messages to mel-is-dvash:
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from h2ophobic :
Hi! I went to your new DL blog. It's great, but neither the notes or comments are working. Have fun with your new iphone! Take care.
from fifidellabon :
Will you let us know where you go, though? XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Keep writing! I am so excited when I hear of a new writing project. It makes me want to read it immediately! XOFifi
from alienamiss :
I like the set-up of your template, but not the colors. I sat, while poking through entries, admiring the good spacing of the coding. I read 3-4 of your initial entries; loved the part about humans being worth more than any arangement of text. Very quotable.
from fifidellabon :
I am sorry for your pain. In the words of Sally Kellerman "Ya gotta be you! If you're not you, who's gonna be you?!" Thanks for your words of wisdom. Yes, water all the way, and I am right back to normal. Mel, it is amazing how dehydrated people can get! We ought to know better! XOFifi
from xxjamxx :
No worries. Despite my resentment to these sort of things, I've as such, moved on. It was a couple of years ago after all.
from xxjamxx :
Hello. I read your diary, and think you are funny. I hope you don't mind, but I'm lsiting you as one of my favourite diaries
from teachin-usa :
Hi Mel, You haven't updated in a while- I hope all's well and you're just busy~
from fifidellabon :
Don't waste your energy on self-hatred if you possibly can. Perhaps if you could channel your energy into anything at all but that, then the bed feelings might dissipate. Every human deserves love...wishing you good things. XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Oh, Mel, warm sun sounds nice right now! But I know that things will pass, and all will look brighter. In the mean time I will count my numerous blessings! Thanks for bringing them to mind! XOFifi
from fireflyez76 :
Do you have an email I can give you the username and password?
from fireflyez76 :
I just found your diary recently, and love the way you write. I have hopes of sitting down one of these days and starting from the beginning. I am a native of New England, whereabouts did you live? The weather this year is bitter cold!
from theflyingrat :
Most of the time when I'm writing it's because I'm putting off doing something else too. Thinking of you! xoxo
from life-my-way :
So happy for S1--intelligence sounds like just the thing for him! You'll be in my prayers as you prepare for this big change in your life, gaining RS and losing, I suppose, S1. Oh, and also very proud of D2 for having a plan, really hope it works for her. Love and light(s), K
from h2ophobic :
I was wondering how your meeting went with the mother of S1's love? I keep hoping to read that she's changed her mind and will allow them to marry. I guess I'm just a romantic at heart for young love. Take care.
from annanotbob :
Hello dear, I can see you're online, hope you're having a better day, less pain, more laughs. Hugs xxx
from annanotbob :
{{{hugs}}}
from yarnsmith :
Sounds like you had a wonderful trip. Sometimes I dream about being able to travel the world...The dead sea is one area I have on my dream itinerary....for now, I'll visit vicariously through you.
from annanotbob :
So glad you enjoyed Mr Minchin. I always think of you with the comedy clips Love xxx
from fifidellabon :
Well, I never even think of you as a cripple, but how about then just be an inspirational woman? Oh, you are already! XOFifi
from im2qt2kr :
I agree. I think another diary would do you a world of good. It can be locked, and if there are certain ones you want to see it, you can give them, and them alone, a pass word.
from h2ophobic :
I finally created a locked diary so I can write about my grief and anger about losing Jeff. People are so kind here, but I feel so naked and vulnerable when I write about it in my public diary. Those who can't understand what we've been through and try to live with every day...bless their hearts. Take care.
from yarnsmith :
Sorry to hear about your toe. Israeli nachos sound yummy...I prefer mozzerella. I also LOVE Mad Men and also, I don't know why.
from h2ophobic :
Shelby & I read Slaughterhouse Five this summer. We both thoroughly enjoyed it. Now we both say "so it goes" and "if the accident will" all the time.
from yarnsmith :
It really all does boil down to attitude doesn't it. I get kind of pissy every day about what I hate about my life...then I remember that the program taught me that I was responsible for how I feel...sometimes I like to wallow in the crap though...sometimes it just feels good to have a pity party. I'm glad you are thinking positively.
from h2ophobic :
The Secret Garden has always been one of my favorite books. When I was in elementary school, one of my teachers was a wonderful reader. I learned my love of reading from her. Every Friday, after we'd finished our spelling tests, she would read to us for the rest of the day. The Secret Garden was my favorite. I read it to my kids and look forward to one day reading it to my grandchildren. I'd forgotten about it, so thanks for sharing. It was a wonderful reminder about a fun time in my childhood and my kids childhoods. Take care!
from im2qt2kr :
Uhhhhhh, recipes! Hope you share them.
from yarnsmith :
I think the death of someone we knew, whether we had a good relationship or not....even an animal...affects us in deep and profound ways and it does zap some of the life out of us until we accept that someone who had always been alive while we were alive or someone who had been with us for so long....is gone. I really think somewhere deep inside you are processing Lloyds death and he trip in general and it is just wiping you out. Just go with it...let the world be...let yourself heal. Love your pics...your grandchildren and precious.
from life-my-way :
The grandchildren are as cute as they can be--so excited to be seeing pictures of them!!! And that photo of you is fantastic, your smile is so pretty. Great to see you all. Oh, and thanks for the memory, John used to LOVE to make people draw things for him, Zach is so cute doing the same.
from life-my-way :
I'm back again to thank you for your generosity and wisdom (again). You're correct, of course, focus is butterfly-like in its tendency to elude those who chase it. Also correct in acceptance being the way (hard, that). I appreciate your friendship and insight. I also loved hearing about the grandbabies and would absolutely adore seeing a photo of the tots (if you have a minute and wouldn't mind sharing).
from yarnsmith :
How nice that you got to spend time with your grand children.
from yarnsmith :
What ever you would have said to that rude couple would have gone in one ear and out the other. People have their minds made up and it is only frustrating to try to make small minded people see your rational point of view. Your trip sounded exhausting...I'll bet you're glad to be home.
from life-my-way :
Thank you for your sweet note! I am a million times glad you are back and missed you terribly during your adventure. Sorry you ran afoul of one of Gd's vile, blameless children--seems they're everywhere! Welcome back. Love, K
from h2ophobic :
You are such a good story teller! I'm appalled at the behavior of the couple who questioned you about Israel. I guess it's true, bad mannered people are everywhere! Take care.
from h2ophobic :
I'm glad you're home. I thought of you often in the last two weeks.
from im2qt2kr :
I just saw that you added me to your list of favorites. Thank you so much, that was very sweet of you. I look forward to reading through your diary.
from yarnsmith :
Have a great trip. Will you be in Chicagoland at all?
from h2ophobic :
Good luck on your trip. I'll be praying for you. I know you're not going for a fun reason, but I hope you get to enjoy yourself a bit. {HUGS}
from yarnsmith :
Will you be staying in the Chicago area when you come?
from yarnsmith :
Stress is the worst but change and the stress it brings and all those nasty old thoughts and feelings that we thought we had buried well up and makes for not such a pleasant time....all the better as a measuring stick to measure the good times by like swimming and good movies that make you laugh. (((HUGS)))
from teachin-usa :
Wow Mel this is heavy stuff! Take it easy when you can. {{{}}}}
from h2ophobic :
I'm so glad you were able to go swimming. It's sounds like you had a great time with your family. I hope you do get to keep going twice a week.
from h2ophobic :
Thank you for your sweet note. I am on Facebook too, but rarely go there anymore. I too got in touch with several people from my past. After a bit I realized that the reason I'd lost touch with them was because we didn't have anything in common anymore. I much prefer DL, where I can write about my life and read about the lives of others. Take care and good luck with your new home search!
from annanotbob :
Hello honey - thanks for the postcard - it really lifted my spirits. I think you answered your own question with regard to this woman. Your first duty is to your self and then to your family and crazy-making people need to be avoided. I know this is kind of counter-intuitive for the likes of you and me, who feel we have to try and ease the pain of everyone we meet, but it's the truth. We must look after ourselves first and not let ourselves be drained by people who we often can't really help. I can see it in you and you can see it in me. Big hugs, your friend always, Anna xxx
from wyndspirit :
I think you're doing the right thing in keeping a line of communication open with this woman. But we can't always "fix" things. Perhaps keeping a line of communication open with her is ALL you are supposed to be doing, and the responsibility of everything else belongs to others. Don't feel bad that you can't do more. Just be glad that you may in this way somehow help Moshe.
from fifidellabon :
Mel, what a beautiful note you wrote to Anna. You are a wonderful shining light! XOFifi
from life-my-way :
Joan of Arcadia is one of my all time favorite shows--I went into mourning when it was canceled. I should look to see if I can buy seasons of it on Amazon. I'm glad you've found it too. Wishing best for D1 and for you all--including Peppito in his new life! K.
from h2ophobic :
I NEVER get tired of reading anything to write! You're funny, honest, inspiring and a very good writer. I'll always be here...waiting for an entry. Take care of that colc!
from yarnsmith :
I wonder if Netanyahu explains his position to the world in his speech if the media would even make sure the world heard it.
from manfromvenus :
So, I learned a new word today: p'kok. Thanks Mel! xx J.
from teachin-usa :
Take care Mel- summer colds are no fun. And thanks also for the rocket update.
from wyndspirit :
Catching up... A few entries ago you said something about feeling like you should respond to comments and feel bad when you don't have the energy, don't recall the details. Anyway, when I comment, I just have something I want to share with you and don't expect a reply. If you have something to say about it that YOU'D like to share, fine. Otherwise, I don't expect "thank you for your kind comment" responses just because I left a comment. If that makes any sense. As to the situation with TH... I see my mom going through that and mentally cheer that she just doesn't put up with it like she used to. She will yell back at him for the first time EVER. It doesn't do any good, of course, but, hey, it makes HER feel better! She doesn't SAY that, of course, but I can sense it when she tells me about it. But, anyway, I think just considering and researching makes a person feel better because you're DOING something about the situation.
from yarnsmith :
I've been in situations where I felt I had no life, and watching from the outside while other have hugely active lives...then things will pick up and I'll wish for solitude...I am good with solitude...then things will get active again and it will be good for a while..then I just get too overwhelmed with it all. I realized, when looking at my sisters active, exciting life that although I would like some of what she has...I don't think I'd cope well with all she has going on..it's just too much. It's OK to whine yourself into a better mood...that's why we humans whine...it releives stress, and lets us be our own parent and say "There..there...now.".
from life-my-way :
Thank you for the sweet note! I meant to write to you--the entry about leaving TH had such an intense impact on me, I almost felt like I was the one making that decision and felt, strangely, relieved. I'm glad things have improved and also glad that you've got the resolve to take care of yourself should they worsen. You've been in my prayers and on my mind. Love, K
from annanotbob :
Hugs and hugs, dear Mel. I've missed a bit and am amazed at what's been going on. I wish you peace and strength xxx
from h2ophobic :
It's not the same as your flashbacks, but I can understand not being able to be in the here and now. When my grief hits me hard, I can't function. I just have to go home and sit quietly until I can process my way through it. I've told my family and friends "I'm sorry, but I'm too sad to do anything else right now." {HUGS}
from yarnsmith :
Perhaps you could call your acupuncturist Dr. Pins or The Pin Dr.? That is what they "puncture" you with isn't it??? Ouch...I said that like it hurt. Sorry. Glad to hear you're making progress and had a nice, full day.
