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from fifidellabon :
I know! And I kept looking for you, but no one was as cute as you. I loooove Shelburne Farms!!! I was wishing that we'd go there again, but the ECHO option seemed a better choice for Biba, considering that she gets a LOT of farm, but not as much museum. She adores museums, so we want to give her as much as possible. Well, I am taking an extra day to catch up here. Mr. Dog needs some serious grooming, as does the house. And I do too, for that matter! XO! XOFifi Pee Ess Dutch Mill is open only until 2pm, so it is more of a breakfast option. Their toast from home made bread is phenomenal!
from fifidellabon :
Soms, I keep wondering how you all are doing. I can't wait to hear about the new babbie! And how Griff is growing. XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Soms, that's awful about the love and care. Maybe though, each of your definitions of that are different. I don't know. Sometimes (a lot of times, it seems) marriage can hurt one's feelings. Whenever I am in the "oh, how COULD he!" place, I just think to wait it out. I see so many people ditch their spouse, thinking that things will magically be better, and in reality, things get worse. And once you've told a person that you don't love them enough to stay married, well, that is extremely difficult to repair. I don't know exactly what I am saying here except for don't rush into anything, but you are really not a rusher. You are a thinker. Be strong, be sure. XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
How does Griff feel about becoming a big brother? XO and I hope that you feel better sooner! XOFifi
from jeannedark :
I was thinking today that it's pretty cruddy advice for a therapist to tell you that you are responsible for someone else's happiness. WTF? That's too big a burden for anyone.
from jeannedark :
self-love, refuge of the marrieds!
from jeannedark :
Hello dear girl. Very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Poppy. It's wonderful, though, that you got to spend his last day together, that he left this world surrounded by the loving glow of his family. He sounded like a charmer! Hugs to you during these sad days and my condolences to your family.
from fifidellabon :
Oh, Soms, I am so sorry. But I am so glad that you could be there. I think that insulating oneself away from death (the way society would have us do) only cheats one. Geh, how I ramble. But do you know what I mean? XOFifi
from jeannedark :
Hooray! Welcome home! Burn some sage, bake bread, toss salt and ring bells. Happy new house. Hope all is well in Soma-land. :)
from jeannedark :
Glad to hear it is only the sniffles-I was worried that something had happened to your gramps. Yes, preschool is heartbreaking. There should be a rite of passage ceremony for mothers as well, as you bid farewell to your baby's babyhood. Once the move is done and your fethers unruffled, I'm sure interesting and charming people will flock to meet you! Tea and toast.
from somaserious :
Lurve:)any time, sweet cheeks. smooch, soma
from jeannedark :
<sniff> This is why I lurve you dearie! Thanks for validating my invalidation.
from jeannedark :
Thank you thank you my dear for the loving wishes and generous gift, what a delightful surprise to find in my inbox this morning! As for gardening and so forth, yes, I am going to do what we can to give this family a tiny wedge of independence. Want to save my pennies and install solar asap, take us off the grid. Good for you for confronting that slimy bastard at the dojo! I was so mad when I read your blog, I wanted to leap through the computer and give him a thrashing. What is it that keeps our mouths pinned shut when we should be screaming in outrage? Centuries of training, I guess. But I'm so glad that you didn't let him get away with it and took your power back. Stay strong my little friend.
from rose-phoenix :
soma, to create a link you put <a href="http://somaserious.blogspot.com">I'VE MOVED TO BLOGSPOT</a> you can put anything in between the ">" and "</a>". hope that helped
from fifidellabon :
GRRRR! I couldn't say "Well, I'll come up and we'll saw off his balls with a rusty spoon, but that is how I feel. He was SO WRONG that there aren't even words enough for outrage. Because he was "showing his power" over you and probably because you are better than he is. Deffo a show of dominance. It's to bad that you couldn't have "accidentally" cold-cocked him. (I do hope that I've learned that term correctly. Does sound a bit like a drink, doesn't it?) XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
I know! it is starting to scare me! Why am I sick All The Time?! Maybe I am getting decrepit. But actually, I think that Biba brings things home from school, and there are kids in her class who go half-days to another school, so that is probably why we have a new influx of whatever it all is. Crappo, though, enough already! XOFifi
from jeannedark :
How are you feeling dearie? No dry socket, I hope. All healed up and sealed up, by now I should think. Did you have a going-away party for your toof?
from fifidellabon :
It deffo doesn't sound as if you are finished. But it does sound like you both need to find a safe place where you can say things without hurting eachother and without fear of counterattack. That is what Ned and I did in therapy. Ned totally rocks, though. It really did help, though, I can see times even these days where we use the techniques of communication, not just data exchange. XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Wow, that sounds serious. My M O in those situatios is to do nothing rashly. Usually it all works out. I'll be hoping for you! xoFifi
from jeannedark :
Poor darling! Yes, you know it's just the GAD talking, however loud its voice. My theraist told me that familiarity is really important for managing anxiety, and the loss of all your familiar environs and ways of life, even temporarily must be very unsettling. The dreams of Gryffin falling are not really about him, just your mind worrying over losing what is most precious to you. Home. But you'll make a new home and the dreams will stop and the monster will retreat to its lair. I read that anxiety is a manifestation of avoidance, so maybe there's something that you don't want to acknowledge, even when your head is demanding that you pay attention to this thing that you have buried. Chocolate cookies and hugs to you as you get through the rough stuff.
from rose-phoenix :
soma, i really can't get over the fact that you have a PHOENIX on your diary. you know I chose my name because of the PHOENIX. anyway, thank you for dropping me notes every so often. your input is appreciated. love rose
from jeannedark :
Glad you are feeling better and more hopeful. It seems that things never really get too desperate, something always comes through at hte 11th hour. It's the 10th hour, all pent up and nervous, that's the killer.
from fifidellabon :
Oh, I know what you mean about that song. All I even have to do is to think about it and I feel all weepy..XOFifi
from elliestuff :
Yeah, I liked Cloverfield. I could actually understand it. I hear they are going to make a sequel.
from jeannedark :
Har har, tune in for another episode of Soms & G's Craptastic Adventures! Yes, once they "get it" they are trained pretty quickly. Then you have more fun when they start sleeping in underwear and you find yourself changing a lot of sheets or when they hit preschool and conveniently forget to wipe, so run around with a sore butt and skidmarks. Children are leaky.
from jeannedark :
Glad to hear that doses of kissing, cake and ice cream have put sweet Soma in a better mood. Don't worry about holding back. Don't stress on it. Evertyhing is cyclical, so eventually, you will come around again. Hey, how's the anxiety these days? Wondering how you are doing. You sound pretty happy-hooray!
from eco-mama :
hello! yes i have considered c therapy but my husband would NEVER do it. thank you so much for stopping. i love hearing from other mom's!
