You know the huz and I are looking at Neko's neck of the woods. Almost all of the homes I've shown on my diary have dropped at least $5K since I've bookmarked them on realtor.com, and they are all still available. I wonder if that's a sign, too.
from pandionna :
You sound like my husband. "This CAN'T keep going like this!" Ah, but it can, at least here in the D.C. area. See, D.C. has this ridiculous old law that no building can be taller than 13 stories, so people build out, not up. And then there's the 2.4% unemployment rate. Because government is a self-perpetuating monolith that will NEVER size itself DOWN. And as long as the government is big and unweildy, there will be big and unweildy contracts for big and unweildy contractors. And then there's the county I live in, the one that's supposedly the most wealthy in the nation, because of all of those attorneys and lobbyists here to influence...the big and unweildy government. It's such a pickle, and yet, if they built taller buildings in the outskirts of D.C., where it wouldn't affect the view of the Mall or "airspace security," the housing market would be a buyer's market. Oh, for want of a few tall buildings!
from heidiann :
I was a teensy bit offended that I wasn't given the password and was going to leave a note asking again JUST IN CASE you didn't receive the email I sent and I see that you no longer have the hotmail account. So, ha, I no longer feel offended! I'm now asking nicely for the password. Pretty please? I miss your diary! I apologize at the most asinine things. Nice to know I'm not alone. =)
from ladybug-red :
There is something about alcohol that makes us all think we are SOOO fascinating - yes? It usually ends with me being embarrassed the next morning too. As for Eric (who frankly sounds like a bit of a prick), perhaps if he had been more interesting you might have actually remembered what he did.
from stelanotte :
I need the password :) please
from spencersmom :
I hear ya...I think I posted an entry awhile back about clothing. I forced myself to buy some colors this year. I usually automatically drift towards standard-issue black. It still feels weird wearing colors. About 12 years ago, I starved myself to a 3/4 and my husband thinks I am crazy, but I don't regret it. I also have a saying, "Just because they make it in your size, doesn't mean you should be wearing it..." As for appropriateness...I remember when I was 16, I had a miniskirt that I had worn to a costume party. I tried to wear it out of the house on a "regular" night and my father would not let me leave the house looking like a "common whore."
from pandionna :
My mother would have loved you. She had a thing for "appropriate dress," and for making sure that clothes were age- and body-type appropriate. When I was in high school, I wanted a red, off-the-shoulder formal dress with a slit up the front. "Not until you're 25," she said. Well, when I was 25 and had a date to the Marine Corps Ball, I called her from Hawaii and said, "Hey, I got the red dress!" But she also had a thing for what's flattering. "Just becuase they make it in your size doesn't mean it looks good." Meaning, those size 28 mini-skirts. And women who are, say, 50, dressing like they are 25? Just as bad. "It looks desperate," she used to say. So, I think you'd be great at designing clothes. I'll say I knew you when!
from rdhdprincess :
Hey sweetie, the dog butt thing makes sense thanks! I sure as hell didn't grow up in a sterile environment (and I had the step-dad antics, too) and I suvived and am strong because of it. As are you! I whole heartedly support you opening that business! I will for one buy all my clothes there! (Be sure to make 20's!)
from ladybug-red :
I wish you the best of luck with the trip and maintaining your sanity in the process. I too have struggled with similar issues with my family (weirdly similar up to and including a father who *went away* for awhile after I was grown). Frankly, my interactions with my family almost always feel like obligation rather than choice. If I had been given a choice, I would have chosen another family. Neko had good advice. Spend your mental energy on yourself, your husband, the trip, and the city. I usually treat my family as I would casual or business acquaintances - with general politeness and avoidance of any deep or meaningful discussion. It just seems to work best that way. Hugs. -S
from neko-carre :
(Damn gbook!) The step-dad standing at the foot of the bed yelling at you for hours. Yep. Same exact thing here. I've always resented my mom for not standing up for me (I was a good kid, for chrissake!) and for waiting until I was 18 and out of the house before divorcing him when it finally became bad for her, not during the ten years (and my entire vulnerable childhood) when it was bad for me. I'm shocked I turned out as well-adjusted as I did. But like you said, that was most certainly the deciding factor as to why I won't have children. My mom was obviously an extremely selfish person to put herself before her child, and I'm not going to deny that I'm a selfish person too, but at least it's not going to affect the fragile mentality of a child. Ugh. Hang in there, Bo. Just take advantage of the fact that your in Sac and enjoy the city instead.
