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from cocoabean :

I have a pair of cardinals that will sometimes stop at my feeder

from cocoabean :

You go, girl!

from cocoabean :

Good for you!

from cocoabean :

I agree, home sick is home sick. No work for you!!!

from swordfern :

Hey Terri? I just read that you're in the ICU on Guy's journal. Really hoping that you're going to be okay. If you're willing to share your p/w with me, I'd like to keep reading you. I know that I haven't been around much lately and owe you a few messages. Thinking of you...

from cocoabean :

Had a leg ulcer once, it was no fun. Still have the scar, it was about 20 years ago.

from cocoabean :

Here in AZ we are told to keep the drains closed, as the roaches will come in that way. Not sure what happens if your faucet leaks...

from cocoabean :

Have fun!

from swordfern :

I’m pretty sure that it’s actually bone? It’s hard and fully a part of my skull so much as I can tell. Will a horn erupt from it? Haha, ughhhhh.

from cocoabean :

I never buy or take used furniture. There's always a reason it is being tossed, and I don't want that. the only used furniture I do take is from relatives who I trust.

from swordfern :

My Top 5: Curiosity, Perspective, Social Intelligence, Love of Learning, and Hope. My Bottom 5: Prudence, Forgiveness, Leadership, Spirituality, and Bravery. I definitely need to digest this. I find their definition of bravery interesting. I don't speak out in face of conflict so that's accurate but consider myself brave in other ways. I probably answered the leadership questions incorrectly, because I have a professional award attesting to my leadership. lol.

from swordfern :

This definitely tracks. Both of my 'clean and tidy' boyfriends had mothers who worked full time jobs. This seems like a great question to ask during the dating process.

from cocoabean :

In the 20+ years I was married, my ex NEVER once apologized for anything because he was "never wrong". Any wonder why I'm single?????

from swordfern :

Interestingly, the first man that I lived with nagged me about cleaning, and the second man that I live with does more cooking and cleaning that myself. I wonder if a lot changed in child rearing from the 70s to the 80s?

from swordfern :

I've been following along in disbelief at how quickly your pain has become disabling. Thinking about you and hoping that you find respite soon.

from cocoabean :

Maybe someone pointed out to Miranda how snippy she was with you and suggested she apologize...

from cocoabean :

swordfern, it's called the peter principle... to be promoted to the level of incompetence. Zennie, if writing smut is profitable, write it!

from swordfern :

Reading about Miranda has taught me a lot about what to NOT do when managing a team. Honestly, I will never understand how people are given manager jobs who clearly have no understanding of motivation, trust, and mentorship.

from cocoabean :

you definitely dont want to get married again!!!

from cocoabean :

documentation is everything. You go!!!

from floodtide :

Inigo was and is your daemon, just as Pantalaimon is Lyra Bellacqua's. Only now, as Lyra reocgnized late in Book Two - "The Subtle Knife" - your daemon lives within you, unseeable, incorporeal.

from cocoabean :

so sad!

from life-my-way :

Sending love and sympathy from Boo and me. We know how brave and loving you are to help him on his way to where he’ll wait for you. I’be too many dog friends who’ll hang with him in the meantime. XOXO K

from swordfern :

I'm sorry to hear about Inigo. I will miss hearing about him. I know how much you love him. Your mercy is a gift to him.

from cocoabean :

The birdies know. Peace is out there..

from swordfern :

Holy f*ck. Sitting here with my jaw open. Diary entry of the year award goes to you.

from swordfern :

Wow, glad that you made it to the other side of that bout of food poisoning. Sounds absolutely terrible. And the snarky/unprofessional bedside manner to boot. Yuck!

from cocoabean :

maybe you should take the train...

from swordfern :

Thx for the new p/w!

from cocoabean :

all the republicans want is revenge for 45.. mccarthy is still under his thumb so I am hoping someone else will be speaker..

from cocoabean :

does the water stop on its own? looks like a leak internally which pours out when it builds up. Interesting!

from cocoabean :

EXACTLY why I don't buy oreos..

from cocoabean :

I agree. Time to move on.

from cocoabean :

I've noticed that since I retired I can't sleep more than 7 hours. I'm guessing it's due to less exercise and stress

from cocoabean :

My cards are Temperance and The Hierophant

from cocoabean :

Bail? Yes. Also see: quiet quitting

from cocoabean :

Could be a Morton's neuroma on the bottom of your foot. surgery is not recommended and neither is walking barefoot. there are pads you can buy to put under your foot that helps with the pain

from swordfern :

I haven't been keeping up with anyone's diaries lately. But I thought of you the other day when a friend mentioned that her father is in poor condition due to keeping a parrot for 25 years. 'Parrot lung'? I'd never heard of this. Is this something that's common knowledge among bird keepers these days? Poor guy is dying due to his love of birds. Heartbreaking. :((((((((((((((

from cocoabean :

I bought an exercise bike last year because anything over 80° is too warm for a good walk!

from cocoabean :

Water IS boring. Sometimes I'll get a bottle of mio just to change things for a few days

from swordfern :