from fifidellabon :
Soms, yay for the romping! Having a child in the house can lead to holding back. It sounds as if you are doing splendidly, though and only think, Spring is here! XOFifi
from jeannedark :
Hullo dearest, thanks for the kind words. I'm glad you are seeking therapy-it was incredibly beneficial for us. And finding positives about the move. Moving can be stressful in good and not so good ways, but it sounds like you are planning for it well. Baby #2 will come when the time is right, I'm certain. They have a way of coming when they're called, in response to a whole-heart wanting. Dunno if you believe it, but that's been my experience. Be well!
from fifidellabon :
Well said, Soms. I must add that the majority of childless people actually do like children. The CF blogs seem to overwhelmingly represent a minority. And some of these hate-spewing people...they are soooo childish!!! Ironic, ouais?! XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Cuuute glasses! Cuuuute you! Cuuute kid!!!! Cuuute cat!!! It seems to be Cute Central up there, snow and all....XOFifi
from fifidellabon :
Oh, I did read "Good Omens"! It was hysterically funny! Thanks for the link! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Hang in there, the sun WILL come back! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
They do! They smell just like fritos! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Hey, Soms, YAY Soms! I heartily recommend city living! Also, I understand the lack of patience thing. Here is what we use with Biba, if ti helps. If-then statements. IF you do this, Then this will happen. They can be good or bad things. Anyway I really hope that you get to live where you want to. It is so important! Pee Ess You are a fantastic mother! It is very VERY important that a kid understands that Mummy is a person "with rights and feelings, too" as I tell Biba! XOFifi
from jeannedark :
LOL! I thought the very same thing! You know, you dislike in others what you dislike in yourself. She also totally reminds me of my sister. Will send the link. xo
from jeannedark :
Hee hee! That one got me too-hilarious! I found a couple sites that have the entire catalog of shows from seasons 1-5 if you need the link. Re: ep. 10=Bette is such a train wreck. She bugs. Hoping you are well in sweet Soma-land.
from jeannedark :
On the home page when you log in there's a link to answer a survey design poll-you can email help and tell them that your peepers are bleeding! My eyes! My eyes! Hey-L Word is girl porn. Any luck on the baby-making?
from jeannedark :
go to http://www.surfthechannel.com/info/Television/The_L_Word/61058/S5E9.html?aid=0&part=1 to watch longer clips (20 mins)-ouch, new Dland design hurts my eyes
from jeannedark :
I know! I keep thinking about Max and his new bf. Wotta trip. Poor Shane. Not avail. on You Tube but I found some other sites to view. Sigh-the season's almost over.
from jeannedark :
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SOMA DEAR! A bit tardy with the well wishes, but they are still good all the same. I hope the year is a blessed and bountiful one. xo
from jeannedark :
hello sick girl, go ahead and complain. We'll listen. Sorry to hear about your distressing dreams, it is a killer to have unresolved feelings for someone who you will never be able to work them out to your satisfaction. Your story made me remember some dream work I did a few years ago to get over a girlfriend. You can ask your subconscious to keep sending you back to finish it. Go to sleep and set your mind for the journey, ask the universe to bring him to you and then you can expel all those lingering feelings and be done with it. It does work! You'll be left lighter and freer. I did it and finally reached the point where I could let go and the charge dissipated. Let that bird fly away. Good luck!
from fifidellabon :
Soms! I am alive again! How did you now about the Lifetime Network?! That is exactly what I have seen a lot of lately. Hee, the things that they show! xoFifi
from jeannedark :
Methinks you need to see this: http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=smalltalk There should definitely be a club. My brother and I will join. Everyone will sit around in comfortable silence unless someone has something profound to say. There is even a shirt! www.zazzle.com/i_hate_small_talk_ladies_v_neck_shirt-235904181959537896 And last but not least www.hatebook.com
from jeannedark :
Love the new tats, girl! You are so super sassy! Banshee season, yes, I like that. February is winter's last death howl. Thanks for the uplift. Really, everything is fine and good and exciting. My god, here we go! I made that layout in Frontpage. If you draw what you want or send me some art and ideas, I could tinker a bit and make one for you. All you have to do is paste the html code in your templates page.
from fifidellabon :
Soms! You showed up as having updated, but no new entry! I have two theories. Well, I have to say that I miss you, but I do understand how it is difficult to find time to write. But let us know all of your good news, all right? xoFifi
from jeannedark :
I think tumbleweeds are blowing through your diary. Everything ok?
from jeannedark :
Cool! You did the You Tube thing! Noo, never Jenny. I plan to be very kind to my assistant, pay her well, give her a flexible schedule and otherwise keep her happy (so that she keeps me happy). I can give a lot of leeway as long as people get their work done. This is pure speculation, by the way. Maybe I would be a tyrant. I might even get sued for sexual harassment.
from fifidellabon :
No, you are absolutely NOT wrong to feel that way!!! People lose too much through trying to be "politically correct" and ignoring their gut instincts. Can your town have some sort of a meeting? Maybe get the press involved? Anyway, I was reading your notes with cherrydark (hee! I hybridised!) and I think that you should move here. We have a minimum of six lesbains on the block, and I am an honorary one. Except that I am fairly well a het. But still. You would have fun. And go broke! Because it is thee highest costing place in the country to live, apparently. Take care, stay safe! xoFifi
from jeannedark :
I emailed you-let me know if you didn't get it.
from jeannedark :
Yes, it's an unwieldy thing and I've posed the same questions to myself. But surely it's better than cheating. And I'm sure that many people would advise just dealing with it (the craving) but at what cost? There is no easy answer. Today's rationalization is--if we kept a strict vegetarian household but once in a while, I got a massive, insatiable bloodlust craving for meat, because my body needed it, how bad would it be if I went off by myself to savor a thick juicy cheeseburger in private? And then told H "I ate a cheeseburger today and it was super yummy" and we laughed a bit and went back to our sprouts and celery? Is that too much of a gross oversimplification?
from jeannedark :
Oohhh, you meant free hugs! I forgot about that one. Just copy and paste the html code into your entry. I thought you meant the sunset one.
from jeannedark :
Got your knickers in a bunch over the girls, eh? L Word marathons do have the power to draw out the lez in those of us who are susceptible. Can't wait to read more about it! Soon please! So what do you think about the idea of open marriage? I'm mulling over the idea and think I will propose it. 2 way street I know, but even the merest hint of freedom has me giddy. OK, videos on You Tube. I uploaded the video from my camera into my PC, then went into my You Tube account, and uploaded it there-it's really easy. Then just paste the html code in your entry.
from rocketsauce :
I LOVE the L Word!!! When do the new episodes start??
from jeannedark :
Hee hee hee! I'm so glad you're hooked! Now you can watch Season 5 and give me the blow by blow (no pun intended) since I don't have cable anymore. Mmm, Shane. A girlfriend? Yes please. Order one for me too, while you're at it. xo Formerly Cherry.
