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from readnglst999 :
Where is clarity25? Recent vacation blog - http://twoshotsoftequila.blogspot.com/ "Eric's" Photobucket account - http://s795.photobucket.com/home/sketchbookshark/index
from teranika :
I love bittman and will have to look at this article. Thanks for reminding me - while in the US I did resort to buying amazing sweet cream butter from Vermont. It came the closest to what I got off the counter in Germany (and it was yet another, different shape, coming in a tube!)
from and-darling :
Yes.
from teranika :
Actually, I thought of you while I was sitting there absorbing the grim numbers I didn't want to see.. I think part of the trouble is that we have no idea if this will be a short or long term investment. And since funcouver is still booming, there's a good possibility that we would be wanting to get out when a major correction hits. In any case, the numbers are daunting.. I know people who moved S. of the border just for the reason you've mentioned.
from ariadne518 :
Ah, the eternal question: why? Most women wind up in bio/tech fields within engineering. Theories of "why" run from cognitive psychology to sociology to management-analysis theory... My take is that we're socialized (as women) to side-step math-heavy aspects of a field (like Chem/Mech-Eng), but then I find plenty of qualitative evidence to dispute my own take. I'll keep you posted - thanks for the invigorating questions!
from ariadne518 :
ARG! I too have experienced the rough transition from all-day-airport-crap to back-to-full-swing-of-work on very little sleep. Sorry!
from ladybug-red :
Hey there - remember me? I'm making the rounds with my address change and thought you might be interested in my new project. I would love to have you visit and contribute! Yellowladybug.com
from f-i-n :
Mr. Wizard is dead? Now I'm sad... :(
from teranika :
yes, I never got around to thanking you directly via email - I think that I'll even be using those articles in class.
from rs536-2000 :
(aka crankygirl--thanks for the note) That's good to know about the Claritin. I think that I'm going to go for the Rhinocort and hope that it works--it did a couple of years ago. p.s. It looks like the Broadway farce/musical that they are making
from harri3tspy :
Yes, I got my iPod and I love it -- it made all the time hanging out in airports this weekend go a lot faster. Thanks for recommending the nano. It was definitely the way to go. That's a definitely possibility about the ice dam. We've got ice dams galore. The place where the water is getting in appears to be in the middle of a wall but it's actually where the garage meets the house, so there may very well be some kind of seam there that we can't see that would allow water in. The garage is very shaded and the ice is especially bad there. Instead of digging around the foundation, maybe we should be getting up on the roof.
from ariadne518 :
hey - if you and ms. geek lived in the NY Metro area, you'd surely be more than welcome at this guys parties. i WISH i had half the imagination he has re: themes... the 80's prom was by far the best, especially since so many people were trying to squeeze into what they DID wear to prom in the 80's. So if you're ever in NYC and Tony is throwing a party...
from smedindy :
Read your comments on Harri3t's site. Having studied a lot of history, etc. of music and the music biz - the music industry has always been about the Benjamins (or Pound Sterling). For the execs, in major labels, it was sell or die. Alas...
from meeyapede :
Hey sweetpea- I know that I don't update these days, but I do still read, sometimes. Haven't you thought about changing your description of J. Cash into archEtype yet? Or are you still stuck w/ the archtItect pun? Who knows with a genius-cum-bum like you!! *kissess* JL P.S. Happy New Year!
from teranika :
Thanks for your post about the bread - yes I would be interested to see the story from the NY Times! Does your real name by any chance begin with R? I'm trying to figure out who posted a comment to me...
from elgan :
Your haloscan notes refused to complete their loading for me, so I'm commenting here instead. There being a child involved goes a long way to explaining why your sister stuck it out as long as she did. I can't think of too many women who would willingly become single mothers (although I do have a neighbour who got herself pregnant on purpose so she could have a baby without telling the one-night stand who donated his sperm). But I feel badly for your nephew. I hope you can be a good brother and uncle for their sake.
from cdghost :
enjoyed your words
from metonym :
no, I haven't, but I will take a look now that you've mentioned it. mind you, critiquing Said isn't revolutionary - we're a couple of critical generations away from Said's book now. A lot of what he wrote has been revised and expanded...I still have a lot of respect for what he did, but it's no longer the most relevant text.
from teranika :
I stand corrected! I'm glad to hear that he visits N. America, too. Actually, our landlord is half Dutch, and now that we've reminded him, he plans to take up the tradition with their son. So Niklaus will have a few more stops on his North American run.
from teranika :
A drill does not make you a wimp - it makes you CLEVER! I have a 12V cordless drill and although you'll never find me pounding cement, it has been a fantastic, light-weight choice for putting up pictures and assembling things around the house. And you know? I've not found the CR reviews to be so helpful of late...I think that I rate things based on different criteria.
from harri3tspy :
I like a good Moroccan tagine-style vegetable stew with hearty red wine. AJ has a friend coming over in a couple of minutes, but I'll try to figure out some kind of recipe for what I do later if you think you might be interested.
from metaleve :
Go on vacation to your royal title will be demoted!!! LOL - Lucky Mrs. Geek going to DL.
