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from kelsi :
Hope you found your phone <3
from ernst :
Umm...?
from orangepeeler :
2024-03-03: Me too. I start the day saying, to no one in particular, "fuck you", and then repeat this throughout the day and evening.
from ernst :
I'm not easily mortified by messes. Have spent some lovely weekends w/some, even.
from kelsi :
Happy birthday!
from ernst :
Potato Alan, my favorite-named of your herd (w/Oiseau a close and curiously-christened second), probably went off to die alone...with a kind of animal dignity I respect and envy. Just try to step back and appreciate what's obvious to all of us, maybe? You made for him a wonderful life, Toejam.
from ernst :
"These f'ng cats. Fuckers. All of them." Meanwhile, someone prepares them crock-pot chicken twice a week...
from ernst :
I feel compelled to mention here that Toejam is, in fact, quite fit...and that while she may not be able to meet her bizarre “Little House On The Prairie” waist metric with her own dainty digits, someone with grown-man's hands could easily do so. A brilliant, handsome fellow-blogger perhaps? (Or maybe some neanderthal “boyfriend” she met on Craigslist?)
from orangepeeler :
Ooh, "intriguing creature"! <3
from orangepeeler :
So sorry for your loss x
from ernst :
Good for you for being there w/them at the end. I know you've got a lot on your own plate. (And speaking of plates...Michigan Mexican? I shudder to think.)
from ernst :
I will rally around that flag. Forward now, w/grace and good humor Team Nancy!
from kelsi :
Three weeks of bleeding is way too long! That sounds awful - I'm sorry. Ugh. I use a Ziggy cup from Intimina - it works so much better for me than other kinds of cups. Still isn't perfect for monster periods but it's better than the alternative for me. Have you read this article in the New York Times? I thought it was very interesting: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/01/magazine/menopause-hot-flashes-hormone-therapy.html
from ernst :
I'm also one to duck off the freeway, even when it pushes my ETA back...it's like there's worlds running parallel, almost.
from ernst :
Since four horses have died running at Churchill Downs this season, black seems tragically appropriate.
from kelsi :
Wear the black dress! If not now, when?
from sexonatable :
Do it! Wear the dress!! Always wear thr dress!
from jimbostaxi :
(as the crowd gathers to cast their vote) Jimbo screams PICK THE BLACK ONE!:) lol
from ernst :
Welp, if it looked too good to be true...
from orangepeeler :
Congrats on the raise x
from ernst :
The potassium iodate in a ketchup (if the fry was truly drenched) is anti-microbial. You can clean your bathroom with the stuff. Solid floor-snack, no worries.
from ernst :
The potassium iodate in a ketchup (if the fry was truly drenched) is anti-microbial. You can clean your bathroom with the stuff. Solid floor-snack, no worries.
from kelsi :
Best wishes to your mom (and to you) through her treatment!!
from ernst :
Love, always, to both of you.
from catsoul :
1.19.2023. Sorry to read that your mom has cancer. Fuck cancer. Just be there, with her, no need to talk. Just being present with her in the time of cancer with give her some peace. I won't tell you about the few friends I have sat with who died of cancer. Just know, I am hear to read what your mom and you will be going through. Peace within yourselves. =^..^=
from orangepeeler :
HA!!! Here's to not accidentally immolating ourselves this winter!
from ernst :
Finding a decent bagel in the south is like finding a baby unicorn in a dumpster, only with sesame seeds. I’ve yet to stumble across one in TX…
from catsoul :
10.23.2022. Hi there. Just wanted to let you know I have started reading your writing again here. John Irving has a new book out, 900 or so pages. He did an interview and said that this would probably be his last novel. I know, we are all getting old, though one should just keep writing to stay sane. Peace within yourself. =^..^=
from kelsi :
Get you a new dentist who’ll take out those silver fillings! Even if you have to move to LA! (They’d definitely do it there. But they should also be able to do it in Michigan.)
from kelsi :
Get you a new dentist who’ll take out those silver fillings! Even if you have to move to LA! (They’d definitely do it there. But they should also be able to do it in Michigan.)
from ernst :
You can call a vulture a "vulture" you know...they don't consider it pejorative.
from ernst :
This too shall pass, milady.
from kelsi :
They will rue the day they fired you, the fools! And this will lead to bigger and brighter things for you!
