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I think you handled the situation very well and I hope they can get that little girl the help she needs. Yay for you having employees to help so well.

from forty-plus :

Happy New Year!

from forty-plus :

Thank you for my holiday card!

from forty-plus :

Congratulations! I am so happy everything went well for you and the newest little boy. I hope everyone can get some rest in the coming days. Again, congratulations!

from forty-plus :

I hope there is a new little one in your arms right now!

from forty-plus :

I tried to leave a message in the guest book but it wouldn't take, so here I am. You haven't updated for a while. I hope everything is alright with you and yours.

from dinahsoar :

Good reminder. Earth's short. Eternity's long.

from dinahsoar :

Hello Dolly, That was really fun to read - especially about how life is so much more enjoyable when there are kids. I kept walking right into those carefully timed set-ups. Very funny!

from dinahsoar :

What's "firefly"? I've always wanted to see one. Never heard of the show, but I would probably love it.

from dinahsoar :

Good to know!

from dinahsoar :

Good Mommy! Good Mommy!

from dinahsoar :

You were created to shine! There is no one in the world quite like you! You express the image of God in the particular way designed for only you. Please do cower before the shallow and vapid culture vulture, who wishes to devour everything that does not conform to mediocrity. You are Dollyllama, the Unique!

from dinahsoar :

Hello, Dolly. Your writing was very poignant & stirred alot for me. From my entries, you can see that I'm revisiting my son's babyhood. You really bring to life there on your page the pain of leaving your new little one for work. I like your idea about quitting before your husband does (but, of course, I don't know all the details or ramifications of such a decision). Thanks, too, for the writing you linked. That part about reaching out to connect with her own mothering and hearing instead meaningless minutiae resonated with my daily struggle.

from dinahsoar :

Your self-reflection is courageous. Busting oneself is what it's all about. I have a hunch, though, that your willingness to do just that cancels out your "jerk" status.

from mugwhump :

I stopped by because of Dinahsoar said too. I'm glad she did, your entry today (where you link her) was pretty much how I felt. This is a very cool place, this Diaryland space!

from forty-plus :

Milestones all over the place!

from dinahsoar :

Nobody, but nobody does scatology like you! Keep those poops comin' (I'm really enjoying everything you write)!

from forty-plus :

Thank you, I knew you would understand.

from forty-plus :

Happy Mother's Day!

from forty-plus :

Hang in there! :)

from forty-plus :

I did have a better time of it on the second go around. Less fear probably, been there/done that a little too. I am glad you are well.

from nmnohr :

Congrats! Wow, big boy! And I agree. It's not your job to be super mom. We get sick, we need breaks, and adjusting to two kids takes time. You'll master it! Congrats!

from forty-plus :

Stop it! Your job is to love, love, love. Your job is not to be SuperBionicUnflappableMom, she's a myth. {HUGS}

from forty-plus :

Welcome to the world little W.i.l.l.e.m! Sending you so many hugs they're overflowing!

from forty-plus :

Yah! I am praying for you!

from forty-plus :

Hold on! Both my boys took their time and they are more than healthy now. {{Hugs}} to you.

from forty-plus :

Thinking of you! Enjoy your peaceful day.

from forty-plus :

Let Mom clean! I am positive she is coming to help, not stress you out. Hope your tummy settles down.

from forty-plus :

Good thing The Llama Song was repeated! Funny stuff.

from forty-plus :

I did ewwww the same time as I read it! Nasty.

from forty-plus :

The best news? They will be OUT of your dad's home! That should be enough to smile about all day. This way they will not be thrown in your face every moment. Very good news.

from forty-plus :

Would you, please, tell your dad you would feel so much more at peace and for B's sake, if he could sleep at your house when you go into labor? If it causes any problems on their end, too bad, and you will know B is being cared for properly, where she is most comfortable. You cannot be worrying about the other stuff when you are welcoming another sweet babe! Good luck.

from forty-plus :