from wyndspirit :
I can't tolerate strident noise... That's why I try to avoid going out to the farm during the week when I have to endure Dad's endless talk radio. Then at work we have the constant music, and it isn't stuff I care fore, boring light pop and the same 100 songs endlessly. When I get to the farm on weekends when the radio plays classic country music and "old time" music (polkas, walzes, this IS German country) or when I would clean for Bob and he had public radio in (which is the music I grew up listening to) I remember how much I do love music, but I never play my fancy stereo system or 100's of CDs at home. It's like I need the silence to rejuvenate to be able to face the world. And yet I LIKE music! I miss music, wished I listened to it more.
from manfromvenus :
I wonder how much it's about noise, and how much noise might just be the straw that broke the camel's back. I had problems with noisy neighbours once, and it took me to the brink. It wasn't the lost sleep, though, so much as their attitude. It felt like a personal attack. Nowadays, I'd reach for my Bose noise-cancelling headphones; can't recommend them enough a although you have to stop using them every few hours, or you'll get horrible ear infections. Got to let things breathe - even ears! Jxx
from manfromvenus :
Poor Peppito. I know it feels wrong when an animal has to be put to sleep, but they're not like us. When they're confused or in pain, and it isn't going to get any better... you can't comfort them properly. You can't explain it. And I don't believe they understand death in the way we do. So... it's reasonable to be sad, but maybe it's time for some tough love. And when the time comes, don't feel guilty. Remember happier times.
from yarnsmith :
I wanted to comment on yesterdays post but didn't get a chance until tonight. I am glad you felt good enough to get out and about. I know I don't have MS but my weight had gotten so out of hand and I literally became immobile as far as getting out and walking and being on my feet for any length of time. I am now walking almost two miles including some killer hills but I did injur my foot (too much weight I think) and I lost 35 pounds so far...so now I have a day where I walk like crazy and climb hills, then I am crippled all the next day waiting for my sore ankle and foot to rest. I have resigned myself to a day on...a day off...it's just the way it is but the mobility has been wonderful...so I continue. Just rest on the days after you have outdone yourself and I know you are thankful for the days you can enjoy. Regarding what you said about friends the other day and not quite understanding how all that works....I can sooo identify and yes the rules to change. Sometimes I wonder if I have a little touch of a kind of autism that makes it hard to read people socially. I do so much better on the internet where my well thought out words can speak for me without the body language messing it all up for me.
from h2ophobic :
I am amazed and thrilled for you about your increasing physical strength. I wonder if perhaps this is what is giving you more emotional strength as well. Bless you, my friend.
from annanotbob :
Oh Mel - I am so thrilled to hear of your trip to the shop! Carrying all that liquid!! Brilliant. And the other stuff. {{{hugs}}}
from wyndspirit :
We've sent a few people into the military... I hope it makes it easier for you that it's also what he WANTS, not just what's required. Scary how your kids are growing up... Shows how long I've been reading!
from yarnsmith :
I just wanted to leave a note and tell you that I'm thinking about you and that it must be tough to send a kid off to the army. I'm glad you are the kind of Mom who can let a child go into the world to become what they are meant to be...still...I know it doesn't come without some pain. Glad to hear you're feeling good.
from acaldwell :
i am really surprised over the fact that the 2nd most powerful army in the world dont suppy its troops with basic needs like BOOTS and GEAR!!! and bitch over a TOWEL? WTF? in the US MILITARY all your needs are provided for!
from yarnsmith :
I understand your angst on the 300#. I have been there and beyond. For a while, I just didn't step on a scale and pretended it just wasn't true. I am short. When I looked in the mirror it aint pretty. I finally have dipped below that big 3 # for the first time since I got sober (I was only 200 when I got sober and traded booze for food and inactivity)...Now I am on a downward and mobile trend and I won't stop until I'm where I should be. I too tune into voices and inflections easily. The sounds of some people's voices actually make me high. My daughter and I are the only ones I know who get high off of certain voices....voices with foreign accents are particularly potent.
from acaldwell :
i hope you get lotsa rest!!
from yarnsmith :
The biggest lesson I have to learn every day is what will happen will happen in God's time with God's blessing and I should simply be happy that the Master has a plan and although I don't know what that plan is, I am part of it. We have lived in our house 4 years and still aren't moved in either so don't feel alone in that. I think that's pretty normal actually....it takes a while to grow roots.
from wyndspirit :
Sorry I missed your birthday, but glad it was a good one! I'm going to be getting caught up here over the next while, so if you get lots of hits, it's probably me!
from manfromvenus :
Thanks for your kind comment today - and happy birthday! Best wishes - Jx
from acaldwell :
יום הולדת שמח!
from h2ophobic :
Happy birthday! It sounds like you had a lovely day. You deserved it and many more lovely days!
from teachin-usa :
Happy Birthday Mel!!
from acaldwell :
happy birthday!!! wheeeeee!!
from acaldwell :
aww its ok that the kids got the keyboard, and dont knock yerself getting a new one either!! its all good!! and the kitty sounds just what you need. if i had a home, i'd get me one!
from bindyree :
Hey, Mel, thank you very much for the info, your donation is right here. I will be posting a picture of the cat's drumstick in a future blog post; stay tuned and see where your money is! :-)
from acaldwell :
i enjoy chattin with you!!!
from bindyree :
Hey, Mel, where did you send your donation? I don't know if it has showed up in PayPal yet; could you please email me and tell me what your name is out in real life so I can see which donation was yours? I appreciate it. Thanks! xoxo Brin
from acaldwell :
thank you for donating!! and i hope you get well soon!! all of you!!
from yarnsmith :
Glad to hear your holiday went well. Sorry to hear about your friend.
from acaldwell :
zissen Pesasch to you and you are in my thoughts and prayers and especially for your Friend. be online when you can, and dont worry, we are here when you can be!!
from life-my-way :
You're in my thoughts and prayers as D1 goes through her stuff. Wishing what's best for your sick friend and strength and comfort for you. Happy Passover.
from fifidellabon :
Blessings to you, Ms. Mel. XOFifi
from acaldwell :
youre so welcome!! Tihii be cesher!!
from yarnsmith :
Ugh, I can't stand to stand and I don't have MS like you. For some reason, If I sand too long, I have trouble getting walking again. I don't know why, most likely my weight and being out of shape. I'm glad the acupuncture is giving you some relief.
from acaldwell :
im just catching up here. im sorry to hear about your grandmother cat. (((((((((HUGS))))))))))) keyboard is on the way to you!
from h2ophobic :
I'm sorry about your cat. I'm so glad you have the kitten to keep yourself occupied.
from life-my-way :
Sorry about the loss of grandmother cat--it's hard to lose them even when they're old and difficult, or it was with my old and difficult 13 year old German Shepherd. Anyway, my sympathy. Love, K
from acaldwell :
how about naming the kitty ketsl? that would fit! also, please email me your snail mail addy so i can send you a keyboard!
from acaldwell :
please email me [email protected] with your snail mail address...im going to hustle you up a keyboard, forthwith! and send it to you, no charge! because you need a good keyboard.
from acaldwell :
i hope S2 gets well soon, and that you get some good sleep!
from bornearly :
I was listening to a friend on the radio talking about her horses, and she said she had learned to always be "authentic" around them because they could tell if she was in a bad mood even if she was trying to hide it. I always try to be cheery and pleasant to strangers even if I'm feeling really crappy, but this made me wonder a) why, and b) if there is a way to present that kind of authenticity to the world without putting people uncomfortably on the spot. I'm working on it. Somehow, gentle truth in bearing right now seems more important to me than putting on a face.
from h2ophobic :
I just woke up, so I could only think of one. Benign. Good luck!
from annanotbob :
ensign, malign, design, you could google 'spelling lists -ign' - my computer is being slow or I'd do it. Being with your real feelings is crucial to recovery, I'm told. Yours in sadness, xxx
from acaldwell :
you are always in my thoughts!
from acaldwell :
video: awwwww!!
from h2ophobic :
That video is so sweet! Thanks for sharing.
from annanotbob :
Fabulous!! I still want to see a video of you though, or at least a picture xx
from bornearly :
You might find the answer to your Hebrew question here: http://forum.wordreference.com/showthread.php?t=1100550 Cheers!
from annanotbob :
{{{Hugs}}}
from acaldwell :
ive met some of my online pals, and most of the experience has been swell!! there are a lot of good people out here in diaryland, and it would be a great honor to meet you some day! שלום
from h2ophobic :
I loved reading about your time outside. I know you have to spend so much of your life indoors, how wonderful for you to enjoy that time. I've never met any of my online friends. I think about it a lot and wonder if we'd actually find anything to talk about. I'm not usually shy, but the thought of meeting someone I've shared so much with does make me feel that way. I tend to talk too much and later wish I'd kept my mouth shut. ;o)
from acaldwell :
i hope you have a peaceful weekend! i think of you often.
from theflyingrat :
That's a lot to take in for one day! Hope things are going okay, you are in my thoughts. xoxo
from acaldwell :
sorry to hear about your uncle. i want you to know that you are MOST WELCOME in my yard anytime, no holds barred!!! אוהב אותך ((((HUGS))))))
from yarnsmith :
Sorry to hear about your Uncle. I completely understand the not feeling welcome / not fitting in feeling. I too used to insert myself into groups yet never feel completely a part of the group. I never let myself get too close, that way they can't reject me. It is all inside us though..I'm sure of it. There must be something we do to hold people at arms length...and therefore...there is where they stay. I still have not figured it all out yet.
from annanotbob :
Hugs, honey. Sorry to have not noted for a while - I seem to be OK at leaving flippant comments on light-hearted diaries, but rubbish when people I care about are really going through stuff. But I'm here, I'm reading, I think of you often and you are ALWAYS WELCOME. Your friend, Anna xxx
from yarnsmith :
I am hoping for a netanyahu (sp) victory. How about you? Hope you feel better soon
from stepfordtart :
Hey Mel, thanks for your note - I didnt realise so many people would want to be interviewed - its astonishing! I'll send your questions soon - promise! Be safe. s x
from h2ophobic :
You're stuck with me. I've been reading you for too long to leave. They'd have to drag me away, kicking and screaming. Take care, friend.