from rdhdprincess :
Personally, I enjoy entries about handbags! Of curse, I am a little shallow so whatever. I'm a little over Burberry too. I thought it was that it was too much print, but I just scored my Aunt's old LV when she replaced it with a new one (extreme jealousy) and its print is, of course, even printier but I am loving it. Go figure! It just means we need ALL of them so we can appease every taste!
from spencersmom :
Yay for the bag! If you really like it, then don't worry about it. As for burberry...here they are so passe...so many people have them (or fake ones). That's why I stopped carrying my Louis Vuitton.
from ladybug-red :
Will you throw us all a great party when you make your millions? It sounds like a sure winner but move fast. I have a Hello Kitty lunch box that I sometimes use as a make-shift briefcase/organizer. -S
from pandionna :
Toxic people are never worth it. Are these people breaking any laws? I'll bet they cheat on their taxes, too. If you turn them in and they owe, you get a percentage. Muah ha ha ha ha. Also, Dan and I have seperate bank accounts. He's now earning a lot more, so the wage disparity isn't so bad, but he's still lousy with money, so I'd rather keep mine seperate.
from rdhdprincess :
Well, that was interesting. It sounds like you to me, even though I don't really know you, although I feel like I do. Makes no sense, I know. But still, cool. I hope the joint account thing worked out. We have one, but K sucks with money so it was a necessity. A highly rated and often hated psychologist on t.v. says that a joint account to pay the bills out of, and a separate account for each is what he has learned is best for the marriage over the years of couple counseling. Who knows?
from spencersmom :
We have joint but I also have a separate. Same with credit cards. Things have worked out ok for us that way.
from ladybug-red :
There is nothing unusual about wanting to have your own money (especially if you or anyone you know has ever had to go without). I don't really think it about trust - I would trust hubby to save my life over his own. But when it comes to money - I feel like I would completely lose my identity if I had to account to him for every dollar I spend. Even if you open a joint account - you need your own money too! -S
from pandionna :
To heck with an earthquake. How about an across-the-board rise in interest rates and a big flushing sound when it comes to the economy. Is your job safe? Mine is. How about your husband's? I think my husband's job is safe. Yes, big fat flippin' recession right before the election. Yesssss...
from spencersmom :
Go for the house! I felt the same way 10 years ago, and trust me...it's not bad at all. 10 years from now you'll be glad you did.
from pandionna :
Hear, hear on the underwear thing! I've never been one for thongs--I'm kind of grossed out by the thought of a piece of fabric up my ass all day--but I used to get pretty things. Then I was just going for stuff that matched. (Bra and panty sets.) Now, screw it, I get the big ol' granny panties and bras with fiberfill so you can't tell when I'm cold. Give me function over form any day of the week.
from ladybug-red :
I'm starting to feel just a bit like a stalker now. I'm not - promise! Can you e-mail your password at seslinger@sc.rr.com? -S
from rdhdprincess :
I hope both you and your shoes make it today. Sorry to hear that you have to lock down. I have just e-mailed for the info. Pretty please?
from pandionna :
I got the password. Thanks! I feel privileged.
from pandionna :
Oh, Bo, that SUCKS! And I know exactly how you feel. Maybe one day we'll meet in person, have a few margaritas, and trade war stories. We can write a book about it and call it "The Fiscal Follies of Fathers." Hugs!
from spencersmom :
Please share your password...
from spencersmom :
Damn! Quitting smoking! No wonder why he was acting weird. When I quit 4 1/2 years ago...I tortured Browneye (unintentionally, of course) to no end. He couldn't do anything right.
from pandionna :
I can't speak highly enough of mental health days. And good Pinot Grigio.
from rdhdprincess :
Honey, I've seen pictures, you're gorgeous. He was an idiot who just wasn't paying attention. Still, it sucks and I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt. Good luck with the puppies! I can't look anymore, I have FOUR!
