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from girle :
ew. I'm sorry about that, it's a sucky situation! How did they know about your blog? I wonder if perhaps they wanted to cut money anyway and had that excuse. That really sucks. Hope things turn up. Sometimes these things turn into better things!
from applerobot :
glad that you updated! I loved reading your blog (this one and the blogger one) but you've gone awol and I was worried. Fingers and toes crossed that the tests come back ok and that you're able to conceive naturally. I know this isn't exactly the best advice to get, but from someone with two babies and zero life: enjoy your single life (ie: no babies I mean, not no husband) while you can because BABIES CHANGE EVERYTHING. It makes everything 10000000 times more difficult and you will not have time to yourself for a long long time. Anyway, I totally sound like a downer. Sorry. Thinking of you.... xx
from girle :
you're right. be positive. but it's not a miracle drug - it doesn't work for everyone. A few months after I got on it my periods became regular again and I stopped after a year and a half and my periods have been pretty regular ever since. But I didn't start losing weight until I got serious about it - metformin didn't do anything for weight loss.
from girle :
I took it for a year and a half but stopped.
from girle :
hey. just wanted you to know I was thinking aboutyou and came to catch up. don't feel down. feeling bitter and jealous will bring you down. I'm sorry about all the stuff going on - I have many of the same issues, money, debt, overweight, pregnancy. Underneath it all, you don't want to get pg at this weight. you would for sure get gestational diabetes and you'd be miserable. since May 2008 I've gone from 260 to 216. small steps. email me if you wanna chat, creativedame
from applerobot :
Good luck with the weight loss. I'm going to get on the "diet" wagon once the babies are out but can't diet too hardcore until then.... but I've been on a Low GI diet since I found out I have gestational diabetes and I have't put on any weight (which means that I have actually lost weight, as I'm 33wks with twins!) - so my advice is to try low GI, but when I say that I don't mean crazy Atkins style or anything - just no white bread, no white rice (basmati is ok), no bananas etc. I've been having oats for b'fast, salad sandwich for lunch and lean meat & veg for dinner and it's worked well. Of course I avoid really sugary things but I do have an odd treat (chocolate etc) but a lot of things that say "low sugar" aren't really low sugar at all! Anyway, sorry for the advice - I just thought I'd let you know what's worked for me. I'm jealous you live in the US because I'm sure you have a tonne more "low carb" options than what I do here. It's $3 for one (tiny) chocolate bar here - which only has 1g carbs!! I bet they're 40c or something in the US :-(
from applerobot :
oh no, i'm sorry to hear that. fingers crossed it's a simple problem that can be fixed easily. xx
from applerobot :
To be honest I don't even feel pregnant and I only have about 11 weeks to go! (I can totally understand how one day a person can have a baby and have never known they were actually pregnant! haha!). The beginning of my pregnancy just felt like my period was coming.... but it never did. Then about 6 weeks into it, I had light cramping - think: light light period cramps - but that was apparently my uterus stretching. For two babies too. But everything else has been a big non-event. I know it's different for everyone though. Anyway, don't give up - I'm certain it will happen.
from girle :
ew. terrible. I'm sorry. I was laid off of my job a couple years ago. I got unemployment and a PT job at Starbucks to supplement. All the paperwork stuff for unemployment sucks. I got a job three months later, in a totally new field and I love it. So think of new starts and new beginnings.
from wednesdoon :
Oh, I'm so sorry :(. I just thought I'd leave a note to let you know that hubby and I have been living on one income with a baby for over a year. It's not easy but you can do it. And things will turn around, I'm sure of it. Hang in there, felicia
from applerobot :
Thanks for the nice comments! We got lucky and thought we'd try whilst on our honeymoon and see what happened! Crazy and just a little overwhelming! Thailand was pretty amazing but since I had no idea we were getting married until we got there - I didn't have many clothes to chose from. Fun though.
from applerobot :
I'm certain that things on the baby-front will all come together for you soon. Ovulation is a funny thing I guess. When I became pregnant a few months ago, I didn't really have any signs except the feeling that my period was on its way any day. But it never came! And then I found out that I had popped out two eggs and am therefore having two babies!! It's weird how things work out - but like I said, I'm certain things will work out for you guys soon! xx
from elliestuff :
just eat fresh fruit. feed each other. have fun.