from yarnsmith :
It never ceases to amaze me how people get so upset with what other people write...then...I went and did it myself...my mind has not been functioning well lately as it is year end and I am a bookkeeper...I have been pouring over excel spreadsheets picking little numbers out of thousands and my mind has entered speed reading mode...I found that this weekend in trying to recoup, my mind was speed reading everything and I read something where I thought I was being criticized and instead I was being defended and I went off on the blogger (a dear freind) who wrote it. I apologized he accepted and I am ashamed of myself....I am one who never gets involved in flames on the internet yet I have been drawn into them...Screw the people who have issues with what you write. Your blog is fascinating and people who read it should be lucky to have a window into your world. Take care and be safe...(((HUGS)))
from fifidellabon :
Eh, I get upset at first when someone drops me from their list, but I get over it. I feel that if they don't want to read what I write, we're both better off. To my embarrassment, though, one person who dropped me from their list not once but twice!, it still rankles me because they got all sorts of lovely diaries to read from my list. And they just bulldoze on and take over! (I know, wha wah wah...) I know petty, I should just sit back and be glad that I have been a link in enriching their lives. XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Oh, Mel, I could never be upset with you, even though we disagree on some things. Actually I had meant to write a note to you to say that one of the things that I really appreciate about you is that I am always learning something from you. Nah, I am freaking out about something totally unrelated to the post and comments. I do hope that I get over it soon, though as it is rahther annoying, this freaking out biz. XOFifi
from acaldwell :
(((((HUGS))))))))to you!!
from acaldwell :
you got nothing to be sorry about!! bless you and thanks for sharing! please stay safe!
from h2ophobic :
Although our experiences are different, I totally get what you wrote about not wanting to feel the "bad" feelings. And being told that you shouldn't. It's been almost 3 years since we lost Jeff and I still grieve daily. Those around me are tired of my grief. They think I should be over it by now. God bless them, they don't have any idea what true grief is (like those you know with don't have any idea what you're dealing with.) My New Year's resolution is not to share my loss with non-family anymore. It makes them uncomfortable and then I end up comforting them instead of getting the comfort I'm longing for.
from theflyingrat :
I know I don't comment much but I am reading and I do think of you often. *hugs* xoxo
from annanotbob :
Thinking of you and praying for your safety always {{{hugs}}}
from acaldwell :
i will be praying for that 7 YO. please if you would mel, be safe!! if you would, send me an email i wanna know what Israeli Rights and how the government treats its citizenry. Ive always admired the Israeli People and very interested to compare our constitution to Isreal's! thanks!
from acaldwell :
please stay safe!
from fifidellabon :
We're praying for your safety. XOFifi
from yarnsmith :
Sorry to hear the pain is back. I'll bet it's the stress of the war, stress seems to make everything in our bodies worse. I hope the acupuncture treatment works.
from annanotbob :
{{{hugs}}}
from acaldwell :
well, i scored an 87.5% !!! not bad for an above average american like myself!! thanks for the link!
from yarnsmith :
Wow...I'm shocked at myself...I got 6 wrong and I got em wrong fair and square. Still...I didn't outright fail. That was fun and eye opening. Paula
from yarnsmith :
Glad to hear you are putting the booms in the back of your mind and that you got out for a visit.
from fifidellabon :
Good to know that you are still safe. XOFifi
from yarnsmith :
(((HUGS!!!)))
from acaldwell :
please be safe!!
from annanotbob :
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers all the time. Be safe, dear Mel xxx
from yarnsmith :
I am so grateful for you diary and the opportunity to get a first hand account of your lives there. You know...for all the peace loving acts like giving aid to your enemy....I'm wondering if this kind of stuff, although good for PR, doesn't just prolong war. Selfish, war minded people are never grateful for help. Being kind doesn't always breed kindness...still...it says alot for the Israelis to offer help to those who live on the other side who are also victims of their government's intolerance...if we could only believe those innocents are getting the aid. I hope there is an afterlife where the rewards for being kind in this world to ingrates who want to kill us will be rewarded in the next. One can never know but I guess it helps to try to believe. I'm wondering....if you put Jewish blood into those Jordanian blood bags and gave them time to use them before announcing that their was now Jewish blood running through Muslim veins if they would kill themselves or come to an understanding that they are still alive and did not implode....Oh if it were only like Dr. Suesses "Sneeches" story. Thank you for writing Mel and take care. Paula
from teachin-usa :
Oh- I worry about you so much! Hopefully this period of many rockets will end soon.
from acaldwell :
שָׁלוֹם עָלֵיכֶם!
from yarnsmith :
Hang in there girl. Paula
from yarnsmith :
I am praying for you, your family and Israel every day Mel...God bless and if you can't bring yourself to write every day...maybe just an "I'm OK and alive" now and then would let us know that our prayers are being heard. Paula
from fifidellabon :
Do what you need to do for you. You are important, and try not to forget that. I am glad to hear that you are uninjured, but it cannot be easy living in a war. I will keep you in my thougths and prayers. XOFifi
from acaldwell :
its monday morning here and i read in the paper this morning about all thats going on there, i really hope you are safe!!
from yarnsmith :
Hi...it's me...Paula (yarnsmith is my old dland name)...I'm sitting here trying to relate and wonder what it's like to just go on with your life in a war zone but I can't relate...sounds terrifying to me. So glad you are feeling better in order to deal with it better.
from acaldwell :
people need to leave Israel alone! enough already!!!
from annanotbob :
Kiss kiss xx
from boxx9000 :
Hi! I rec'd a post card from you the other day, too. THANKS. I had no idea it took so long for mail to go overseas, about 10 days?
from annanotbob :
Still here, still unable to articulate a one-to-one response. Still thinking of you and sending you love and a big hug xxx
from boxx9000 :
I'll send you the password but I need your email addy to do so. My email addy is [email protected]
from acaldwell :
you need bedrest instead of driving all around the country!! get well soon!!
from fifidellabon :
Oh, my, I do hope that things pick up for you. Wishing you wellness! XOFifi
from h2ophobic :
I can't imagine how you're dealing with this bronchitis/asthma on top of your MS. I had a "bug" that lasted almost 4 weeks and I was at the end of my rope. Then as I was finally feeling better, I threw my lower back out. I'm sorry the doctors can't seem to find the right medicine for you. I had to smile at your fortune at having a Russian lady doctor. Our urgent care also has a Russian lady doctor. I prefer her even though we have trouble communicating. She's very empathetic. I hope you feel better soon!
from annanotbob :
{{{hugs}}}}
from acaldwell :
hiya mel! i dunno if you smoke or not, but the dr. here years ago tossed around broncitis at me, only in the wintertime, tho. i just call it the crud. it gets tossed around from person to person like a football! i suffer from it, and cant seem to shake it!
from annanotbob :
Hugs xxx
from bindyree :
Oh, you have stuffed critters! Our household collects stuffed bunnies, but a bear or two has won us over, too. Critters rule!
from acaldwell :
hiya mel! long time ago, i used to sleep flat, and got the gunk acculmated and in the morning would hack up 1/2 a lung, especially in cold winter! but a nurse told me to sleep with my head raised slightly over my torso, for that i use 2 or 3 pillows, and now no more gunk settling in for me to hack up in the morning!! this might help ya i dunno! shalom!
from acaldwell :
hiya! i hope your sicknesses get healed soon!!
from annanotbob :
{{{hugs}}} and prayers darling xxx
from acaldwell :
howdy mel!!! i discovered you thru my site meter, then i went to my profile to see who added me and there you is!!! howdy howdy!! thanks for reading my stuff, and i will add you to my buddylist!!!
from stepfordtart :
Tell D3 that the braces pain wears off quicker than you think. Jooj will second that if D3 emails her - Jooj has braces top and bottom! s x PS hope you feel better VERY VERY soon.
from boxx9000 :
sorry you are sick. I WISH YOU LOTS OF HEALTH, PEACE, LOVE, and HAPPINESS.
from mahvalicious :
Oh, Mel, I feel so bad that you're still sick. Hope the trip isn't too tough and that you're on your way to getting better.
from life-my-way :
Hoping you feel better and make the trip with relative ease. Oh, and that the lines are short.
from life-my-way :
I have clothes that contain messages like that--so I'm absolutely positive the Kleenex mean that YOU are beautiful. And, hopefully, feeling fine and having fun very soon.
from fifidellabon :
I'll bet that what they mean is to fill in that four digit extension of the zip code if you know it...I like your thoughts better! XOFifi
from annanotbob :
xxxx
from h2ophobic :
I hope you feel better very soon. This may sound odd to you, but I feel the need to tell you anyway. I pray for you and your family's safety every day. I read your entries and cannot even fathom living with the dangers that you do. Take care!
from stepfordtart :
Aww, feel better soon, dear. And be safe. My thoughts are with you. s xxxx
from life-my-way :
I'm sorry to read your sadness, fear and frustration this (happy) morning. Please know that we do pray for you, love you and support you. From my point of view as a resident of the US, I have spent the last 8 years under a regime that would take my son out of his day job and send him to fight and die with his National Guard unit far, far from home and that the absence of specific desire to kill these men and women makes them no less dead. Hope, it's never false. Feel better, love, K.
from boxx9000 :
HAPPY HALLOWEEN
from fifidellabon :
We get to read because of your graciousness in sharing. Please don't ever worry about losing readers. If anyone takes you off of their list, well, in my experience, they were probably just too far off from your wavelength. Keep up all of your lovely good progress. I totally enjoy your writing! XOFifi
from boxx9000 :
There was a post card in my mail boXx!!! WheeeEE! THANK YOU!
from boxx9000 :
((((hugs)))) I spent many years avoiding my husband, making myself unavailable for his abuse, which was also IGNORING me. I wish we had gotten a counselor to help us work thru our problems. So many wasted days, YEARS! Everything is good now between us. Maybe we had to go thru the bad to appreciate the good? I wish there had been an easier way. I'm thinking of you and hoping for better days. YOU DESERVE to be HAPPY, please do not settle for anything less than. It's not good for your kids, THEY deserve to have parents who love each other. TH can't be happy with this situation either. Would counseling help or is this just *making the best of a bad situation* type thing?
from annanotbob :
xxx
from h2ophobic :
You're knitting again! That a huge accomplishment, both physically and emotionally. I'm so happy for you. I hope you continue to be able to do the little things that bring you joy. Your remark about your dogs reminded me of something. A week or so ago, I had a terrible panic attack at work and was unable to reach my therapist (it was her day off...she's entitled to have a day off.) I finally went to our school psychologist and he helped me with some relaxation exercises. One of the things he asked me was where is my safe place. I replied without thinking "Sitting on my couch, surrounded by my dogs." Dogs are so comforting and really ask very little from us. A little food and a lot of love is all they want.
from annanotbob :
Aw Mel, he is just adorable! I was kind of hoping to see some footage of his Ma... Love and hugs sweetie xxx
from h2ophobic :
One thing my therapist tells me almost weekly is "You can only do what you can do." There are others who can do more. There are others who can't even do as much as you. You've raised your children well. If you need them to take over for awhile, they're capable of doing it. Because you're a good mom and have taught them well. I hope you feel much better soon!
from fifidellabon :
Of COURSE you are good enough, and more! Did Hashem make you to feel inadequate? Mais non! You are his child, and you do amazing things. I am in awe of you! XOFifi
from boxx9000 :
((((hugs)))) so sorry you are feeling so down. The feeling will pass, all will be well. trust. believe. ((((hugs))))
from annanotbob :
SO glad to know your bad days are better than the good ones used to be. S3 sounds adorable too xxxx
from boxx9000 :
I'm proud of you for exercising!
from wyndspirit :
Bold and larger font are the Gold/Supergold members. I guess that's supposed to make us feel special!