from spencersmom :
SIR???? Ugh...the guy is blind...
from pandionna :
Last night I was looking at Neko's pictures from when you met and sorry, but that guy is a MORON. There's NO WAY anyone could mistake you for a guy. My guess is that he just wasn't thinking. Which would mean, yes, moron.
from heidiann :
You know what I bet his problem was? Habit. Even when I'm looking at the clock as I answer the phone and I KNOW it's 6 at night I still sometimes says, "Good morning..." out of habit. So I'm SURE that's what happened. It'd be one thing if you had short hair and dressed manish but come on! Nothing but horrible horrible habit.
from pandionna :
"...the Drunk With An Opinion On Everything..." Oh, I understand that. Two holiday parties ago, I got into a raging political argument. This year, I was quite un-drunk until the very end. The emotional hangover from that argument lasted all year. I feel your pain with being hungover at work. That's how last Monday was for me.
from pandionna :
Heh, that's how I feel about February.
from pandionna :
Isn't it awful? I feel like I can't eat ANYthing anymore. Tonight I had a 10-ounce bag of frozen veggies for dinner, not just because I'm trying to drop a few pounds, but because they were the only thing that wouldn't cause the Peristalsis From Purgatory. WAH!
from rdhdprincess :
Hee, they accents were awful, weren't they! I loved Mona Lisa Smile too, even though I was sure I would hate it! I also like White Oleander - you should read the book! It was just haunting, but beautiful.
from pandionna :
Ummm, heh, I liked Chekov. Heh.
from rdhdprincess :
You can pull off the blue polish, give it a try! I love that you dream about makeup. I always feel better after writing stuff like that and getting it out. I hope you do, too!
from ladybug-red :
Let us know if you get the nail color thing figured out. I am closing in on my next decade (that sounds like shit) and I can't seem to get a handle of the appropriateness code either (if there is one). -S
from pandionna :
Oh yes. I undersand the husband woes.
from rdhdprincess :
Good dog wishes for you! I raised perfectly happy dogs in apartments for years.
from pandionna :
Oh, thank goodness someone understands the Plight of the Apartment Dweller. Your area sounds like mine, maybe even a little more expensive. But how's this--friends bought an old Victorian, in good shape, for $248K seven years ago. They just had it appraised for over $700K. A 1 BR condo in a halfway respectable neighborhood will run you $350K. Virginia is not much better. They're making these gargantuan townhouses in the burbs (kind of defeats the purpose of a "town house") and they're going for $500K. Ummm, for $500K I don't want a common wall with anyone, thanks. Sigh. I guess this is the price we pay for living in or near a destination city... Aren't we glamorous?
from snideblonde :
Hello there, lady! I'm back and reading again, I hope this finds you well....
from red-wine :
Keep your eyes open for more; I've had three long-lost friends find me in the past month! It's great, no?
from spencersmom :
This too shall pass. Once the hype is over...it is the flavor of the month. ~SM~
from pandionna :
Thus confirming my hunch that Mel Gibson is an idiot.
from pandionna :
I hope it's the right guy! I did that once about a year ago, and it turned out to be the right person. We e-mailed a few times, but I'm guessing she probably found my diary and got frightened, because we haven't communicated since. I hope your Googling works out better!
from pandionna :
Oh my. Now I feel outre. I only know a few of those songs. But then, I do know who most of the artists are, so there's hope, right?
from neko-carre :
(Hrm. Something weird with Gbook. I mean, weirder than usual.) Anyway, you have a headhunter? Wow! Yeah, I know what you mean about not really enjoying your job but being comfortable where you are. Half the reason I haven't moved on (even within the company) is because I know I couldn't surf the Internet all day anymore! I'd have to produce *actual work*! GASP! No thanks. I'll stay here, even though the phones drive me out of my mind some days. But at least with this job, I get to leave at 5:30 every day.
from stelanotte :
Can I still be in the diary ring even though I got fired from my job this week? :) XOXO
from spencersmom :
As far as deals go, Macy*s is the best. I got DKNY sweats for $2.99. Now is the best time to shop. Congratulations on the shoes! ~SM~
from pandionna :
I LOVE the new layout! So crisp, so clear. Wow, Neko is quite talented.