from hissandtell :
Tuesday night on our satellite TV retro music channel is 80s night, and I always engage in a spot of robust channel surfing to try to make sure I get to see the filmclip of "Life in a Northern Town". As I'm sure you already know, that song was an elegy to Nick Drake. Although I wasn't what you'd call a fan of the piece when it was released (although my speech and drama students were crazy about it, as I recall) I'm finding it extremely poignant in my old age. Love, R xxx
from clarity25 :
"Portrait Of The Artist As A Fine Young Cannibal" haha! I like that one! Thanks for your feedback on the situation I wrote about. I really appreciated that and it gave me some thoughts to chew on. Thanks for sharing your perspective, it was truly helpful. I hope you're having a good week:)
from teranika :
Okay, those would be MY memories too. Except in my group it was assymetric haircuts, oversized shirts and jackets that belonged to my older brother, and lots of bad Molly Ringwald movies (wonder what ever happened to her).
from elgan :
As a post script to the email I sent you earlier today, it’s not the software. Even with the new system installed, the startup malfunctioned about six times once woken up from its nap.
from teranika :
K and I met over IKEA, which is not as scary as it sounds when you realize that I moved to Europe with a low-paying postdoc and no furniture... The scary part was that it was cult to know all the various names of your furniture. For example, I own a two Billy's and three Bennos, my chairs are Ivar and Poaeng... And incidentally, I just bought K the Jerker for the office. Nice choice.
from metaleve :
For a gadget-lovin M:I geek: http://thegeekzine.com/?p=328
from metaleve :
http://thegeekzine.com/?p=239 - there's your Conan review. Nice work!
from metaleve :
Nice job on the carrot cake! Yeah, those icing in the tubes are disasterous. They're a good idea in theory, not in practice.
from metaleve :
I emailed you, check it out! \m/
from hissandtell :
Well, I was actually more saddened to hear about Buck than I expected to be. (I shall fall into an absolutely enormous abyss when George Jones leaves the building, though.) No-one has EVER been immortalised in song the way he has: "A dinosaur Victrola/listenin' to Buck Owens/Doo doo doo/lookin' out my back door..." And his influence on Dwight Yoakam just can't be underestimated, for which I'm ever thankful. (I mean, who isn't a pushover for a snake-hipped long-legged guitar-playin' man in tight black leather pants and a Stetson?) Love, R xxx
from metaleve :
Robert E. Howard's Conan tales from the new anthology "The Coming of Conan the Cimmerian" -- so how was this????
from mrs-roboto :
I miss Cookie O'Puss too.
from smedindy :
Actually, that happened to me once, but the walls were a bit, thin, and Mrs. Smed was a bit, loud.
from ariadne518 :
Happy Mardi Gras!
from clarity25 :
Thank you so much for your caring note, it really made me smile! If you and Mrs. Geek decide to have children next year too, we can share our experiences.
from freshhell :
No, you are a sane person. I didn't watch the SOTU address either. I'd rather waste my time with a soap opera than look at Alfred E. Newman on TV.
from teranika :
This woman sounds young. I went through a "men are aliens" phase just after college. I hate to chalk this woman's opinions up to youth, but it really sounds like a phase.. After a while I grew tired of giving further credence to this notion that male/female differences are innate and so why should we bother doing anything at all to improve our communications. But if I still treated my partner like a bell curve instead of an individual, I don't think that we'd be together.
from teranika :
Brilliant! I will borough-hop for dead electronics! (err, after I look in Queens) Thank you!!
from teranika :
We are on the same page (I forget that you are 'dr' geek and know what a trace metal is). I've just spent a semester teaching about materials re-use and the hazards of toxic metals in municipal waste. Would be great if there were an electronics recycling company where we could send this stuff (right now I just use eBay).
from teranika :
dumpster diving = materials reuse; makes you environmentally very cool. Save a landfill today.
from teranika :
OY! I know WAY too much about Tom Cruise's personal life at this point.
from clarity25 :
Just a little note to wish you and yours the best of luck in the year 2006, thank you again for all the times you reached out and helped me this past year. It meant a lot. :)
from teranika :
A very happy birthday drgeek! Wishing you love, health, wealth, and happiness, and the time to enjoy them all.
from smedindy :
No church on Christmas Day? That's...that's...inconcievable.
from clarity25 :
Thank you so much for your last two notes, They were really appreciated. I love your feedback, it's always so intelligent and makes me contemplate certain issues in a different light many times. Okay, I'm rambling. I agree btw. that woman DOES look like a mixture of Mariah and Jennifer. Good eye. Eric and I always make a game out of noting resemblances like that.
from zuzus-petals :
So.. er.. you never shared your thoughts re: the Salon article... what was your take on it? - Zu
from smedindy :
This is why I don't always follow recipes to the T. I wing it sometimes. Gotta take a chance.
from zuzus-petals :
OH yeah.. and on a more personal note.. are you psyched or WHAT for the upcoming Johnny Cash movie!? - Zu
from zuzus-petals :
I read the article you sent re: the link .. ah.. of course it hit a nerve/struck a chord all at once. Firstly, I haven't read that book "Womens Ways of Knowing" but if the author is characterizing it through the descriptions of her workplace I think two things.. 1) yes, this dysfunction has WAY too often been described as "feminist" when in my humble opinion it has dick to do with feminism and a shit load to do with extroverted, feeling, power- and affinity-motivated women trying to define who they as as "female" as opposed to merely who they are (they can't seem to simply accept responsibility for their personality, they need to action define it as 'woman' - how wierd is THAT??) and 2) For all practical purposes, I've worked in the workplace the author describes and it's maddening - like walking right into a socialist society in an Ayn Rand novel - incompetence is rewarded, logic is tossed by the way side. This isn't to say "feminism" is bad - just those particular theories don't resonate with me as a woman and I resent that people are trying to wrap them up into a definition of who and how women operate in the world, in business and/or with each other. To the contrary, I think they've taken personality types that include 'feelers' (those who process the world first through their feelings), 'judgers' (those who don't see shades of grey, but who are more apt to see things in black and white -therefor, they're right and the author is wrong), 'extroverts' (process everything externally.. and you know, if you're an introvert, like the author says, we've got to give you extra time to figure how to be more like 'us' and process things externally even though you don't want to) and they have dominant motivators of 'power' (addressing system issues over and over and over and over) and 'affiliation' (it's more important than you do things together than the efficiency of how you do things) as OPPOSED to 'achievement' (in other words, you address big picture and systemic issues together, but it doesn't much matter if you ever accomplish anything.. because you're not really motivated by achieving anything.. and indeed, achievement becomes the demon because it can detract from your interest in 'power'.) But these things aren't "woman" - in my personal opinion they cross gender lines and they're merely fucked up . So.. er... that's sort of what I thought about it.. what do you think about it? -Zuzu
from metonym :
You probably know more than 2. And why does nobody talk about the fact that the female body spontaneously aborts fertilized eggs all the damn time? More than half of all fertilized eggs are spontaneously aborted by the uterus.