from stepfordtart :
Hey Mel! If you're finished with the hot weather can we have it? Its been raining here FOREVER! s x
from annanotbob :
xxx
from boxx9000 :
Do you know http://cosmic.diaryland.com ? Her daughter was recently diagnosed with MS. Have you been able to exercise lately? You seemed to feel better when you were. I can't exercise right now because I'm having a bleeding problem. (sigh) Hopefully, it won't last long.
from annanotbob :
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
from annanotbob :
I don't like not liking people either, which is one of the reasons I like working with teenagers - they're not yet fixed into who they are. The truth is some adults aren't good people and you don't have to like them. Wishing you good times with nice people and a big hug xxx
from h2ophobic :
Thanks for sharing D1's great news. I've been praying for her for (how many?) months now. It's so good when you get to see or hear about answered prayers!
from wyndspirit :
Yay to working on getting out of debt! It feels so good to at least appear to have a little control over SOMETHING in life.
from life-my-way :
Glad to hear from you and so sorry to hear about D1's family falling apart--multiple parents sounds so ideal, but then I think how hard it sometimes is for even 2 parents to get along. ha. I'll keep D1, all of you (and the little boy) in my heart. I hope you post photos when you get a chance, I always love your pictures! Love, K
from fifidellabon :
Wow! What a full life! It must have been hard to report that boy's family, but I think that all the NYC cases show us what can and does happen when no one acts. XOFifi
from boxx9000 :
I've been thinking about you and hoping all was well. This year I have added ISRAEL to our studies of ANCIENT HISTORY. I'll let you know how it goes.
from mahvalicious :
Hi Mel, Lena here. Thanks for the comment in my recent post and wanting to hear "more." I'd love to hear the story of how you ended up in Israel. Just a suggestion. Glad you seem to be doing so well. Lovely Daughter's future mother-in-law has MS also, so it's something we're somewhat familiar with.
from annanotbob :
We'll still be here - so glad you're getting out and about - and in the heat! Get you!!! Love and hugs xxxx
from annanotbob :
Hey! I got a post-card from Chicago today!! Thanks - it was just the thing to cheer me up xxx
from yarnsmith :
Hi Mel...Paula here, formerly from snicker-snak.blogspot.com. Time management is a big problem for me too....that is why I had to quit writing a diary for a while until I have things under control...but today, I'm reading...gotta keep up with my buddies. Have a great day.
from boxx9000 :
post cards, knitting, pictures, AND exercise?! (those are a few of my favorite things) hehehe. Good to see you update. I have to go back to school today. cry. cry. cry.
from h2ophobic :
I just love (not) people who think they know me better than I know myself. I'm one to plan for the worse as well. If things work out better than I'd planned, I'm just pleasantly surprised. But if they do work out the way I'd thought they would, at least I'm prepared. Our school district has a program called Title 1, for slower students. It's NOT special ed, it's just extra help. Most students are tested very early (1st or 2nd grade) and then if needed, they get an aide assigned to them for the extra help. I wish the school my boys attended in CA had had a program like this, because neither of them were very good readers and school would have been a lot easier for both of them. Shelby began reading in Kindergarten and has been an avid reader ever since. It just goes to show that each child is different. I read to all 3 of my kids and encouraged them to read for enjoyment. When Jeff was in high school, he finally began to enjoy reading. Mike still hates it. There's just no rhyme or reason to it.
from boxx9000 :
Hi Mel, I was wondering where you have been. WELCOME BACK.
from fifidellabon :
Wow, have you EVER been busy!!!! And sesame seeds! Yay! I can never get enough. They make a sort of sweet that is mainly sesame seeds and I cannot even buy it because if I do, I will promptly eat it alllll! XOFifi
from annanotbob :
Thanks Mel - I tried to reply on email but my hotmail is all fucked up. Wise words. I'm going to write to the psych and ask for his rationale in making the diagnosis. Big hugs, darling Mel {{{Mel}}} xxx
from boxx9000 :
I should have sent you the jigsaw puzzle I took to family reunion. All the in-laws just complained about it being too hard to do. (the hot air balloons)
from stepfordtart :
Funny how things go, isnt it. I was looking at your pictures of the chickens and thinking 'how lovely', then I saw they were eating a watermelon. I looked at watermelons in the supermarket today (my kids love them) but I didnt get one because I couldnt afford it. Where you are, they're chicken food, and here they're a luxury item! We had bananas instead. Dont know how chicken feel about bananas! s x
from annanotbob :
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
from stepfordtart :
Just catching up! Lovely photos! Thanks for your card (if I havent said so already - sorry, bit brain-fried!) and a ((hug)) to you just because. s x
from teachin-usa :
Hi Mel. I drew you in my comic yesterday- doesnt look much like you but I labeled it "Mel". Enjoy! S
from l-empress :
Quick and simple remedy for sunburn: milk of magnesia. It's one of those chemicals that has a dozen uses if you keep it around the house.
from h2ophobic :
There's an old saying that goes something like this: You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. I'm not close to any of my family anymore. There was a time that I was, but too many hurtful words and deeds have passed between us. The only parting that hurt was my younger cousin. I had practically raised her from the age of 14. I helped and encouraged her to get her GED when she quit high school at 16. I helped and encouraged her to go to college and get a degree after she became a unwed mother. So many things. But in the end, not only did she not appreciate anything I'd done for her, she didn't even acknowledge it. (Is that the word you were looking for...acknowledge?) HUGS.
from boxx9000 :
Little Peppito is such a cutie.
from boxx9000 :
sleep is good. sweet dreams. I'm sending you lots of good healthy vibes.
from boxx9000 :
I really enjoy the pictures. My toes are very short and stubby, I've always referred to them as Barney Rubble feet from the Flintstone's cartoons I watched as a child.
from h2ophobic :
Thanks for sharing your photos. Your husband looks AMAZINGLY like a man we know here. I loved the story of your son loving the movie so much, he was running around and squealing. Oh, to be carefree as an 8 year old boy!
from boxx9000 :
Hi, I got a post card in the mail from you. THANK YOU. I am loving all these photos of yours. It's so interesting to see your part of the world.
from boxx9000 :
Hi, I've just returned from my mini vacation and am trying to catch up on diary reading. WOW! I love, love, LOVE all the pictures you posted. That cake looks yummy. I think I am too hungry right now.
from teachin-usa :
Wow! You typed in Hebrew! COOOL!
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel! Just catching up. Thanks so much for the postcard - lovely beach! - and the good wishes. We had the loveliest day, I'll post all the pics up soon. Much love s x
from boxx9000 :
WOW! That was FANTASTIC to see all your pics. How many animals do you have? That's a lot of work to take care of all of them, isn't it?
from life-my-way :
I loved your pics today too! I'll try to post pics of my barrels--they're full of water and water plants, lotus, water lilies, etc., and they need a fish or two to eat mosquito larvae. Now they've got 'em. Your chicks are darling, I miss having chickens so much!
from boxx9000 :
I loved the pics today.
from h2ophobic :
You are so right about the media. I used to love to watch the news, because it was full of information. Now it seems, at least here in the US, if it doesn't pertain to Britney Spears or the 2008 election...it's not news.
from boxx9000 :
When you say you're NOT talking to people and NO one has noticed, do you mean REAL people are DIARY people? I always feel if someone doesn't feel like talking than people should respect their choice.
from boxx9000 :
I LOVE red licorice (and black, too) I recently discovered that they have WHEAT in them??? (cry)
from boxx9000 :
Twizzlers? Red licorice?
from fifidellabon :
That is one cuuuuuute dog! XOFifi
from boxx9000 :
Did someone say POSTCARDS?! That's sad about your exercycle, I hope you get it repaired ASAP. The treadmill is broken here AND the elliptical, too. I've been too busy the last two days to work out anyways, but I sure hope it is repaired by SATURDAY morning. I guess I will have to go to the fancy gym if this one doesn't get fixed NOW!
from boxx9000 :
I was shocked by the long beard, how long as he been growing it?
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel! I locked up for a bit. If you want the p/w please email me. Much love s x
from boxx9000 :
We've not met my daughter's live-in-boyfriend's parents (yet) Now that she is PREGNANT I think we should, no? I'm a bit upset about her unmarried status, but there will be a grandchild by the end of the year. I've been waiting for THEM to contact US (we contacted my son's girlfriend's parents and arranged for dinner for them to announce their engagement) I've always thought the invite should come from the young MAN'S family? But then again, I've always thought one should be married before they have children. (sigh)
from fifidellabon :
Your life is so full of new and exciting things! I smile just to think of all the chicks! And good job on the passed driving test! XOFifi
from boxx9000 :
"Teachers make a difference?" GOOD! because this has been the most stressful teaching year for me since I started teaching. I have lost 40 pounds due to the stress. Usually, as soon as I give in and let go and just TRUST and accept whatever the hell is going on, THAT'S when everything starts to sort itself out. Don't worry about losing weight, just keep on exercising and it will happen.
from annanotbob :
Love that poem about teaching! Fyi - your moaning is pretty low-level, I reckon. {{{hugs}}}
from fifidellabon :
Wishing you all good things. You rock! xoFifi
from mzbee :
I've always thought that raising my two kids was the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done. Parenting is an extremely important job. I have BIG news for my next entry.
from annanotbob :
Hurrah for painfree days xxx
from h2ophobic :
Happy Ima's Day! (Did I spell that right?) Do you celebrate Mother's Day in Israel?
from h2ophobic :
This entry touched me in a very strong way. My parents died when I was 6 years old. My mother died of a kidney failure (she had diabetes) and my father drowned in a fishing accident 6 weeks later. I was raised by my maternal grandmother and had very little contact with my father's family. My Grama rarely if ever spoke about my parents. If I asked questions, sometimes they were answered, sometimes she changed the subject. When she came to live with us in her late 80's I truly thought I would finally get the answers and information I'd longed for. They never came. When she died, I realized I would never know the things I wanted to. It sometimes makes me angry that no one bothered to share even basic information with me (I don't even know my dad's birthday.) I know logically that even if I did have my questions answered, I'd still be who I am. But, emotionally I wonder how different I would be if I'd grown up knowing about my parents.
from h2ophobic :
I'm so glad you had such a great time at the picnic. I love Taboo! It's one of my favorite games.
from fifidellabon :
Mel, you are a very kind woman! Thank you! XOFifi
from smashthegas :
Hey mel! Thank you for the birthday wishes, my birthday was awesome! Hope you are doing well too. I have seen you around in Stepfie's comments! *grinz* Smashxxx
from boxx9000 :
I'm proud of you for exercising as much as you do.
from wyndspirit :
I'm not a Biblical scholar, but I've been told that "thee" and "thou" WAS the common language of the day, and "you" was reserved for royalty. I think, from using the King James, our church tends to pray with "thees" and "thous" thinking it sounds more respectful or something, although even the pastors seem to be getting away from that these days. I don't think other translations are wrong, but I love language and I love the sound of the King James and just can't get into even the New King James.