Your hubby scored points giving you such a lovely gift and earned extra by your slip of the tongue ... you are going to have to grin and bear it for quite a while Girl! Enjoy the earrings! :)

from chaosdaily :

dont you just sometimes just love the taste of the foot in your mouth?

from forty-plus :

I am so sorry about your cousin's fetus. How heartbreaking.

from forty-plus :

A happy Thanksgiving {Hug} to you! We shall conquer today! (Or, at least, survive.)

from forty-plus :

I'm feeling your pain about tomorrow. I hope we both have a much better day than expected!

from forty-plus :

MY stomach is in a knot reading about your trip. Glad you're home safe!

from forty-plus :

Good luck with your presentation and happy private pooping! You'll do great.

from chaosdaily :

gee just make sure you get a consulting fee for every call you get while you are off. you could make a lot of money that way!!

from inkdragon :

Thanks for the supportive words. I knew you'd understand. I'm glad B wasn't seriously hurt yesterday. It's amazing, if you or I took that fall we'd be in the hospital (and talking about it for weeks)!

from inkdragon :

I'm tearing up! Congratulations! A boy?! They're the best, okay, after your daughter, but truly they are wonderful!

from inkdragon :

I enjoy fall but just knowing the cold weather of winter is coming takes a little wind out of my sails. You are so right about how great the air smells.

from moodymama :

so many dollyllamas, so little moodymamas. :) i love that little lilypie thing you put on your diary. i put one on monkey's diary too!

from moodymama :

(((((((((((you))))))))))) sounds like you've got some family drama of your own. :(

from moodymama :

what happened...what happened is the end result of people not liking you but smiling in your face for two years. people talking smack about you when you're not around and pretending to be your friend when you are around. then someone sets off a spark, just a small one, and everything comes out into the open. the whole, sordid, ugliness of it all.

from inkdragon :

The stepmother & father's actions suck. Tell them so, you're not overreacting. I hope you have a nice weekend with Hubby and B in spite of this nastiness.

from moodymama :

do you take anything for anxiety? if it's xanax, does it make you way-too-sleepy too? :(

from moodymama :

i'm as fertile as they come, but my tubes are tied up. three was enough!

from dollyrocker :

muchos thanks for the advice... it is much appreciated! :)

from dollyrocker :

hey - this is a wierd question, but i keep getting these spam emails and they are always addressed to me and to you... im trying to figure out why? are you getting them too?

from inkdragon :

You are my hero! B knows she has the coolest, most compassionate Mama ever. You are the best.

from inkdragon :

Happy Mama's Day!

from inkdragon :

I hope Easter is truly what you want it to be!

from inkdragon :

I think it was incredibly beautiful and uplifting the treatment everyone gave the envelope. There's a great big happy lump in my throat.

from inkdragon :

Golfwidow has extremely (cracked) dry skin and has tried everything. She finally found a remendy called Zim's Crack Creme. She said it smells really bad, but after a few days of using it her skin was much, much better. She's located in CT, so if you contacted her I'm sure she could tell you where to find it. Good luck!

from jwalker :

Hey! Yeah, my new journal is at: http://www.livejournal.com/users/gilgongo

from gwenllian :

I hope it all works out. Thinking of you.

from gwenllian :

I wish I was closer so we could pal around. I have been needing a friend lately, too. Sorry you're feeling so down. I hope things get better.

from inkdragon :

10/31 Oh no. I scored an 11!

from inkdragon :