Wow, your hair looks great!

from swordfern :

You're right: success in vegan and gluten-free baking is even more sweet than in regular baking. ;)

from swordfern :

Cute snow bunting; beautiful snowy tree photos. Your new place looks like a forest haven. Lovely!

from life-my-way :

1/2/22--loved today's entry all all your f'ing steps. Damn, woman! It's lovely to watch you turn "happy new year" into a real thing. You go, and drop breadcrumbs for the rest of us to follow. XO K

from cocoabean :

Squirrels are very entertaining!

from cocoabean :

We used to call that "getting room wrecked" but it takes a LOT of smoke....

from swordfern :

"Prey species often hide their symptoms so as not to attract attention from predators." This is an interesting tidbit. Thanks for sharing!

from life-my-way :

(11/29) Sending warm thoughts your way from LA (lower Alabama). The hair thing is distressing, which I know because I lose an alarming amount myself. Fortunately I dig gray and can't deal with hair process smells, but it's the opposite of fun to find my hair virtually everywhere -except- attached to my head. Aaaah, the dwindling ponytail. You're probably right about the stress as a trigger, it's triggering me to extremely unfortunate outcomes here lately and the stress response is as swift as you describe. Anyhooo, sending reiki and juju to present you and future apartment. May December 6 be the best Monday ever!

from swordfern :

Wow, that infographic about flow is timely for me. It explains my work situation nicely. I shifted from flow into boredom over time doing design work as my skill improved and tasks remained the same. So I requested more challenge, which has pushed me into anxiety for well over a year now. I am having more and more moments of flow lately as I learn how to do the more complex role. It's encouraging to realize that as I gain more skill, the flow should return. Thank you for this.

from cocoabean :

I agree! People are way too sensitive

from cocoabean :

You might check home depot's website for area rugs. They have some awesome ones!!

from swordfern :

I'm grateful for your thoughtfulness. Feeling warm and fuzzy over here regarding the owl template. Glad to see the kingfisher get some promotion. They are simply amazing birds, so speedy and deft.

from swordfern :

I feel terrible for the bat. I hope s/he wasn't hurt by the impact? Not sure how fragile they are. I appreciate that you immediately had empathy for the bat - not everyone loves them nor understands how important they are for ecosystems.

from swordfern :

Congrats!!! I'm jealous of that walk-thru closet.

from swordfern :

The new place sounds promising! The squirrels are a good omen - they wouldn't be hanging around in a busy/noisy/chaotic area.

from cocoabean :

If most of what you watch is streaming, consider a Roku. You get all the major streaming sites, antenna tv, and tons of other channels. They sell for about $30. No monthly fee, either.

from cocoabean :

Happy birthday!!

from swordfern :

Happy Birthday!

from swordfern :

Sounds like the staff needs to fire the boss. Those are some shockingly unprofessional emails. Wow.

from swordfern :

A good reminder from a sad piece of news.

from cocoabean :

Cyclists and cars are always at war.

from cocoabean :

It's great when a plan comes together!

from swordfern :

Interesting - I had no idea that it was odd to be invited in for tea. Never crossed my mind that a kitchen chat with another woman would be risky. The division between folks in the USA at the moment saddens me. Perhaps it stems from the origins of the USA (rebels) which varies from the origins of Canada (loyalists)?

from swordfern :

I noticed the bird in the first set and then searched the other sets for a bird before reading in your entry that it's your signature. Fun!

from cocoabean :

Wow what an awesome change!!

from swordfern :

The kitchen reno looks great! Fresh and bright and clean, and the wall colour looks so smart. Congrats!

from cocoabean :

How exciting!

from cocoabean :

The doors sound like they have flowers on them, or on the hinges. Those should be adjustable. I also wonder if your fridge is level, maybe that's why the door swings so far.

from cocoabean :

It's all about growing old gracefully. I've seen many 60+ year old ladies in shorts and shirts that expose their bellies. Wrinkly skin does not look good when exposed like that!

from swordfern :

Awww that little bird had to have understood that you would love her. Thank you for giving her a chance at life.

from cocoabean :

Never hurts to try!

from cocoabean :

Hooray for vaca!!!!

from swordfern :

I will never forget the time my office did an ice-breaker game where we were to tell the group about our family ancestry. We went around the room, and it got to a particular person who said nothing for a moment. The room was silent. And then they said, their voice cracking, "I don't know where my family is from. I am adopted." They left the room crying. Not all of us have baby photos to share. What a bunch of inappropriate and insensitive BS.

from cocoabean :

Generally the 55 and older places are quieter than other places so that could work if the garden vibe doesn't.

from cocoabean :

I'd take the money!

from cocoabean :

Haha it's not their faces I look at....

from swordfern :

This makes me grateful for the way my company handles 'life events'. There is a digital card that folks can sign if they wish, and then the social coordinator purchases a gift on behalf of everyone and sends it to the person celebrating. Done and done. There is zero chance that I'd shop for a gift for a coworker or attend a virtual shower. Talk about awkward and in-authentic.