from teachin-usa :
Happy Birthday Mel!!!! xoxoxoxoxo
from fifidellabon :
Thank you! Thank you for the gift of your writing. You paint such vivid pictures and you give me the gift of knowledge. Thank you, you wonderful person! May you be pain free! XOFifi
from annanotbob :
Well happy birthday my dear friend! With love and hugs and wishes of lots of good things coming your way. Thank you so much for the comment about the book - I feel very reassured and optimistic about it and that made me even more so. {{{hugs}}} xxx
from mzbee :
It took me three tries to get thru a college level course on public speaking because it was so very difficult for me to speak in front of a group of people.
from fifidellabon :
Oh, that entry resonated with me, I am scared so often! I am a reeeaallly good faker! XOFifi
from wyndspirit :
Wow, that's getting a bit too close for comfort!
from annanotbob :
Hugs, honey bun. Keep safe xxx
from fifidellabon :
I'm so sorry about the violence, but I am glad that you aren't hurt. Well, actually you are, though, aren't you? Phychically. How brave you are! XOFifi
from wyndspirit :
You changed the password for the other diary? The one I have doesn't work. Glad you had a laugh--that always makes things a bit brighter!
from boxx9000 :
My husband gets mad at me because I am ALWAYS spending money on my kids at school and we can't even deduct it off our taxes.
from annanotbob :
I'm glad you liked Ethel - you can never tell with humour. I've just been looking at your pics which are glorious. I love the one of your son with a grubby face. Hugs xxx
from boxx9000 :
Hi Mel, I hope all is well?
from wyndspirit :
I missed your birthday, too. Happy birthday!
from annanotbob :
Happy birthday, sweetie, or happy Monday, or whenever you're reading this. I wish we lived round the corner sometimes. But as we don't, let me tell you I am about to go and roll a small spliff and smoke it in celebration of the existence and the almost-perhaps-maybe-birthday of the kind friend that is Mel. Here's to you, kiddo and may there be many more almost-perhaps-maybe-birthdays, and may we celebrate at least one of them together {{{hugs}}}
from h2ophobic :
Happy Birthday! Everyone here (including me) forgot about my birthday this year too. It stinks.
from boxx9000 :
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! How come you do not know your birthdate? Is your mother not your real mother? No birth certificate? I don't understand.
from beagle47 :
"The most beautiful thing we can experience is the Mysterious the knowledge of the existence of something unfathomable to us, the manifestation of the most profound reason coupled with the most brilliant beauty. I cannot imagine a God who rewards and punishes the objects of his creation, or who has a will of the kind we experience in ourselves. I am satisfied with the mystery of life's eternity and with the awareness of and glimpse into the marvelous construction of the existing world together with the steadfast determination to comprehend a portion, be it ever so tiny, of the reason that manifests itself in nature." -Einstein
from fifidellabon :
I think that you are awesome and admirable! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Now, now. You aren't sniveling and whining, you are simply explaining how you feel and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I call it "Identifying the enemy" . The enemy being feeling bad and not really knowing why. Or if it's valid. I see tons of validity in your entry and it sounds as if your head is in the right place. You said something really dead-on and aware---that not letting your kids take care of you would be mean. Right on, and so, you should let you take care of you as well, by saying "I really can't talk right now" or something like that, or even just bluntly explaining that you are in pain. I know, easy for me to say, but how much harder for you to do. I think that one of the hardest things in the world to do is to ask for what we need. I'm wishing you relief. xoFifi Pee Ess, I simply adore when you teach us new words! I deffo have to go through all of your archives.
from wyndspirit :
It's emotionally and even physically exhausting to be there for others all the time, even when you don't really mind doing it or being there for others. I am sure not feeling well exacerbates it.
from h2ophobic :
I'm sorry you're going through such a bad pain time. I'm sure you already know this, but I'll throw it out there anyway. Every doctor Bill has seen since his accident (5, count them 5) has been very firm that Bill needs to rate his pain on a scale of 1 to 10. When his pain reaches about a 5, he needs to take a pain med immediately. If he lets it get any higher than that, the pain med can't really work. The other day he let his pain get to a 10+ and even though he took 2 pain pills, he got no relief at all. It sounds like you're like Bill in that you hate to take pain meds. I totally understand that, because I feel the same way. But, you deserve to be have pain free moments, even days. Be good to yourself. You're always putting yourself last as you care for everyone in your household (typical mom!), it's time to put yourself first for a bit. HUGS from MT
from mzbee :
I'm sorry you are having a bad pain day NOW, but I am so very proud of you for continuing with your exercise. Exercise always works wonders for me both physically AND mentally. ((((hugs))))
from fifidellabon :
Oh dear...pain sucks. I hope that you feel better soon. xoFifi
from annanotbob :
Does cannabis help the pain? I've heard that it can. I could send you some if you like - to a fake name perhaps, if it's very dodgy to do so. My godfather is a big shot in the Kipling Society, which has always put me off somehow and I haven't read much, only a few poems at school. I liked the ones from the first world war, where he speaks as an ordinary soldier, a Tommy. Hope the pain eases. Love xxx
from fifidellabon :
Oooh! Apropos of nothing, I've only just seen a new chiropracter's sign---the name is Dr. Thum. Brilliant! xoFifi
from h2ophobic :
It was good to read that you and TH had a good talk. I know what a gift that is. Here's to hoping (envision us clinking glasses) that there are more good talks to come.
from annanotbob :
Sometimes (often) I don't know what to say, but want to say something, if only 'I hear you'. Glad Fifi explained about the havering - it's a word I didn't realise I couldn't define until asked - then I wondered if I've been using it wrongly all along. Havering now... One day at a time. Hugs xxx
from fifidellabon :
Hallo! I just want to tell you that I simply adore your writing. You havea farm!!! You have goats!! You have chickens! I live in a city but I get "Backyard Poultry" magazine anyway! I am soo glad that I found you! And tha's no havers, lass! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Hallo, I'm coming here from Anna's wanking entry. You had mentioned that you don't know what "havering" is. "Havers" is sort of like how they say "bullshit' here in the USA. Havering would be akin to blethering, sort of foolishly going on and on. /Fifi
from mzbee :
so sorry about your tooth, that's no fun. I go every 6 months and that takes all my courage. ((((hugs)))) I've never had a bad experience, I just get really bad anxiety. sheesh. I hope you heal quickly. Sometimes my teeth feel sensitive, but I've been told it's because I grind my teeth in my sleep! Thanks again for the post card, it was a BIG hit with my students and allowed us a good reason to go look up Israel on the world map.
from mzbee :
Dearest Mel....thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for the post card from Israel, I absolutely LOVE it. I can't wait to show it to my classroom kids tomorrow at school. They will be most interested in the postage stamps. WheeeeE! I love the fact that you make your own post cards, too.
from annanotbob :
xxx
from boxx9000 :
Th = Th Husband, right? Every time I see it, I think of my son's name THomas. Happy Birthday TH.
from h2ophobic :
Has anyone ever told you how well you explain things? You do. When I was reading this entry, I thought how great it would be if you could give lectures to people in the US on what life is TRULY like in Israel. You are a very good writer. When I read your entries I "see" what you're writing about. It's truly a gift!
from mzbee :
Hi Mel! I know EXACTLY what you are talking about in regards to the anorexic thing. been there, done that. When I first met my current husband I was going thru a divorce from my first husband and I weighed 98 pounds. I had lost so much weight that I stopped having a period for many years and couldn't get pregnant until I was nearly 30. I've never been the type to binge and purge (YUCK!) I prefer to punish myself with exercise. My theory is when my life feels out of control (work...DEVIL CHILD!) then the one thing I *KNOW* I can control is my weight. I don't think I have the discipline required to get below 100 pounds, even if I am only 5' 2".
from mzbee :
*KAY* (hehehehehe)
from mzbee :
Mel! I'm reading this new (to me) book. It's called, *The Power of NOW* It's about focusing on the NOW and NOT thinking about either the past or the future. I've only read 60 minutes worth today on the treadmill but I really like what I'm reading and I've noticed if I only think about the NOW then I worry a whole lot less. I'll try anything if it will help me deal with my anxiety.
from mzbee :
MORE ((((hugs)))) for you. I wish I could make it all better for you. I went thru a real bad time in my marriage for YEARS and then I finally divorced my husband. We BOTH needed to decide what was most important in our lives and we needed to be separate to do that. It was a HORRIBLE time, but somehow everything has worked itself out and now we are back together again and remarried. I wouldn't suggest going thru what we did, but it was something we really needed to do. Would TH agree to some sort of marriage counseling? If he won't go then you should go on your own for yourself. You deserve to be happy.
from mzbee :
re: value. ((((hugs)))) Your soul and spirit and dignity have much value and don't ever let anyone take that from you. The LOVE you give to your children and animals has value. I am so sorry that your mother was (is) such a horrible person. I do not know how you even speak to her?! Now I understand why you hate her. ((((hugs))))
from fuschiashock :
in fleeting moments, i wish that english weren't my first language. really, though, i'm jealous of the kids who grow up speaking two or three languages. i can't help but feel that it's too late for me.
from teachin-usa :
that is, keep giving out those liver treats...
from teachin-usa :
Hi Mel, Yes, I have actually been working with the dog to do just that! So if that's the best way, I'll just give giving out those liver treats everytime he chases the bunny away from the sofa.
from annanotbob :
I LOVE The Pogues beyond all reason, sigh... xxx
from h2ophobic :
My laptop has a useless battery too. I keep it plugged in 99% of the time. The only time I unplug it is when I am using a recipe (I keep a lot of my recipes on the laptop) and if I leave it on the counter for too long, it dies. Good luck on your root canal. By the time you read this, it should be over. I hope it was fast and pain free.
from yarnsmith :
I just had a root canal too so I can commiserate with you. I feel bad about the tragedy your country experienced at the school last week. I am in awe of your people who go on living life despite the danger you live with every day.
from h2ophobic :
Maeve Binchy is one of my favorite authors. I've read all of her books. A few of them were too sad for my liking (I usually like light hearted murder mysteries. I know that's an oxymoron) but I enjoyed all of them.
from annanotbob :
xxx
from teachin-usa :
sorry about Kurt- I just took a look at his picture in your photolog- what happened? old age?
from mzbee :
The exercise may have been challenging for you today, but it has to be making you stronger and healthier than if you weren't exercising, no?
from annanotbob :
Although my note leaving has been crap, you are in my thoughts and I pray for your safety in these troubled times. Hugs xxx
from beagle47 :
hello and thank you for the note. melisdvash melisdvash
from mzbee :
When my kids at school say "I CAN'T" I say to them, "Pretend it is for candy or money and you will find a way." When someone wants something they will find a way. If they don't, then they don't deserve it. No effort=No reward.
from teachin-usa :
Wesley Willis!! I used to know him, kind of..
from h2ophobic :
Thank you for all of the sweet notes you've been leaving for me. I FINALLY today remembered how to find where to leave a note for you (the + signs...duh...I knew that.) Good luck with your root canal. I too despise/am terrified of going to the dentist. Until I broke my tooth a few weeks ago, I hadn't been in almost 5 years. I'm making myself go now. Although it still freaks me out, they've been very kind and understanding about my meltdowns. I was very upfront from the first minute about my irrational fear and that if I started shaking and crying, for them to not take it personally. It's almost comical, after every little thing, they make sure I'm ok and tell me how great I'm doing. When one person leaves and another comes in, the leaving person makes a point of telling the new person how great I did and to be extra gentle with me. I pray that the same kindness and gentleness is shown to you during your dentist visit.