10/08/03 The guestbook is not working but luckily I saved my message before I lost it. People at work keep asking more and more of you because you won't say "NO!" "Sorry. My workload is full for the next couple of days." They are not going to fire you and you are the new person so they may be taking advantage of you (I think they are). About the daycare situation. It is not good, but you already know that. My sister-in-law, Deb, used to do daycare when she lived on the other side of our duplex (now one-family home). She was horribly self-absorbed and oblivious to the children. I talked to her until I was blue in the face. One time she was allowing an eight year old to pull a baby (10 months or so) is a wagon in the front of the house while she mowed the grass in the back! Yep, you can guess what happened. Just as I was on my way out to tell Caitlin she was going to fast to keep turning in circles, out went the baby right onto his face because he was trying to climb out as she was running with him. He was a bloody mess, I picked him up and ran him into the back yard where Deb was now talking on the cordless. She took him, never thanked me and I listened when the baby's father came to pick him up and she said she was right there when it happened. He told her he understood these things happen. At least, your provider was honest with you about not watching B when she fell; or she's too stupid or arrogant to realize she was wrong. All those activities you mentioned (showering, etc.) daycare providers are trained not to do before the state will license them. I would talk to her and tell her you feel B is really getting to be at an age when she needs to be watched constantly. Make like it is all about B's activity level and not the provider's unwillingness to do a proper job. If you are really afraid she may mistreat B, call Infoline and make a complaint. You do not have to leave your name. Good luck. I hope today is much better.

from inkdragon :

09/29/03 What a great picture. She is an adorable little peanut!

from inkdragon :

09/26/03 Tried to post this in guestbook, but the system is down AGAIN. What did YOU score on the Dr. Phil test? I took this a few days ago and scored a 40. Yes, I do edit emails before forwarding.

from inkdragon :

9/21/03 Men! Ugh. It's a good thing we need them to make the little sweeties. I hope she feels better sooner than soon!

from dombilly :

you live in CT, like Ray Bradbury and Airplane! you rock...now, what about LOTR?? lol. anyway, what part of Connecticut? me, Hebron. I go to RHAM High School. sound familiar??

from littlemummy :

I'm like that with the rain, too. I love the rain. The harder the rain the better. I don't, however, like overcast skies that drag on for all eternity. Unless it's raining. Know what I mean? Anyway, you aren't alone. I always think of the song by Garbage when it rains ... I'm only happy when it raaaaaiiiinnnnssss..

from littlemummy :

Hah! David Beckham is a football (soccer) player in England. He plays for my favourite team, Manchester United. Not to mention Team England. Oh, and he's married to Posh Spice. Heh.

from pregornot :

Thanks for the note, it's nice to have some sincere advice instead of the doomsday crap I get from most people. Thanks again!

from neo-geek :

Hi, I really like your layout. Actually, on second thought I'm just starved of compliments and was hoping by leaving vain, self-serving notes on other people's diaries more would look at mine. Anyway, try not to hate me more than's warranted. Oh, and keep up the good work.

from byfirstlight :

I want you to email me and tell me all about how the labor went. Because I'm next, and totally scared to death, but I wanted to hear it 100% and firsthand before you forget :)

from lkbrown :