from kelsi :
Hopefully the peony will come back up next spring! But what a d-bag thing to do :(
from kelsi :
<3
from ernst :
Hey Toejam - That’s three entries and no mention of the cats, is everything OK? Your love stuff is all well and good, but there are other characters in this drama we loyal readers tune in to read about you know…
from kelsi :
I'm starting to do that too - get rid of things I used to care about. I let my sourdough starter die, I've let plants die, I'm going to get rid of some stereos and Pearl Jam posters, and I'm going to pare down my record collection. And I don't care. Who needs all this crap around them? Not us!
from orangepeeler :
2021-12-22: Ooooof.
from orangepeeler :
Poor kitty! So sorry for your loss.
from kelsi :
For many years, Discover had a picture of a service agent on their website that looked like you. Every month when I went to pay my bill, I'd see her smiling and think that I would tell you about her. But I never did, and now she's gone. But I still think of you whenever I pay my Discover card bill, because I always notice that she's not there anymore!
from ernst :
Back after 10+ yrs of journal neglect, great to(e) read your voice again, jammer'.
from kelsi :
I've had to get steroid injections in my foot a couple times, but it never induced any euphoria in me. Lucky!
from kelsi :
Also, if you were a character in a story, it would be said that you had taken a secret lover. The title would be The Transit of Venus. Unfortunately, someone’s already written a book with that title. p.s. I’m sorry your secret lover turned out to be a turdbucket.
from kelsi :
Is this your first asshole? If so, you’re doing great! I only like assholes, it would seem. Yes they can be fun, but an asshole’s an asshole. The other night I had a dream I was with a nice guy. It was nice. :|
from kelsi :
Happy birthday!
from kelsi :
Sorry about your kitty, again 😿 Losing a pet is horrible.
from kelsi :
Congratulations on the house! And the cats and bees! I went through a short phase of waking myself up laughing from dreams. It was fun.
from kelsi :
Sorry about your kitty 😿
from dangerspouse :
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Smudge sounds like he was a wonderful cat. You have my condolences.
from dangerspouse :
Well it's been a month. Do you have a new cat tower, or not? (Hope you're well!)
from dangerspouse :
God, how awful for you. Please update soon and let us know how the medical treatment worked out, at least. Hang in there.
from kelsi :
Sorry to hear you're going through these rough times, feline-wise and human-wise. 2017 is off to a very rough start! Hopefully that means it'll get much better after this...?
from dangerspouse :
Wait - how did you "buy" a go-cart, using quotation marks to indicate the use of "buy" might be ironic? Details! Did you buy a go-cart or not? How fast did you go? Did you flip it? DETAILS, I SAY!
from dangerspouse :
OMG, that's GREAT!! Welcome home, prodigal kitty :)
from kelsi :
Hooray about finding the kitty!
from kelsi :
I love staying in hotels, so much. <3
from candora :
Ducks? Years since my last visit to DLand perhaps, I stumble upon your quest to discuss ducks. What about the ducks? :)
from kelsi :
But for real, happy birthday!
from kelsi :
"I haven't even started"... ahh, that's the perfect way of putting it, and I feel the same way about my life. I have nothing to say about it, except happy birthday! Oh, I do have something to say, which is that yes you have started. I have too I suppose, although it's hard to feel good about it sometimes. We've started something, whatever it is.
from dangerspouse :
Wow, you opossum eats better than my wife does! AND gets breakfast in bed. I'm so ashamed....
from dangerspouse :
Oh god, I would die too if women couldn't wear tank tops! Or actual tanks, for that matter. Panzer vor!!
from whystinger :
Read your 9-4-15 entry. I agree, it does help. As the couple's therapist told me and I found out, "do the behaviors and the emotions will follow." Choose to be positive and it will happen, but it takes a while so don't get discouraged. Regards!
from kelsi :
Sorry to hear about what's going on. Glad you're talking to someone, though. Good luck.
from realchild :
your dad is an asshole.
from dangerspouse :
Kelsi's right - maybe you should consider becoming European. And yes, very sorry about putting down the cat. And the marriage. Extremely sad, both.
from kelsi :
Not that that helps anything. <3
from kelsi :
Sorry about your kitty, and things. I just heard this thing, they asked old ladies which age they would go back to if they could, and all the European ladies said their 40s.
from dangerspouse :
Congrats on almost reaching your goal weight! When you get there, celebrate with more riesling :) (Sorry about the cat costs - I hope it's worth it to you.)
from dangerspouse :
Poor cats! It's 5/10 now - any updates on their condition? Best of luck!!