from clarimonde :
Hi Dr. Geek - I liked your 'paging Dowd' entry, and I'm glad I missed her column.
from freshhell :
Yes, I agree with you. Hope my message didn't come across as strident. It's just a sore point with me. I think women tend to sell themselves short by "dropping out" of the real world to stay home when they may secretly wish for different options that they simply can't envision. Many prefer to be home and if they can do it, great. The "ideal" middle-class household of daddy goes to work, mommy stays home, was concocted post-WWII and is not reflective of how families and societies actually live(d) throughout our long history. I wish we could all, as a society, calm the hell down and live ourlives in a manner that suits us best w/o worrying whether it's "right" or not.
from freshhell :
It depends on what you consider "doing it all" to mean - what constitutes "all"? Most of us have few options and simply make the best of what they have to work with. I think the problem is that the "all" means a high-paying corporate job, three kids doing a zillion things in a zillion places, homecooked meals? I have two young children, work full-time in a career I love and am good at. I am paid 2/3 more than my husband who is an adjunct English instructor at a university. He's able to be home with the youngest 2 days a week, keep the place neat, start meals, wash dishes, and basically help keep chaos at bay. Both children are in childcare/preschool and are thriving. I could never quit my job because we'd lose health insurance, retirement benefits, etc. Plus, I do not wish to be a SAH mom. I need both home and work worlds and I have an understanding boss when these worlds collide. We do eat homecooked meals every night and just hang out together on weekends. It can work but you need to get your priorities straight and work within the situation you're dealt in life. We don't have to be the Joneses and don't want to be. We don't own SUVS, cell phones, a dishwasher, a microwave, etc.
from metonym :
I don't understand this "Well, you can't do everything" philosophy - it's such a cop out. My mom did it all, started two companies & cooked gourmet dinners every night & had a kid & a nice marriage...it's totally possible, if you're willing to make it happen. And I think that the problem that Dowd is pointing to isn't that women are upset that they can't have it all but that at a certain point, women stop having the choice: you get too smart, and you're on the shelf. If somebody had told me when I was 15 that if I kept on reading and thinking I'd grow old alone I might have done it anyway, but at least I would have done it with my eyes open. It's not cool to find out that the things you like most about yourself make you unappealing to the opposite sex.
from smedindy :
Nice writing. My wife chose to leave her job last year for life as a stay at home, and she made more than I did. It was just too much. Oh, and today I wrote something about All Saint's Day, in my normal, snarky way. Harri3t sent me over here and I appreciate it!
from clarity25 :
"I need to remember that everyone else is struggling along in the darkness too. I am not the only one. I just need to figure out how to light a candle." I liked that line in this entry. Thanks for the book recommendation, It sounds like a very interesting read. I'll have to check that out!
from teranika :
your entry about your father rings very true - I love wine, and fear it a little bit, too, because of my father's problems that ultimately killed him. I hope that your mother's approach of keeping things in check continues to be effective.
from ladybug-red :
I am currently working on a laptop keyboard without a left shift key or pad - I have to push directly down on the sensor. I'm guessing that would make you crazy. Me too!
from clarity25 :
I understand your fear of any outrage at the administration will be just wasted. It's so frustrating, I agreed with what you wrote in your current entry. Thank you for your last note, all the notes you've ever left in fact. They're always so intelligent and thought-provoking. I truly appreciate your words!
from ladybug-red :
I share that sense of dread that no matter how outrageous things get on the part of this administration, there will never be accountability. It makes my blood boil.
from pipersplace :
Yes, I've read them all (except the new one). Soldier of the Great War is wonderful.
from teranika :
once again, amen.
from ladybug-red :
While I believe that it is possible to raise good sons in spite of an absentee father (with the help of excellent male role models), I agree with you that it is ridiculous to make the leap that it would or should be the norm. What a crock!
from teranika :
amen. I hope we make it to the next election. And then I hope we can find someone - anyone - who can claim a majority.
from ariadne518 :
"....Peace y'all!!!!"...HA HA HA HA HA! Great entry. I missed your wit while I was away in Peru.
from ladybug-red :
I haven't said hello in a while so hello. It looks like New Orleans may be spared the brunt. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. What do you do with a city that never should have been built?
from teranika :
I liked your entry very much. Much of the 90s were also 'lost' to me, in chaotic relationships romantic or otherwise, mostly because of my thesis. I also shared housing with someone who insisted I swept the floor improperly and who bleached the sink every four days. And, I have also been recently contacted by one of these past ghosts who wanted to renew a friendship...must be something in the water. I did reply, however. Simply to say, "thanks for your thoughts. have a nice life, but without me if you don't mind."