from mzbee :
About 10 years ago I was on Prozac for two years after the death of both my parents within 6 months of each other. I wouldn't even be here today if I hadn't taken Prozac to get thru that rough patch. I've been drug free for 8 years now.
from wyndspirit :
I don't like the new look, either. And is it me or does it seem to take even LONGER to load than before? By the time your notes page came up, I'd forgotten what I wanted to comment on and had to refer back to your entry. Prozac... I haven't heard anything about it, but I will say it wasn't a placebo effect that made it work for me, because I didn't expect it to do a thing. I tried it because I was on an HMO and prescriptions were $10 a fill so I figured, why not? My friends noticed the change in me before I did.
from life-my-way :
The NPR affiliate here in Alabama covered the bombings on Morning Edition today and I thought of you. I'm glad everyone is safe!
from teachin-usa :
I really enjoyed your entry today. Thanks! And enjoy your clean house!
from mzbee :
You exercised AFTER you had your hair washed? That wouldn't work for me because I am such a sweating sopping wet mess after I work out. I end up having to wash my hair twice a day EVERY day.
from yarnsmith :
Hi...I am Paula from Under the Tum Tum Tree. You left me a nice comment when you found me through my comment to Ms. Bee. I started at diaryland so I am leaving a note under my former name "yarnsmith". Nice to meet you too. I look forward to reading your entries. My neighbor has MS. He still lives alone without the help of any medical assistance but this year has been hard on him.. We as neighbors help him with snow removal and taking his garbage cans to the curb but I don't know how much longer he will be able to take care of a 2 story, 3 bedroom house. It is a terrible disease. I am heartened by your determination to live your life as well as possible, helping your children to study and stay on track. You sound like a very positive person. I look forward to getting to know you better....Paula
from boxx9000 :
congratulations on your exercise program, you're doing great. Daily I look forward to my exercise time. Do you have an iPod? It has made a big difference in my workouts. The time just FLIES by.
from wyndspirit :
You have no idea how often I think of doing "the next right thing." Our religions are different, but you have inspired me in my own faith just by living yours. Thanks!
from mzbee :
Truancy ??? When my daughter was in 9th grade she missed a lot of school because of a cold that went into bronchitis and then pneumonia on 3 different occasions. I was shocked when I got a notice saying she was a truant. That's when I applied to home school her thru the remainder of her HS years. She graduated at age 16 and started taking classes at the local JC while she was still in HS. For us, the truancy thing turned a negative HS experience into a positive one.
from teachin-usa :
Hi Mel - school is overrated!! People who would condemn me don't know much about school (in fact I just ran into one of them at the dog park today- of course he was from Germany though) --marine vinyl- is just the vinyl you would use to reupholster the seats on your boat- we live on an island- lots of boats around here so I was surprised to discover that ordinary fabric stores have it. So it's thick and not shiny- like car vinyl I suppose.
from wyndspirit :
And I am finally caught up! With your diary, anyway. Hope you had a good time being all together.
from mzbee :
The first 20 minutes are always hard for me when exercising. Once I get past the 30 minutes mark then I'm OK to exercise forever. I bought 5lb hand WEIGHTS today! YIPPEE!
from mzbee :
20 minutes? That's a great start. Does your MS meds cause you to NOT sleep? My assistant used to do TONS of work for me because she was up all night. I miss her. She's working in 4th grade and I'm in 6th this year. My cat once peed in my TOASTER and I didn't know it until I put some bread in it and pushed down the lever and it smelled like a burning SKUNK! yuck. I had to throw the toaster away. I felt like throwing the cat away. I took my cat to the vet because I thought there must be something wrong with his bladder and the vet said, no. $300 later the vet says my cat needed kitty prozac. How crazy is that? I don't even take prozac, I'm not letting my cat take it. sheesh. I don't want the cat having better drugs than me!
from mzbee :
That's really weird about the freezing weather. global warming is really sad and scary, too. Today it was the windiest I have ever experienced in my entire life. SO windy it was hard to even walk outside. weird weather.
from mzbee :
I couldn't find a cast page for you. How many kids do you have? boys? girls? age range? I'm also curious, HOW did you end up living in Israel? and for how long have you had MS?
from mzbee :
"Each day I do get on the machine is a good one." I feel the same way, as long as I'm exercising I feel good. I'm not a big juice drinker, but that might be because I've only had store bought. I'd love to try a homemade juice recipe. Soup I do like. I really don't cook, so my husband is the one who tries out new recipes. I'm the taste tester. hehe. Congratulations on exercising. GO MEL-IS-DVASH!
from teachin-usa :
Mmm I'm into juice now too. I just make enough for me- carrot, beet, pear, ginger, apple. Such an energy boost isn't it?
from mzbee :
Every journey begins with the first step. I am so proud of you for getting on your bike and exercising. I'm guessing TH is a bit jealous that your attention is on anything other than him, no?
from mzbee :
WOW! That is soOoooOOOoo exciting! Your very own reclining exercycle? I am so envious. You can ride it any time you like and you never have to share it or wait in line to use it. I am really truly happy for you. Your news has me smiling. HAPPY CYCLING to a healthy and happy New Year.
from mzbee :
Exercise is the best thing I do for my mental health.
from mzbee :
Hazel eyes are my absolute Favorite. so pretty.
from annanotbob :
xxxxx
from boxx9000 :
Oh, living with a saboteur, I know it well. ((((hugs))))
from boxx9000 :
I'm glad you had a good day today health wise. ((((hugs))) I know what you mean about people always twisting your thoughts, words, and actions into something negative. It happens to me, too and I'm ALWAYS surprised because the negative thought hadn't even entered my mind until THEY pointed it out. sheesh. Doesn't the problem lie with them rather than us? I can't control where their mind goes, only mine.
from boxx9000 :
I read the word CHIRO in your diary today wrong and I thought it said CHURRO and I was thinking, "that's weird, they have churros in Israel?" hehehehe. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Churro
from stepfordtart :
Left your package on my desk by mistake and the Facilities Assistant (fancy name for PostBoy!)took it away and posted it! Its gone air freight so should be with you in around 5-10 days. Much love. s x
from annanotbob :
Mel, that's terrible. Wishing you an end to all that as soon as possible. Keep an eye out for a package. Big hugs and love xx
from boxx9000 :
((((hugs)))) for you. My period (?) started AGAIN! I'm going to have to give in and go to the doctor (something I absolutely LOATHE) I know what you mean about the exhausting upkeep of the never ending bleeding. I can't believe I have any blood even left in my body and STILL I continue to flow like there is no end in site. (sigh) I am tired and this is all new stuff to me after a lifetime of extremely light and far between cycles. ((((hugs))) There HAS to be some sort of shot or pill to make it STOP. (please, please, please)
from stepfordtart :
HI Mel! Got a big bag of goodies for you today - the girls in my office say I shouldnt post them until next week as the mail is unreliable here over Christmas week. Will let you know when to start watching your mailbox! Took advice from the lady in the shop and got stuff which is 'allegedly' SuperFood! Hope it does the trick for you....if not, at least you can make a big fruit cake! Much love s x
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel. These berries that the doc says you should be eating - must they be fresh berries? Can they be dried ones? Dried cranberries, freeze dried mixed summer fruits and stuff like that are easy to get here...and quite light to mail(hint hint!). If you think they might be any good, DO say and I'll be off to the shops before you can say "tasty breakfast!". s x
from annanotbob :
{{hugs}}
from stepfordtart :
Happy Thingie to you to! s x
from boxx9000 :
11-22-07 HAPPY (healthy) THANKSGIVING
from teachin-usa :
First, I loved the vocab rice game. After 1,000 something grains I just had to quit- when does the game actually stop?? And year of meats- I got that at the local thrift store. Thrift store books have comprised my reading list for the past two years now. Yes, it packs a punch- I am enjoying it very much- also is a fast read I'll probably be done tomorrow.
from annanotbob :
Ha! A competitive streak is a shocking thing! I just had to get to 49, which I did hit a couple of times before being sent down again. Weird words though - some of the top level ones (gammon, counterpane) are pretty common here whereas others lower down I'd never heard of. Being a gardener helps - I worked out loads from plant names. Have a good day sweetie xxx
from life-my-way :
Forest Gump has some differently abled persons in it. Just a thought. I loved your 12 step entry, thanks for sharing that.
from boxx9000 :
I wish I could have you talk to my assistant at school who has had MS for the past 16 years. Her husband abandoned her when their kids were 1 & 2 because he couldn't handle the diagnosis (jerk) She definitely has her *bad* health days, but for the most part she is amazing (understatement). She just refuses to let MS wins.
from annanotbob :
Thanks for sharing that Mel. Parts of it spoke to me very directly and usefully. You are a star xxx
from annanotbob :
xxx
from boxx9000 :
I had a narcissistic mother and although I never had the love I wanted and needed from her I learned to let the anger and hurt go. My mom has been dead for almost 8 years now and I DO miss her in a sick kind of way. Good or bad, she was the only mother I ever knew, and something was better than nothing. (((hugs))) for you. I vowed I would have a better mother daughter relationship with my own daughter and I have.
from mahvalicious :
I'm so glad your surgery went well and that you will start feeling much better soon. Isn't it strange that people feel they're doing you a nice favor coming to visit right after surgery or when you're in the hospital and need your rest the most. I rarely visit people in the hospital just for that face. I try to wait until they've been home for several days before I show my face.
from teachin-usa :
I hope you have a good and quick recovery from your surgery!
from boxx9000 :
Congratulations to El'yah! KEEP ON READING!!!! I actually remember the moment when I realized I COULD read. I was sitting on my father's lap and he was reading me some bible story, I was looking at the words (I had heard a million times) and I realized I KNEW what words matched which letter symbols, IT WAS MAGICAL! and now...... I'm a teacher. hehehehe. Don't worry about me stirring the soup (or ANY food item)too much, I don't cook at all. My husband does ALL the cooking. LUCKY ME!
from mahvalicious :
Surgery? Did I miss something? Did you find a doctor who is willing to do the surgery? If that's the case I'm so happy for you. You will feel so much better afterwards.
from boxx9000 :
I homeschooled my 2 kids off and on over their school age years. Its the best education if done correctly. My assistant at school has MS, she has her good MS days and bad MS days. ((((hugs)))) to you.
from mahvalicious :
I'm so glad to hear that you've enjoyed life at least for the last few days. May you have many more. And I want to tell you, it's so interesting when you write about living conditions in your new country, for example, the growing season being the winter versus the summer, etc. Those kinds of entries are so educational and interesting to read. I also find myself going to the internet to look up various terms that you use so I can understand better what you're writing about. Keep up the good work. I love it.
from boxx9000 :
I DIVORCED my husband of 25 years a few years ago. Last year I REMARRIED him! It sounds crazy, I know, but we NEEDED to get a divorce. NOW we love and appreciate each other and life is the BEST ever. I would NEVER had believed it had someone tried to tell me it would all work out, but it did. Fact is stranger than fiction.