from catsoul :
4/25/15....hi. I am so envious that you are going to listen to David S. I love his writing. Enjoy. Take Care. =^..^=
from stepfordtart :
How about some of those 'door sock' things (sorry, dont know what theyre actually called)? The padded roll things that stretch over the door handle and around to the handle on the other side and stop the door from closing right up. Maybe that might help? Sleep deprivation is actual real proper grown up TORTURE :-/ s x
from amidstgrace :
I'm sorry your work, this retail season and those around you have you feeling down. I cab't say I could do what you do, it can be very taxing and I know there aren't a lot of thank you's and cheer out there, but Merry Christmas to you, I hope you can find some joy in it yourself ..
from dangerspouse :
Working retail during the holiday season was one of the most trying times of my life. You're right: empathy needed!
from dangerspouse :
A vegan cooking blog? NOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooo!!! Can you at least include some pork recipes...?
from dangerspouse :
Hang in there, kid. Work sucks, but it's still better than the alternative. I hope, though, that you do manage to find a different line of work someday soon. Being stuck somewhere that makes you gnash your teeth for 8 hours a day can make life hellish. Best of luck, really.
from dangerspouse :
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Hope you have a great day, and many more :)
from dangerspouse :
Welcome back! God, I love lentil soup. If I ever cloister myself away that will be one of my sole means of sustenance also. Hey, the cinnamon water - was that for drinking, or scent? My wife loves a Korean drink I make of simmered cinnamon sticks, ginger and honey. Just curious if you were doing something like that too. Now the real point of this note: how's Crash doing?
from zenayda :
I may have to get one of thise lights. It could multitask because da fid needs more full spectrum light for his feathers and general well-being.
from zenayda :
Hugs. Just hugs.
from dangerspouse :
HANG IN THERE, CRASH!!!
from zenayda :
So sorry it has been such a tough, tough time kitteh-wise. You made their lives better, and although it's hard, your final act for them is one of love. Many hugs to you.
from kelsi :
Sorry about your kitties.
from catsoul :
I am so sorry and sad for your Oscar and you. I sat here and cried for you both and your other aging cats. I so feel your anguish. =^..^=
from dangerspouse :
Oh my god - I love Chateau d'Yquem (when I can afford it)! My heart almost stopped when I read that sentence. Bravo! What was the second wine, btw? (In an odd bit of kismet, I had just put up a wine entry right before reading yours.) Oh - and glad the bitch boss is outta there. Hope you stole her ruby slippers.
from realchild :
so many congratulations & lots of face scratches for dear Rudy.
from zenayda :
Wow, that IS pretty awesome about Rudy. Kitteh happies FTW!
from zenayda :
Sorry to hear about Abby. Gentle hugs.
from dangerspouse :
You set out 3 avacados a day for the raccoons? Wow, that would be beyond my budget. Do you get the over-ripe ones from the restaurant or something? Oh well, good for you for being an angel for so many animals. Best of luck with the ailing kitty. Sounds like she's at least in good hands.
from dangerspouse :
So, ah, how did you give yourself a black eye? If I guess, it will probably be more lurid than what actually happened. I'd rather know the truth, no matter how disappointing.
from thruthecrowd :
aww thank you for putting yourself through this for the kitty. It's so good to read how much you care. He sounds beautiful, silver with green eyes! wow. Hopefully he's feeling better soon!
from catsoul :
hi again, still curious the name of that vegan cookbook. Thanks. Have a great weekend. =^..^=
from catsoul :
Beans mashed up is good on a pizza instead of sauce. What is the name of the awesome cookbook? Glad you enjoyed your visit. Take Care. =^..^=
from zenayda :
I'm very sorry to hear about Bear. He sounds like he was a pip. I hope you can take comfort in your happy memories of him, and in knowing that you gave him a good life, with warmth, vittles, safety, and most of all, love.
from thruthecrowd :
I'm sorry to read about Bear's passing. You seem like such a good kitty mom, and I know you did all you could for him. I am sure he knew he was loved. Also, just so you know, it makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one who cries and grieves when a kitty I love passes. <3
from z765323814 :
Sorry about bear.... p.s. my facial lady loves her job more than anyone I have ever met. She says its so relaxing to help people relax, and rewarding to help them do something nice and good for themselves. I have been reading you on andoff for years and I think you would love it. Learning a valuable skill that is enjoyable and helpful is real!
from kelsi :
Sorry about Bear :(
from dangerspouse :
I love The Moth! Someday I wanna be one of the storytellers. (And...you're not gonna tame a wild 'possum. Maybe stew him. But not tame him. Sorry.)
from dangerspouse :
All that AND an opossum story to come? WHEEEEEEEE!!! My Christmas is complete! (Seriously - I hope the stress doesn't kill you before it arrives, though. Hang in there!)