from rdhdprincess :
Love the layout! Congrats on the shoe purchase, it makes them even better, doesn't it?
from rdhdprincess :
Wow, I'm glad you survived the elevator! I enjoyed your weight entry from yesterday. Good for you. I wish some of that good attitude would rub off on me. I think this will definitely be your year!
from pandionna :
I hate elevators. That's the stuff of nightmares.
from spencersmom :
I hear ya about weight. Damn. I remember starving myself to a size 3 using Slimfast and startvation. I usually hovered around a size 10, but since I quit smoking in 1999, I ballooned up 50 more pounds to the size I am now. Ugh. I do not wear a bathing suit in public and I no longer own shorts. It seems as if you are in a better place that I though. ~SM~
from rdhdprincess :
If they would just LISTEN to us, things would be so much better! I love having people that don't actually USE the stuff, setting it all up. Crazy. I had forgotten all about the pretty, pink Love's Baby Soft! I'm smiling just remembering it! I can't recall the scent though, too powdery?
from pandionna :
Amazing, how being rid of a toxic co-worker can bring such relief.
from pandionna :
YEOUCH! I popped by from trolling buddy lists (a lot of my faves have you listed!) and saw that you just had food poisoning. Oh, how I feel your pain. I had exactly what you described the day after Thanksgiving--had to go to the hospital and all to get fluids. I hope your recovery is quick and complete!
from spencersmom :
I can't post to your guest book...or anyone's for that matter. Another techie problem...anyway...what a great trip to Hawaii. I was waxing poetic as that was my honeymoon destination. We had been talking about it for our 10th, but I doubt that it would happen. ~SM~
from red-wine :
Ah-HEM. *knock-knock*
from rdhdprincess :
Happy Vacation! I hope it heals, warms, and makes you wonderfully happy!
from bathtubmary :
i'm sorry you're not feeling well, dear girl, but now it is your job to go to hawaii, forget about everything that sucks, and have the wonderful time you so deserve. that's an order! happy early everything. xoxoxo, d
from rdhdprincess :
Aw, I loved that entry! I love all my pets, too. When I was in high school we rescued this little pitbull puppy, raised her like a lap dog and she was the sweetest thing! I think it really does matter how they are raised, and they can be great dogs. The English Bulldog we had was ALWAYS having medical problems, though. Good luck, I hope you adopt something wonderful!
from neko-carre :
Yep, that's the show! I'm HOOKED!
from red-wine :
"I'm like Metallica". Gaahhhh!! That just about killed me. Really, I'm eating and I laughed so hard I choked. My next thought was "...or like Bono with a fierce hangover."
from neko-carre :
Like I said... the "I Don't Give A Fuck" rarely works. Too many fuckers always trying to ruin your day. Sigh.
from rdhdprincess :
I SO know how you feel dear. I am a raving bitch today, and have been for a few days now. Do you know how bad it is? I didn't put on makeup today. I can't remember ever going to work without makeup. It WILL get better, I promise! Take care, cj
from bathtubmary :
i almost want you to lock up so we can get some juicy details. assuming i'll get a password, that is. in any case, sorry you've got the blahs. i go through that periodically, but then i find a way to re-ignite whatever it is that makes me feel like myself. whether it's taking a class or working on a new crush ;-). take care, darlin'. xoxo, d
from evilgal :
I'm whoring out my Air diaryring because I spent a long time making an image-map for the link. Check it out it out on my page and join if you're interested -- http://evilgal.diaryland.com/rings.html!!
from red-wine :
Thank you for letting us know you're okay! I rarely pay much attention to natural (or not, apparently) disasters out of my time zone, but I've been worried about you. Because I know very well that if your home was to spark up, you would perish trying to rescue your wardrobe and cosmetics. For which you have my utmost and eternal respect. Go hose something down! It's fun!
from rdhdprincess :
Kiss, kiss, I love you! Thank you, I love spying into peoples everyday lives. I also love Sky vodka, by the way. I don't really know what Blue Q Bitch Lotion is, but I know it must be wonderful because of the name alone! What exactly is Fudge Hair Licorice? I think I must have some. Oh yeah, by the way, Neko said to ask what you REALLY did this weekend,and now I'm kinda curious myself! Come on.....