from swordfern :

Further, gender reveal parties reinforce a harmful binary. Disgusting.

from christ666 :

I appreciate the message. I have apologized to this friend, but there's a lot more going on that's making the whole situation harder to deal with. I think I mostly just have to take a step back and divorce myself from an attachment I've had for far too long, if that makes sense. And yes, I was absolutely talking about Stepfordtart. I really wish I could have looked outside of my own bullshit, so I could have noticed what a cool person she was and maybe gotten to know her better.

from swordfern :

Ugh, hope you feel better soon. Glad that you are able to take a day to rest.

from cocoabean :

I get those cramps now and then, too, usually from not hydrating enough. They've been bad enough that I've considered calling an ambulance, but wouldn't have been able to walk to the door to let them in. So powerade and a massager is how I get through them. Usually sore the next day too.

from swordfern :

Sending love to Inigo. ❤️️

from cocoabean :

Trump values. Mental illness? Maybe.

from swordfern :

"They look like...guys who show up in your in-box on dating sites..." I laughed out loud when I read that. So true. And I can fairly accurately guess the quality and content of their messages. Ughhhhh.

from swordfern :

Merry Christmas! Thank you for offering me compassion and empathy this year. I appreciate how you add an enlightening perspective to my life.

from hitch-hike :

I don't have the new log-in details. Can you drop them my way? I'll look for a nice pigeon or clever bird :)

from swordfern :

Good luck on the move. Getting rid of the old furniture sounds liberating - you've inspired me to turf a few things that have vague but persistent memories attached to them.

from cocoabean :

That's why I don't understand how trump got any black or hispanic votes. Did they not hear what he said about them?

from swordfern :

Thanks for the new login details. Your latest entry about letting go of people who attract drama and require constant relational energy resonates with me. Weeding out your relationships will create space for the truly fulfilling ones to flourish. Your honesty and boundary setting in relationships is admirable; I aspire to do better in both.

from floodtide :

Meant ages ago to say CONGRATS - seriously - on getting out of the terms of the lease and having the opportunity to find better (and perhaps even save money). Writing (finally) because I was especially struck by your entry about the woman who's always complaining but upon reflection it's clear she's created the drama, or at least invited it. Not sure how you worded it but that was the gist. It resonated because our sweet, beautiful friend M is so miserable in her job, where she is treated horribly. And that's not her imagination: the pastor (you've read my descriptions of him) is ill-equipped to be a pastor and takes her for granted and does not defend her at all. At the same time: she's left four or five jobs in the time we've known her, always because she was ill-treated. That, too, may have been true, but over time you realize that she DOESN'T GET ALONG with, and has trouble working with, ANYBODY.

from cocoabean :

Some noise? Yeah, right

from floodtide :

Thanks for your lovely and affirming note. You are right, of course. XOXO

from swordfern :

The booze cruise sounds like a terrible idea given the current risk level. I'm laughing at how ridiculous it is to suggest it! Very much agree with your decision to decline.

from swordfern :

:))))))) (Side note: The Canadian border has been closed to non-essential American travelers since March and remains closed today. So grateful for the leadership that we have in Canada at the moment, and for the culture of obligation/loyalty/adherence to rules.)

from cocoabean :

I'll wear a mask because I have to, but I don't throw a fit about it. It's something that has to be done!

from zoela :

thank you for your note and for validating my experience. :) i think some people suffer something similar to road rage online, which i just found out is actually a mental illness called intermittent explosive disorder.

from cocoabean :

How awesome to work from home!

from cocoabean :

Home Depot sells big bags of baking soda, and you can ship it to your house...

from cocoabean :

Just Mother Nature at work.... Culling out the weak

from swordfern :

THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of your notes. You are just the best. I appreciate hearing different viewpoints and advice on my situations; I know that I can be blind to alternate scenarios. We were both never married, both in long-term (10+ yrs) relationships that were not satisfying romantically but were solid 'best friends' situations that were difficult to leave. Your intuition about the ring was pretty much bang on. Impressive!!! I hadn't thought of that as a possibility, as it's unusual for a man. I'm SO RELIEVED that there isn't a latent divorce. Putting space between the stimulus and my response was valuable for many reasons, including being able to gain insight from all of the intelligent people in my life. ❤︎

from floodtide :

"New York State of Mind": Awesome, and just what my mental health needed today. Thank you, darlin'.

from cocoabean :

Yes, I am dying for a hair cut!

from swordfern :

Oh wow, yes, realizing that you don't like the person that you're in a relationship with is an odd and conflicted feeling indeed! "Would I choose this person as a friend, right now?" "No." Uggghhh. I think that he was always himself but that I changed and realized that I don't agree with his approach to life and the way that he perceives the world. So grateful for that my counsellor asked me such a blunt question!!! BTW - I had a pet bird when I was a child so I really enjoy reading about your little feathered friend. I don't think most people understand how strong of a relationship you can have with a pet bird!

from cocoabean :

I agree with you on the FB thing, which is why I don't post much. People are spoiled brats!

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