from clarity25 :
Thank you so much for your last note, your words were really encouraging. It helped me keep the right perspective. P.S. I'm really hungry right now and that picture of the food you were cooking looks REALLY good. mmm... I'm almost inspired to actually pull out a cookbook and cook something myself. Well..almost:)
from ariadne518 :
Hi Swami Bob! Happy anniversary to you and Mrs. Geek! Back to celebrities with scrambled brains and scientology - did you hear Tom Cruise on The Today Show say that he thought the entire field of psychology was "a sham"? Not even questionable, but "a hoax". He's TOTALLY nuts. I love it. We don't even have to use our academic credentials to get people into our spa. Apparently they're going to work AGAINST us, in this case. tee hee!!
from elgan :
Thanks for that correction. I really wasn't paying attention, and it was my husband who said Napa Valley, so I just went along with it. I will emend my diary forthwith.
from f-i-n :
that would get you a studio in miami
from ariadne518 :
Goodness gracious me! 900K for a TWO BEDROOM? Well Ok, I guess that's a big n swanky two bedroom. But still...I hope you live in either Cali or the Chicago/NY/Atlanta metro area with those kinds of prices. Otherwise me and the mr are SO SCREWED. If the market is up that much, we'll never afford a home in northern NJ, where one must expect unrealistic prices for crappy, jam-packed properties. We gotta get outta here. Sometimes I wish we didn't like our jobs/family/friends/city so much. Feh.
from elgan :
Firstly, thank you for your kind note regarding my frustrating experience with the student who doesn't want to learn. I am heartened to know that you would want to improve even your ability to belt out karaoke. But in a different vein, I agree with all of sea-change's recommendations below. The original Moosewood Cookbook is not vegan, but it is vegetarian. It is the succeeding books in that series put out after Mollie Katzen left the restaurant that include a fair bit of fish and seafood in the recipes. One fabulous cookbook that was recommended to me by tcklyrpharsn is Vegan Planet. You can also check out Mollie Katzen’s webpage (http://www.molliekatzen.com) for some cool recipes.
from sea-change- :
Hey - a couple of my favorite cookbooks are Deborah Madison's "Vegetarian Cooking for Everyone" (it is like an edgier, vegetarian Joy of Cooking - a little more ethnic food & the writing is excellent, full of recipes and technique and advice about how to improvise from the recipes)...and, in a similar vein, "Field of Greens" - by the owner of The Greens, which is one of the best restaurants in San Francisco. I'm also a big fan of the Moosewood cookbooks for food that is home-friendly (dishes that aren't a production), but also interesting and very flavorful. & the Moosewood isn't a veggie cookbook.
from sea-change- :
Actually - the wedding that I am going to be a bridesmaid at next month - the groom is a very good looking, very well adjusted & neatly dressed physics phd here. Because of him as an individual & what I have learned about the department through him, I know not to believe most of the stereotypes. On the other hand - I have another friend at MIT who is exactly the tall, slender, bespectacled scientist I mentioned earlier & I have to say, there is no such parallel in my dept.
from sea-change- :
Well, I'm sure that something to do with whatever I'm doing now has to do with my total lack of a sex life - but my lack of sexiness is something that pre-dates grad school. I've been looking prim and proper in kinda skanky clothes for a long time now. Also - I think you might be analogizing a little too much from the sciences to the humanities. I don't know what most science departments are like, but I imagine that they are filled with slender men wearing glasses and ill-fitting clothes. Humanities departments tend to be full of beautiful people looking fabulous. My department certainly is; mostly women, but still. We try to make our subject matter sexy, and part of that means presenting ourselves to one another in an aesthetically appealing way. Plus, a pretty hefty portion of the students in my department from first year on up are actually married. A few have babies. I dunno. I mean...I have to say, I think that intense involvement in the sciences is sort of stereotypically synonymous with celibacy. Pretty art students in tight skirts, on the other hand, are supposed to be widely fetishized.
from sea-change- :
I was really making a semantic point - that catholic was coined to describe mass appeal vs. esoteric paradox. I do think that words carry around their origins with them, although I appreciate the value of puns as well (missed schism). As far as I can tell, however, mysticism is essentially defined by paradox. I.e., you might strip Jesus of his divinity; but simultaneously believe that all creation is divine. The reason why mysticism is really never going to catch on (and become catholic) is that the second you reduce any mystic theology to a credo you've basically given up the whole project. The only really valid way to oppose mysticism is a really profound reliance on reason or logic.
from sea-change- :
I actually think that "catholic" is meant to provide a contrast with "gnostic" - catholics marketed themselves on mass appeal (rules, organization, simplicity) while the gnostics marketed themselves on mysticism, the allure of secrecy, and obscure hierarchy. Obviously you can interpret the word however you wish, but the anti-gnostic bias is one of the few things that's remained constant in Catholocism since its inception.
from clarity25 :
(sp) "Schadenfreude" - I always forget that C. German is such a complex language. ugh.
from clarity25 :
Thanks for your last note. It's good to know I'm not the only one who had to struggle with a landlord from HELL. I'm sorry you had to go through all that, thank you for reaching out and sharing your story. P.S. the Britney Spears diary had me laughing..that poor poor Britney. I really feel bad for her..ah, in Germany we call this "Shadenfreude":). Have a good weekend!