from dangerspouse :
HAPPY 4-0!! I hope you get that winning Lotto ticket. Or at least no more regurgitated worms. Both would be welcome, I'm sure :)
from dangerspouse :
Hey - I just saw you added me to your Big List O' Reads. Thanks very much! I'm very flattered :)
from dangerspouse :
It's not just you. FB seems to have a corrosive effect on the intellect. It's weird, but true.
from kelsi :
Physical therapist!
from zenayda :
So sorry to hear about Bear. Sounds like you are doing all you can to make him comfortable. Surely, he knows he is loved.
from thruthecrowd :
Just read your entry. I don't know where you live, but we rescued some fully feral kittens at 6 weeks old. It took 3 weeks to socialize them, but at that age they are fully saveable and able to be fully socialized. I would hate to see a kitten so small go back to the streets. If you leave me a note or email me your location, I can help you find a no-kill rescue shelter in your area that will socialize it and adopt it out. right against the sky [at] yahoo [dot] com
from zenayda :
Did I ever send you the password when I locked up? Drop a line to beltway belle (one word) at yahoo dot com if I didn't. My brain isn't what it used to was.
from catsoul :
Just a note to tell you I read your entry today about the well. I had that same/similar happen to me. Like who was I kidding when I told myself that I would go shower somewhere else. After finally getting a new well, it was heaven to shower. I felt like such a hick and loved it. Thank heavens it was summer and I was off for the summer, otherwise, you know. I used a lot of patchouli for those two weeks, you could say I bathed in it. I scented my bottled washing water with it. Sending you "well" wishes. That is sooooooo puny I know. Take care. =^..^=
from marn :
Toe Jam. What a hoot as a diary name :) It's very sweet of you to be concerned. Worry not. All is well. Yes, tons of projects and far too little time.
from sugar-tooth :
I know what you mean by wanting to wake up early and then waking up 100 times during the night. Your mind is thinking...i can't sleep in and for some reason it believes that the best way to make sure that you dont. Is to keep reminding you not to sleep in. It's way of doing that is waking you up. I hate my mind sometimes.
from pornoviolent :
...and earl
from beautyx3 :
this is belated, i've been behind in my diary readings, but congrats on the new husband!
from kelsi :
Ahhhhh, that bastard! It worked! I am so lame! I put the same thing twice! I am so lame! it worked right as I submitted the note! Carp ass bastard cat hoel! Stupid bastard signmyguestgook! Crap! I'm so lame, I'm going to bed!
from kelsi :
Oh Whisper, that bastard signmyguestbook monster, I signed the following and it's still sitting there - will it actually work? will it not? I don't know so I'm putting it here. It's January 8, 2004 at 11 p.m. Pacific time: "DEAR WHISPER, THANK YOU FOR YOUR TWO ENTRIES TODAY. IT'S GIVEN ME something to do. What's a bedazzler? I don't know what it is. And there was somehting else from your list that I don't know anything about, but I can't think of it right now and I can't be bothered to go back to your entry and refresh my memory, as I've had a bit of wine tonight and I'm going to bed hencefrth. But does a bedazzler make beads? Or does it put pretty twists in your hair? Or does it put jewels on fabric? What is it? I don't know! Whisper, good luck with the kitty cat and with the boy. You are rad. good night." That's what I tried to sign, and I don't know if it will work or not. If it does work, please ignore this. If it doesn't, well, does a bedazzler put pretty designs on your fingernails? Or does it make stencils on your walls? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhh. I'm gong to bed now. Bedazzle. I learned to make hearts today. ♥
from ciromazola :
haven't seen you in a while. hope you are well. glad to hear you got so much out of your trip and you're feeling comfortable in your skin again. take good care. hello to yer family.
from felix-22 :
Dear Whisper I had to write to you after reading your last entry. Whisper JUMP off the bridge don't be afraid. Love unconditionally and write, I believe you have the talent to do so. The biggest mistake we make in life is to let fear rule our lives. I wish you happiness and look forward to reading that novel.
from weatherking :
aw whisper! i'm sorry. *squeeeeeze*
from weatherking :
haha, i just realized i'm not logged onto AIM! nevermind that last note. talk to you soon!
from weatherking :
well, it's 1AM here...where ARE you??? heehee. sorry to be gone for so long, but i'm back now! look for me on AIM, i can't wait to hear your stories!
from weatherking :
Hi! Just thought I'd say howdy for no reason in particular. Bye!
from veggieboy :
Hi ... no I'm not Italian. What makes you think that (heh.) Talk to you later! [email protected]

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