from girle :
Since we got married almost 5 years ago, we've never used any sort of birth control. No baby!
from girle :
hi. do you have a facebook or myspace? hope all goes well w/your house stuff. we finally got a new couch and tv and stuff in december. jc penney clearance!
from applerobot :
if your body is showing signs then the test is probably going to be accurate, you should do one. good luck.
from applerobot :
dont worry about the tanning bed (I bet it happens all the time). Be careful of going there too much though, seriously! Whatever you do, don't stay in it longer than you should! Maybe it's just me! Im terrified of getting melanoma! But it is a real risk with tanning beds! ps: i cant believe how soon your wedding is! Your dress sounds GORGEOUS!
from applerobot :
I hope you post lots of pics of your wedding.... ive been reading yr blog for years now and I cant wait to see how it goes!
from applerobot :
its good to read yr wedding updates! dont stop! I hope it all goes well for you both -- youll have to post pics when you get some!
from applerobot :
hey i miss your updates.... (my diary is locked, just incase you try and get in) -- I hope youre going to update a lot around yr wedding time so I can see how it all goes! I hope everythings good! xx
from girle :
I'm totally lazy!
from ivomitwords :
i barely write in my other! i was thinkin about ya though. and the wedding stuff. Macy's has a decent Plus department. send me an e-mail sometime!
from girle :
Hi there, just catching up on ya!
from applerobot :
thats one hell of a cake topper!! wow, very pretty! You must be very excited about your wedding (even though it's a year+ away). Good luck with all the planning!
from applerobot :
what a cutie!!! His head looks so big for his teeny body! You should take some more photos!
from girle :
Just remember his past will always be there! After you get married, etc...you'll have to deal with that stuff forever. Our fields of study are tough...and it doesn't sound like jobs in the field are plentiful. The would be in Chicago. Maybe find a position there for a year or so to get the experience? I'm considering moving (I just got laid off and am applying in Philadelphia!).
from girle :
Hey, just saying hello. Good for you on the move. Hope things are going well.
from girle :
you look so happy! congratulations!
from applerobot :
wow, congratulations!!!!
from applerobot :
I use my phone sometimes but a regular digital camera other times (the phone pics are a bit grainier) - my digital camera isn't that hot really & needs updating! You should post more pics on yr site! I DEFINETLY want to see this ring - it sounds awesome!
from applerobot :
all this talk of engagement and babies and honeymoons is very exciting (congratulations!!), but arent you worried about rushing into things? just a thought, i dont want to sound too negative though, sorry :(
from applerobot :
cuuute pics!!!!!!
from feesha :
congratulations!!! wow! i'm so glad to hear that things are going so well for you :)
from girle :
how's it going? just wanted to say hey. hope you feel better soon!
from applerobot :
i sent a request on myspace too (it automatically search for all people in my yahoo mail), just incase you wonder who the hell I am. Im glad you had a good weekend -- sure sounds like things are evolving well in your relationship :) i wanna see some photos!!!!
from girle :
hey there. i haven't visited in a while. I have been on weight watchers 2 weeks and have lost 5.4, I'm kinda excited cuz I'm actually DOING it. Hey add me at myspace, I sent a request :)
from applerobot :
I think the main reason why people get pregnant on the pill is because they dont take it when they should... or they miss one. I think she should have said that it's 99.9% effective when taken correctly. And I'm nowhere near thin and no-one said "by the way, this may not work cos you're plump". Don't stress about it - use condoms too if you're worried. Get the thin ones, they're nicer! Sorry for too much info.
from applerobot :
good luck! im sure you'll have a good time no matter what happens! no pressure, on yourself or him. just take it as it comes. you should rub his body when youre kissing - around his hips, tummy etc. that will turn him on and your hands can then move.. hehe. xx
from applerobot :
wow! that's crazy - it's dipped in wax? cool. also - i think 80% of boys have a complete anal fetish. well, maybe not 80%, but a surprising amount!
from applerobot :
He's probably nervous as all hell! You should make the first move and be confident about it. Confidence is sexy!
from applerobot :
you should plan a valentines night seduction!
from girle :
Did you post pics? I must not have seen that entry. Sorry you're sick. I'm amazed at how much money your parents help you guys!