from ariadne518 :
I feel less snobby now - thanks for the clarification. Have you seen the show? don't, it's such garbage. i have to stop watching it because i think it's been raising my bp.
from mrs-roboto :
Sometimes it's liberating not to watch every morsel of food that you put in your mouth especially when you can turn around and say it was all delicious.
from clarity25 :
Thank you so much for your note and reaching out to show you cared. That meant alot. I know what you mean about financial woes. We've been having that alot lately and we define financial success in the same way. However, we haven't been able to save a penny. Not a single one. We've been trying to maybe put some money aside for a vacation, but we live paycheck to paycheck. It can be very frustrating at times. I hear you.
from mrs-roboto :
I say definitely join the choir. So what if you move in a few months? Who knows who you'll meet in the meanwhile.
from clarity25 :
Thank you so much for the notes you left this week. They were really helpful and so interesting to read. Thanks for your input on Nature Vs. Nuture as far as men and women and how they are raised. Also for sharing with me your own experiences when I was having my 'midlife crisis'. It's so good to know I wasn't alone in how I felt, that we all have our own pace in life. There's really no specific age where a certain event is going to take place. I guess we all kind of keep tabs on other people. It's always the ones that are "further along" financially or careerwise that we always subconsciously compare ourselves to. It's really not necessary, thanks for shedding light on that. Also as far as my "bloody flesh wound", I brought up the prospect of stitches to Eric yesterday. He said while I COULD go to the doctor and get one or two stitches. It isn't necessary because it's holding together and healing well. I've been lucky to avoid infection. Thanks for your concern. I hope you have a great Easter:)
from sea-change- :
about the bridget jones thing: I read an article a while back about Love, Actually - a movie I really liked when I saw it - about how the movie is one of the many that glamorizes extremely unequal relationships between men & women; the prime minister and his tubby maid, the writer and his portuguese housekeeper, the businessman and his secretary. Ever since I read that article I look out for the same thing elsewhere, and it's true that I see it everywhere. So Bridget Jones is one of many, not unique at all.
from ariadne518 :
yah - it's not like any libraries or elementary schools are going to be named after Clinton any time soon. Bleh, Reagan. I'd still take him over W, though, if you held a gun to my head and made me choose. I'm a mite surprised at Fareed Zakaria (that was Zakaria's piece in Newsweek, right?) though I saw his point...what did you think?
from clarity25 :
I meant to leave a note earlier to thank you for adding me to your favorites. I've been reading your diary and went through some of your archive. It's so entertaining and informative, I have more to say, but I'm at work. I'll be back to read more. I just wanted to say "hi!"
from teranika :
I am a reverse intellectual whore. You have described the story of my past life: listening to men talk about their exes or their currents or their futures while I sat there playing intellectual female friend who was terrific and yet a bit too terrifying to be more...wishing you many more weekends of slugdom.
from ariadne518 :
Re: the Times article about Social Security - THANK YOU for letting me know about it; I missed it, but a good point is illustrated nontheless: we don't hear enough divergent voices in the media that have enough cojones to make some point or, god forbid, present a perspective. Why is it that something that seems like a practical soloution, something that seems to make so much sense to us, is so complicated for an administration to employ/understand? Oh wait, am I talking about the white house, or the university I work for? Er, um.... :)
from mrs-roboto :
That meal sounds to die for and bloody well worth a few pounds gain (which will undoubtedly drop off in two or three days).
from sea-change- :
dude, I could eat up $250 million in the blink of an eye - I'd buy art. The thought of having enough money to buy real, good art...oh, it is a dream that will be ever out of my reach. And you forgot about jewelry.
from teranika :
Dr Geek, this was such a thoughtful entry - something that I think about a lot myself. I noted in Europe that the "support" for women usually wound up removing them from the workplace, at least in Sweden and Germany. What I learned living in *East* Germany (where children were essentially removed from their parents at an early age, to be raised by the state) is that kids are kids and they will survive under most conditions. It is the *parents* who must learn to cope with how they run their lives and be at peace with how they interact with their children. Don't let a book or a society tell you what is right - figure it out for yourself. (Brave words, I hope I can follow them someday). Anyway, thanks for a good entry.
from mrs-roboto :
Oh I use to love the Yule Log! I think it was replaced on Channel 11 (NY) with 24 hours of A Christmas Story. I wish they'd bring back the log. Didn't catch puupy bowl but I was protesting by not turning on the tv yesterday.
from almostaflake :
System of a down and Rage Against the Machine are in my rotation, mixing interestingly well with the Indigo Girls, Tori Amos, Coltrane and the Grateful Dead :)
from ladybug-red :
Hubby and I were watching the Orange Bowl and caught the "act". Just like we did at the end of last year's superbowl, when Ashlee finished we simply looked at each other and said "Did that just really happen?" It was truly sad.
from ladybug-red :
Thanks for the wine tip! I ordered some and I will let you know how it is.
from mrs-roboto :
i'll keep my fingers crossed.
from ladybug-red :
Way to go Mrs Geek!
from ladybug-red :
I agree. It is a very common "excuse" among the rich and famous in all relationship breakups not just marriages. Our busy schedules were too much, the distance was too much, etc. Personally, I think it is a cop out. These decisions are within their control. It irritates me that they make it sound as if things beyond their control are causing the poor love-birds to break up.
from ladybug-red :
I have had to lock temporarily. If you want to keep up with me my username is ladybugred and password is temporary. Sorry - I hope you can stay with me for a short period while I chase away the stalker.
from ariadne518 :
Dr G, thanks for the reassurance.