from fifidellabon :
Soms, Happy New Year! And is your son ever ADORABLE!!!! Wishing you every good thing! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Well, thanks for the note! It sounds as if you are keeping your chin up. A good thing...remember that you are going through one of thee most stressful life events. Moving house is just a tremendous pain. It seems as if you are not getting your feelings validated. Well, here is validation. Of absolutely course you will have doubts about the moving! Of course you have boundaries! Of course you will have worries about the unknown! Yikes! That is completely natural. Sometimes men-type people don't realise that we just need someone to really hear what we are saying. Once Ned and I got somehow into a massive role-reversal where he just wanted somebody to listen to him, and I sprang into full-on problem solving mode. It was a tremendous learning experience on how the "other half" thinks, for both of us. I am hoping that your husband will be able to give you the reassurance that you need. You sound a therapist's dream, though. Just needing a bit of organisiation to an already identified problem, and solutions already coming into place. Smashing! I also am one like that. Well, I shall be wishing you all sorts of good things! xoFifi
from cherryjjones :
Somedays I acquire a gleaming little nugget of information and a light and bell go off! Ta da! And I think "That's it! That's the one new thing I learned today!" Tonight wil lfind me with a kettle of hot water, lurking in the yard and trying to make the pines sprout sudden cones. Fabulous. It sounds like you are going through all the growing pains of weaning from the drug, a bit of a roller coaster. I totally get the irritability-and there's not much to be done but realize it is only chemistry and try to ignore it. Thanks for the note, btw. Nice to hear from you. And the cleaning and persnickety tic? I just keep it to myself and quietly rearrange things to suit me, clucking my tongue all the while and marveling at what a pain in the arse I am! Still, even LB knows there are no street clothes allowed on the bed. Any happy Christmas plans?
from fifidellabon :
I hav friends who raise chickens. Oh, the eggs! They are sooo different when they are fresh, don't you think?! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Soms, try to get into the habit of reaching for protein, be it cheese, nuts, etc. It will steady you out. Even if you eat a dorito or a cookie, see if you can get some protein in you at the same time. It will keep your blood sugar steady and prevent the skidding to a halt. Things will even out, I just know it. I had to kill another bat today and I am very rattled. But I am reaching for the red wiiiine!!1! See, we all have our slips. xoFifi
from cherryjjones :
Hullo my dear, bigs hugs to you and a bit of brow stroking as well. I'm so sorry to hear you had to say goodbye to your dear friend Thea, but doing so is just another expression of your love and caring for her. May she play well in the doggie afterlife and continue to warm your heart with her memory. And the irritability will fade-more withdrawal, hang in there. Sending you hot tea and buttery crumpets with lumpy jam. xo
from rocketsauce :
Thea was the softest dog I've ever know. I will always remember her. xoxox
from fifidellabon :
I'm so sorry. It is such a difficult thing. I'm never good at it at all. My favourite horse, who was dying acutely (very bad colic) he was the only one that I knew completely to save him the pain. I'll be thinking of you. I am really glad that you had that soul-dog, though! Much sympathy! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Oh, Soms, I am so very sorry about your dear dog. It is so hard to let them go, isn't it. Oddly, another will come along, and guilty as one might feel, we end up loving them just as much but in their own way. Odd thing, love, seems as if there is always enough to go round. As for the Three-Year-Old, oh yes, that is how they are. I find out that calling "Time out for Mommy" works ever so well. xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Soms, does Tiffany Colter want to be your friend? NaBloPoMp stuff. I was just wondering if it was a mass mailer thing, like that dude on MySpace that wants to be everybody's friend. Now I'm off to do that thing that you did with all the q's and all. xoFifi
from cherryjjones :
HOORAY! Congratulations to you my dear! Somaserious: Black belt. It must feel awesome to have mastered the challenge and won. You totally rock! Hiii-yaaahh!
from fifidellabon :
How did it go? I mean you did achieve your goal, right? xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Well, then, welcome back!
from cherryjjones :
Happy anniversary! I'm so glad to hear that you had a good celebration. And congrats to you on the wean! I'm so proud! My little girl is growing up, ha ha. It is nice to be back, isn't it?
from cherryjjones :
Hey, Glad to hear about all the exciting changes in your life. It will be so neat when you move and have more space. I think the companionship of the other housemates will be nice too. Good on you for trying to wean from the 'pro. Let me warn you though, that it's takes a long time for your system to settle down-I was really surprised. It took me about 5-6 months to start feeling normal and balanced again. The withdrawal is a pain, just keep in mind that your brain chemistry has been altered by medication. I was really weepy and very irritable for several weeks. It does get better. The nice thing is not being in that drug-induced, fake-happy fog. I feel like the drug pushed a reset button in my head, and I find it easier to control my GAD because I can know see which thoughts are realistic and which ones are GAD worries. It's much easier to be objective. Cal me if you need to vent/obesses about it. Umm, I answered your note. Does this mean I get sex now? ; P Honestly! Wouldn't it be nice to think that way once in a while!
from fifidellabon :
Aw, Soms, it sucks right now, but things will change. They have to, it's like a law. As for G, well, in the picture he looked awfy old to be catering to his inner little boy. Dudes, though, they just...they just are different from us. And they can't multitask for bat turds. But Ned and I have had our rough periods, and ultimately I believe that we are better off for having worked (or waited!) through them. I can't tell you what to do, but I can wish you every good thing! XOFIfi
from cherryjjones :
Hullo darlin', Thanks for the lovely note and recommendation! Things are surprisingly good these days-maybe it's just clearing the air that blows all the smoke and hot air away. Great pictures, again. Gosh I wish we lived closer to each other. I was reading your 'four things' lists, thinking 'Oh yeah! Me too!' I so wish we could hang. : ( It would be so cute to see LB and Gryf playing together. Glad to see things are pretty good in your world too. Now I have to play the game...
from fifidellabon :
I think I'll go with "collective world depression"...at any rate, it must begone!
from cherryjjones :
Hullo dolly-girl, I miss you here in D-land but what an absolutely adorable pic of you and wee Gryff on the Karate-blog! I'm so glad to hear about your challenges and achievments. Have I told you lately that you totally rock (or 'wock' as LB would say)! Come back and visit! xoxo
from fifidellabon :
Much like the Go-gos, my lips are sealed! Soma, that was a really nice post and I do hope that it will encourage others to appreciate all that they have! /xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
I know that critical little Man-in-the-brain!!! I blow him off with astonishing regularity. Next to no time for self-criticism! xoFifi
from fifidellabon :
Hmmm...hauling off and punching everybody, now that actually sounds like a good cure for politicians! xoFifi
from cherryjjones :
Go girl, go! You can do it! Hi-yahh! Make sure you post a pic of you wearing your new black belt when you get it so we can all 'ooh' and 'ahh' over you!