from annanotbob :
Oh Mel, I so EXACTLY know where you're coming from about John and who you are when you're with him and that lack of response. It did for me and I went through the same circular arguments, usually choosing to try and make it work, because in the scheme of things, with what some men do to their women, what did I have to complain about? He's absolutely fucking passive? Oh boo hoo. But it's not good Mel. Or maybe it can be, but I couldn't find a way to make it anything other than a creeping hell. Shit, this isn't the message of sisterly support that I planned. In the end, I didn't exactly choose to end it, it was more or less forced upon me and although I face an uncertain future, especially regarding housing in the long term, I'm not sorry. But both me and my kids are older and further down the line than you and yours. I wish you strength my dear and plenty of odd moments of sheer delight. Hugs xxxxx
from mahvalicious :
I can't imagine a root canal without any pain. I'm so glad it went well for you.
from boxx9000 :
My husband was born in New Jersey. I have lived my entire life in California except for a year in New Zealand and six months in Hawaii. You are home schooling? I home schooled my kids off and on over their school years. My son graduated from HS at age 16, so I must have done something right......or wrong?
from boxx9000 :
My BEST dental experience was a root canal procedure with a specialist. When I told him that fact, he told me that shouldn't be so, and if it was so, then I had DEFINITELY been going to the wrong general dentists.
from annanotbob :
There's a saying about fish and visitors going off after three days... xxx
from teachin-usa :
Happy anniversary!! Hugsxoxox
from mahvalicious :
Congratulations on your 26th sober anniversary. What a major, life-changing accomplishment.
from mahvalicious :
Sorry to hear you're not doing well again. What kind of a shot are you getting? Apparently it's to stop the bleeding? or help control it? I love hearing about life in Israel - how things are different than here in the U.S. Is it possible you could tell us what brought you and your family to make the decision to move to Israel?
from life-my-way :
Ahh, Mel, I didn't leave you a very good note last time, as I failed to say what I love about your writing (besides that it is the writing of someone I consider to be my friend). I love your writing because it is honest and because it is brave and fair-minded and caring. You don't try to present yourself in a good light, or in any light in particular, besides an honest one. I love your writing because, through it, I have grown to know you [and Jessica and Hans and Havva and Zechy and Simcha and Eliyahu--and even John] and to know what it's like to homestead in Vermont and to live in Florida (and miss Vermont) and to make Aliyah and to have goats and to be you. That's why your writing is great--sorry to have been so information-less last time, I need to work on MY writing, it seems. Love, K
from l-empress :
Just checking this out -- because the notorious Guestbook decided some time ago that I'm spam, despite Andrew's "fix." E-mailing may be easier.
from mahvalicious :
Hi, Mel. Thanks for fixing your note. It makes leaving comments so much easier. Somehow you've got to stop listening to all those negative voices and only *hear* the positives. I know that's easier said than done. Sorry to hear you're not doing well again. I just feel so badly that you can't find a doc who will perform the surgery for you. What's their reasoning, anyway?
from annanotbob :
Apologies for being too wrapped up in my own shit to respond to your request sooner. I love your writing - that's what drew me to your diary in the first place. You create vivid pictures - I still have a strong image of a walk you took with kids and dogs and all kinds of chaos, also one of a day at the beach. What's not to like about your voice? I'll email you a detailed English teacher's crit if you like - choose an entry and it's done. Sending you a big hug and lots of love xxx
from life-my-way :
I love your writing--heck, I've been reading it for years! Sorry I forgot to answer sooner, I suppose I thought you knew -I- thought you were a good writer. But it never hurts to hear it.
from annanotbob :
Awesome, girl. Big hug xxx
from mahvalicious :
I've always wondered why it's up to the doctors to make the decision as to whether or not you should have a hysterectomy. 99% of the time they're males and haven't a clue what you're going through. I fought with them for three years before I finally found one that was willing to do the job. After all, at my age I certainly wasn't going to have anymore children, so I didn't need all those parts that were causing all the pain and problems. Sometimes you just want to say, "Doctors - AAAACCCCKKKK!" Good luck to you. Love Lena
from life-my-way :
Mel, my stepdaughter is living with me and, as a result of that, I'll be attending 12 step meetings at the rate of about one a day [she'll be making 2, 3 or more a day] for the next three weeks. I wish I had a friend like you here in Tuscaloosa, we could use the wisdom. A lot.
from annanotbob :
Hugs and a shoulder to lean on, a hand across the sea xxx
from stepfordtart :
thanks Mel, you are a star! s x
from annanotbob :
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
from annanotbob :
I'm glad you listened to the music - I put it there for you because I can't seem to find a way of writing to you at the moment, but I want to be your friend and I hoped you might like at least some of it. Thank you for that email - I can't say more than that, but thank you. If you like them, I have albums by Bjork and Corinne Bailey Rae, and in a few weeks I shall have copying facilities, so just let me know. I think of you when I listen to lovely Norma. Wishing you peace and giggles Love Anna xxx
from teachin-usa :
Come to the ink of it, our blogs- with their "anonymous" readers are much like worry dolls, aren't they? Interesting way to put it.
from life-my-way :
I was just about to say how very sorry I am about the chick when I remembered the grandchildren. I hope Jessica works that out very quickly--and maybe it's time for cutting those other parents loose, they don't sound like a bit of fun. But back to the chick, I remember so vividly [and lividly] coming home to find that the dachshunds had killed every chicken, truly sickening. Wishing you cool breezes, happy children and grandchildren, peace and comfort. Oh, and a painless hysterectomy.
from teachin-usa :
I hope Jessica gets her kids back soon. How would her adoptive parents complain to social services about her? That's just wrong.
from teachin-usa :
Thanks Mel for the very generous advice. Gave me a lot to think about. You should have your own radio show or something- you know so much about so many things!
from wyndspirit :
I commented on your comment in my comments. :) Thanks for the support!
from bettyalready :
I'm hoping you get BETTER.
from annanotbob :
At last I am listening to Don White (don't ask) and I LOVE it - just my kind of easy-going, rocky stuff! Thank you so much. It's wonderful to encounter music that I've never even heard of - at my age and all, fantastic. I like the thought of you listening to it out there in the heat, thinking of me.... I'm off to see Norma Waterson now, xxx
from wyndspirit :
It does give me a weird feeling, too, with everybody jumping ship. I finally made a home page that lives on my hard drive and just have all my reads listed there and I can change them on the fly as people start new diaries. I haven't looked at my D-land buddy list in months.
from wyndspirit :
I also read the diarist you referred to, and I was surprised at her comment, seeing as other parts of her life have taken a distinct upswing, and I've been cheering her on, but when a person is stressed, they say that kind of thing. The bad always seems to overwhelm the good. But I don't remember if you ALSO read the diarist whose favorite saying is, "Somehow it always works out," an atheist with more faith than I have as a Christian sometimes. Everybody's life stinks sometimes - I'm beginning to learn that it's all about what you CHOOSE to focus on. I like your attitude and how you look for the blessings in little things. It's inspiring to me. As for the windfall, God always provides, does He not? It's just that He's more likely to provide the work than hand us the money! :)
from life-my-way :
Thanks for saying that stuff about the shitty life contest--Americans with homes and food cannot possibly believe they're even in the top 3 or 4 billion shitty lives. I think it, you said it, good for you. And congrats on your windfall, enjoy it! Loves, K
from annanotbob :
Fantastic xxx
from bettyalready :
It's too weird, isn't it? Now I'm at the point I want to remember to get ON WITH it and it's still not coming through. I suppose it'll happen when it happens
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel. Start accosting the postman - reading material on its way (and something to listen to whilst reading!). much love s x
from annanotbob :
Hiya, I'm glad to hear they arrived safely - I hate it when mine are in the air. Also very glad you enjoyed Millions, which I feel gives a good picture of modern Britain, underneath all the lovely weirdness. That was the book I started reading to one of the boys I home tutored when working for the hospital and after two chapters I wasn't allowed to continue till his mum and both his sisters were ready as well. I love reading your tales of goats and chickens and pray for your continuing safety and well-being. Love Anna xxx
from stepfordtart :
just email the address, you daft thing! If you want to read it, its yours. No trade required. s x
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel! Ive read 'Millions', Jooj met Frank Cottrel Boyce at a 'meet the author' thing that they arranged through her Fiction Fanatics Club at school and bought the book there. Anna has excellent taste in books - she bought me "A Short History of Tractors In Ukrainian" for my birthday. Read it? Want me to send? s x
from annanotbob :
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers xx
from wyndspirit :
Kids need to be praised, but there IS such a thing as overdoing it. A friend and her 12 YO daughter came to a craft sale with me, and the kid was supposed to be helping us unload. She moved about three small bins, then wandered off, and her mom still gushed praise at her for being "such a good helper!" I couldn't believe it, and my mom thought it was absolutely ridiculous. If the kid was 4, yeah. But, 12? She's had a lifetime of that. I honestly don't know if she expects that kind of praise every time she lifts a pinkie, or if her mom honestly thinks she deserves it. I don't think gushing praise is merited for every little thing--an honest thank you should suffice. But, yes, HONEST, deserved praise--kids can never get enough of that!!!
from stepfordtart :
*gasp* ROPE BURNS!!!! Yow yow yow yow yowch! *wincing*. Oh, they hurt Soooo much! Sympathies, dear! s x
from annanotbob :
That Zechy is a boy of taste - how old is he?The Hedgerow Crawlers - they have a website: http://www.myspace.com/thehedgerowcrawlers Which is his favourite song?
from stepfordtart :
Bloody Hell, Mel (no pun intended)! No wonder you're so tired. MS AND not a drop of blood in your body. Thats enough for any woman. Gah! s x
from bettyalready :
I have often considered a partial hysterectomy because I've heard people rave about how great they feel.