from ladybug-red :
Hey doc - thanks for the note. I love the tree. Mine is also full of colorful mostly unmatched ornaments. I have several friends who go for the decorator look but mine feels much more personal like yours.
from odalisk :
Hey - just reading that entry should tell you that it's worth it to continue! Weight loss is always fastest and easiest at the beginning, when there's a lot of excess that your body really wants to get rid of; once you've gotten rid of that the hard part begins, and it's all about having a healthy body, which is a body that's well-used. Rather than think about all the holiday eating and throw up your hands in the air, work out a bit more and let yourself indulge. If it's worth it to you to feel good & eat well, that's the best answer....I feel sort of the same way. I lost 5 pounds last year and I want to lose 5 this year, and it's depressing how much effort it takes to achieve such small losses, but the point is realizing that it's not so much about losing weight as changing and improving your lifestyle.
from odalisk :
I liked the last part of your entry, but I think that what you wrote about Democrats embracing religion is worrisome. Yes, America is a religious nation and obviously in my opinion that makes us backward. But the answer to the problems of the Democrats shouldn't be to give up, give in, and take a page from the winner...Respecting religion is great, legislating religion is oppressive. Maybe the answer isn't to cower in the corner and tell the midwestern suburbanites that hating lesbians is okay, agreeing that feminists are all freaks, and profess to be embarassed about our own accomplishments. We're not going to accomplish anything if we just give up on what we believe in; if that includes, for example, a solid education in the sciences that doesn't depend heavily on evolution, we're going to have to fight for it.
from ladybug-red :
Well said!
from everoboto :
Send apples!!! lol \m/
from everoboto :
My goodness, that blue pot is so beautiful I had to save the photo to my computer for my future viewing pleasure. My dream used to be to have a blue kitchen and oh how great would that pot be in it. But, now I have my dream orange kitchen and I totally want the pot that matches. I'm definitely adding it to my letter to Santa.
from everoboto :
As soon as I started reading about your fresh apple pie, I thought, "Let's see a picture!" You HAVE to start taking photos of your creations.
from elgan :
You have excellent taste in cookware, Dr. Geek.
from ceergurlz101 :
god, u really are a geek
from ladybug-red :
I saw a bumper sticker the other day that sums it up for me. A working man who supports the Republican party is like a chicken who supports Colonel Sanders. I truly believe that white men vote republican because a) they are religious nuts or b) they like to think that voting for rich men might one day somehow miraculously make them one.
from ladybug-red :
The G-string is ewww but if I were you I would really watch out for the guy with toe socks. That has psycho written all over it.
from ladybug-red :
Welcome home! I enjoyed your descriptions. I have worked on Maui in the past and totally agree with your description of mini-New Orleans! The rest of the island is quite beautiful though - I can't wait to read more about it. Did you do the bicycle trip up the volcano?
from mrs-roboto :
Welcome back - I'm sorry to hear you're allergic to Hawaii though.
from elgan :
Congrats to you and S. for finally making it through the obstacle course and right to the finish line! Wow!
from tcklyrpharsn :
oh my goodness! It's finally happening! How exciting! Have fun and good luck!
from ladybug-red :
I am SO excited for you. Have a great wedding and honeymoon. Congratulations to you both!!
from tcklyrpharsn :
Oh! I'm sorry I missed that program. It's almost as soul feeding as www.agapepress.org. Did you know that Kirk Cameron starred in the "Left Behind" series? All about the hell on earth that is the tribulation? There's some really good acting in there. Ha ha ha ha ha haaaaa!
from mrs-roboto :
Good luck on Saturday. Have a fantastic wedding and remember to relax and have fun.
from ladybug-red :
I've had mixed feelings about the Reagan thing all week too. It is sad and I am sorry for what the last 10 years must have been like - on the human side. On the political side - the Reps are milking the hell out of it. It is an occassion to reflect on his place in history but because it is associated with his death, only the positive is being highlighted. There was much more to the story than that. -S
from ladybug-red :
Hang in there! All the hard work and stress will pay off soon and you should have one hell of a party to remember. But best of all - you will be married and have each other to share it with! Best wishes to you both. -S
from mrs-roboto :
Oh real Middle Eastern rugs are such a find! Pete and I have been pricing such things for months now hoping to find an affordable one for our office. Good luck with the cleaning.
from ladybug-red :
I will keep fingers *way crossed* for you too. It is a stressful time (particularly in the final weeks) but I hope you can find some time to enjoy each other. How about his and hers massages some time this month just for the two of you?! -S
from elgan :
Low carb milk? Are you kidding? Milk IS low carb all by itself. The American public is brainwashed, I tell you!
from tcklyrpharsn :
p.s., have you read this? http://theonion.com/news/index.php?issue=4016&n=1
from tcklyrpharsn :
i hear ya, doctah! sinning authentically yet sparingly should be the name of the NEW diet revolution. Ha ha! I'm all about eliminating chemicals, although I admit to a weakness for gummy candy. Luckily, my aversion to gelatin is curbing that desire these days. Meantime, I'll just laugh at all the Atkins/SouthBeachers who are contributing to that 80 billion $ industry. Oh... gotta go...time for my post-run snack of a pear. Packed with carbs, I know.
from raven72d :
I do insist on friends-- I know better with students --calling me "dottore"... Or Herr Doktor-Doktor, since I do have (technically) two of the things...
from tcklyrpharsn :
i admire your together approach to the whole wedding thing. I can tell that you are going to have a wonderful day... even through all the weirdness and bumps in the road, you seem to be very calm, cool and collected! hooray for you!