from fifidellabon :
I had a friend who used to go to Bomoseen every Summer as a child. Apparently fell in love every week. Bloody annoying she was, but the place sounds wonderful!
from cherryjjones :
Where are you, friend? Everything copacetic there in Soma-land?
from fifidellabon :
I meant "than" Audi...
from fifidellabon :
Oh, bah! Audis are throwaway cars. My first car was an Audi for exactly that reason. I'd never get another. At least your Chevy is reliable, AND, it's more fun to say "Chevy" that "Audi". Oui? xoxoFifi
from cherryjjones :
Wotta a cutie, playing nekkid in the mud. We should all be so lucky! It's good that you tried so that you are clear and know what you need to function at your best. I think of it very longingly, but in my case, I'm managing ok and need to deal with the things that are causing my anxiety in the first place. I heard about a book called "How Not to Be Afrid of Your Own Life" that I'm considering picking up. I liked how Lexapro smooth away fears and shrinks things down to size. One thing at a time, eh? Now that you're healed, are you enjoying your new boobage?
from fifidellabon :
Cuuuute boy! And that's a really nice, arty snap!
from cherryjjones :
Hullo pretty lady, So, too much introspection huh? Ha ha. Just wait till the Lexapro is gone from your system. ; ) Marital sex...do you ever read the column Savage Love? Well, Dan once said that no woman ever wants to have sex with her husband, and I'm starting to agree. Our needs and bodies change, plus the dreariness of domesticity and the loss of privacy/mystery kind of takes the edge off. I like that it's a gift you give each other, and that you do it to be closer to ther other's genuine self, not the person whining about taking out the garbage. It sounds like you are on the right path-sex is also about giving the gift of yourself to one you love, and gifting yourself with pleasure and tenderness. Down the rabbit hole, Alice!
from fifidellabon :
Hi Soma! I see you didn't get to connect with Cherry after all. But I wanted to write and say this---that kid of yours is SOOOO CUUUUTE!!! What a little heartbreaker! Oh, and, nice boobettes! Good job all around! /Fifi
from cherryjjones :
Chai and bananas-hee hee, that makes me smile. Thanks for sharing your birth story! Well done, Griffyn's mom.
from cherryjjones :
Yay! I am proud of you. I think it takes a lot of courage to deal with this process (speaking for you and me both). I do believe that many people have a choice to really dig in and deal with the issues that cause their anxiety/depression/what have you, or to ignore them as something completely beyond their control. I know there is a strong biological component to be considered as well, and that we can't fix everything via willpower alone. Perspective means a lot. And if at some point you (or I) need to go back to it, we can do so feeling informed and knowing that we are making the best choice for our health and happiness, just as we are by choosing not to take it. Phew-longwinded me. Anyway, I support you 100 percent. Cake and tea for us! Hooray!
from cherryjjones :
Yes, it is sad news. I wish that I could express my condolences to his family and friends. My mom died of cancer at 48, and as I get older, I realize how very young it is, and how much life there is left to live. Wow, so you're going off the 'pro huh? Brave! And good for you. What motivated you? Having been on it and seen life from a place of better balance and cheer gives me the blueprint for how to build my life without chemical assitance. Yes, it is hard, but much of the process is about making conscious choices. Do I choose to be freaked out or let those thoughts float by? Have meditated and done yoga and it does help. Just being aware and monitoring my thoughts helps too. I'm curious to hear how it goes for you. We should still talk sometime-I know I'm horrible about calling people but I'm always receptive!
from cherryjjones :
Hello dolly! Welcome home! You look so relaxed and happy in the photos, how nice that you were able to get away. I'm sorry we didn't connect. Back to work and prepping for the move. I must say, it does sound like you a very nice life-family near by, work that you love, snow and an opportunity to live with good friends. Lucky girl!
from fifidellabon :
Hi SOms! I'm drubk and I posted! BWAH-ha-ha-ha-haaaaaaaaa! xo Fifi
from fifidellabon :
I am a horrible flyer, myself. I passed out on th way to Ireland and woke up with an oxygen mask on! If only I had a sympathetic doctor, than I could get drugs! Once I'm settld in, though, then its sleep all the way. Once out of Copenhagen, I was asleep before takeoff. Besides, if you don't fly, you won't get anywhere far. Plus, I'd never see family if I didn't fly. I think it's just the control issues. Have a wonderful time! /Fifi
from fifidellabon :
Ohh! You are moving? Away from the cute little house? Where to? xoxo Fifi
from fifidellabon :
Oh my gosh, thank you vomiting! That's exactly what it is, isn't it? And I do it all the time! You're so funny! Now I'm off to the muenster.
from fifidellabon :
Who do you think it was from, silly?
from cherryjjones :
OK, you are going to be about 30-60 mins north of LA. Well, we'll give it a shot, if possible. But how exciting for you to see the sun and Pacific ocean! Are you going to do any touristy things in LA? You have my email, yeah? Let's exchange numbers.
from fifidellabon :
Ah, but you get to go to Cali soon. That should make things better...
from cherryjjones :
Yes, please! I am only 2 hours from LA. What part will you be in, do you know? Maybe we can take the boys out somewhere for kiddies. I'll see what I can work out! Thanks for your note. I've been up very late dumping myself all over the page so must go to sleep. Still, I found these sites today and thought you'd dig 'em. http://www.epilogue.net/index.php http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gothic_Lolita Glad to hear you are feeling better and better. Are you going to use Mederma or some scar cream when you're healed? Just a random fishie... Sending you chocolate fudge cookies with macadamias.