from applerobot :
yay, photos! (I post photos from flickr because it's easy and you can make them private on flickr and then only diaryland people can see them). I like your writing so much, I'm glad you never left DLand!! xx
from girle :
I think he is kinda right, you are thinking too much about breaking up. Especially since you had to "let go" of fireman and cop for him, you're probably pressuring yourself to make this work, make this such a great relationship because you had to give something up.
from lovestreet :
Jenny! You really should stop thinking about some things! Thinking about having kids while you even haven't kissed your wg yet or have had sex with him...Maybe you two don't match sexually or on a physical base, things like that happen sometimes. Your relationship is still "young" and so "precious". First get to know him better, in different ways, and then you will know if he is the father for your children.. So I wouldn't worry about those things, they are for the future and not for now :)Just take one little step after every other step.
from applerobot :
hey, thanks for the message. I was on the pill (6 months or more ago), but it completely screwed me up and I lost my sex drive - still not completely normal and made me feel very emotional - but I've just been having a crappy month this month and those two things aren't related. Don't worry about irregular periods, some people just get them. It doesnt mean that you'll have trouble conceiving.
from feesha :
wow! the one. that is so amazing :)
from girle :
"I'll never treat you like shit Jen ... never."
from girle :
WG seems kinda weird, doesn't he? It must drive you CRAZY
from girle :
Don't cheat. Be honest, tell workguy you are going to hang out with fireguy, and that will keep you from cheating because you know workguy will ask. Workguy seems to really adore you - enjoy it. But also, as frustrated as you are, you just can't rush sexual things with people. He's been hurt and this must be his way of being cautious. Perhaps he doesn't know whether he should let himself go physically and get so emotionally involved because he doesn't know if he can trust you. So perhaps you two can discuss it as a matter of trust. And his question to you will be - CAN I trust you? Can HE trust YOU? Perhaps he's cautious because of fireguy? Maybe he wants to know that you'll be 100% committed to him. If I were him, I'd question...if she likes me and wants to continue this relationship, why is she seeing this other guy?
from lovestreet :
How can I say this in a few lines..I think it's a very good thing that things went very slow, it's nice to get to know a person on a very objective way, without sex or anything. But..I must agree on you on the fact that things are still slow and that you don't like it that way. There must be passion and attraction in a relationship. This doesn't mean you must have sex right away but that there must be "something" in the air. The need to kiss someone etc. When it isn't there by now, maybe it will never be there. Don't forget that. If a guy wouldn't have kissed me after a month of dating, then I don't think there will ever be "fire"..If you know what I mean :)
from girle :
I'm sure he adores you. Most of all, he respects you. That's SO awesome.
from lovestreet :
Maybe you were thaught wrong but knowing that something is "wrong" is a first step to change things, so that's a good thing.
from girle :
Don't rush workguy. Dating is to get to know someone. Physical stuff is just an added benefit. There's nothing wrong with getting to know someone for who they are inside, for the right reasons. Once sex happens, things change. He, unlike cop, is looking for a true relationship and companion, not just a physical fix. Isn't that what you've always wanted? Physical stuff comes with time, with trust.
from applerobot :
yay! im glad your diary is not gone forever!~!!
from girle :
good idea moving!
from lovestreet :
First times aren't supposed to be nice but to be honest, he could react different on it if you ask me :s Even when a first time is very short and maybe not that pleasant and certainly not what you expected, it can be something very beautiful because you shared a very special thing. I think you didn't have that kind of feeling, which explains your reaction...But never forget (and that's a good advice for the rest of your life :) most men (not all) aren't very good at expressing their feelings and certainly not in those kind of feelings. I could tell you two things my boyfriend told me during our first time, two things that were horrible but on the other side he was very sweet and let me feel very comfortable so I only realised it after a while...
from applerobot :
losing ones virginity is a weird thing indeed, but it's a total bummer that he acted the way he did!!!! I have a feeling that it doesnt go the way you wish about 90% of the time for EVERY GIRL, so don't worry too much about it. I dont know what else to say really... if he isn't/doesnt treat you the way you should be treated then you should do something sooner rather than later (maybe just even talk). xxx
from girle :
Don't stress. You vent, we provide comments. You make the decisions. It's your life.
from applerobot :
Things can't always be roses, so don't worry too much that it's a weird time. I'd go out on a limb to say that ALL couples, regardless, are shaky in the beginnings or even at other moments. The best thing you can do is wait. xx
from applerobot :
yep, it's working. thanks.

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