from neko-carre :
Gahahaha! Oh, THAT!
from neko-carre :
Excuse me. You do NOT suck.
from nightlynews :
What's up with the guestbooks lately? I try to sign and it says "oops, you can't sign again this fast". When, in fact, it's been days since I signed ANYONE'S stinking guestbook. Sheesh. At any rate, a very Happy Belated Birthday to you, I'm glad it was a good one. Secondly, yes, you're absolutely right, the apartments out here, do, indeed, suck. Ass. That's the reason I haven't found anything. At the very root of it is the fact that everything out here is ugly to me. So maybe that makes my life easier. I guess I should just get whatever since they're all hideous. What's a girl to do? xoxo, J
from badlybeaten :
Good Luck with getting married. If you marry the right man its going to be the best experience of your life.
from neko-carre :
(Crap. G-book malfunction. You may get this twice.) Holy Wow!! A shopping/make-over spree! I only have those in daydreams. Oh, and - *weekly* mannie/peddie?? [Longing sigh] I'm lucky if I get in monthly. Maaan... I want to be you.
from neko-carre :
Mmmmm, greek food! Next to Indian, that's my faaaavorite! And good idea on the HUGE thing of water in between all that.
from neko-carre :
Oops, I said "honeymoon" and I meant anniversary. But it's LIKE we're always on our honeymoon! Ha ha.
from chadmuska :
is there something i have to do to join your admin ring? show identification, pictures of my name plaque thing?
from red-wine :
Argh! Disregard that book signing; I thought I had BTMary! You two are right next to each other on my buddy list. Sorry if that made your head spin. And yes, I am ex-haus-ted, but it was allllll worth it!
from neko-carre :
[Grr, guestbook.] That was a nice list. I like all those things too. Made me smile and breathe a sigh of content happiness. (Vacuum cleaners?)
from ababy777 :
Hi, You don't know me, but my name is Brandy and I just joined this site. I was reading your latest entry and saw that you are getting married. I myself am also planning my wedding, and I have a web site that might be of some use to you. It's called www.theknot.com. They have all kinds of advice and worksheets to help you keep track of everything, and I mean everything. You should check it out if you haven't been there already, it's free too. Just a suggestion, Brandy
from spencersmom :
I'm adding a note here because I can't get into guestbook tonight...ugh! Your dress sounds wonderful! I'd love to see a photo! As for your credit card...be verrrry careful! ~SM~
from qkari :
Mmmm, sounds delish! I'll be there. What time shall I drop in? I could probably catch a flight at 3, get to LAX by 6, your house by 7, chow down, relax on the couch, chat and sip wine, catch a flight back at 10, and be home in time to get a few hours of sleep before going to work tomorrow morning. Great! What should I bring?
from qkari :
Yay - someone else who must lose 50 lbs in just over 6 months! It's so nice to have a sista. I was supposed to have my 50 lbs lost by July, but that's in 4 months now and... well... FUCK! Keep me posted on how you're doing with that and what's working for you.
from qkari :
Just call your Notes page "Qkari's Page." Hee hee. Good thing you have a guestbook for everybody else! (BTW, did you get my email?)
from qkari :
Unity candle? Puh-LEEEZ. Don't do it! God, I'm so tired of people thinking that a wedding should follow a set of Rules. Whose rules? Who is it about anyway? Your parents? Your friends? Ms. Etiquette? No! It's about YOU & YOUR PARTNER. We're going to do what we want with the style that we like. That will be more memorable than the thousands of other weddings with unity candles and flower girls and receiving lines! FUCK THAT! And if the family whines, then all the more reason to run off and elope. When did weddings stop being about love and start being about strict regulations? (Sorry, I had to vent. I've just seen so many of my friends spend thousands of dollars on miserable ceremonies that they don't remember because their mind is stressed to the limit due to the fricking bows on the pews being the wrong color, etc. And the guy is SO NOT into the fru-fru-ness of it all and he's all uncomfortable and puppet-like. Sigh.... Don't do that, Bo. Enjoy the moment when the two of you take your vows. Let your individuality and your creativity shine. That's what attracted you both in the first place.)