Separation Anxiety in Dogs Most puppies, and some dogs, experience a high level of anxiety when left alone - even for very short periods of time. Most puppies learn that when they are left alone nothing bad happens to them, they are still okay, and their �humans� come back soon. They learn how to entertain themselves while alone and gain confidence in their ability to be alone. As they grow up and gain confidence in themselves, their �people� can leave them for longer periods of time. Some dogs, however, never gain that confidence in themselves. Some are left alone too long as puppies and become traumatized. Some dogs, for unknown reasons, have a low tolerance for anxiety. Other dogs have been in a cycle of neglect & abuse before finding their way to the animal shelter and eventually their �forever homes� with a well-meaning family. These dogs are likely to continue having low self-esteem even though they�re well-loved in their new homes. They still exhibit their learned behavior of separation anxiety. Any dog can become traumatized (unbeknownst to their �people�) by some event and can spontaneously begin to show signs of separation anxiety such as whining, barking, crying, scratching at the door, soiling the house or destroying your home and yard, etc. But, what can you do to help? Here are some methods: Begin by changing your �I�m leaving� routine. Dogs that exhibit separation anxiety usually begin to get anxious long before you walk out the door. Most people have a set �leaving ritual� that they go through before leaving the house. They put on their shoes, find their keys, put on their jacket, etc. Dogs learn this routine very quickly and if they already get anxious while left alone, this drawn out �leaving� routine can make matters worse. Scramble your departing cues. For example: Put on your shoes, your coat, grab your keys and sit down on the couch and watch television. Then, put them away and stay home. When you *do* leave the house, do so promptly. When you leave, turn around and come back after about 1 minute. Say hello to your dog in a low-key manner and go about your day. If you are overly anxious about leaving or coming home, you are conditioning your dog to be anxious as well. The first day, you will leave and come back about a dozen times. Each time you leave, increase the time you are gone: 1 minute, 2 minutes, 3 minutes, 5 minutes, etc. Any time you come home and your dog was exhibiting his anxious behavior (chewing, barking, etc.), cut the time you leave next time in half. If he�s still experiencing separation anxiety, cut your time in half again. You have to go slow to ensure success, and to teach your dog self-confidence and the ability to entertain himself. Once your dog is no longer anxious, start increasing the times again. Because of the time and commitment involved in these exercises, it�s best if you can do this one your vacation time for the first week or until you build up to about 4 hours of being alone with no anxiety from your dog. If vacation time is impossible, then start on Friday afternoon or evening, and make this your primary activity for the whole weekend. Then repeat this again the following weekend, varying the time that you�re gone. Leave for 30 minutes, then for 5 minutes, then for 10 minutes, then for 2 hours, etc. Also, check out our Kong toy brochure for some ideas on how to keep your dogs busy with a Kong toy when you leave. Dogs are social animals, and any dog that spends 8-10 hours a day, every day, alone may begin to exhibit obsessive behaviors that may or may not develop into separation anxiety. A dog that experiences separation anxiety usually does his damage as soon as (or very shortly after) you leave the house. A dog that is bored and lonely will become destructive after a few (usually 4-6) hours of being left alone. My best training tip for bored dogs is: �A tired dog is a well-behaved dog�. Basically, if you exhaust your dog mentally or physically, they won�t have the energy to be destructive. Another great confidence builder is any type of �doggie class�. Even if your dog knows all the basic obedience commands, he will benefit from a class environment. We offer an �Advanced� class where we �perfect� and build on some of the skills that you learn in a basic obedience class. We also offer a �Click-A-Trick� class that uses behavior-shaping techniques to shape a variety of tricks such as �Bow�, �Wave�, etc. Taking your dog to class increases the dogs confidence in being able to handle new situations, and also increases his confidence in you as a �leader�. Most importantly, though, it gives him the opportunity to socialize with other dogs and people and spend quality time with you. As a bonus, mental exhaustion tends to wear dogs out longer than physical exhaustion! If your dog is an �only dog�, it�s possible that this exacerbates his separation anxiety. Some dogs that don�t have canine companionship become overly dependent on their humans. Sometimes referred to as �Velcro dogs� (a dog that seems to stick to you wherever you go), they experience a great amount of stress whenever they aren�t accompanied by a human. Although not recommended as a cure-all, you may want to consider getting another dog or puppy for companionship. Another wonderful option is to find a playmate for your dog. A weekly visit to or from a dog-playmate can be very beneficial to �only dogs� (even those that don�t suffer from sep. anxiety!). Dogs benefit greatly from canine companionship. Schedule a playtime for your dog with another dog that he likes once or twice a week. Be sure to spend daily QUALITY time with your dog. One-on-one time spent with your dogs for at least 15-20 minutes a day can help your dog feel more secure in his environment as well as help strengthen the bond between you. Even if you have a Velcro-dog, quality, one-on-one time where your attention is focused on your dog is essential. This time should not consist of stroking, cuddling, or babying. Instead, it should consist of doing things to build a strong owner/dog relationship and raise the confidence of your dog. Fun obedience work using positive reinforcement (as is taught in our classes), interspersed with fun games of fetch, chase, etc. can be very beneficial for the psychological well-being of your dog.

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