from i-never-said :
Thanks for the site...I have already bookmarked it under my faves...I'm just really nervous that I'm going to be too big...I'm not worried about the pain at all...Ok, I'm off to go ponder the site!...Thanks again...Ali
from fifidellabon :
Hey! I found a new way to deal with cravings. It was in the NY Post. I know, how trashy, I know. You're supposd to think of the food you are craving and rate your craving on a 1-10 high scale, then tap the back of your hand 10 times, then your collarbone 10 times, then under your eye (carefuly!) 10 times. Then you take a deep breath and...something, and then you roll your eyes to the right, then to the left, the you sing a few bars of Happy Birthday, then you count to five, then you tap th back of your hand something like 30 times and then you think of the food and rate your craving, and if the number isn't lower, you do the thing again. It's supposed to inturrupt (sp?) your normal reactions/expectations to the craving. I did it once and my opinion is that you figure nothing is worth having to do THAT again so you just forget about it and eat something nice, like carrots or cereal. But a cookie or two a day is not a bad thing, in my opinion. For me, a deep dark true truffle does it every time. All you need is one. All right, then tirrah. Hope the healing is gonzo! (Did I use that word correctly? I am feeling adventurous.) /Fifi
from fifidellabon :
Hmm...didn't Bobby Geldof beat you to that name? He and Paula had girls with quite unusual names. Fifi Trixiebelle was one. I wonder if she's changed it yet? Oh, must run.../fifi
from fifidellabon :
Oooh, Soms, I am sorry that you are having a sad moment. If it helps, most men are high-maintenance. Still, I'd best keep my yap shut! This will pass, and things will look brighter. I wish I had something intelligent or helpful to say. Since I don't, I send you virtual hugs. Careful ones, of course! Soon you will be all healed, and that will help tons. xo/Fifi
from cherryjjones :
Glad to see that you are feeling better! I hope that you bought yourself a pretty new bra to put your pretty new boobies in! Heh heh, I said 'boobies'. Funny how many similarities we have in our tastes! I'll have to do the list as well. Is it just 100 random things about yourself? And <ahem> I would be negligent in my official duties as Regional Rep for Closeted Dykes if I didn't point out that a take-it-or-leave-it attitude about sex with men is pretty telling...Hey,we are always recruiting. ;) Ah, too bad, too bad. I will be in NYC next week, I'll send my mind-waves through the air to Vermont so we can pretend that we are having tea and giggling, talking about books, magic, babies, men, women, cookies, art, perfume and all manner of luscious things. Keep well. And check out the book "Spindle's End", delightful!
from i-never-said :
Thanks for the note...I'm so excited about the augmentation, I am very small and my mom and my sisters are all C's...Heck, my mom even had to have a reduction, too!...And as for Christopher, I'm glad he's in a better place, but I still think about him daily, and I never knew him...I guess being a parent just makes it hit home even more, as you well know...Take care!...Ali
from fifidellabon :
You are sooo close to Nova Scotia, there really is no reason not to go. Take a ferry over, go camping on the Kej, go rafting on the Schubenacadie, see Bald Eagles, go out to Cape Breton Island, go see fun music festivals at Gaelic College, visiter a planet pepsi...that last one was on the bottle of Pepsi. Anyway, think about it, you could even get up to P.E.I as well, if you had the time. xo /Fifi
from fifidellabon :
Oooh! Ned's on percocet right now. I have to have vicodin when something big happens as I am allergic to percocet. I get alllll twitchy! Think of all the girls now that are thinking "Why couldn't she have sent the extra boobie-parts to me?!" heal fast! /xofifi
from fifidellabon :
Soms, how are you doing? Everything going well, I hope! /fifi
from cherryjjones :
Ooh, I know all to well that nauseous feeling, a financial cock-up. And it always comes across as an unforgivable sin to anyone else affected, whether or not it can be easily remedied. Chin up kiddo. Sounds like you are healing well, getting used to the new bod? Just think how fun it will be to go jogging, now!
from fifidellabon :
SO happy to hear that you are doing well. It sounds as if you are being really sensible, and that's a good thing! Heal fast!
from cherryjjones :
Yay! So glad everything was as pleasant as it could be, good nurses are wonderful people aren't they? I hope that everyone is giving you lots of goodies and yummies and love. And some from me too. : )
from beetilda :
GOOD to see you came out well. Beets hasn't been deleted yet. If you get a message from a neeewww diary saying that you might reaaally like it...well...I can't seem to get the writing need to go away! I have to think about it. Anyway, I am really happy to know that you are all right, even though I knew that you would be.
from beetilda :
HAH! I sent this to me first! Eh, she was just mad because I called her on her stalker behaviour. She'll get over it, and it was a public document after all. It's just that when I saw them searching for Miss B specifically, I thought WHAT HAVE I DONE!!?? and so I thought it would be better to quit. It's pretty lame-o anyway. See ya! And good luck! /bee
from cherryjjones :
Big day coming, big day! We probably won't hear from you for a while as you'll be in recovery but I'll be there in spirit, with a big bouquet and some hot tea with honey. Sending you health, happiness and good vibes. xo
from beetilda :
Dramarama doesn't even start to describe it. Now I hav two people doing specific searches in my diary to try to find out who I am. HAH! How surprisd will they be when they find that it's nobody in particular. I even went so far as to delete a few tings but tey will still live on in that damned google cache. Thing is, I am a total smartass, but who knew anyone was listening? I know these two people are relatively safe, but it's making me crazy because if I wanted people to know who I was, I'd tell them, right. BAH! On a different note, Tuesday is coming. I am wishing you so much good luck you wouldn't believe it!
from cherryjjones :
300-ooh, I've been dying to see that! We would make good movie buddies, you know? Big day on Tuesday, yeah? I'm excited for you! Envision only a perfect procedure, a smooth and easy recovery and I'm sure all will be well. Thanks for your presence and support! True, I've been in a bit of a lull, but despair is always temporary. My intention (for financial independence) gives me a lot of hope and comfort. Does that make sense? Have you ever watched "Extras"? I'm rapt, watching season one DVD's now. Hugs.
from beetilda :
it's on it's way...
from beetilda :
Oh, no, and now I have to tell you that I had to lock my diary. My smartassery got me into trouble. I will send the password if you want. /bee
from beetilda :
Soma, this is going to sound so horrible, but if G cares so bloody much about money, why isn't he bringing more in? I am not saying he should work more, but just that wanting money and not wanting to work are incompatible. Sorry, me and my big mouth, but I just couldn't help it any longer. grrrr!
from beetilda :
Soma, I do hope that I haven't missed your surgery date. I am sending you the very best of wishes and hopes for a speedy (and utterly boring, incident-free) recovery. /bee
from cherryjjones :
Hi doll, Maybe I'm just taking a break, I'm so busy with all the new stuff and not spending all day alone in an empty office so my urge to journal is diminished. We'll see how it goes. I hope that you are able to say goodbye to your twins and give them some sort of farewell, having served you thus far in life. I'm glad you will have your family there to baby you afterwards-- fix soup, freshen ice packs and ginger ale. I will send lots of well wishes your way!
from cherryjjones :
Sorry to hear your b-day was a bit of a bummer. Why can't we have parties with ice cream and balloons and jumpies? A JOP, eh? you are a complex, many-layered woman! And this bizness about the communal living...how would you build equity? Would you pay into someone else's mortgage or would you have equal stake? How would you claim your equity if you decided to leave? Curious idea. I have a fantasy of buying a castle and having all my friends come and live with me, but everyone has their own apartments and we share a few communal areas. That way, you get the best of both worlds. Shall I reserve a wing for you? ;)
from beetilda :
Holy Crap!! A Justice of the Peace?! What else don't we know about you? Sounds like it's time for a 100 things list!