from qkari :
GAAH HA HA! I must be the "Pathetic Childless Spinster."
from qkari :
AH! Again with the twin thing! I ADORE Gwen S! Am I even surprised that you do too? Naaaah.
from qkari :
OK, you need to have an SDT with those FRILs, particularly your MILTB, and tell them, "Look! DMY!" Hee hee! ......................(SDT=sit-down talk, DMY=don't mess yourself)
from qkari :
I have a view finder! You'll never guess where I got it: In a Georgia "bah-bu-que" restaurant. Their dessert dishes were the pictures! I thought it was so funny that I nabbed it as a souvenir. So you can look at somewhat dingy pictures of goober pie.
from qkari :
OHHH MY GOOOODDDD! I am keeled over with laughter! You are greatest! Thanks for brightening my pissy day.
from qkari :
"Get naked and dry hump the stove." BWA-HAAAAA HAAAA HAAAAAAAGH!!! You KILL me!! What a vision!!!
from qkari :
Ah, we twins with telepathy. That is SO FREAKING amazing! I just wrote an entry about [not] having kids too! We are one and the same. Puny Oregon doesn't keep us apart!
from qkari :
Yeowch. That's a tough one. If it were wimpy me, I wouldn't say anything. Because if this guy hasn't listened to the courts (or whomever), then he certainly won't listen to you, especially in a party-like environment. If I were you, I'd write a strong, convincing letter. You're a good writer - you could really hit home. But I must say - I'm all awed and impressed by your passion for this! You go, justice girl!
from qkari :
AHA HA HA HA HA HAAAAAAA!!! No, my friend, YOU are too funny! And get outta my head - I was just going to send you a note saying the same thing. About how damned hilarious you are! There, I just did.
from qkari :
My former boss used to do that too: chew me out and then buy me something, like a sweater from Talbots. Dave pointed out that it was exactly like an abusive relationship. A vicious cycle of beating you up and then buying your forgiveness. I quit less than a year after she was promoted to boss.
from qkari :
You are a RIOT! HA HA HAAA! (And I wanted to see if I could beat the world record of the Most Posts from the Same Person.) And wow - I haven't heard the words "Casteel Series" since I was 15. I loved them too except for the final one where she killed Heaven off in like, the first chapter. Jeez, I could've written a better story (and I started to, believe it or not). Just seemed like they were really reaching. Anyway... sounds like a good idea to pick them up again. I might do that too.
from qkari :
Yay Bo! It's great to have you at my fingertips! And I SO read myself in your words. Oh, by the way, my man's sister lives in L.A. Maybe you know her, *snort*.
from qkari :
P.S. I heart Luscious Jackson too. Have you heard Dusty Trails, an LJ spin-off? FAB-U-LOUS!
from qkari :
Hi! Thanks for stopping by and saying hello. I checked yours out too - wow! I *adore* your layout! It's so pretty and girly, but simple and informative at the same time. One of the nicest ones I've seen. Anyway, you're now in my Favs. :)
from nudetwister :
Thanks for signing my guestbook and saying nice things about me. You have now officially won a place in my heart. I like your diary, I'll definitely be back to check out more of it, and I'm very glad the people at your work didn't get anthrax. We're having scares over here too, and this is AUSTRALIA, even further from the actual chaos than LA (that's if I've got my geography right, of course). Keep up the lovin'!
from bathtubmary :
it's like i've got my own little page in your diary... anyway, i used to think boys were basic beings but i now know they can be pretty wacked out, just as complex as womenfolk. it's so funny that you had the same experience! talk to you soon. peace, d
from bathtubmary :
the martini of my dreams - bless you child! hope you enjoy your week of alone time, even though i know you'll miss your sweetie. peace, d
from bathtubmary :
first off, your new design is fabulous. second, i am so sorry to hear about your ring saga. what a bunch of asses! third, i thought about eloping several times. though i'm glad i didn't it does seem a lot easier. just make sure you throw a super fun party after with the money you saved! suck down a vodka tonic for me, d

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