from ladybug-red :
I'm totally with you on this issue. -S
from ladybug-red :
*The Godmother* - sounds like the makings of a great movie huh? One of the hardest lessons that hubby has had to learn about being married to me is that sometimes I need to vent about how rotten my family is but he is not supposed to harbor any residual hard feelings for them when my rants are over. Fair? No. Price he pays for good sex I'm afraid. I too have been in a funk the last few days. Maybe the moon is in some weird phase. Hope it gets better soon. -S
from tcklyrpharsn :
oh, honey...let's talk in-laws. my in-laws are horrid, so I breathe a sigh of relief every time they move another state away. That being said, with good in-laws, it can just take time to fully feel yourself around them. My parents are very accepting, but it still took a couple of years before all of my sisters-in-law felt comfy cozy around us. Hang in there!!!
from ladybug-red :
Thanks so much for you insightful comment on my entry yesterday. You hit on some really important issues I had not considered and it gives me a much different perspective on things.
from ladybug-red :
You have given me an idea for my great hobby search. Since I HAVE to cook to feed the family, perhaps I could actually try to develop an interest in it and take up a class rather than just dreading it every day. Thanks!
from everoboto :
You know, you're probably right about your comment regarding the cramped kitchen environment. It probably is like that in the 'real' world, but still, I think the conditions should be just a little better for the learning portion.
from ladybug-red :
Wow! Sounds like you have had some interesting rides on the dating highway to hell too. It does make one appreciate the sanity of the right choices even more huh? Thanks for the link to that story - and the note. I hadn't heard from you in awhile and hoped my new layout hadn't scared you off! -S
from elgan :
"Six Feet Under" dealt with a porn-star funeral during its first season, and it was exactly like that. One of her euologizers at the funeral added that hers was the best blowjob he had ever received.
from darkndeviant :
Sorry about the sueing thing. Admittedly it was highly unoriginal. I thought it was all that you damned colonials understood though...:) I shall instead grant you clemency following your spectacular grovelling. "Luxuriant decadence"...hehe...I like that phrase!
from darkndeviant :
"slighty kinky"?!?!? "slighty"?!?!! Dammit man, I'll sue! I'll have you know I am extremely kinky....:) And yes, I'd happily wear something disgraceful to dinner with you. Obviously you are far too kewl and mature to appreciate it these days, but I'd enjoy it...:)
from ladybug-red :
I find it very interesting how people respond to celebrity deaths. It is as if simply mourning the loss of an artist somehow isn't good enough. To me, the whole martyrdom thing makes it more about the mourners and no longer about the dead. Sad really.
from elgan :
The beauty of radio is that if you turn the volume knob all the way to the left, you don't have to listen to it anymore.
from elgan :
Dear drgeek, I know you don't want testimonials or unsolicited advice, but once I have found a good thing, I want to spread it around. Hence, in a back-fence diaryland-neighbourly type of way, I have been following the Vick's Vaporub treatment for Onychomycosis, and it has shown to be effective. Amazingly so.
from harvestbird :
will there be t-shirts?
from ladybug-red :
my dear drgeek - how you have taken me on a trip down memory lane. MD 20/20 is the nectar of my misspent youth. I do believe I lost my virginity to it - twice if I recall.
from ladybug-red :
Intelligence, emotional maturity, and you can cook. Damn!
from ladybug-red :
Thanks for the note. By the way, didn't everyone have bad hair in the early 80s? Hopefully it wasn't just me - I had the leftover Farrah thing going on.
from elgan :
Thank you for your kind note. I am curious as to how you found out about that particular entry. Do you do random searches for links to your page? Not being particularly computer savvy, I have no idea how one goes about these things. Feel free to drop by any time and comment on anything.
from mrs-roboto :
I have actually found that the only way for me to actually get myself to the gym is to rise at 5:45 and just go. So when you are waking up in the pre-dawn hours and going to sleep before prime time, know that you are not alone.
from kittyleopard :
Awesome diary! You rock my socks. Karma.
from harvestbird :
perhaps a compromise would be to make the children's attending the wedding contigent on each of them wearing "an tuxedo with chocolate colored velvet piping on the edges, a riffled white tuxedo shirt (almost like Austin Powers, but not quite), and a chocolate colored velvet clip-on bowtie." And don't take any of this "but they're teenage girls" rubbish either.
from odalisk :
punny, v. v. punny.
from elgan :
I, too, have a fungus-infected toenail, but I did not know what it was until a friend described the same condition and the course of drugs she had been prescribed to combat it. She was required to take antibiotic/antifungal pills daily for three (3) months. After it appeared to be clearing up, two months in, she developed an allergy to the medication and went off it. The fungus came back immediately. I started applying a Q-tipful of Dettol to my nail and cuticle daily, and noticed that clean nail seemed to be growing in, albeit slowly. I suggested this to my friend, and she is now completely fungus free. Her new nail has grown in beautifully. I have not been so lucky, since I managed to restub the toe in question a while back, and I also missed a few days of treatment when we were on holidays. I imagine any strong antifungal substance would work: iodine, chlorine bleach, what-have-you. The reason your nail may not be growing in nice and straight is because it is still being warped by the infection. My suggestion is to clean it daily and apply one or t’other solution, and see if that helps. Good luck!
from elgan :
By the way, my diary is no longer locked, in case your curiosity was even slightly peaked.