from beetilda :
Hello! I did get the degrees F wrong though, it was 375 degrees F for the quiche. Which is gone now. It makes the most delicious breakfast. As for the conversations, let's just say I get around. Also, I have the gift of becoming invisible at times, so a lot is said that people don't think anyone hears. Not literally invisible, but you know what I mean. /bee
from hydrogeek :
Thanks for the note. Happy birthday, and I hope your surgery goes well!
from cherryjjones :
Nice wives! :) Check your email for a special b-day greeting (and turn up the sound)
from beetilda :
Happy Birthday!
from cherryjjones :
Crap! Why do my messages to you vanish into space? It just happened again! Now I have to remember what I said, something like...Little Red, I'm sorry that your reduction is causing unnecessary stress in your household. Sometimes its hardest to do what's best when it causes discomfort to others, yet still, it must be done, right? And I said that I would blow out the candle on a 'farewell boobage' cupcake and wish you well. I also offered to wag my finger at your husband while making a disapproving Marge Simpson noise. And that I am forever sending one-liners to my pal for our imaginary t-shirt collection. Maybe we can collaborate! Great minds, and all that. Love your 'reborn' tee. I need one of those. I also want one that says "Lie back and think of England", just for laffs. AND that I was watching Sponge Bob the other day and got the giggles so much that I couldn't breathe and tears came to my eyes, which next to 'the little death', is the best feeling in the world.
from beetilda :
PS I'll bet he just doesn't want to lose the boobies! Hee! (Just a joke, albeit a bad one.)
from beetilda :
It's not your fault. We are responsible for our own actions and their outcomes, but not for others. G is responsible for his actions, not you. I don't want to go on, as I can be horribly judgemental and viscious, (bet I spelt that wrong...) all the while talking out of my ass, but--BUT (I said "butt", heh heh ) This is not your fault. He is responsible for how he feels and what he does with that. You are responsible for how you feel and what you do with that. Trust yourself. Chin up. Now, time for a cocktail! Tirrah!
from boombasticat :
Thanks for the note and the metaphor thoughts. No books yet, but am trying. I think the thing about weather is that everyone's got something to say about it. I used to get annoyed by people talking about weather--at work, etc.--but it's really one of the few things that everyone can talk about. The guy who speaks no English who cleans my office, I said to him the other day in Spanish that it was very cold outside, and his face lit up.
from cherryjjones :
Most jealous of your sledding day, what a blast. There is nothing better than good old clean fun. Happy to hear that things are on the upswing with your man in the naughty department. Now re: him on Lexapro, I have often wondered if the many women I know who take anti-depressants do so to counter the effects of their husbands personalities and the assorted stresses of living with these wonderful yet sometimes difficult men. Another thought, perhaps he used to self-medicate to make himself feel better and now since he's not doing that anymore (yay), there's nothing there to fill the gap. Sounds like a hard life, internally speaking. If you pursue counseling, perhaps this is something you could approach there. Squeezes.
from beetilda :
OH! I remember those runs with the bump at the end! Oh, how I do miss that. The Winter sports are somewhat sparse around here...
from beetilda :
Wow, that was way cool! I just finished posting and I hit my notes by accident and there you were! Yes, I figured you had thought the thing out thoroughly. I am just one of those people who just keeps speaking up. Geh. well, someome has to do it...and I am just the one for the job!
from beetilda :
This is totally none of my business, and I want you to know that I totally support a person's right to do what is correct for them. The reduction, you've thought about how repercussions might be felt if you have another child, right? Repercussions that work both ways. Just sayin'. You seem very thoughtful, though, so I suppose that question is moot. Anyway, Terri at Footnotes went through reduction recently and she had a link to a big board with tons of info in it. Anyway. Oh, I say, I dreamed about you last night. We were all sledding and you had shorter hair and Angelina Jolie lips. Go figure.
from cherryjjones :
I hope you made it home safely through all the snow and arrived home to fresh gingerbread and cocoa with whipped cream and peppermint schnapps! You're lucky that you can work for trade and pay your loans with massages. I love the barter system. In that case, it's less a loan than someone prepurchasing a block of massage time. Maybe you could throw a fund-raising party for yourself! It would be a great excuse for a celebration, if nothing else.
from cherryjjones :
Chocolate covered strawberries, good for you! Don't worry, things will get easier with the little one and timing. If people are willing to support you by loaning you money that's an awesome gift. If your surgery is covered by insurance for medical reasons, I wonder if you would also qualify for short-term disability?
from beetilda :
All, right. Good advice! It's feeling a lot better already.
from rocketsauce :
what's your email?
from cherryjjones :
Mmm, warm homemade bread, how absolutely scrummy! I realized that reading other people's diaries satisfies my long-held fantasy of invisibility. Had I the magic cape, I'd just enjoy poking around in other people's lives a bit, look at their stuff, their houses, see what they are up to and be on my way. Plain old curiosity. It is sorta addictive. It's great that writing sparks your creativity. It's nice to have that added little zingy burst of thoughtfulness and connection in the day, yeah? Oh, and I had to look it up-it's the New Fane flea market in Brattleboro. The family have a spot up on some hillside at the top of a rutted road. They pick blueberries in summer and dodge the heaps of little frogs that croak under their porch when it's rainy.
from rocketsauce :
I was wondering how much Geoffory would charge for a set of dishware. I love my mug and bowl so much I want more and I will pay for sure. Let me know if he's interested.
from cherryjjones :
Lack of interest, eh? Could it just quite possibly be that you have other things to think about? Fellas are funny, as if there's something wrong is we aren't in heat. I just think of it as shifting gears, really. Anyway, maybe it starts from the top and works its way down for you too. Sad when the fire has burned down a bit. Do you have other family (your mom etc.) who are suportive of the reduction and can counterbalance the objections you're hearing? Stray thought-are you familiar with book "The Griffin and the Minor Cannon"? It was illustrated by Maurice Sendak-lots of links to the full story on Google.