from mahvalicious :
You refer to getting a hysterectomy and that several of your friends were very positive about the procedure. I, too, had a hysterectomy back in 1996 and it has been one of the best things that ever happened to me. I feel SO much better - no more mood swings, more energy, sleep better, etc. Mine was not a complete hysteretomy, they left both ovaries, which if I had it done again, I would insist they take. But I guess that's hindsight. When are you scheduled? or still seeing a doctor to make plans. Good luck. Finding a doctor here in the States that is willing to do it is becoming more and more difficult. I think the insurance companies have a lot to do with that also. But then none of them are living the nightmare that we live as women if we're having problems along that line. Lena
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel! BF did your Stoopid Test. He's 58% stoopid! heehee we had a lot of fun with that! s x
from stepfordtart :
My heartfelt sympathies - that has happened to me tooooo many times! I assume you spent five minutes staring at the screen in disbelief before commencing swearing...or is that just me? s x
from annanotbob :
Yes, I did miss you, honey. Only today I checked your last entry to see how you were doing then and sent you a little whatsit. I can remember boasting about the National Health Service in south america - but that was back in 1980, when it wasn't perfect, but was at least trying to live up to its founding principle of delivering free health care to all. Then came Thatcher and her belief that everything must run according to financial imperatives and it's all gone a bit bonkers. My daughter has had good care for her MS, I think. As well as free meds and access to a personal MS nurse, she gets disability allowance of 100 a week, which is not means-tested, so no hassle about it. Out of this she can have a new car for 40, which includes everything but petrol. But she wouldn't get anything like reflexology without having to pay for it. Glad you're doing good. xxx
from stepfordtart :
Mel - FYI, health care in the UK is extremely hit-and-miss, sometimes beyond wonderful, sometimes barely Florence Nightingale-ish! Very much depends on where you live ('postcode lottery' is a term which gets used a lot). Where I live we have specialist centres for burns and neurology - after that, forget it! s x
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel. Did you get the email from me/Jooj? My home email is a bit crappy and Im never sure if things get through or not! s x
from annanotbob :
Thank you!! I'm listening to it right now - lovely. Love Anna xxx
from stepfordtart :
Happy Birthday Mel! I'll talk to Jooj when she comes back from her dad's about the pen-pal thing - Im sure she'll give it a go. much love s x
from annanotbob :
Hey, happy birthday sweetie. Thanks for your hug, sometimes that's all that's required {{{{{hugs}}}}} xx
from stepfordtart :
Hey! Recipetastic! And we can get spelt cookies here (with chocolate on! Yummmmm!). Im pretty sure Im the only person in the UK who knows what it is tho, and thats thanks to our friends in Germany - I dont think you'd find it in many shops here. Sorry to here that some 'other stuff' isnt going as well as you'd hope....but Yay for the raise tho! s x
from stepfordtart :
....and the recipe for the corn muffins is....? C'mon Mel, you cant taunt us like that! If you feel inclined to share, please do - if its 'invited audience only' you could always email it to stepfordtartATdiarylandDOTcom...Huh? Puh-leeeease! s x
from mahvalicious :
I just noticed that I'm listed on your favorites. I'd love to read you in return, but your diary is locked. Want to share??
from annanotbob :
{{{hugs}}}
from teachin-usa :
Does your thermal blanket have legs?
from annanotbob :
xxx
from teachin-usa :
Hi Mel. First, FYI, your guestbook link goes to the diaryland mainpage. Now for the jokes: How about a question like this, "If anyone asks you if you want to move somewhere where you will suddenly be illiterate and freeze your ass off in your sandals, say "no". How about, if anyone asks you if you want to be stuck on an island where it rains all the time with a lunatic where you won't ever make anough money to get off the island, and it is too far to swim, say "NO!". Ha ha. I think it's funny. Your jokes are funny- in turn inspired my jokes. "Hey, do you want to be disabled?" "Sure!" ;)
from wyndspirit :
If you're checking hits, you just got a bunch from me because I opened a couple months worth of your entries to read offline tomorrow. No, not even I can read THAT fast! Have a good day!
from lilpeanut80 :
Yummm, I got to experience dried kiwi last April when we went to western China. It is quite good. I should have bought more. I imagine it is expensive because you can probably only get 4 good slices per fruit. All those little crunchy seeds are so satisfying.
from life-my-way :
Pomegranites grow on big bushes. This I know because there is one in our neighborhod. They're bigger than the average bush but smaller than the average tree, sort of like a certain variety of plum we have in this area. They're nifty, though, whatever they're growing on. Feel better, don't re-relapse and find good trees.
from life-my-way :
Thanks for the note, Mel, it helps to know someone's pulling for me [for us]. I hope you're feeling better soon, and that Eliya's rash gets under control ASAP. A couple of kids at our school had that and their parents refused to believe it was ringworm--it got HORRIBLE before it was really dealt with. Eliya's lucky to have such sane and responsive parents. Feel better soon [and congrats on the new house, isn't it nice to love one's abode?]
from lilpeanut80 :
Ringworm sounds gross, but it makes me feel better to know it isn't REALLY a worm. Although it looks like one. Eww. The things we go through for our kids, eh?
from annanotbob :
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
from forty-plus :
The director hasn't called me back yet about the riding lessons. I'm chomping at the bit (hee, get the horsey reference?!, sorry!). I think I may call her this afternoon. If she doesn't want my business there's other places who could fit me in, I'm sure.
from forty-plus :
I honestly do not know how you do it. You are quite a woman!
from forty-plus :
Happy New Year!
from beagle47 :
p.s. any chance for the keys? beagle47(at)diaryland.com is the e-mail address. thanks, mel. you are an inspiration.
from beagle47 :
thank you for the beautiful guestbook note. it was/is quite moving. everyone should read it. live on, my friend!
from forty-plus :
Thank goodness the truancy officer's visit is over. That must have been so nerve wracking.
from annanotbob :
Your wish is my command! Thanks for that. You inspired me to give it a go - I read about it and understood why you do it and it really works, so thanks. I'm glad you saw off the truancy officer. Although I'm a teacher I'm not a massive believer in schools especially with all the shite that seems to go with it these days. Good on yer! I would love to send some books to your children - have they read 'Journey to the River Sea' by Eve Ibbotson? or 'Millions' By Frank Cottrell Boyce? And I have a couple of CDs I'd like to send you. If this would be OK email your address to me at [email protected] All the best, Love xxx
from theflyingrat :
My thoughts are with you. I'm sure things will work out. ♥
from stepfordtart :
Hi Mel! (nothing else, just saying Hi!). s x
from annanotbob :
I so enjoyed reading about your trip to the beach - I had a vivid picture of you all there, lovely. All the best xxx
from lilpeanut80 :
Oh man. My dad snores like a freigt train. All through my childhood, his snores were incorporated into my dreams. Sometimes as firecrackers.
from stepfordtart :
cant WAIT to hear about the dead sea! My youngest is nearly seven, I think kids are cool at that age - not babies, but not old enough to think they're all that! s x
from stepfordtart :
just wanted to say Im absolutely LOVING your diary. I still need to do the archive thing so I can catch up a bit on the people and places but Im still loving it. Yay for you! s x
from lilpeanut80 :
Thanks for the nursing pep-talk. The second day of "no day nursing" went alot better than the first. I still nursed him for his nap and to go to bed at night, then he made up for lost time by nursing like 5 times in the night. I really just want him to eat more "real" food. There is still no end in sight, but I think we are cutting down to a more age appropriate level (i.e, not a newborn feeding schedule). Can I have your password info? I'm sure if he were my last baby I would feel differently, huh?
from stepfordtart :
Thanks very much - a perfect explanation! It sounds lovely....like a kibbutz, but not so...kibbutzey! Thanks for the bra info too, much appreciated. s x
from stepfordtart :
Please can you tell me what a moshav is. Im having a blonde moment. Thanks everso. s x
from annanotbob :
You be careful out there honey. Hope you find somewhere. Near an organic orange farm would suit me too, hugs xxxx
from stepfordtart :
thanks so much for the necessaries. I need to do a big archive trawl so I can find out some more about you so if you notice me lurking around, dont be alarmed! Im sorry you're not feeling well, Im sure the typing/screen cant help - it makes me feel nauseous and dizzy all the time....but that might just be because Im usually in my office at work when Im typing! Feel much better when Im at home typing! Thanks again for 'letting me in'. s x
from stepfordtart :
I'm such a ninny. I meant to ask for password stuff (if you dont mind), so I can add you too. If you're sharing, please send to stepfordtartATdiarylandDOTcom. thanks very much. s x
from stepfordtart :
thanks for adding me! Any friend of Anna's.... s x
from annanotbob :
Thanks for that xxx
from annanotbob :
{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}} to you too, honey pie xxxxx
from annanotbob :
I'm glad you wrote that entry about the war. My heart was in my mouth when you described the 'earthquake', thank whoever that you are all safe. I don't know what to believe about anything reported in the press, because I know how they manipulate events to suit whatever purpose they have. Throughout my childhood the PLO were reported as terrorists but now they are freedom fighters. Nelson Mandela made the same leap, but that doesn't mean it's always true. My prayers are for (all) your safety, love xxx
from annanotbob :
Hope you have a good trip xxx
from teachin-usa :
Hurray for the Aron! It sounds as though you are still moving in/organizing- which makes sense--your container after all really didn't arrive so long ago, and thjere must be lots and lots to wade through/organize/get rid of or whatever as you get used to living in a more confined space. You mentioned your blanket box- did John make it? I have been thinking about making one- so many blankets, so little space! And the laundry thing--- some men just shouldn't do laundry. Period. The damage they can do is waaay too costly and greatly outweighs any of the benefits. And finally- glad to have you in my life too. :)
from forty-plus :
Becoming more sick when you are in the city is an interesting observation. As I get older, with my disorders, I am becoming more and more allergic to chemicals. I feel so much better when I am not around household chemicals and I can only imagine what exhaust and other city chemicals/poisons would do to me. I hope you can find that perfect house in the country for you and your children.
from annanotbob :
Thanks for your note. I've gone back to a diaryland template as I couldn't get the comments thing to work properly, so it should be OK now. Wishing you peace xxx
from teachin-usa :
My best guess would be because you are a good listener. Francis is a chatterbox- I feel awful when I have things on my mind and have to uh-huh him. I think it's great your kids want to bend your ear. Also, I really admire your family for helping others escape the rockets up north.
from forty-plus :
I think it was very kind to share your home but I am glad you have relative quiet now. I hope the shot begins to work and today is much better health day for you.
from forty-plus :
Be safe driving today!
from forty-plus :
Maybe it's time to have a "let's restructure the household rules" talk with your guests. You need your quiet and rest. Good luck with the doctor realizing your problem needs to be taken care of sooner rather than later.
from forty-plus :
The awfulness that is your every day life is being reported here. Not peoples names but the numbers and the sadness. I pray for your family and friends' safety.
from life-my-way :
You're on the news here [in Alabama]. I was thinking of you all day and was thrilled to see your name in red. Take care, you're in my prayers. Katherine
from annanotbob :
Just wanted to say Hi. Think of you often in these terrible times. Big hugs xxxx
from teachin-usa :
Yeah, I realise that now. I was behind on the news. Well Dr Russia reads Haaretz and I don't so...well I just get the American/Canadian version. I'm glad half the people have left because they should until they are safe. Hope all your acquaintances and friends there also are doing what they can to ensure the safety of their families. Mel I hope you'll be feeling better soon, I am sure life in Israel is even more hard to deal with now with this new flare up, and your health, the heat...the bugs. I would say have a positive outlook, easy for me who gets that through pills, what happened to the photography? Still doing any?
from life-my-way :
Hey, Mel, I left this on Ladybugge too, but wanted to try here as well. Try vitamin B1 [I get 50 mg tabs and take as many as 5 or 6 a day] for itching [bug bites, rashes, etc.]. It heals poison ivy, bug bites, you name it. Glad you wrote today, I miss you when you're gone. Best, Katherine
from annanotbob :
'I don't know what I need. I just know this isn't it.' Boy, does that resonate with me. Also the carrying on as if nothing has been said, as if we don't even exist, we have no impact. But we do, we do. I hear you. Big hugs xxx
from annanotbob :
Thanks for bringing me with you. I've just caught up. So sorry to hear about your uncle, so much pain. Wishing you peace, big hugs xxx

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