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from christ666 :
I appreciate the message. I have apologized to this friend, but there's a lot more going on that's making the whole situation harder to deal with. I think I mostly just have to take a step back and divorce myself from an attachment I've had for far too long, if that makes sense. And yes, I was absolutely talking about Stepfordtart. I really wish I could have looked outside of my own bullshit, so I could have noticed what a cool person she was and maybe gotten to know her better.
from swordfern :
Ugh, hope you feel better soon. Glad that you are able to take a day to rest.
from cocoabean :
I get those cramps now and then, too, usually from not hydrating enough. They've been bad enough that I've considered calling an ambulance, but wouldn't have been able to walk to the door to let them in. So powerade and a massager is how I get through them. Usually sore the next day too.
from swordfern :
Sending love to Inigo. ❤️️
from cocoabean :
Trump values. Mental illness? Maybe.
from swordfern :
"They look like...guys who show up in your in-box on dating sites..." I laughed out loud when I read that. So true. And I can fairly accurately guess the quality and content of their messages. Ughhhhh.
from swordfern :
Merry Christmas! Thank you for offering me compassion and empathy this year. I appreciate how you add an enlightening perspective to my life.
from hitch-hike :
I don't have the new log-in details. Can you drop them my way? I'll look for a nice pigeon or clever bird :)
from swordfern :
Good luck on the move. Getting rid of the old furniture sounds liberating - you've inspired me to turf a few things that have vague but persistent memories attached to them.
from cocoabean :
That's why I don't understand how trump got any black or hispanic votes. Did they not hear what he said about them?
from swordfern :
Thanks for the new login details. Your latest entry about letting go of people who attract drama and require constant relational energy resonates with me. Weeding out your relationships will create space for the truly fulfilling ones to flourish. Your honesty and boundary setting in relationships is admirable; I aspire to do better in both.
from floodtide :
Meant ages ago to say CONGRATS - seriously - on getting out of the terms of the lease and having the opportunity to find better (and perhaps even save money). Writing (finally) because I was especially struck by your entry about the woman who's always complaining but upon reflection it's clear she's created the drama, or at least invited it. Not sure how you worded it but that was the gist. It resonated because our sweet, beautiful friend M is so miserable in her job, where she is treated horribly. And that's not her imagination: the pastor (you've read my descriptions of him) is ill-equipped to be a pastor and takes her for granted and does not defend her at all. At the same time: she's left four or five jobs in the time we've known her, always because she was ill-treated. That, too, may have been true, but over time you realize that she DOESN'T GET ALONG with, and has trouble working with, ANYBODY.
from cocoabean :
Some noise? Yeah, right
from floodtide :
Thanks for your lovely and affirming note. You are right, of course. XOXO
from swordfern :
The booze cruise sounds like a terrible idea given the current risk level. I'm laughing at how ridiculous it is to suggest it! Very much agree with your decision to decline.
from swordfern :
:))))))) (Side note: The Canadian border has been closed to non-essential American travelers since March and remains closed today. So grateful for the leadership that we have in Canada at the moment, and for the culture of obligation/loyalty/adherence to rules.)
from cocoabean :
I'll wear a mask because I have to, but I don't throw a fit about it. It's something that has to be done!
from zoela :
thank you for your note and for validating my experience. :) i think some people suffer something similar to road rage online, which i just found out is actually a mental illness called intermittent explosive disorder.
from cocoabean :
How awesome to work from home!
from cocoabean :
Home Depot sells big bags of baking soda, and you can ship it to your house...
from cocoabean :
Just Mother Nature at work.... Culling out the weak
from swordfern :
THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of your notes. You are just the best. I appreciate hearing different viewpoints and advice on my situations; I know that I can be blind to alternate scenarios. We were both never married, both in long-term (10+ yrs) relationships that were not satisfying romantically but were solid 'best friends' situations that were difficult to leave. Your intuition about the ring was pretty much bang on. Impressive!!! I hadn't thought of that as a possibility, as it's unusual for a man. I'm SO RELIEVED that there isn't a latent divorce. Putting space between the stimulus and my response was valuable for many reasons, including being able to gain insight from all of the intelligent people in my life. ❤︎
from floodtide :
"New York State of Mind": Awesome, and just what my mental health needed today. Thank you, darlin'.
from cocoabean :
Yes, I am dying for a hair cut!
from swordfern :
Oh wow, yes, realizing that you don't like the person that you're in a relationship with is an odd and conflicted feeling indeed! "Would I choose this person as a friend, right now?" "No." Uggghhh. I think that he was always himself but that I changed and realized that I don't agree with his approach to life and the way that he perceives the world. So grateful for that my counsellor asked me such a blunt question!!! BTW - I had a pet bird when I was a child so I really enjoy reading about your little feathered friend. I don't think most people understand how strong of a relationship you can have with a pet bird!
from cocoabean :
I agree with you on the FB thing, which is why I don't post much. People are spoiled brats!

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