from cherryjjones :
Gosh yes, love Keane, I end up listening to the same songs over and over. Lady in the Water was great and restorative and made me a bit weepy. Ginger Snaps 2 (?) is the best of the series, when Bridget ends up in the asylum. I was thinking about your recent entry recently. A professor once told me that most (all!?) societies are modeled on the parent-child dynamic. There is always this power hierarchy of one person being in control and the other being controlled. A typical workplace dynamic, with boss and employee (people feigning excuses to call in sick rather than just say 'I'm not coming in today'. End of story.) or patriarchal relationships (man as master of the house etc., wives needing their husbands approval or permission for things). Point being, Sensei says you lose a bit of your soul by apologizing for yourself, yes, because if it's forced upon you, you're being cast in the child's role. My prof said as a general statement that adults don't apologize or make excuses, and for the most part, I agree. We only need to do so when it is genuine and heartfelt, not to wiggle out of trouble, because that means not owning our behaviors. I think about this alot. I do embrace apologies as a social lubricant (heh heh), because we all need to be courteous with each other but otherwise, forced explanations and apologies ring false. Anyway, I noticed a correlation there and appreciated it. AND! $600 for a whole actual house? I envy you. We pay nearly $1600 for a 2 bedroom apt. and have to lug all our wash up & downstairs to the communal laundry site. We have probably spent enough in laundry quarters since living here to put a down payment on a house. :(
from beetilda :
Well, your women's group is a really really good thing. In the North lands, they are almost a health requisite in the Winter. Umm...oh, one of our friends is a man-to-woman transsexual, and she is one of the nicest people you'd ever meet. Still, I admit at first she did keep me off balance, but now I don't even notice. Plus, she has stopped calling me "Amanda" which is totally not my name! Yes, we do entertain quite a bit, but it's kind of like oxygen, really necessary. We even built our marriage vows around hospitality, all within the bounds of traditional liturgy. Hospitality helps every one out, I think. Now I will go write an entry all about---my new guitar!!!! Sorry if I sound smug. Actually I am just insensitive. But in closing I have to say lucky, lucky LUCKY you! You have so much family close by! YAY!
from beetilda :
Oh, you and the babbie are so cute! I was going to write you earlier, but you know, parties all the time and all that. We just had guests leave, though. They are off tour for another fortnight or so. Anyway. So yes you do too have someone to watch your babbie whilst you and the Man go off for counseling. What about his mother? Maybe family isn't suitable? It was he himself's mother that sat with Miss B when we went for counseling when she (B) was about your son's age. I've a feeling that that is a tough spot for marriage. Or time. But. The good news! Counseling ( did I spell that right?) can help you get through it even stronger. (My that was an awkward sentence...) Think of it as a safe place to get things out on the table and you are legally required to be fair. Something like that, anyway. Best of luck to you!
from cherryjjones :
So sorry to hear about all of the drama-trauma at home! Of course you have to take care of you, being the mama with such an important job to do, naturally you should feed your soul with whatever it needs to stay happy and content. Marriage does not mean an abandonment of your individuality, a compromise of your very personhood. Funny, I had the very same conversation about selfishness in my own head today and the way my presence seems to bring out the dependency in others around me. I've found that mostly when people harp on your fault's, it's because they don't want to address their own. Projection! It's great to realize when someone is putting their stuff on you and you can step back and say, hey that's not me! Hmmm, go get yourself a cookie, cookie. PS. Little red! At 5'4'', I can finally tower over someone! ;)
from beetilda :
It was one of the Star Trek movies with the 1960's telly show cast. Captain James T. Kirk was giving lessons on how to blend in as they had for whatever reasons gone down to Earth and back in time. I used to catch films on telly with my Dad when I was little.
from cherryjjones :
No worries. Weird, I remember posting a response note to you but I don't see it here...maybe it didn't come across? Basically, it said "Ah ha! I knew it."
from beetilda :
Whoah! I did not figure you for 16, but I did picture you as early 20s. I also pictured you as having short blondy-browny hair. Don't you just love having mental pictures of people through their diaries and it doesn't really matter at all if you hit the mark? I use slang a lot, and also colorful idioms. hee. Three points if you get the film reference in the last sentence. /bee
from cherryjjones :
Secretary intrigues you eh? Har har, you cheeky monkey. Toying with D/S fantasies? Ooh T, bitten off the cherry, I like it. Well, Soma, I can certainly reccommend some books to you if you want to explore a bit, Anne Rice's Beauty series is a start for straight stuff. Pat Califia's predominant on the dyke scene for her leather/bondage tales. Not that you are going that way, just in case...why do I have a feeling that I'm watching a corruption in progress? ;D As far as your reduction, maybe G is keeping mum because he feels that voicing anything other than total support would be, well, unsupportive. And, money, money, that old devil. I know its excruciatingly difficult to focus on your blessings when faced with lack, but it helps. They do say whatever you focus on grows. That makes me think of your penis/massage story, which is not what I intended.
from beetilda :
Aw, I hope you feel better. Remember, you are doing something positive for yourself, and that's something far too many of us forget to do. (The boobies!) Also, lucky, lucky you! So much family close by! Mine are not even all in the same country. Oh, and money? it will put a black cloud over your head unless you conciously and strongly try to forget about the worry it causes. Best of luck to you!!
from t85225 :
Thanks for the note :) And I agree that Secretary is a great movie! Now... you say that you've never considered the route of D/s (and I assume BDSM), yet you have cherryjjones on your list of favorite reads. Hmmmm... I'd say that if you've bitten off a piece of cherry, then there isn't much you would shy away from :D
from beetilda :
Nope, they're not the same.The one that isn't yours is a benzo. Hmmm. The only stuff I am on is superstrong Zantac. And I hadn't even had to take that for over two weeks until this afternoon when he himself flaked on me and said he couldn't be there for Miss B when I went to my massage. I am a poor little stressed out creature. Fortunately my sister stepped in.
from beetilda :
Thanks for the word. I took an informal poll,and I was told the word was "stuffed" but as we all know if you tell someone to get stuffed (not that you would, you are nice!) well that is an entirely different matter! So it didn't seem quite right. Now, tell me, is lexapro the same thing as lexomel? They sound quite alike.
from beetilda :
Duh, sorry, les gallettes *des* rois, une galette *du* roi.
from beetilda :
A gallette du rois is the King's cake and is an Epiphany tradition. The feve (which was originally a bean) is now a little tiny china figurine, and whoever gets the piece with the feve in it gets to be king or queen for a day and to choose their corresponding other. The youngest child goes under the table and calls out who gets which piece Maman cuts. You can google it and get a better explanation. My head is fried right now. Geh. Oh, it is layers of flaky pastry and buttery-ness and almond cream/patisserie cream combination in the inside. Highly addictive! Today's feve was some dude with his arms up. /bee
from beetilda :
Ah. Well. But that kid is definitely your work! What a little cutie!!!!
from cherryjjones :
Aww, look at the little noodle. Wotta cutie-pie. I envy your access to snow-I really miss the smell in the air when a storm is building and the peachy color of the sky, and the different qualities of ice and the various frost patterns. Women's groups are really important-different than having just a one-one because of the shared energy & various perspectives. I know what you mean about 'hamster in a wheel' syndrome. I had free-floating anxiety that attached itself to anything & everything. I was paranoid about elevators, accidents, distasters, closed spaces, open spaces, breathing things in, too much eye contact (!! It made my heart race)-really random stuff that just felt like 'not me'. Writing it down-it sounds completely crazy. With the meds it finally broke the escalating cycle of weirdness and allowed me to come back down to earth. I feel so much better now, but want to try functioning with natural coping skills. And, oddly, I've also been diagnosed with a heart that skips beats. I wonder if there's a connection, somehow, between that & anxiety. ? Several people oin my family on on the same stuff (zoloft, prozac etc.) so it definitely has a genetic origin.