from elgan :
It's interesting that your entry about your dad's financial acumen comes along just after I posted a tribute to my father who died in 2000. He too was extremely tightfisted, and frugality was a trait he admired in others. I'm glad you and your father have a good, if "manly" relationship, but it doesn't hurt once and a while to tell him "I love you". You'll wish you'd done it more often when it is no longer possible to do so.
from elgan :
Hi there. Believe it or not, I have just recently put you on my buddy list. What took me so long? In real life, I am a friend of tcklyrpharsn. This note is a thank you for the link on your diary to “true porn clerk stories”. These are some of the funniest diary entries I have ever read. Thank you so much! My diary is locked at present, but if you want to read, I will gladly furnish the key.
from tcklyrpharsn :
lucky duck! jealous of your hijinks with ilonina! and of course I am jealous of her hijinks with you! Imagine, the two smartest people on my list, converging in San Fran! My head aches just thinking about it.
from pageme :
I wanted to drop in and wish you a Happy Holiday! It's awesome to see such unity within your family and how you celebrate...it seems anything but superficial and makes me a bit jealous but very awestruck @ the same time. Many kisses, xXx
from tcklyrpharsn :
Awww. That sounds nice.
from mrs-roboto :
Wow - Solient green is people - hee hee! Well I definitely needed a laugh and that did it. The Catholic Church has some bizarre rituals. This is definitely one of them!
from kimbarley :
I've done as I stated, stopped in for a read and must say that I've more then enjoyed myself. Tomorrow I plan on spending a little more time immersing myself in what you’ve had to say, perhaps I’ll have something insightful for when I add you to my buddy list. Thanks again for the email!
from jonathan :
What a great read you are! Thanks for coming my way.
from tcklyrpharsn :
What if I just likes the blues, but don't think I knows the blues? But damn, I gots the blues.
from sugar-slit :
Holy crap, I love your diary!!! Cool design too, Piet Mondrian??
from myheadspace :
not to spam you or anything, but oh my god, you have heard of the asylum street spankers. i had no idea there was a spankerwammo diary. thank you!!
from darkndeviant :
Thanks for the commiserations..:( Actually, they replaced Oracle with Microshit SQL, not MySQL. But MS SQL just isn't in the same league as Oracle. Only problem with Oracle is you really need a reasonable Oracle DBA to install and maintain it and these guys just weren't prepared to hire or train anyone. So they decided to run some big mission-critical systems on the MS SQL databases instead. Ugh! I think it will come crashing down around their ears, but it's no longer my problem as they have got rid of me too! Such is life. I prefer to work for customers with a brain and who appreciate me anyway...life is better without those turkeys.
from darkndeviant :
w.r.t. women in male dominated fields..i can relate...:) I am a female physicist, now working in the software/web business, so have had to deal with the prejudices and male bias. I don't let it worry me. I just put my head down and charge towards whatever I want. If a man tries to say "you can't, you're a girl", i just say "then catch me dude...". If they try to sexually harrass me, I either laugh and/or do it right back. They soon learn...:)
from moviegrrl :
*thank you* xxx
from moviegrrl :
Of course, it's all very well to wirte that stuff, but you know what? Women will just read it and think "he can't mean me, I'm different because..." Sad but true.
from mrs-roboto :
you're plan sounds very realistic. I'm sure you will reach your goals. And it's super nice to hear a guy talk about the importance of cardio as well as strenght training. I think most guys think they can just lift weights and get results.
from mrs-roboto :
Oh, I want to see that comic produced and distributed!!!
from darkndeviant :
More disturbing is the fact that my diary will shortly become a high ranking search result for "All Creatures Great and Small". Try "peoples feelings during ww2" or "Abstenance Existance" on Google. Spooooooooky!!!!!!!!!
from moviegrrl :
Nice list - it reminded me that one of the other dinner party faves is Mr Frank Zappa.....Einstein adn Jesu may be obvious choices, bu t Jeus is invited just for Bill...
from moviegrrl :
LOVE the diary - darkndeviant has been raving abut you so I thougth I'd ocme and see what all the fuss was about. Glad I did too.
from pandionna :
Hello! I saw your note in Ilonina's diary and had to come see what else such an well-spoken (or is that written) fellow had to say. I like, I like! And, like you, I don't understand the whole "not believing evolution" thing. One would hope that in this day and age, that wouldn't be an issue. One would hope.
from mrs-roboto :
I am especially fond of those guys who go to strip clubs and then say "oh man, you should have seen this girl. she was all over me." Umm, yeah 'cause she got to get paid you moron.
from darkndeviant :
"sometimes a cigar is just a cigar"...very true my friend. I will think on it and respond. btw...there seems something deeply unscientific about diarists inspiring each other, dont you think? Still...I guess we didn't sign up to the scientific method here...just diaryland.
from bmi :
"I must live in a sheltered, rarified little world" I laughed out loud because I too must live in that world. How will I know you when I see you? I say we develop a secret handshake.
from darkndeviant :
Response to your BDSM comments: http://darkndeviant.diaryland.com/humiliation.html Admittedly a little incoherant...:)
from darkndeviant :
Brilliant diary! Intelligent, interesting, thoughtful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on BDSM...stand by for response in my diary...:) TTFN Dr darkndeviant PhD too :)
from mrs-roboto :
Beautiful entry about your significant other. Before I met Pete, I had a series of dramatic relationships. I somehow associated drama and love. Then I met Pete and it was such a mellow experience. So "gradual" as you say. I think television and movies impress upon us this idea the love is a series of fireworks in the sky. Explosive and love. Me, I prefer the warm glow of an eternal fire to fleeting sparks.

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