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from cocoabean :
If most of what you watch is streaming, consider a Roku. You get all the major streaming sites, antenna tv, and tons of other channels. They sell for about $30. No monthly fee, either.
from cocoabean :
Happy birthday!!
from swordfern :
Happy Birthday!
from swordfern :
Sounds like the staff needs to fire the boss. Those are some shockingly unprofessional emails. Wow.
from swordfern :
A good reminder from a sad piece of news.
from cocoabean :
Cyclists and cars are always at war.
from cocoabean :
It's great when a plan comes together!
from swordfern :
Interesting - I had no idea that it was odd to be invited in for tea. Never crossed my mind that a kitchen chat with another woman would be risky. The division between folks in the USA at the moment saddens me. Perhaps it stems from the origins of the USA (rebels) which varies from the origins of Canada (loyalists)?
from swordfern :
I noticed the bird in the first set and then searched the other sets for a bird before reading in your entry that it's your signature. Fun!
from cocoabean :
Wow what an awesome change!!
from swordfern :
The kitchen reno looks great! Fresh and bright and clean, and the wall colour looks so smart. Congrats!
from cocoabean :
How exciting!
from cocoabean :
The doors sound like they have flowers on them, or on the hinges. Those should be adjustable. I also wonder if your fridge is level, maybe that's why the door swings so far.
from cocoabean :
It's all about growing old gracefully. I've seen many 60+ year old ladies in shorts and shirts that expose their bellies. Wrinkly skin does not look good when exposed like that!
from swordfern :
Awww that little bird had to have understood that you would love her. Thank you for giving her a chance at life.
from cocoabean :
Never hurts to try!
from cocoabean :
Hooray for vaca!!!!
from swordfern :
I will never forget the time my office did an ice-breaker game where we were to tell the group about our family ancestry. We went around the room, and it got to a particular person who said nothing for a moment. The room was silent. And then they said, their voice cracking, "I don't know where my family is from. I am adopted." They left the room crying. Not all of us have baby photos to share. What a bunch of inappropriate and insensitive BS.
from cocoabean :
Generally the 55 and older places are quieter than other places so that could work if the garden vibe doesn't.
from cocoabean :
I'd take the money!
from cocoabean :
Haha it's not their faces I look at....
from swordfern :
This makes me grateful for the way my company handles 'life events'. There is a digital card that folks can sign if they wish, and then the social coordinator purchases a gift on behalf of everyone and sends it to the person celebrating. Done and done. There is zero chance that I'd shop for a gift for a coworker or attend a virtual shower. Talk about awkward and in-authentic.
from swordfern :
Further, gender reveal parties reinforce a harmful binary. Disgusting.
from christ666 :
I appreciate the message. I have apologized to this friend, but there's a lot more going on that's making the whole situation harder to deal with. I think I mostly just have to take a step back and divorce myself from an attachment I've had for far too long, if that makes sense. And yes, I was absolutely talking about Stepfordtart. I really wish I could have looked outside of my own bullshit, so I could have noticed what a cool person she was and maybe gotten to know her better.
from swordfern :
Ugh, hope you feel better soon. Glad that you are able to take a day to rest.
from cocoabean :
I get those cramps now and then, too, usually from not hydrating enough. They've been bad enough that I've considered calling an ambulance, but wouldn't have been able to walk to the door to let them in. So powerade and a massager is how I get through them. Usually sore the next day too.
from swordfern :
Sending love to Inigo. ❤️️
from cocoabean :
Trump values. Mental illness? Maybe.
from swordfern :
"They look like...guys who show up in your in-box on dating sites..." I laughed out loud when I read that. So true. And I can fairly accurately guess the quality and content of their messages. Ughhhhh.
from swordfern :
Merry Christmas! Thank you for offering me compassion and empathy this year. I appreciate how you add an enlightening perspective to my life.
from hitch-hike :
I don't have the new log-in details. Can you drop them my way? I'll look for a nice pigeon or clever bird :)
from swordfern :
Good luck on the move. Getting rid of the old furniture sounds liberating - you've inspired me to turf a few things that have vague but persistent memories attached to them.
from cocoabean :
That's why I don't understand how trump got any black or hispanic votes. Did they not hear what he said about them?
from swordfern :
Thanks for the new login details. Your latest entry about letting go of people who attract drama and require constant relational energy resonates with me. Weeding out your relationships will create space for the truly fulfilling ones to flourish. Your honesty and boundary setting in relationships is admirable; I aspire to do better in both.
from floodtide :
Meant ages ago to say CONGRATS - seriously - on getting out of the terms of the lease and having the opportunity to find better (and perhaps even save money). Writing (finally) because I was especially struck by your entry about the woman who's always complaining but upon reflection it's clear she's created the drama, or at least invited it. Not sure how you worded it but that was the gist. It resonated because our sweet, beautiful friend M is so miserable in her job, where she is treated horribly. And that's not her imagination: the pastor (you've read my descriptions of him) is ill-equipped to be a pastor and takes her for granted and does not defend her at all. At the same time: she's left four or five jobs in the time we've known her, always because she was ill-treated. That, too, may have been true, but over time you realize that she DOESN'T GET ALONG with, and has trouble working with, ANYBODY.
from cocoabean :
Some noise? Yeah, right
from floodtide :
Thanks for your lovely and affirming note. You are right, of course. XOXO
from swordfern :
The booze cruise sounds like a terrible idea given the current risk level. I'm laughing at how ridiculous it is to suggest it! Very much agree with your decision to decline.
from swordfern :
:))))))) (Side note: The Canadian border has been closed to non-essential American travelers since March and remains closed today. So grateful for the leadership that we have in Canada at the moment, and for the culture of obligation/loyalty/adherence to rules.)
from cocoabean :
I'll wear a mask because I have to, but I don't throw a fit about it. It's something that has to be done!
from zoela :
thank you for your note and for validating my experience. :) i think some people suffer something similar to road rage online, which i just found out is actually a mental illness called intermittent explosive disorder.
from cocoabean :
How awesome to work from home!
from cocoabean :
Home Depot sells big bags of baking soda, and you can ship it to your house...
from cocoabean :
Just Mother Nature at work.... Culling out the weak
from swordfern :
THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of your notes. You are just the best. I appreciate hearing different viewpoints and advice on my situations; I know that I can be blind to alternate scenarios. We were both never married, both in long-term (10+ yrs) relationships that were not satisfying romantically but were solid 'best friends' situations that were difficult to leave. Your intuition about the ring was pretty much bang on. Impressive!!! I hadn't thought of that as a possibility, as it's unusual for a man. I'm SO RELIEVED that there isn't a latent divorce. Putting space between the stimulus and my response was valuable for many reasons, including being able to gain insight from all of the intelligent people in my life. ❤︎
from floodtide :
"New York State of Mind": Awesome, and just what my mental health needed today. Thank you, darlin'.
from cocoabean :
Yes, I am dying for a hair cut!
from swordfern :
Oh wow, yes, realizing that you don't like the person that you're in a relationship with is an odd and conflicted feeling indeed! "Would I choose this person as a friend, right now?" "No." Uggghhh. I think that he was always himself but that I changed and realized that I don't agree with his approach to life and the way that he perceives the world. So grateful for that my counsellor asked me such a blunt question!!! BTW - I had a pet bird when I was a child so I really enjoy reading about your little feathered friend. I don't think most people understand how strong of a relationship you can have with a pet bird!
from cocoabean :
I agree with you on the FB thing, which is why I don't post much. People are spoiled brats!

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