from beetilda :
It's pronunced "KAY-lee" and I am not certain if there is even a standardised spelling. Gotta go, we're having a party here, although we all did admire your artwork just now. Leda and the swan and all, don't you know...
from beetilda :
Hello! A ceilidh is a big happy party usually held at a hall and everyone dances and gets drunk and falls over. Here in the States it is usually at a Hibernian hall or suchlike (is that a word?) and is usually Irish. Here I am not certain as to whether an entire village would show up, and also I am not dead on certain as to whether anyone gets laid after. Here a ceilidh seems more one-layered. As to Q#2, I am not French. I have far too much self-confidence! How about you? Are you non-frozen? It is what I call "refreshing" here, although people seem horrified that I can't be bothered to actually button up my coat. (Here = NJ, where I have been living for at least 5 years.) Also, in case the "tilda" part throws you, we have also ruled out my being an Aussie, although there is some wench on ebay who has co-opted my name and she is from Oz.
from cherryjjones :
Fine for a long time??? Ulp. Curious-were you prescribed for anxiety or depression? And btw, if I ever open a bakery, can I please call it "The Daily Cookie"? Lurve it!
from cherryjjones :
One more thing: Check out this site, lot's of very cool old kid's stories for download. Griffyn might be too young yet but he'll like them as he gets older (you might dig them tho' some are a bit archaic...). We used to listen to "Let's Pretend" when we were little. http://www.artsreformation.com/records/ Also, my son LOVES 'Bedtime Stories for Pirates', it's jolly good fun with songs about scurvy and the like. http://www.boggandsalty.com/store
from cherryjjones :
No cold turkey, I went to half dose for a while before nothing at all. I don't know if I can handle hearing any horro stories about it quite yet, tho'. It's an experiment to see if I'm ready to come back from my 'vacation'. And kudos to you, btw, for braving the bodies of strangers! You are truly performing a wonderful service. If the bodywork calls to you, I'm sure you'll find a way to make it happen. I dug your cool artwork, and your brother's dark & spooky stuff. Don't worry about the end product (poetry), just do it-because you can, because you want/need to, because it's a celebration of life and art. Now who's being hokey? ;)
from beetilda :
Well, howdy back! I found you because...ahem...you showed up in my stats. I don't know exacty how, but I usually say hello if I ever discover a reader. I'll be adding you to my list shortly. Did I mention that I loooove Vermont?! And that I have currently no massage therapist? Were I in Vermont, well...!
from beetilda :
Hallo, Soma! I just found you and your comment. Thanks a million, and I am reading you now. I just wanted to throw some unsolicited words of encouragement your way. Being the parents of a young child is very stressful and very hard to navigate. I can tell you that you are probably in the thick of it now, but things are even now starting to get better for you two parents. By the time your babbie is 3.5 years old, you will feel so much more sane and also the tex part will get back to normal. Oh, sorry, did I write "tex"? I meant "sex". Anyway, hang in there. I swear to you it gets better. Miss B is now 4 and things are going swimmingly. Except that I feel sure that she will be a lawyer. She likes to renegotiate as she goes along. All right, cheers, then! I'm going back to read you. /bee
from cherryjjones :
Taurus with a Pisces moon
from cherryjjones :
Ooh, I love the icy trees, brr! The changing season are truly magical aren't they? I relish the rotation and the cycles of rest, rebirth, growth and decline. I've lived in Cali for years and am constatnly disoriented because the weather is always the same. It feels very static and shallow, when you can't feel the stirrings below the surface... As for things with your hubby, time makes or breaks couples. It's been almost 15 years for me and DH; the turmoil has smoothed out and things are really good now but it took a long time to get there. No one ever really tells you just how friggin' hard it can be to align your habits, desires and moods with those of another adult. As for the nooky, well jeez, it's like I'm reading my own thoughts! It takes years (!) for things to get back to 'normal' after having a baby. I've heard and believe that for many women, sex takes a back seat because in addition to the exhaustion, your need for cuddles and closeness is fulfilled by the relationship with your child. Giving so much love and nurturing to someone all day, the constant touching from sticky little hands and the demands of physically caring for another person can be really intense. By the end of the day, you probably don't want anyone to touch you just becasue you've been in that caregiver mode and then having to satisfy someone else's bodily needs becomes somewhat of a chore. I hope that you can find the balance that you seek. And thanks for the support and comments on my site!
from cherryjjones :
And a link to an audio version as well:http://www.scifi.com/set/playhouse/snowglassapples/
from cherryjjones :
Here's link to check out an online version of the story. http://www.holycow.com/dreaming/stories/snow.html I'll look into the books you mentioned, in the meantime, I reccommend Angela Carter's ss collection "The Bloody Chamber". She is my idol, a completely brilliant writer. Speaking of DCD, have you heard their song "The Ubiquitous Mr. Lovegrove"? I saw DCD last year in concert and it was truly a profoundly moving, visionary experience. My book info sent as requested. Hope you find it intriguing, plus there's lots of stuff to read on my site. :)
from cherryjjones :
Have you read Neil Gaiman's short "Snow, Glass, Apples?" The best version of Snow White, ever.
from cherryjjones :
Hi ya cookie, I'm so happy for you getting the reduction! I've known three women who did it and they were completely thrilled by the change in their bodies afterwards. I think massaging will also be less strenuous for you once you've healed. I'm glad you like Mel C. She's my fantasy girl. Rrrowwrr! And as for the big question-I have two kids and a devoted partner. It's not worth walking away from him and disrupting lives. Maybe at some future point, DH would be sad but supportive...Once I read a horoscope that said I would never find true happiness until I 'left the nest'. The nest is awfully comfy and the big wide world can be pretty cold...
from cherryjjones :
I think it's time for all pastry fans of the world to stand and unite. We will not be swayed from our cookie-lovin'! Do not cave in to the pressure! And I think it's fair to say that any thoughts/opinions etc. that develop during the bloody week have the option to be revoked, or at least not taken seriously.
from rocketsauce :
Wow! I feel like writing stuff down is really helping you move forward with major decisions. I love it. xoxoxox see you soon Kare bear!
from cherryjjones :
TOTALLY! Chump. If only they had to endure a day of womanly suffering...they wouldn't be able to hack it! Gorefest, heh heh, it IS a bit fun, innit?
from cherryjjones :
"taking a dump by yourself" or without small child standing on other side of locked door, aiming his screams at you with a bullhorn mouth. How about a day without eating or just eating junk? Or a full night's sleep, or a day without having to wipe someone else's bum? <sigh> at least we are not alone in the universe. :)
from cherryjjones :
Are you writing from the other half of my brain, girl? Lexapro, money worries, cursing mommies... Wanna be soul sisters?
from rocketsauce :
update already!

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